@ OP the answer is yes ,I was dating one of the hottest guys on campus while I was at the university .The relationship was not a sexual one just normal hugs and sweet talks but yes I loved him to the moon and back .

He was a lectures kid and stayed in the parents boys quarters ,I am the type that when I date you I can count how many times I will ever come to your apartment I have that character up till tommorrow.This faithful day I just decided to go to his house ,I knocked and went in hmmmmmm my guy had imported chic for the night .I just drew a seat and sat down in my mind we die here today .After ten minutes he had to tell the lady to leave ,that girl hated me from the depth of her heart after that incidence. And i enjoyed myself for a long time with the plenty begging , petting and blackmail from my end.

Guss what?After that incidence we still went on to date for so long until destiny played a trick on us, we are still the best of friends .

UNN Bello Hall room 327 will never forget our love affair .

MrBrownJay1:


with all due respect..... this has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with true love, and all to do with STOOPIDITY. if a man truly loved "you" he would respect you (and/or your relationship), and not going to hurt you (and/or your relationship) by going to sleep with other people. you probably loved him, but its evident that such man didnt love you.

true love would have stopped this man from cheating on you...FACT!

Thank you, people misuse that word "true love" these days.

Samuels90:
many times, you love her, but she doesn't love you.. If not..........

We are humans, we all make mistakes

sochey:

Èrrr... Okay

Wil send u a mail, hope no P.

90-95 % of ladies n gentle men in relationship cheats.
The cheep girl you slept with today today of meeting her is the seriousi of another.
the young man saying he has been single all through his life n he has seen an angel in you just wanna sleep with you n he has a seriousi somewhere.
probably those niggas saying they can't forgive a cheating partner are currently screwing or about to screw some random babe.



My point is Stay faithful in your relationship because it take two to cheat.
Just like Our good Lord said, He who's without sin should be the first to cast a stone.

AfroKnight:
Yes.

And I wish I had ended it right then. Would have saved me the subsequent months I wasted on her.

Story of my life.
E no easy i just hate anything relationship.

Especially when you have a very clingy partner

pocohantas:
I will forgive him.

I honestly do not see the need to let him off so easily. Where is the fun in that? There should be some level of torment.

C'mon!

And how would you go about that?

MrBrownJay1:


you are talking about "your" love for that person without caring about what they do, while i am focusing on the person who claims to love you yet act contrary to it.

there shouldnt be any talk of forgiveness (to begin with) if the person in front of you loved you.
now, if that person could get up, chat up some babe, take her home, make love to her then lay back and smoke a cigarette, while not for ONE minute think about the love they had for you nor the hurt and damage that such unfaithful/deceitful act would create to you (and/or your relationship)... then i am sorry but that is closer to hate than love.

you CANNOT knowingly hurt your partner (and the relationship you guys have) by cheating and thereafter claim that you love them. its CONTRADICTORY

i guess, to each their own.

So true, I tell people this but they seem not to get it at all.

kingkakaone:
Birdeyeview how are you

I'm very well thank you! hope you're doing great.

Even in true love people make mistakes!

MrBrownJay1:


with all due respect..... this has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with true love, and all to do with STOOPIDITY. if a man truly loved "you" he would respect you (and/or your relationship), and not going to hurt you (and/or your relationship) by going to sleep with other people. you probably loved him, but its evident that such man didnt love you.

true love would have stopped this man from cheating on you...FACT!

AwkaetitiBabe:
No cos I won't even ask to be forgiven if caught cheating.

You most likely will, because it wasn't planned and you were hiding it from your partner. You finally will come up with a line like, l am so so sorry, l do not expect you to forgive me (reverse psychology) but this was how it happened. He got me drunk and took advantage...bla bla bla

Yes bt u need 2 give d person 1 more chance to warn d person abt ur lykes & dislykesYes bt u need 2 give d person 1 more chance to warn d person abt ur lykes & dislykes

shogsman:

Sorry for your loss,you made a very good point.

Well appreciated

lawrenzooo:
Even in true love people make mistakes!

I was a victim, I read my girlfriend's chat while she thought she was charging her phone.
Then I saw: 'one time sex isn't enough' on one of her chat contact - someone who she often told me was her cousin. I did a screenshots of the chats and sent it to my phone deleting it from hers.
I didn't say anything immediately, infact, I took her out the next day after I saw the chat. Then I waited two days after thinking about the whole issue whether to get my share and flee. But I opened up, she wanted to act smart but I had to let her know what's up, she later started crying and begging. Story cut short...
I just wanted to prove to her that my love for her was genuine, so I forgave her and we moved on.

Fuckthamods:

We are humans, we all make mistakes

I agree bro, if I love u, u love me, We won't think of cheating in the first place, can't be a replacement factor, cheats don't change... Can't begin to think if u will do it again... Trust is key.

Emilokoiyawon:


Same thing.

What if kids are involved?

MrBrownJay1:


i could never cheat on someone and claim to love them... i would have to be honest with my own self to understand that if i did what i did then its obvious that A) i didnt love her and B) i could do it again and again.

why do you refuse to give an honest reply?

nedekid:

What if kids are involved?

Same thing.

Slynation:

See ehh... I don't know how u see it, but i feel no one should be kept in bondage all in the name of a certain ship like GF/BF, u want her, then put a ring to that finger....If not u both are free to live your normal lives however u wants it

lol I understand you brother.

[quote author=franchasng post=84335161]Women by nature are wired to forgive a cheating partner while men by nature are configured not to forgive or easily forgive a cheating partner, it is all nature at work even though feminists and gender equality nonsense preachers are trying so hard to make it look otherwise, but we cannot cheat nature.

Hillary Clinton forgave Bill Clinton for cheating, I am sure Bill Clinton wouldn't have been able to forgive Hillary if it was Hillary that cheated on him to his knowledge, that is nature working.


Israeli President cheated on his wife with a staff of the Presidential villa, his wife forgave him and welcomed him with love, I am sure if it was the wife, he wouldn't forgive.

Its not because men don't value their partners but it is in their DNA, and we can only try to make them conform to societal standards created by man, but it will never work for majority of men.

Please louder!
thanks for your brilliant addition.

Birdeyeview:

Love without forgiveness irrespective of what err has been commited should not be regarded as love...asides any criminal activity!

The decision to forgive is the choice of your partner though. I don't think it should be tied to you definition or expectations of love.

aishauju:
Ladies and guys in the house, does anyone of you have such experiences?

Yes I have, Love is a strong thing. Though we are ex now

Birdeyeview:
I'm very well thank you! hope you're doing great.

I'm good. I want to mail you, I hope you don't mind? I have a personal question to ask.

chriscrosss:
Many times..yes..we all make mistakes..from wat they explain, sometimes temptation causes it..

Why always put yourself in those situations, just to later say it was the devil
Frankly they know what they are doing BUT never counted on being caught

If they had not been caught they probably have continued...

Emilokoiyawon:


Same thing.

I feel you bro.

Fountainofyouth:
So true, I tell people this but they seem not to get it at all.

sadly, many people are blinded by "their" love for that person to even think straight... so they will accept any excuses given to them.
cheating is the complete opposite of love/care.

Birdeyeview:
why do you refuse to give an honest reply?

i am honest... i use to cheat (or be dishonest with women) when i was young, dumb and full of cuum but now i understand that i have to be honest to my #1 player (aka ME). if i dont love someone, i have absolutely no reason to lie to them OR no issues with telling them exactly that.

lawrenzooo:
Even in true love people make mistakes!

yes they do, and thats the moment they have to sit down and accept that they dont love that person any longer. you cant selfishly try to hold on to something that you have lost, in the name of "true love".

nedekid:

I feel you bro.

chop knuckle

aishauju:
Ladies and guys in the house, does anyone of you have such experiences?

yes I have....but she still finally break up with me joor

franchasng:
Women by nature are wired to forgive a cheating partner while men by nature are configured not to forgive or easily forgive a cheating partner, it is all nature at work even though feminists and gender equality nonsense preachers are trying so hard to make it look otherwise, but we cannot cheat nature.

Hillary Clinton forgave Bill Clinton for cheating, I am sure Bill Clinton wouldn't have been able to forgive Hillary if it was Hillary that cheated on him to his knowledge, that is nature working.


Israeli President cheated on his wife with a staff of the Presidential villa, his wife forgave him and welcomed him with love, I am sure if it was the wife, he wouldn't forgive.

Its not because men don't value their partners but it is in their DNA, and we can only try to make them conform to societal standards created by man, but it will never work for majority of men.

we all know why these women stayed, if these dudes were bill the carpenter and/or Benjamin the shoemaker, this could have been a different story. btw Hillary stayed married to Bill because of her political ambitions. its a well known fact.

now, the important question IS: what is right to do in such circumstances? stay with someone who has no respect for you and your relationship OR leave that deceitful/dishonest/untrustworthy/unfaithful/disgraceful person?! choice is yours....

yes I have forgiven two partners who cheated on me. Infact one cheated with her ex. Regretted her actions and showed enough remorse to make me forgive her. I forgave her and we are still dating.

YES!
Then she broke up with me shortly afterwards, reasons being that she was too conscience stricken to continue with the relationship. The thing pain me die!