GeniusWannabe:
You said he confronted you gentlemanly, and you both reached terms of agreement. With this, you shouldn't have opened up to the lady, giving her the benefit of the doubt that she wouldn't confront her partner.

To be honest, you have destroyed that relationship, even though you don't realize it. Trying to fix it might be ineffective but you have to try anyway, so you only have two options. You either cut all ties with the lady and go your way, and let things naturally fall into place, or stick with her as a friend and maybe become her man later on. Remember one thing however, what goes around comes around.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

Sunisonflex39:

thanks for understanding me..
others were just insulting me from every corner without understanding issue like I planned for this all along.. problem didn't start when her bf chatted me up and after then I and the guy used to chat it was after 4 months the girl started behaving abnormal.when the guy first chatted me up, he didn't ask me to stop all communication with the girl and I told him to talk to his Gf too.. which he said he have talked to her times without numbers.

cococandy:
You want her. You’ve always wanted her.
You told her about what her BF said on purpose (even if you don’t realize it). You’ve been on the side waiting for a day like this.
Now she’s drawn to you . Abeg go and finish what you started and leave matters for Mathias.

ornicus:


Whatcha doing, trying to break a guy out of the friendzone

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

sweetonugbu:
Can I have the girls number, I need to advice her serious,a private section with her.

Geopex:
May God help us we guys with this dating problems. Me and my girlfriend are passing through this now, as am typing. There's a guy that's always around her in her place of work, coupled with there chat of WhatsApp, I can't even say if they are dating or not but they are very close and in their chats, they have for once talked abt feelings but my gurl keep telling me that his just a colleagues, just yesterday, my girl was telling that she had an argument with one of her female colleague there, that they are suspecting if she's dating the guy and this guy has been the one am suspecting that my girlfriend is dating according to some chats I read on her fone but no concrete evidence. Now other females colleagues are envy her or forming gang against her thinking she's dating the guy while she have her own boyfriend (me) knowing to them all. The guy in question is a nairalander,. But I keep asking myself why some guys like hooking around some ladies when they know they are into a serious relationship and y ladies like going around guys that they know they can't rili marry. Ladies and lack of contentment na 5&6

Sunisonflex39:
as a gentleman, I have talked to her about all of this..

jaxxy:


We still don’t know how this so called bf treats her and looking at the way he snuck the guys Num just to interrogate him also bt then it may be nothing so serious based on the conversation they had. I think the guy needs to ask the gal who she wants to cheat on her guy and see if there a cogent reason to leave him then fine she shud do that if her on will and not because of him.

People are free to leave relationships when they see a valid reason to. Aslong as they ain’t married.

Sunisonflex39

phemy36:

Bro you are saying rubbish. She is free to leave the relationship if she is tired of it instead of playing emotional game. It seems two of you are the same.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

Sunisonflex39:
as a gentleman, I have talked to her about all of this..

Sunisonflex39:
explain bro.
I just want to see her happy all the time that's why I agreed

safarigirl:
this is rather presumptuous of you

Have you had sex with OP that you are saying he will provide mind-blowing sex? What if he is a bad lay? Why can't it be that she likes OP because he gives her attention that her boyfriend might not be giving her, or he seems nicer to her.

Why do you guys always assume it is either money or sex, even when there has been no sex to justify this poor assumption?

Sheesh! Expand your mind and stop limiting it to 3-minute hip hop music

@OP, flee from temptation, that girl is just a shameless user playing ping pong with two men and feeling like a bad bish with bomb puccy, so, she wants to have sex with you and hook you.

If you don't want no smoke, block her and move on. She's not the only woman in the world, why share babe with your fellow guy when women boku?

GeniusWannabe:
You said he confronted you gentlemanly, and you both reached terms of agreement. With this, you shouldn't have opened up to the lady, giving her the benefit of the doubt that she wouldn't confront her partner.

To be honest, you have destroyed that relationship, even though you don't realize it. Trying to fix it might be ineffective but you have to try anyway, so you only have two options. You either cut all ties with the lady and go your way, and let things naturally fall into place, or stick with her as a friend and maybe become her man later on. Remember one thing however, what goes around comes around.

Sunisonflex39:
I am not a relationship breaker bro. that's why I have been trying my best.

Sunisonflex39:


Please nairalanders, what should I do.

Sirvingeo:
Young man that lady is playing both of you . Both of you are important to her one way or the other . From your story I think the real boyfriend provide the cash while you will supply her a mind blowing sex. Her asking you for sex proves she is not enjoying sex with her main boyfriend .

Guy leave that lady, money will always win over anything . In fact you are already a looser .