OceanOfJoy:
A woman wouldn't block you just because you said you wanted to be friends.

Speak for yourself.

HitSong:

Ask ya mama

ask ur dick

Davash222:
She blocked you cos she've realized you're not man enough. They carry food give you, you dey dodge.
It takes a second for a woman to transfer her love and affections to a man into hatred. Once you turn down their sexual advances, automatically she hates you! You were thinking marriage while the lady only wanted your dicck, Stop feeling yourself. she even blocked you shows you didn't play your game well. That's laxity on your side. Shame on you!

for your mind and at this age, you still think all cars are meant to be serviced, right

I guess she knows that since you're out of the country, you aren't coming back soon so the need to block you. She guessed maybe you've moved on in abroad that you re. If you still like her try reason with her, call her and explain things to her, hopefully she might wait for you. But I doubt it due to her age factor.

HitSong:

Shut up!
Have you typed any reasonable thing b4

This is an incredibly stupid question to ask, but to indulge that stupidity a little, go through my post history and find out if I have typed anything reasonable in the past.

Dumbo.

Davash222:
She blocked you cos she've realized you're not man enough. They carry food give you, you dey dodge.
It takes a second for a woman to transfer her love and affections to a man into hatred. Once you turn down their sexual advances, automatically she hates you! You were thinking marriage while the lady only wanted your dicck, Stop feeling yourself. she even blocked you shows you didn't play your game well. That's laxity on your side. Shame on you!

My guy just shut the hell up. Must everything relate to sex?

Fountainofyouth:
And yet you brought it here to whine, you wouldn't do that if it isn't bothering you and you don't miss her, she did right by blocking you though, cos you keep pestering her with your constant contact.

10/10

Prec1ous:
OP, get over it. I think both of you led yourself on foolishly. She was really expectant, but you goofed. She is dealing with the pseudo-rejection the best way she can, also, she is not happy to see your happy pictures. So move on.

---

The Parable of the goat and the yam in the same pen!

It has been proven countless time, that there is no sanity and clarity when a man and a women with the right amount of hormonal rush think that they can stay friends. Especially when nothing ties them together, maybe business or they are investment partners.

You can speak all the English you want to speak, but do not ever forget these...

You cannot tell your body when to and not to produce oetrogen, testosterone, dopamine and oxytocin. Nature must proceed.

This is also why you should beware of girls who claim all their friends are the opposite sex. You are been fooled!

Guys, the best way to get any girl is to be her friend but once in a while, chip in romantic talks and dirty chats but do not forget to also touch her "mistakenly" sometimes, this qualifies you as a potential romantic partner.

Do this systematically and You have already laid the ground for your impending kill.

Thank you.

BadT guy!

To be honest, you're the fool in this story,what were you expecting, you don't wanna have a relationship and you still wanna lurk around her for what.girls got better things to focus on,you're definitely not her only choice.

vickydevoka:

He knows wat he wants dats y hf went for his masters. Is anything wrong to be a friend will ur female colleague?

There's everything wrong with it, especially when you know she so much wants something more than friendship.
This guy can't eat his cake and have it back He chose his career, why is he feeling sad that she blocked him?

Only her knows why she blocked you. You might just be those kind of friend she wanted to cut off but cos of proximity and work she had to continue relating . immediately you left na, she said good riddance to bad rubbish..

OR

You are those nonsense kind of guys that keep flirting and confusing her head... You don't want a relationship but would be flirting upandan, checking on her upandan...saying suggestive things and maybe go and gossip to other colleagues that she likes you....

So immediately you left her space, she remembered James 1:8 and said rather than deal with your here and there. She should kukuma help you make the permanent decision...

OR

She is weaning herself off you..
And this nonsense advice you are forming here Talk true e pain you...
You pulled away and somehow you are expecting her to pull closer...mtchewww...she did exactly what I would have done... You try to form space, o give you plenty space..

GamalNasser:


She was never your friend she was just baiting you for marriage and procreation atfer that she will show you her true color .

PRACTICALLY!!

You're sounding "pained" and you narrated the story as if na she dey rush you

She did the right thing. You want to be playing on her emotions when you are not ready for marriage.

Mariangeles:


Most times you type trash!
Life doesn't begin and end with sex!

but your own journey to this world began with sex

At 34, you are still taking pride in the fact that you are unmarried and still not ready to settle down

34

Do you think you are a small boy? You clearly sound like one, but in what world do you think you have time for these shenanigans? A man your age that isn't ready to settle down, but is still gallivanting is unserious and should rightly be dropped. You are still feeling too big to be left, at your old age.

At this rate, na your pension you go dey use pay school fees. Better go and marry, old man.

tiwiex:

I think he was sharing a strange behavior. It didn't sound like he was bothered. If he thought she was worth the trouble, they would have done something. I suspect his sixth sense suspected she had some weird behaviors that should be avoided. If they had dated and he was serious, this lady would have done the same oh and that would shatter any man. It's a pattern.

That's another angle and viewpoint.

IMO, I don't class that as a strange behaviour.

When you have deep feelings for someone and it becomes clearer and glaring that you and that person are never gonna be an item, I think the best thing is to let go and cut loose the other party in other to focus on a more promising future with someone else.

Personally, I don't keep close friendship with someone I have deep feeling for or would have preferred to date. It's not healthy.

Davash222:
She blocked you cos she've realized you're not man enough. They carry food give you, you dey dodge.
It takes a second for a woman to transfer her love and affections to a man into hatred. Once you turn down their sexual advances, automatically she hates you! You were thinking marriage while the lady only wanted your dicck, Stop feeling yourself. she even blocked you shows you didn't play your game well. That's laxity on your side. Shame on you!

this is a conclusive tots bro u can't too sure of what ladies want precisely... the op knows better what exactly transpired between them.

she blocked u on her social media cos she dont want to be seeing your facebook pixs.so i dont know which one come dey pain u inside

Prec1ous:
OP, get over it. I think both of you led yourself on foolishly. She was really expectant, but you goofed. She is dealing with the pseudo-rejection the best way she can, also, she is not happy to see your happy pictures. So move on.

---

The Parable of the goat and the yam in the same pen!

It has been proven countless time, that there is no sanity and clarity when a man and a women with the right amount of hormonal rush think that they can stay friends. Especially when nothing ties them together, maybe business or they are investment partners.

You can speak all the English you want to speak, but do not ever forget these...

You cannot tell your body when to and not to produce oetrogen, testosterone, dopamine and oxytocin. Nature must proceed.

This is also why you should beware of girls who claim all their friends are the opposite sex. You are been fooled!

Guys, the best way to get any girl is to be her friend but once in a while, chip in romantic talks and dirty chats but do not forget to also touch her "mistakenly" sometimes, this qualifies you as a potential romantic partner.

Do this systematically and You have already laid the ground for your impending kill.

Thank you.

Dear Joromi,

I am 18 and I need an advise On how to my 86yrs old neighbor fall in love with me.

Over to you mr Romantic

LilMissFavvy:
.........and she is helping herself by cutting off completely from you, one of the ways she feels she can quit and be focused is by blocking you on her social medias, so don't complain. Some people can still cope seeing their ex, friends, etc on their social media platforms, others cannot.

how people keep in touch with their exes baffles me . Not that I hold a grudge o if we see outside we will greet and go our separate ways but having you on my social Media is a no no. What will we be chatting about ? Our past relationships or current ones?


Now back to the op, both of you are of marriageble age ,you are 34 and she is 35. Let's be honest with ourselves, she wanted more from you ,she wanted proper commitment but you had other plans . It's only one thing to do ,cut it off, you said it yourself that you were never interested in her, so oga wetin come be your problem? oh so you want her to keep hanging on waiting for something that never was?


This is her own way of weaning herself off you,it's not as if the two of you ever dated ,right now she sees you as " the one that got away" . There is no point constantly being reminded of that on her timeline everyday on social media.Her social media accounts are her personal space,she deserves all the sanity she can get that doesn't mean she is a hater.


You are just being self centered and a nag. Someone is trying to protect her self and move on ,here you are whining about how guys should cut it off first.All I see from this post is a guy with a bruised ego,you are 34, stop acting like a manchild.

Vicyace:


That's another angle and viewpoint.

IMO, I don't class that as a strange behaviour.

When you have deep feelings for someone and it becomes clearer and glaring that you and that person are never gonna be an item, I think the best thing is to let go and cut loose the other party in other to focus on a more promising future with someone else.

Personally, I don't keep close friendship with someone I have deep feeling for or would have preferred to date. It's not healthy.

Aptly put. What you wrote is exactly what I feel the lady thought through and decided to do. It doesn't mean she's not hurting or she liked what she did. It's only natural that she puts herself first and does what she knows is best for her. In this case, it's cutting ALL ties which will help her move on faster.
He expected her to still be stuck but she moved on too quickly and he's pained.

frenzyduchess:
how poeple keep in touch with their exes baffles me . Not that I hold a grudge o if we see outside we will greet and go our separate ways but having you in my social Media is a no no. What will we be chatting about ? Our past relationships or current ones?

fairfora:
my wife and I started by being just friends. She was in her late 30s when I traveled out to further my studies. We still remained friends but this time, closer and intimate. I came back and married her. Maybe the girl had a skeleton in her cupboard because I had a friend who married a girl only to know she had a child which she never disclosed before marriage.

your case is one in a million. As you can see the op is egotistical and full of himself so the outcome is likely to go sour.

Mreazi121:
Good advice, I once had such experience, sex was always available, but at some point I had to distance myself sharp sharp before things go too far, she was heartbroken, but me no care.
Never have a committed relationship with any woman of Marriageable age if you're not ready to marry her, she will go any length to hold you down to herself......

isn't the bolded supposed to be common sense to guys tho .

Why waste her time and lead her on if you are not a demon

Some still keep in touch though, they even attend each other's marriages, different strokes, for different folks.

frenzyduchess:
how poeple keep in touch with their exes baffles me . Not that I hold a grudge o if we see outside we will greet and go our separate ways but having you on my social Media is a no no. What will we be chatting about ? Our past relationships or current ones?

Her true colors is showing? I don't think you are right, hasn't she been friends with him for 3yrs? What's if she is hurting, does not know how to manage the situation or be healed from it.

tiwiex:


Good riddance. I think our guy did the right thing by not being more than her friend. Her true color don show. She had no emotions towards him all along. It's not easy to cut people off abruptly. Only people with narcissist tendencies do that. I think he dodged a bullet.

Wow, if only things work out positively all the time. If she waited for him, I don't think he would have considered her as his first choice of marriage partner, he doesn't sound like he had deep emotions for her, he would only have kept her as a SIDE OPTION/SECOND OPTION.

fairfora:
my wife and I started by being just friends. She was in her late 30s when I traveled out to further my studies. We still remained friends but this time, closer and intimate. I came back and married her. Maybe the girl had a skeleton in her cupboard because I had a friend who married a girl only to know she had a child which she never disclosed before marriage.

LilMissFavvy:
Some still keep in touch though, they even attend each other's marriages, different strokes, for different folks.

I have been invited twice, congratulated them and didn't bother saving their contact.

How people out of nowhere send their exes wedding invitations when you have not even been on talking terms is absurd. Like do you expect me to spend money to attend your wedding? Cos atleast I must make new hair and transport myself to the venue that one on it's own is incured expenses on my part.

Most ladies do not like to attend their exes weddings so you are correct, personally, I like to reduce closeness as much as possible if one is an ex.

frenzyduchess:
I have been invited twice, congratulated them and didn't bother saving their contact.

How people out of nowhere send their exes wedding invitations when you have not even been on talking terms is absurd. Like do you expect me to spend money to attend your wedding? Cos atleast I must make new hair and transport myself to the venue that one it's own is incured expenses on my part.