Pavore9:


Abandoning one's child/children be it the father or mother is not about gender equality but a case of a disordered mind because it is a heartless action but unfortunately, it is being rationalized and normalized by the day.

The children should be removed from that setting as they are been negatively exposed, if his mum is still alive he could take them to her while he sends her their upkeep.

May God bless you. The woman is probably "enjoying" herself with someone else without a care for her children. Can you imagine the kind of environment these children are being raised. Most of those commenting are not even into a serious relationship talk more of been married and having children. I wish I have the ability to change the man's financial status I would have done so especially because of those kids.

benratigan3:
why blame the woman only?
first scenario, both are adults and you should blame both.you are bias in your conclusion
second scenario, hmmmm I advice Nigerian guys ,if woman no like you don't influence her with money cos when it goes she goes with it.I blame both parties and op you are bias with your conclusion. at least the first scenario, you heard from both sides ,the second you didn't

It is because of weak and foolish men like you that the society is against men!

You can imagine what a man is saying to a fellow man that his wife abandoned him and the children to follow a rich Alhaji!

We donate you to the women folk. You have nothing to offer as a man!

I don’t “think there’s a gender war” because it is a gender war.

Did you see any comments criticizing him for keeping his kids in a bar?!

Nobody has asked why even you. I am old enough to decide what I should let in and out of my life because I’ve real life experiences not just a made up internet story.

culturedboss:

I Guess you're one of those thinking there is a Gender War going on here.Better wake up to reality and Don't get ur Life messed up with all these Negativity from past events.
Every Relationship or Marriage Starts on good terms until the Cracks Start to appear,If u Two Can't get along any more pls do well to show Some Care/Unity for the sake of ur kids!!Should it be any other way??
I must say,After reading through most Comments here.I see alot of HEADS without BRAINS.It's Remarkable.

Massive yawn!


Is there anything else? Feminist wannabe, evening newspaper blah blah blah blah.

Boring incel!


Yawn!

Caseless:
.'feminist-wannabe', bring the woman so we can ask her own side of the story.

Where’s the prove that his wife abandoned him?

Even in sharia court the woman will be given a chance to defend herself.


Why are you guys not asking for her side of the story?!

dinachi:

It is because of weak and foolish men like you that the society is against men!

You can imagine what a man is saying to a fellow man that his wife abandoned him and the children to follow a rich Alhaji!

We donate you to the women folk. You have nothing to offer as a man!

Mstick:
Massive yawn!


Is there anything else? Feminist wannabe, evening newspaper blah blah blah blah.

Boring incel!


Yawn!

check the post again for a modified version. I wasn't done before you replied.

The fact that you deem yourself important enough for me to check your post again is mind boggling!


Buhahahahahahahahahajahajahanananana



You and your likes have NOTHING TO OFFER HUMANITY.

Caseless:
check the post again for a modified version. I wasn't done before you replied.

Mstick:
Where’s the prove that his wife abandoned him?

Even in sharia court the woman will be given a chance to defend herself.


Why are you guys not asking for her side of the story?!

The story was even told to the nairalander by another woman! Which side of the story? A woman abandons her husband and even her own kids? Haba! Men who think like you should just join women!

I am tired of weak men on this Forum!

Yeah because every woman tells the truth. You’ve not seen women shaming their fellow women because they left an abusive marriage.


The woman wasn’t in the marriage and it’s what the “husband” say that she would believe and spread.

I want to hear from the person involved not a third party!

dinachi:

The story was even told to the nairalander by another woman! Which side of the story? A woman abandons her husband and even her own kids? Haba! Men who think like you should just join women!

I am tired of weak men on this Forum!

OcVoice:


Women are very good at pretending! She could be displaying the character of a virtuous woman while courting. You can't know these things completely. It's only God that gives a good partner.

While you have a point.... It pains me that so many men believe the way to win a woman is to spend money, spend more money and money. Hence their mantra " Huzzle oooo " . And the same man will now complain later that women only knows more ... Question is: what were you flaunting to woo her?


With that mentality, Todays men has a lot to be blamed for . Men must develop attractive personality to win a woman not just money,money shouldn't even come into the scene until she has fallen for the kind of man you are

chubbyswit:

So you are now an observer, from afar most likely. Well done keep observing other people's lives and don't work on your self development. Maybe you are very young and also think that the world revolves around a woman's physical beauty.

It's obvious your brain is aging and can't understand anymore, even when I tried to explain. Please try and eat more brain foods, it will help.

Bad is bad regardless of which gender committed it. I'm sure the females here will justify a female who raped a male because it's rare rather than calling it bad.

elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

Chronic spinster talking.

"Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!"

Who are you to like or dislike what Adult choose to do with their lives! Boy! Don't cross your boundary!

Ganjafama:
I have seen a mother ape risk her life to save her baby's life from the bullet of my uncle who is a hunter. I quietly whispered to him not to shoot her. If an ape could be so motherly not to abandon her baby, why can't a human do more?. Again look at the language you used "bloody kids" - so unwomanly.

she has a faulty parental upbringing from her comments bro!

cr7lomo:


U don't listen to one sided stories u say , but u just shared a one sided story , or did u hear from the man .. I fear una, anybody wey take Una serious na spirit

hahahaha

Mymynd4u:


U just came back from a ban, u wan go another on Abi?

how you take know?

These are the type of women that throw new born babies into the gutters, toilet , bushes. etc

I can't call them animals, no, animals don't abandone their children.

Wicked? I don't think so, a normal woman loves her children and can never trade them for anything.

I call them evil and abomination.

dinachi:

It is because of weak and foolish men like you that the society is against men!

You can imagine what a man is saying to a fellow man that his wife abandoned him and the children to follow a rich Alhaji!

We donate you to the women folk. You have nothing to offer as a man!

weak men like me?you do not know me so keep shot.
your statement validates your stupidity "fellow man like you",so if its a woman is OK ba

Mstick:
And this is the problem. So who compare a human to an animal?! How many hens have you seen having all her chicks with one cock? How many female goats have you seen having all her babies with same goats? How many lionesses have you seen having all her cubs with same lion?



Since you want to compare a full grown human male to an animal with a lower IQ that it makes sense to do the same. So we can all be animals and live peaceful together.

Lol. Do you think men have any sense at all judging from their emotional response to a man having to take care of his children? The way they hang women is always with the money and cheating lie. In this case, they've began acting like the man is a hero because the wife cheated on him with an Alhaji. What if she discovered he was cheating and decided to give him his pound of flesh with a better man than him? Since her husband was a wise drunken philanderer, he could only think to bring children to a sleazy motel. The intelligence of the man speaks for all men. It is shockingly foolish, extremely wicked and evil.

elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

u sound so bitter.. pls whatever u are going tru.. it will pass one day.. pls don't ever contemplate suicide, I beg of u..

Mstick:
I don’t “think there’s a gender war” because it is a gender war.

Did you see any comments criticizing him for keeping his kids in a bar?!

Nobody has asked why even you. I am old enough to decide what I should let in and out of my life because I’ve real life experiences not just a made up internet story.

It is sad for the Kids, Really tragic to have to sleep in a public place like a Bar but Why Blame the Man??If only He had all that money to make Life more Comfortable for the Family.If only the woman was there to Show some of the Love She ones constantly proclaimed.Things would have been much better.
Actually judging by the comments,U are one of those fighting for Gender Equality.
I don't want to be self indulgent but it's a Lost Battle.
Stop being Dramatic. It's unnecessary.

benratigan3:


do you know what feminism is?define it if you know.

NB I'm a guy,you just assumed I'm a lady

I didn't assume you to be a female because I knew you are a man from your moniker. Your attack on the op was uncalled for.

ivankamsi144:
some people are wicked sha. All the same, deal on the importation of FAIRLY USED laptop computers from Japan, Europe, [/s]China[s], America, Germany etc. eg, this white hp pavilion 15 core i3 with intel irish graphics for #65k

fixed.

Kaycee54321:
Second scenario is the reason why I will never marry if I don't have a certain level of cash flow and why I CAN NEVER marry a female who has nothing going on for herself... That crap about men taking care of a woman doesn't work on me

I earn, you earn, we care for each other, we raise a family together like a damn team...if e no work, na to kuku dey single... No be by force to born. Can't imagine bringing innocent babies to suffer.

Hello sir, are you me?

TOPCRUISE:

There is a difference between opinion and experience. Op shared his valid experience and you are here saying he is biased. You just wanted OP to say the man is lazy and irresponsible so as to remove the bias

no I didn't intend such,your last statement. his wife left him when he lost his job,I specifically stated don't entice a lady with money in the beginning of a relationship, even the man she followed, she go still leave am last last.
I had a side gig at two hotels ,men I have seen and experienced shit

Mstick:
I don’t “think there’s a gender war” because it is a gender war.

Did you see any comments criticizing him for keeping his kids in a bar?!

Nobody has asked why even you. I am old enough to decide what I should let in and out of my life because I’ve real life experiences not just a made up internet story.

Because there is nothing to criticise in there! It wasn't like he was happy keeping them in the bar. It wasn't like he had a better alternative but just decided to go that way. People knew that already and sympathised with him, that's why nobody criticised him.
Did you read this part below at all?

He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

Mstick:
The fact that you deem yourself important enough for me to check your post again is mind boggling!


Buhahahahahahahahahajahajahanananana



You and your likes have NOTHING TO OFFER HUMANITY.

as far as this forum lives, that post will forever remain in your name. You think too highly of yourself, I suspect.

I'm in total state of fremdschamen right now and you're the reason.

elektra:
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

You sound bitter. Hope you are okay?

missimelda01:
Op why do you sound surprised? This world is corrupt, not a new thing. I once met a man who told me he's been married for 11years and he has dated 8 ladies so far, he was even bragging that all the ladies are married now and he attended their weddings.. in other words, he carries a good luck charm that helps ladies get married

And you're the next for the "good luck"?.. hahahahaha the man need slap oo....

maasoap:


I didn't assume you to be a female because I knew you are a man from your moniker. Your attack on the op was uncalled for.

bro I had a top management job at a hotel, the things I saw,this op hasn't I hope seen such.op made more reference to the women especially the first scenario. now bro look,if we men reject these women, it will go a long way

benratigan3:
why blame the woman only?
first scenario, both are adults and you should blame both.you are bias in your conclusion
second scenario, hmmmm I advice Nigerian guys ,if woman no like you don't influence her with money cos when it goes she goes with it.I blame both parties and op you are bias with your conclusion. at least the first scenario, you heard from both sides ,the second you didn't

No matter what,you don’t abandon your kids and marriage.its obvious she left because the man lost his source of income.she being with a rich Alhaji while her children suffers the ignominy of homelessness and suffering shows the kind of wife and mom she is already.This is what happens when one marries a sit at home wife who does nothing but wait for u to bring money,what happens when the source of that money is gone?.