Good morning everyone.

In the middle of the night today, I tried to look for duvet to cover up my son on bed. I decided to check my wife wardrobe.

I saw a pack of mycoten in the wardrobe. She already slept this time. So I had to chill till this morning to ask her questions.

So, this morning when I asked her, she said it was her mum that gave her bla bla bla..
I saw a piece of paper prescribing that cream for her in that same bag I found the cream.

I googled the uses of mycoten and I found out it was nothing serious because it is use for yeast infection and vagina odour. My wife dont have vagina odour and I understand yeast infection can be gotten from toilet or could be infection of body skin that spread or so.

I actually know she lied about her mummy giving her. But what baffles me is that I got a whatsapp message from her when she was coming from my son school..

She wrote that I nag a lot. That I should give her space. That u think she can't cope without me. She said she will look for work to take care of our son.She said we have been together for six years and I don't even trust her a bit. She said I think she can't leave without her. She didn't even address the issue of allegation of infidelity I threw against her(i deliberately did that #.I replied her I can't give her space in my own house and if she is fed up, she can pack her bags and go to her parent house. I told her if my son is infected or if I am infected , I am going to kill her and hand over myself to police. Immediately she blocked me on whatsapp and I did same. After an hour, she unblocked me.

Could she have been sleeping around her? Or are there any other uses of mycoten I don't know?

In my mind though, the cream I find is not really something to worry about but the message I got and her reaction is what I don't understand.

You nag a lot!!

Abeg respect that lady na. Even if you think you are anonymous talking about your wife's "vagina odour" in a public forum Is lack of respect for that lady. No matter what. Because if e set now you will still say the same in public.

Oga go home, withdraw small money from your account buy her perfumes and a nice dress. Add flower join. And apologise. Tell her you're sorry and your love got the better of you. If possible take her out. And don't nag anymore. You have a good thing going. Don't ruin it. Not all ladies are Oloshos. Some very good ones dey out there. Apologise ooooooo. I Don talk my own. Because if a woman turns rogue and she start to revenge you're on your own. PS. It's not a sign of weakness.

First things first put your anger under better management. Saying things you'll later regret isn't right as a man.

For example that you'll kill her and hand her to the police can be used against you God forbid something happens and you aren't even responsible. Take a cue from that young man that was issued a death sentence, I'm not saying he is guilty or innocent here. But your own words can implicate you. She's the mother of your child and for this alone try to act better


I know many men try to soothe their egos and try to make themselves feel better with ideology that every woman is a cheat. Unfortunately this causes the mind to create scenarios that haven't even existed .


Common sit down there and could you sit let's have a talk as a couple has different effects on the listener. If you work bad improve on your communication as a couple I feel you both would tolerate yourselves better. Under an atmosphere of tenseness and intolerance, and unhealthy energy almost anything can lead to a quarrel.



I don't know if your wife is cheating nad why your method though confrontational is a guesstimate method to find out the truth, did you pause to ponder what the aftermath would be if she isn't?


Deliberately sowing negative seeds in your Union collapses our marital bond both progressively and gradually and the more you do it, the more you push the other party away. We can't build a stable marital bond with negative energy.


There's more to say as this Union shows sign of cracks and instability. Allow me recommend a couple acitvitiy you both can do together as a family. To help strengthen your bond and deepen your root.

To win trust at times, we should look away at times or rather be more tact. Accusing one's spouse is weighty if a woman does it to me personally,I may forgive but the effect would still be there. Especially if the sorry is innocent.


Tact is key. Conduct is gold . We should conduct ourselves honourably in ways that we'll rise above fautls if subjected to external cross examination. Life is easy. It's how we handle issues that matters.


Don't forget accusing a partner of infidelity is very weighty and one should have rela proofs otherwise if wrong,my brother such a person is wounding the partner seriously internally. Let's not forget no one has risen above cheating in q relationship. No one, beginning with me Take life jeje



My dad only counselled me once before he passed away, he thought me not to be overly bothered about a woman's vagina. Holding on to this principle has given me profound peace over the years. I won't allow the fear of cheating steal my peace never. But if I catch you


Control your mind. Control your thoughts. Let's your imaginations would ruin you. I forgot to add falsely accusing a partner in a relationship isn't derogatory but abusive, you'll be mentally abusing your partner if any accusations is fasle. And in a sane clime, after legal scrutiny you can be charged with deliberate attempt to cause damage


Many women have died from infections they picked from toilets. Infections can come as a result of an affair or hygiene issues. Either way there's no proof of an illicit affair.

Don't let your own insecurities ruin your life


Balance is key don't let insecurities ruin your life.

Don't let a lack of mastery over your emotions ruin what you have

Don't lose what you have before you know it's value


Man, control no, master thyself. Master your wandering and assuming thoughts

Try to calm her down then hack her WhatsApp account or check her Facebook pages and if you see a guy saying something like love you messages on her photo comments just check where the guy live in and monitor or movement to that place.

You guys should settle your differences..... She might open up

You said you already googled the use of mycoten,so why are you still disturbed?
It is for vaginal yeast infection which can be picked up in the toilet

What you need to do is address the issue of trust and 'suspected' infidelity with your wife.

thorpido:
You said you already googled the use of mycoten,so why are you still disturbed.
It is for vaginal yeast infection which can be picked up in the toilet.

What you need to do is address the issue of trust and 'suspected' infidelity with your wife.

Na every man struggles with internal control. I feel this is more about trust instincts than otherwise. How you see am MissJoy29

You nag a lot! And in public!

The message u sent is not something to worry about but her response abi her reaction na the one wey dey worry you. Dont worry you never start to see reaction, u hear.

Newton's third law is: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Your wife is really nice. She blocked u to keep herself from saying stuff she'll regret. U definitely can do better by being open minded n free from biases.

A marriage needs help. A myriad of contributions and ould help like-couples. Can we move this to front page please mods

uncastableodd:
Good morning everyone.

In the middle of the night today, I tried to look for duvet to cover up my son on bed. I decided to check my wife wardrobe.

I saw a pack of mycoten in the wardrobe. She already slept this time. So I had to chill till this morning to ask her questions.

So, this morning when I asked her, she said it was her mum that gave her bla bla bla..
I saw a piece of paper prescribing that cream for her in that same bag I found the cream.

I googled the uses of mycoten and I found out it was nothing serious because it is use for yeast infection and vagina odour. My wife dont have vagina odour and I understand yeast infection can be gotten from toilet or could be infection of body skin that spread or so.

I actually know she lied about her mummy giving her. But what baffles me is that I got a whatsapp message from her when she was coming from my son school..

She wrote that I nag a lot. That I should give her space. That u think she can't cope without me. She said she will look for work to take care of our son.She said we have been together for six years and I don't even trust her a bit. She said I think she can't leave without her. She didn't even address the issue of allegation of infidelity I threw against her(i deliberately did that #.I replied her I can't give her space in my own house and if she is fed up, she can pack her bags and go to her parent house. I told her if my son is infected or if I am infected , I am going to kill her and hand over myself to police. Immediately she blocked me on whatsapp and I did same. After an hour, she unblocked me.

Could she have been sleeping around her? Or are there any other uses of mycoten I don't know?

In my mind though, the cream I find is not really something to worry about but the message I got and her reaction is what I don't understand.

So because you found mycoten cream with your wife is why it degenerated to this level

I feel that if she had told you she had infection, you would have still thought she sleeps around even when you know it could be gotten from the toilet. That's why she didn't tell you.
Is it true that you nag?
You have anger issues, why threaten to kill her, what if she dared you?
Will you make good your threat or whimper?
Mycoten is not a solid proof for cheating, just talk to your wife, I don't think she wants to leave you.

It could be that she got vagina yeast and she has taken measures to treat it, hence the cream you saw.

Well her message was out of anger because she feels you don't trust her and that is why she has to unblock you after an hour.

If she was cheating on you and fed up with the marriage, she wouldn't have unblocked you.

And yes indeed, ladies need space when it comes to their sexuality.

You knowing she has contacted vagina yeast could make her emotionally down.

But how she contacted the yeast is what I'm not sure about.

It could be from a one night stand she had.

It could be from the toilet.

Only GOD knows, but i will suggest you talk to her and have her open up to you, but she might lie to you about it.

All the same this is life for you.

I will suggest you take medical precaution by using condoms on her untill she is medically clean.

I think even as couples, it's good the both of you go for medical check-up every two or three months.

Trust no one, not even your wife or husband.

This op is mad and he is the biggest fool on the earth. That cream is used to treat vargina infections, especially toilet infection.

onlinetomola:
This op is mad and he is the biggest fool on the earth. That cream is used to treat vargina infections, especially toilet infection.

You don't have to insult him.

He is human.

I feel what was lacking was marital communication.

The wife was suppose to confide in him.
Is vagina yeast contagious during sex with a man?

If yes!! Then i understand why the man is angry.

If No, then the husband is wrong.

From looking for duvet,u enter ur wife bag as if na there d duvet dey,u should thank her for trying to use the cream to be clean for u.from the way u sound I think u don't really show her care and love. After checking it out online an found out it could be she was having scratches,u should have showed her more care by dropping some cash for her to go for better checkup if she was scared she could have some infections,or buy her more toiletries on your way back home. But no.u went nagging asking her if she was cheating on u,u will kill her and bla bla bla.if na who wey no go loose am for u? Men u guys could be so annoying sometimes. House owner

THE CAUSES OF VAGINAL YEAST INFECTION
Several factors can cause a yeast infection, including:

antibiotics, which decrease the amount of Lactobacillus (“good bacteria”) in the vagina
pregnancy
uncontrolled diabetes
weak immune system
poor eating habits, including a lot of sugary foods
hormonal imbalance near your menstrual cycle
stress- OP IS OBVIOUSLY A MAJOR CAUSE, WHAT WITH THE EMOTIONAL TRAUMA THE WIFE IS BEING SUBJECTED TO
lack of sleep

You haven't gotten any unwanted calls or read any crazy chat on her phone that might make you feel she is sleeping around so what's the fuss about

A vaginal yeast infection is not transmitted sexually.
75% of women will get at least a vaginal yeast infection at a time in their lives.
Ignorance is a disease.

Miradamian:
From looking for duvet,u enter ur wife bag as if na there d duvet dey,u should thank her for trying to use the cream to be clean for u.from the way u sound I think u don't really show her care and love. After checking it out online an found out it could be she was having scratches,u should have showed her more care by dropping some cash for her to go for better checkup if she was scared she could have some infections,or buy her more toiletries on your way back home. But no.u went nagging asking her if she was cheating on u,u will kill her and bla bla bla.if na who wey no go loose am for u? Men u guys could be so annoying sometimes. House owner

guy I just got my salary yesterday and I dropped money for her and the son. So issue of money is a no no

unless you catch a lady red handed and with proof, never confront her cos she would always play you and win... the moment your intuition and mind keep telling you she might be cheating, and she also start acting up.. simply keep calm and uncover the plot without getting angry


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@ Op take it easy o, unfounded allegations destroys marriage, your wify is definitely not cheating on you.

Most women have mycoten at home, I just got a pack. I use it whenever I use a toilet I dnt trust. I wonder why she's hiding it from u, probably because u will nag and complain abt her to stupor. You sound like a harsh husband who delights in embarrassing and shaming ur better half, so she avoids u on a regular. As for ur threat, I know u will do it one day cos as the mind thinketh so is he. I only pray ur village ppl do u like that abia man that shot his wife. That aside, sit her down for a romantic dinner and make her feel like a woman maybe she will discard her own planned evil against u,abi u tink say she no get herown mindset?

Maturity they say has nothing to with age. U r very immature to be in a relationship like marriage. Look at wot u r making an innocent lady to go through for no just cause. Most ladies hv mycoten cream in their possession as a result of toilet infection that is easily picked by them. I usually buy mycoten cream for my wife. Grow up man and stop tormenting d poor woman. U can not sustain a marriage if u hv trust issues!

Loool

All these just because of mycoten cream

Na wa ooo

The things that cause problems in marriages ehnnn.
OP, you googled mycoten and its use yet you went to cause trouble, speaks volumes about you. Accusation of infidelity is not something you throw about when upset. It kills more than you imagine. Threatening to kill her is bizarre, I'm sure you must have said more. you seem like a man who lose control of what comes out of his mouth when upset, stop it please or you will destroy your home. To you, you feel it's nothing hence the surprise you felt when you saw her message the next day. She is hurting and she has reasons to be. Get her something nice, go home and apologize for mishandling the situation, ask her to tell you why she feels you nag a lot and address the trust issue. You will be surprise to discover that truly over the years you've been subtly pushing her to the wall with your attitude without your knowledge. Please don't go and start arguing unnecessarily with her, take correction and change. Yeast infection is common among women by the way

All this on top mycoten cream....... Na wa o! Wetin person no go see for NL.

Oga, you're indeed a nag.

Since everyone is taking sides with the OP's wife, I ll give a different advice.
Op, don't kill your wife and don't threaten to kill her again, just divorce her...
When they ask you why you divorced her, say 'you saw her using mycoten cream'. Thank me later.

SmileDance:
Since everyone is taking sides with the OP's wife, I ll give a different advice.
Op, don't kill your wife and don't threaten to kill her again, just divorce her...
When they ask you why you divorced her, say 'you saw her using mycoten cream'. Thank me later.

My dear, the things people allow to rob them of peace in their homes ehnnnn. Your advice funny die

uncastableodd:
Good morning everyone.

In the middle of the night today, I tried to look for duvet to cover up my son on bed. I decided to check my wife wardrobe.

I saw a pack of mycoten in the wardrobe. She already slept this time. So I had to chill till this morning to ask her questions.

So, this morning when I asked her, she said it was her mum that gave her bla bla bla..
I saw a piece of paper prescribing that cream for her in that same bag I found the cream.

I googled the uses of mycoten and I found out it was nothing serious because it is use for yeast infection and vagina odour. My wife dont have vagina odour and I understand yeast infection can be gotten from toilet or could be infection of body skin that spread or so.

I actually know she lied about her mummy giving her. But what baffles me is that I got a whatsapp message from her when she was coming from my son school..

She wrote that I nag a lot. That I should give her space. That u think she can't cope without me. She said she will look for work to take care of our son.She said we have been together for six years and I don't even trust her a bit. She said I think she can't leave without her. She didn't even address the issue of allegation of infidelity I threw against her(i deliberately did that #.I replied her I can't give her space in my own house and if she is fed up, she can pack her bags and go to her parent house. I told her if my son is infected or if I am infected , I am going to kill her and hand over myself to police. Immediately she blocked me on whatsapp and I did same. After an hour, she unblocked me.

Could she have been sleeping around her? Or are there any other uses of mycoten I don't know?

In my mind though, the cream I find is not really something to worry about but the message I got and her reaction is what I don't understand.

There is something seriously wrong with your relationship with your wife.

You saw the cream in the wardrobe which means she is not hiding it because it is accessible to you. Almost every lady has Mycoten cream at home. Like you said, it is for nothing serious.

Now the drama starts:
1. She lied about the source and it was actually prescribed to her. This means she probably has toilet infection she went to the clinic/pharmacy for. In a marriage with good relationship, she would mention it.

2. You accused her of cheating: Man, that is 0 - 1000. Except you both have a relationship wherw you banter about such things, it is a weighty allegation especially as you already know the function of the cream.

3. Her what'sapp message to you is 0 - 1m. What has you accusing her of cheating got to do with you think she can't leave without you bla bla. Why is she planning for a life without you. Do you have marriage threatening issues before.

4. You tell her you would kill her if either you or son is infected? Oshe! Terminator. You better pray nothing happens to her.

5. Then you block yourselves on what'sapp. You both must be fantasizing you are yeyebrities. What was the blocking supposed to achieve? So you don't communicate? If you have a pressing thing to say, can't you send a text message or email

I would advise you both go on a retreat and rediscover the missing link.