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bukatyne:
As if broke dudes don't marry every Saturday

A lot if women senseless chase money, yes.

Still, a lot of women marry men they love and whom loved them every Saturday.

Rich, average, poor or outright jobless.

Sorry, I don't do gender fights. Thks

uninspired07:
Thank you & may your fountain of wisdom not dry up.

Lol you too

crackhaus:
Lol, Buka Buka..

As you don involve God for the matter, you must also know that the spirit of God is not partial. If God was indeed involved and spiritually led a man to choose a soulmate, then there would absolutely be no need for him to chase that lady in futility, or 'extra' as you put it.
Do you know why? Because God would have also ministered to the woman and made it known to her beforehand that the man is indeed her man, and she will as a matter of fact be 'easy' (for lack of a better word) to succumb.

The chase, extra chase, excessive chase is NOT the will of God, Allah, or Sango, or of a man, or even of Satan.
It is only in a woman's interest to be chased, begged, cajoled, and wooed excessively - It certainly provides some sense of worth and importance I imagine.

It does not work that way.

It is also possible that the lady the guy is shown is not his standard and he fights it for a while.

Sometimes, it is the lady that is shown the man and she has to subtly convince him to meet her.

Even for relationships where God leads them to their spouses, they still need to work at it.

There is just a certain assurance that your efforts are not in vain and some issues will not crop up.

bukatyne:
As if broke dudes don't marry every Saturday

A lot if women senseless chase money, yes.

Still, a lot of women marry men they love and whom loved them every Saturday.

Rich, average, poor or outright jobless.

Yes of course, and mostly after their desired/preferred men who are better off financially have blanked them or kept them waiting for eternity, they had to borrow sense and go for the available instead of waiting and fantasizing about the desired that is out of their reach

kunleweb:
Sorry, I don't do gender fights. Thks

I responded directly to the post I quoted.

You guys are the ones that started the fights that was why I did not answer Crackhaus' question as regards my husband chasing me.

You guys stared ruining the thread at that point.

franchasng:
Yes of course, and mostly after their desired/preferred men who are better off financially have blanked them or kept them waiting for eternity, they had to borrow sense and go for the available instead of waiting and fantasizing about the desired that is out of their reach

If you say so.

Even if the people met in their teens or married in their early 20s.

And you have become a make moniker again.

The magic of Christmas.

bukatyne:
I responded directly to the post I quoted.

You guys are the ones that started the fights that was why I did not answer Crackhaus' question as regards my husband chasing me.

You guys stared ruining the thread at that point.

Playing the sisters card. Was it not the same. Comment I made that we both had back and forth was claimed sexist by your sisters upon their comments you're now playing the sexist card too, something we both left the bus stop over 5 hours ago. Smh. Human beings sha. So predictable

bukatyne:
Ok.
Which is why it is good to search for your soul mate early before the cynicism in relationships due to several meaningless empty ones.

Lol... I don't believe in it anyway. It's all about compatibility. Nothing more nothing less.

@op got what he want.
Multiple ego massage.

sassysure:
@op got what he want.
Multiple ego massage.

yeye girl

kunleweb:
Playing the sisters card. Was it not the same. Comment I made that we both had back and forth was claimed sexist by your sisters upon their comments you're now playing the sexist card too, something we both left the bus stop over 5 hours ago. Smh. Human beings sha. So predictable

@bold:

What is sister's card? What is sexist card?

Do you know the comment(s) I am referring to?

Omar09:
Lol... I don't believe in it anyway. It's all about compatibility. Nothing more nothing less.

Ok and Goodluck.

bukatyne:
If you say so.

Even if the people met in their teens or married in their early 20s.

And you have become a make moniker again.

The magic of Christmas.

I am now genderless

franchasng:
I am now genderless

Congratulations.

By next year, you will be an hermaphrodite.

bukatyne:
Congratulations.

By next year, you will be an hermaphrodite.

How sure are you now that I am not done with my transformation

sassysure:
@op got what he want.
Multiple ego massage.

How did I get ego massage. Were the response from the men hostile, it wouldn’t still have made any difference as I won’t change.

This is a faceless forum.

May God give everybody the power to make wealth because this life is not easy without money.

bukatyne:
It does not work that way.

It is also possible that the lady the guy is shown is not his standard and he fights it for a while.

Sometimes, it is the lady that is shown the man and she has to subtly convince him to meet her.

Even for relationships where God leads them to their spouses, they still need to work at it.

There is just a certain assurance that your efforts are not in vain and some issues will not crop up.

Bukatyne there is no point arguing this, the ways of God are not partial. I have seen and heard of so many cases of men who claim God told them a certain woman will be their wife only for the woman to turn him down simply because she has not received such ministration from God, as she should.

It does not matter whether the woman is his standard or not because when God is involved, there is really no need to fight for it or being convincing because God is perfect and just and has done all the fighting and convincing on behalf of everyone involved.
A spiritually mature Christian man would even pray for God to make his steps fruitful by making the sister pliable to his request - this is why such ventures should always go smoothly.



Working at relationships after they have begun is not the subject of our conversation here, we are talking about the meeting/courting/wooing phase.

bukatyne:
I responded directly to the post I quoted.

You guys are the ones that started the fights that was why I did not answer Crackhaus' question as regards my husband chasing me.

You guys stared ruining the thread at that point.

I'm sorry but I must protest.
What does not answering my question have to do with the fights?
Is it you and I that are fighting?

bukatyne:
As if broke dudes don't marry every Saturday

A lot if women senseless chase money, yes.

Still, a lot of women marry men they love and whom loved them every Saturday.

Rich, average, poor or outright jobless.

Are these broke, poor, jobless dudes marrying the likes of Tiwa, Chidinma or Mo Abudu...or are the women they are marrying every Saturday still not within the same spectrum?

uninspired07:
How did I get ego massage. Were the response from the men hostile, it wouldn’t still have made any difference as I won’t change.

This is a faceless forum.

Then tell us why u created the topic.

sassysure:
Then tell us why u created the topic.

Ok, since you want to hear it so desperately, to seek validation for my decision by other brothers in the game. Are you happy now?

franchasng:
lol, pretty, young white girls are the highest gold diggers lol.....they date only their school mates who are also white guys, but if you as a black guy want to date pretty, young white girls from quality family background, then you must be a rich sportsman or an entertainer, or a successful surgeon, if not, na the old fat ones you will end up with, ask anybody else that have lived abroad about this.


As a black guy living abroad, you can always get sexy looking Haiti chicks, Jamaican babes, Black Americans, plump Latino babes, etc....but if you want sexy looking, young Caucasian chick from a good family background, then you must know who you are

I was actually just joking. I don't stay in Nigeria as well lol Have a nice day

kunleweb:
Be careful fierry isn't ordinary. She's one of the few females ill be wary of, if I were you. She's damn fiery

I just saw this. The f? What did I do?

uninspired07:
Ok, since you want to hear it so desperately, to seek validation of my decision by other brothers in the game. Are you happy now?

Back to my previous post
I hail o!

crackhaus:
Are these broke, poor, jobless dudes marrying the likes of Tiwa, Chidinma or Mo Abudu...or are the women they are marrying every Saturday still not within the same spectrum?

There is a difference between poor, broke educated dude who has not landed his dream job or just got a let me manage job and an uneducated, no vision broke dude.

Ideally, I do not advise people to marry outside their spectrum. I have said it here severally that I can neither marry an uneducated mechanic nor can I marry a Governor's son except I am led that either is my husband.

I have nothing in common with either of them. The mechanic might tell me that it is a sin/ laziness to use washing machine; the Governor's son might tell me that he wants a party or there is nothing wrong in taking coke.

I know this is a generalization before people eat me raw.

So I think it is over ambitiousness for a guy/lady to marry far outside their spectrum. (except led of course.)

sassysure:
Back to my previous post
I hail o!

Like the omoluabi I am, I'm hailing too o. In fact, I'm rolling on the floor

crackhaus:
Bukatyne there is no point arguing this, the ways of God are not partial. I have seen and heard of so many cases of men who claim God told them a certain woman will be their wife only for the woman to turn him down simply because she has not received such ministration from God, as she should.

It does not matter whether the woman is his standard or not because when God is involved, there is really no need to fight for it or being convincing because God is perfect and just and has done all the fighting and convincing on behalf of everyone involved.
A spiritually mature Christian man would even pray for God to make his steps fruitful by making the sister pliable to his request - this is why such ventures should always go smoothly.



Working at relationships after they have begun is not the subject of our conversation here, we are talking about the meeting/courting/wooing phase.

If a man is genuinely convinced that Sister XYZ is his wife, I doubt he will leave her half way because she has not accepted him.

Yes, he will pray to God for help and get tips however, he will do the actual wooing.


Look through the Bible, all the men that got wives from God still wooed the wives themselves.

If you think because God said 'it is done', it becomes immediate, you are on your own.

fieryy:


Like the omoluabi I am, I'm hailing too o. In fact, I'm rolling on the floor

Don't mind the guy
He is one of them here

franchasng:
How sure are you now that I am not done with my transformation

Nope,

We must come full circle.

1st Jan 2020, just check, you will become an hermaphrodite

crackhaus:
This is what happens when people put themselves on a pedestal for no other worthy reason except having pum pums.

You don't have the patience to indulge, chase, or beg, it's because you have an ego.
You want to have some financial legroom before embarking on relationships because women require it, you have low self-esteem.
You speak about the realities as they are, and you're being disrespectful, bashful, & insulting.

The princess-complex is as real as it comes.



@ uninspired07, I hope you have been able to pick relevant points from both sides regardless. Just understand that there is nothing wrong in wanting to develop your finances, or in lacking patience with women who have no obvious interest in you. The best woman to be with is that one which presents you with the least amount of work/obstacles/roadblocks in winning her over, simply because she is already won over in some small measure of her own accord.

Developing yourself should be your ultimate goal in life FOR YOURSELF, not because you need it to be better in the eyes of women. Also, making just any woman or every woman feel good about themselves is not your job - there are already multitudes of men doing that. You only just need to find that ONE woman who has a mutual interest in you, hit it off, and make her the object of all your attention and devotion. What every other one thinks is really not your concern.

Cheers.

Very smart of you.

Like the OP went on to say, women would like either attention or financial stability. This buttresses the saying that goes thus: with everything we do, there are other things left undone.

Wanting both is looking like an impossible thing to give with the unfolding realities in today's society.

Economy is hard, male folks are trying to up their game, so they try to avoid women who wouldn't be helpful in achieving that goal or who may not be patient enough to see that ambition materialize.

Or they give them attention and after sometime, they no longer measure up to new realities because things have changed.

Finding balance in these extremely polarised life is not easy to come by, men, women, feminists of both gender should be able to see through these and not how bashing or not it is.

They have been more worse things on NL than this one.

cassyrooy:
Very smart of you.

Like the OP went on to say, women would like either attention or financial stability. This buttresses the saying that goes thus: with everything we do, there are other things left undone.

Wanting both is looking like an impossible thing to give with the unfolding realities in today's society.

Economy is hard, male folks are trying to up their game, so they try to avoid women who wouldn't be helpful in achieving that goal or who may not be patient enough to see that ambition materialize.

Or they give them attention and after sometime, they no longer measure up to new realities because things have changed.

Finding balance in these extremely polarised life is not easy to come by, men, women, feminists of both gender should be able to see through these and not how bashing or not it is.

They have been more worse things on NL than this one.

Wonderful contribution.