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Brunosamel:
Hello guys, I have been worried about this issue, I just graduated recently and am at the peak of my career trying to shape up my life for the better future, my girlfriend, someone that I have been dating for the for the past 6 months... we have so much in common and built our relationships with love and trust... the journey wasn't easy but we were able to settle our differences and understand each other....

Recently she met a childhood friend whom she had a crush on when growing up, but the guy never asked her asked to be his girlfriend never said anything to her cuz he saw her as a small girl then..
The guys is into business and has quite established himself... last 2 months the guy asked her out and she told me about it cuz she needed my permission whether she should go or not and I said okay she can but it will only be first and last time she will go out with him...

To cut the story short, last night I called her line and she was on another call for more that 30 minutes.... I confronted her about it and she started crying was begging me that she was sorry and that the guy is really disturbing her....... asking her to give him a chance, to the extent that she should leave me for him, he will give her anytime and even train in the university.... she told the guy she can't leave her boyfriend becuz she loves me so much.... I was dumbfounded and I don't even know what to do about it cuz I don't have the resources (money) at this moment

Relationships gurus what do you think about my situation I need your opinion and suggestions cuz I love this girl so much and want to settle down with her cuz she suffered with me and I suffered with her.... say what ever you want to but just be brutal honest with me....

Talkwisdom:
Bro,Don't bother yourself about girls,talk some sense into her the little you can and allow her make her choice.
Don't ever,I repeat, don't ever force love on a woman.

pocohantas:
Peak of which career? All these small boys sef. You think life and love is dy/dx.

boiz2men:
You just had to. why so mean

Mykel51:
Poco...you wicked...LOL...

pocohantas:
Leave me, No talk to me...

boiz2men:
Baby, I wish I could help it. Can't live a day without talking to you. Whatever I did my love, I'm sorry you know you mean the world to me

pocohantas:
Come and sign my promise card. Give me money.

boiz2men:
But you rich and I'm broke

The only document I want to sign right now is one that binds us together forever

pocohantas:
Sign my promise card first. I don't even know why you will not have money sef. The Nigerian horseband should be able to provide.

Wolgrace:
What if I tell you that Satan might be using you as a weapon of delaying and stealing her blessing through your lustful relationship with her? And are you sure she is your destined future partner? If not, better release her. WIFE, NOT GIRLFRIEND, IS A PROPERTY. If you love a bird, free it. If its truly yours, it will come back. UNLESS YOU PUT RING IN HER FINGER AND PAY HER BRIDE PRICE, SHE'S NOT YOURS. Free yourself bro, no dey cage yourself. Growing and mature golden fishes still plenty for water.

xxxtedyxxx:
How can you give her. permission to go out/ accept the guy?

30 mins on call....?

That babe doesn't value you.

Forget about her affected air of honesty.

That's a huge mistake brother.

Its like you have really invested into the relationship, thats why you seem worried.

To be honest with you, there is little you can do. Everything depends on your girl. Money is the number one factor for attraction women, followed by fame- sadly, you don't have much cash to contend with her childhood friend.

No vex...but I see your girl falling for this guy atlast.

Hookup with your girl..and give a wonderful f.***k....

Reset her brain with your "poron".

chop your investment, so when she eventually leaves, you won't feel hurt.

Gynn:
From what you said, it can safely be assumed that the girl is still in her late teens or early twenties. She hasn't gotten higher education yet. She hasn't yet experienced the full range of temptations life has to offer in terms of relationships

Based on the above, here's my advice, EXCEPT you both have definite plans to better both your lives and grow together educationally, career-wise, financially etc...

... please allow her to go and meet her destiny helper (childhood friend in this case) if she has got genuine feelings for him, and he has proven beyond all reasonable doubt that his intentions are noble.

You both aren't married yet, or engaged. Nothing is certain

DonCandido:
Let me give it to you straight, you are a CERTIFIED M-U-M-U.

You gave your girl PERMISSION to see an ex flame who has achieved everything a girl wants and which you can't give her? Now you are seeking expert opinions?

Know this, you don't have a girlfriend anymore. She is gone! You gave your dinner to the cat!

She may even be with guy and getting some good....... as you read this.

Confused man, go and get a JOB! Hustle hard and hustle fast, get your own girl and hold on to her forever!

By the way, what's a jobless guy doing with a girlfriend? You want to indoctrinate her into poverty by association?

victorian:
Op are you ready to train your Gf in school?

I bet she's done with ssce, so are u honestly read to pay her school fees in school if she takes jamb and pass
Because with what she said about the other guy, he's ready to train her and marry her join.

But with you Op, all u have is love to offer. Nothing concrete.

My Pastor will say: if two people hold their hands together walk to a shopping mall and tell the seller selling foodstuffs that we are in love, please give us soup ingredients with meat parts free ,because we are in love. Na Security they will use bundle both of you out of the mall.

You can walk with your Gf to rent a flat and tell landlord say, please we are in love, give us your flat for free. We are just starting life.
I think u know already what the landlord will do to both of you.

So Op, leave I'm in love one side and ask yourself are u ready to start investing on your Gf, so she enrol in the university or polytechnic? So she can be self independent and not get swayed by any dick and Harry, that offers her such luxury. Because furthering her education is like luxury to her ears. She wouldn't want such rare opportunity to pass her by, from someone she has a crush for.

And we all know what the answer is.

So guy, your babe has already chosen her destiny helper. Let them be. Give your blessings and you sef forget woman for now and hustle make it in life.

Because love without money is dead! And that's the truth.

TenthMan:
Well, typically males compete among other males for a female they want. Whether consciously or unconsciously ,this happens. Whether the woman is single or married has hardly stopped this. Unless you want to be mean and threaten her, etc. there is nothing you can do but to tell her why you do not subscribe to her talking to him for too long, seeing him, keeping his company, etc. because of the strain it might cause to your relationship and how it has the propensity to emotionally endear her to him and make her be his mate. After that, there is little or nothing you can do. Even wives/husbands (mates) can hardly be monitored.

If she thinks he has more advantage over you in taking care of her, there is little or nothing you can do. Like I hinted above, you will have to make her override the primordial instinct of seeking a better mate that has more resources (perhaps than you do) and override the desire for an escapade (let me just try and see which is better).

Listen, if she goes with him, then she goes with him. I (if I want to be sentimental/bias) will prefer that she goes to him openly as a matter of fact, than doing so secretly and returning to me.

My responses are objective (knowledge/fact based) and you must know I answer without any form of bias (cultural, religious, tribal, ethnic, class, gender, age, race, nationality, blood, acquaintance, etc.).

nasoeb:
Bro, I understand what you are going true. But the very honest truth is that, your girl loves you no doubt but she has started having some conscious feelings for that guy. And the signs were, wanting to gobon a date with the guy (what does she expect the guy will talk about or want when they go out). Again was even being on call for up to 30mins which isn't your call (bf), a family call or business call but with a guy you "claim" not having feelings for; ....I ask, discussing what exactly.
And the close reality is, if this guy knows she is dating you and still trying to convince her to leave you for him, this guy subconsciously will never trust her knowing she could do same to him. He will only fucck her real good at the skightest opportunity, then dump her.
He has seen that she is easily manipulative, hence he is enticing her with the promise of school and anything she wants.
Just talk to her and make her understand you know she is having feelings for him but if she is ready to tro away everything you both have built all these while for another guy, then you will let her go and complete your life with someone who appreciates and complete you. But she will struggle to remain relevant in his life someone else has built.

Brunosamel:
you just made my day bro.... I can't thank you enough this is why I so much love nairaland.... I appreciate your words of advice.....

Brunosamel:
Hello guys, I have been worried about this issue.
I just graduated recently and am at the peak of my career trying to shape up my life for the better future with my girlfriend, someone that I have been dating for the past 6 months.

We have so much in common and built our relationships with love and trust. The journey wasn't easy but we were able to settle our differences and understand each other.

Recently she met a childhood friend whom she had a crush on when growing up, but the guy never asked her asked to be his girlfriend never said anything to her cuz he saw her as a small girl then.

The guy is into business and has quite established himself. Last 2 months the guy asked her out and she told me about it cuz she needed my permission whether she should go or not and I said okay she can but it will only be first and last time she will go out with him.

To cut the story short, last night I called her line and she was on another call for more that 30 minutes. I confronted her about it and she started crying, was begging me that she was sorry and that the guy is really disturbing her, asking her to give him a chance, to the extent that she should leave me for him, he will give her anytime and even train in the university.

She told the guy she can't leave her boyfriend becuz she loves me so much. I was dumbfounded and I don't even know what to do about it cuz I don't have the resources (money) at this moment

Relationships gurus what do you think about my situation I need your opinion and suggestions cuz I love this girl so much and want to settle down with her cuz she suffered with me and I suffered with her.

Say whatever you want to but just be brutally honest with me....

fatymore:
Leave her isn't until you cheat physically that you know she is cheating.

Right now she is emotionally divided between you people. Let her go and meet her crush.



I sell bedsheets oooo

Brunosamel:
Hello guys, I have been worried about this issue.
I just graduated recently and am at the peak of my career trying to shape up my life for the better future with my girlfriend, someone that I have been dating for the past 6 months.

We have so much in common and built our relationships with love and trust. The journey wasn't easy but we were able to settle our differences and understand each other.

Recently she met a childhood friend whom she had a crush on when growing up, but the guy never asked her asked to be his girlfriend never said anything to her cuz he saw her as a small girl then.

The guy is into business and has quite established himself. Last 2 months the guy asked her out and she told me about it cuz she needed my permission whether she should go or not and I said okay she can but it will only be first and last time she will go out with him.

To cut the story short, last night I called her line and she was on another call for more that 30 minutes. I confronted her about it and she started crying, was begging me that she was sorry and that the guy is really disturbing her, asking her to give him a chance, to the extent that she should leave me for him, he will give her anytime and even train in the university.

She told the guy she can't leave her boyfriend becuz she loves me so much. I was dumbfounded and I don't even know what to do about it cuz I don't have the resources (money) at this moment

Relationships gurus what do you think about my situation I need your opinion and suggestions cuz I love this girl so much and want to settle down with her cuz she suffered with me and I suffered with her.

Say whatever you want to but just be brutally honest with me....

Brunosamel:
Hello guys, I have been worried about this issue.
I just graduated recently and am at the peak of my career trying to shape up my life for the better future with my girlfriend, someone that I have been dating for the past 6 months.

Say whatever you want to but just be brutally honest with me....

Adeevah:
How clean is your bed sheet?
I need a new bedsheet pending the time that mine will return from the laundry...
Do you do home delivery?