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Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

LOL

She has a guy, but “But I call as much as possible just to check on her”

You are funny.
Who do you think you are deceiving here? You’ve always wanted to sleep with her, so why do you need validation from the public? Your conscience pricks you?

flee away from assholes.... they gonna destroy you bro

GeniusWannabe:
You said he confronted you gentlemanly, and you both reached terms of agreement. With this, you shouldn't have opened up to the lady, giving her the benefit of the doubt that she wouldn't confront her partner.

To be honest, you have destroyed that relationship, even though you don't realize it. Trying to fix it might be ineffective but you have to try anyway, so you only have two options. You either cut all ties with the lady and go your way, and let things naturally fall into place, or stick with her as a friend and maybe become her man later on. Remember one thing however, what goes around comes around.

Facts only! Cane wey dem take flog iyale still dey roof waiting for iyawo

midnighter:
I have noticed that every time somebody starts a post with "I met this girl two years ago", it means we are in for a crazy ride.

Maybe 2017 was the astrological year for crazy babes to hammer

What is this one saying

My dear Brother, I understand your plight and I can see that you are trying to do the right thing.
My Advise is for you to disconnect from her because such kinda woman is not even meant for you and will do the same to you if you end up dating her.
The heartache that comes after is not worth it so I will advise that you either disconnect completely from her or You avoid indulging her.
The end is not worth it.
Yours will come and there will be no hassle.

Rule 1: never say no to a lady

She is not married, take what is yours.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

Like our opinion will count. You already know what you want to do. Don't waste our time.

Sunisonflex39:
I am not a relationship breaker bro. that's why I have been trying my best.

What other advise are u still looking for?

MedicH:
What is this one saying

Better get back to your umunna meeting and stop looking for garri to drink in my mentions

Rubbish. Op what are you feeling like?

Sunisonflex39:
bro u understood me better, I didn't plan for any of this.. it was just normal friendship.

and I she demanded to know why I changed at first.. as the close friends we were, and I really don't have anything to hide, I told her why.. and said am all good with it.. the young girl begged me to be her best friend cos over the years we have got closer which I agreed on..

My advice to u is for u to 4k her like a b1tch ...I meN 4k her like a hoe that she is... Do not attach feelings in ur best interest ... Then dump her after a month , then she will appreciate the guy she left for u... The truth is that she is just having fun , I bet she is still a teenager or in her early 20s ... Doing this will only mk her a better person in the future ... At least that will b ur contribution to humanity

GeniusWannabe:
You said he confronted you gentlemanly, and you both reached terms of agreement. With this, you shouldn't have opened up to the lady, giving her the benefit of the doubt that she wouldn't confront her partner.

To be honest, you have destroyed that relationship, even though you don't realize it. Trying to fix it might be ineffective but you have to try anyway, so you only have two options. You either cut all ties with the lady and go your way, and let things naturally fall into place, or stick with her as a friend and maybe become her man later on. Remember one thing however, what goes around comes around.

And I feel the girl may just be infatuated with him....
If you break her relationship for this reason..
She may loath you when she is done having what she wants from you!!!

MrBrownJay1:
you have to be honest with your own self.... IS THAT THE TYPE OF WOMAN YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE? a deceitful, disrespectful, dishonest person who is willing to sleep with you?!

remember, what you wish will be what you will get, and when she will be tired of you, she will play you the same way she has been playing this guy all along (and he was right to be suspicious about her). a woman who cheat on her man to be with you, will cheat on you to be with other men....FACT!!!!!

We still don’t know how this so called bf treats her and looking at the way he snuck the guys Num just to interrogate him also bt then it may be nothing so serious based on the conversation they had. I think the guy needs to ask the gal who she wants to cheat on her guy and see if there a cogent reason to leave him then fine she shud do that if her on will and not because of him.

People are free to leave relationships when they see a valid reason to. Aslong as they ain’t married.

Sunisonflex39

Believe this story believe anything.
African girl to open her mouth and tell you that she want sex.

Give me another.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

I don't know the adjectives to use on u.
1) How can u be childish to the extent of telling a girl that her boyfriend confronted u?
2) Right from the time you know this girl is in a relationship why are you still giving her attention since u don't have the intention of snatching her? I guess u have ur own agenda
3) Believe me even if u sleep with this girl, it is still a loose end, the girl is an Oliver twist
4) You don't need advice, you just don't know what you are doing.

Guy the thing dey your mind.If i say make u no go do am.You go still go do.No go do waiting they your mind.Leave us alone for Nairaland.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

I am also a gentle man , I know what's up...forget all what u said , You have love her right from the onset, that's why after she told u she that she is in a relationship ,yet u still keep on pesting her , calling her often to proof that you care the most , so she will also develop some love for you... You cannot fool me , I know your type...No big deal having girls as friends, but when u start going very close to them shows your interior motive...You better go and look for your own girl and leave that girl for his boyfriend, because even if u fvck that girl, tomorrow another of your type will do the same for that girl and also fvck her ...the boyfriend is mumu, if I have that kind of boyfriend , I will bring her to u and wed both of u, so that u can go away with my future trouble, or rather , continue sharing her with you, while I look for responsible girl as a wife ...when I finally get one , I will first of all give her the invitation and later send one to you for my wedding ...yeye girlfriend.

Sunisonflex39:
do u prefer I rejected her all together and see her depressed?

The day she will dump ur sorry ass, she will not care if u die on the matter ... Keep on formi g what u don't know ... Better hit her b4 she hits u ... Someone that doesn't care about her bfs feelings ...is it ur own she will care about when she meets someone new .... Better b wise... Smash her and dump her quickly ... Attach emotions and sorry will b ur last name

lilmax:
but I call as much as possible just to check on her.


LOL

Who do you think you're fooling?

Don’t mind the Mugu..we resemble children for him eye na

Sirvingeo:
Young man that lady is playing both of you . Both of you are important to her one way or the other . From your story I think the real boyfriend provide the cash while you will supply her a mind blowing wex. Her asking you for sex proves she is not enjoying sex with her main boyfriend .

Guy leave that lady, money will always win over anything . In fact you are already a looser .

this is rather presumptuous of you

Have you had sex with OP that you are saying he will provide mind-blowing sex? What if he is a bad lay? Why can't it be that she likes OP because he gives her attention that her boyfriend might not be giving her, or he seems nicer to her.

Why do you guys always assume it is either money or sex, even when there has been no sex to justify this poor assumption?

Sheesh! Expand your mind and stop limiting it to 3-minute hip hop music

@OP, flee from temptation, that girl is just a shameless user playing ping pong with two men and feeling like a bad bish with bomb puccy, so, she wants to have sex with you and hook you.

If you don't want no smoke, block her and move on. She's not the only woman in the world, why share babe with your fellow guy when women boku?

Bang that bitch right on the spot until she passes out and she forgot how she got there...

Sunisonflex39:
bro am not a relationship breaker.

You are bro.. At least you happy now that she offered you sex .. Go ahead and bleep her .. Just remember What goes around comes around.

Abeg no use laff kill me

Edyice:
How will you tell the gal what her man told you ?

Uncle both of us know wella say you want knack

Just go and knack , that's what you wanted for telling her and bringing confusion....

You should know that if you spoil this and successfully take her away , another lad will work on her same way and pray it's not me because with my 6.3 inches eggplant .. I don't need to explain the damage to you..

Unless you only want knack regularly or sometimes not letting her man knows... (Its called bestie with benefits )

Bros cut this your story short and knack the living hell out of her toto. who rejects food this days

Nigga u r a fulltime f*@kboy, who's fooling Who? Bringing ur case here to justify urself but instead makes u look more stupid! Male olosho!

Bluffly:
Look here, your game plan is to have her do your bidding over time. What the heck are you checking on her for? Are you her father? Can you accept that if someone is doing that for you GF. Your game plan is coming to light and you are here asking us stupid questions. You better Bleep off.
You even betrayed the sensible BF with your devilish nature.
Spit on you.

bro does this calls for such insults

My guy,

The kpekus is now yours...finally !!!

The chat is there to prove she wants you ( your dick )...

She wants sex...what do you want ?

I guess you want to cuddle ; abi no be so ?

"Ode, gazamba" in vector's voice

Word!!! But the Nigga is still a fuckboy sha

safarigirl:
this is rather presumptuous of you

Have you had sex with OP that you are saying he will provide mind-blowing sex? What if he is a bad lay? Why can't it be that she likes OP because he gives her attention that her boyfriend might not be giving her, or he seems nicer to her.

Why do you guys always assume it is either money or sex, even when there has been no sex to justify this poor assumption?

Sheesh! Expand your mind and stop limiting it to 3-minute hip hop music

@OP, flee from temptation, that girl is just a shameless user playing ping pong with two men and feeling like a bad bish with bomb puccy, so, she wants to have sex with you and hook you.

If you don't want no smoke, block her and move on. She's not the only woman in the world, why share babe with your fellow guy when women boku?

You are her mugu...

Sunisonflex39:
bro u understood me better, I didn't plan for any of this.. it was just normal friendship.

and I she demanded to know why I changed at first.. as the close friends we were, and I really don't have anything to hide, I told her why.. and said am all good with it.. the young girl begged me to be her best friend cos over the years we have got closer which I agreed on..

How old are you?

You woo a girl and later became her bestie, yet you're claiming that was not your initial plan? What do you want to benefit from calling her incessantly? Do you even have a girlfriend?

You are just a weak man with no hope of getting a better girl other than stalking another man's girlfriend.

sweetonugbu:
Can I have the girls number, I need to advice her serious,a private section with her.