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LordKO:
You've a very bad character. Eschew conceit if you wish to progress in life. I don't care whether your aunt intentionally left her house dirty or not prior to your arrival there - I don't hold brief for her in anyway though - but the fact that you disobeyed her request to clean the house, out of conceit, says a lot about how bad your character is. Obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying.

Citing your said conceited attitude a lone, I don't have any reason to believe that your aunt is evil as you've painted her - only her husband can make me to believe otherwise in this regard.

Oluwatunmise529:
Hi people

I live with my aunt who is a pastor's wife. I got there four months ago due to the fact that my dad had some problems then.

But the first day I got to my aunt's place, I got the shock of my life. The house was totally dirty, even the sink in kitchen was removing maggots. She told me to clean and wash everything but being my first time with her. I told her I can't do them. Then she said she would slap me if I don't do her wish. I ended up doing them and since then am being used like a slave.

When I told my dad about everything.. She told my dad I need home training that I can't do anything and my dad told me to stay since he doesn't want it to cause a rift between them.

My aunt am talking about is an elder sister to my late mom but the same father and different mothers. There was a day she told me my grandmother was a witch and she killed one of her children before she died and she uses my witch grandmom to describe me to people in the neighborhood. I always feel ashamed.

She has a daughter who doesn't cook and clean or do anything... I end up doing everything and still it isn't enough, at the end of the day she tells me am lazy... Am always afraid to look when I pass by a mirror because I always look so dirty and haggard. Just yesterday rain fell here and she left some things outside. I ran outside to take those things inside and the next thing she did was rain insults on me because of that..

She has never raised her hands on me but only maltreat me.. I cried myself to sleep..I was always a jovial person before but now am always crying and moody and am beginning to hate her.

I don't laugh at all anymore even at funny things.. I only have hatred for her and her family...I don't want to hate anyone and I want to go back home and be myself again....am planning to run away now but am really scared of the outcome...
Worst is everyone thinks she is a good person because she is a pastor wife....

Am so fed up and always unhappy... Someone pls help me

LordKO:
You've a very bad character. Eschew conceit if you wish to progress in life. I don't care whether your aunt intentionally left her house dirty or not prior to your arrival there - I don't hold brief for her in anyway though - but the fact that you disobeyed her request to clean the house, out of conceit, says a lot about how bad your character is. Obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying.

Citing your said conceited attitude a lone, I don't have any reason to believe that your aunt is evil as you've painted her - only her husband can make me to believe otherwise in this regard.

LordKO:
Say hello to your lunatic parents and direct your further mention(s) to them.

Bumpkin.

safarigirl:
Nigerians are always quick to support abuse, because most of them come from abusive homes

The entire country is filled with victims of abuse, so, they think abuse is normal, that is why that LordKO person is accusing someone of having bad character simply because she wants to be treated like a human being. A country filled with messed up people, that is why government officials and every other wimp with a sniff of power, is quick to abuse them and dehumanize them, and nothing happens in the country.

The aunty that is abusing her is a fool, how do you abuse the person cooking your meals? If That girl decides to poison their food and run away, all of them will die and nothing will happen. She has already accused her of being the spawn of a witch, after all

Mizwisdom:
Ordinary insult? something you can be humming tunes in your heart while she's talking without her hearing it? you better get a hold of yourself. Find out what her plans are for your future. If your Father can't afford to feed you, you better relax and endure for now don't go and fall into wrong hands o, it's better than servicing 10 men in one day, be wise

sisisioge:
Chai! Broda, yes she might have been wrong by refusing to clean up ( I even construe her response as being unable/unskilled in cleaning up), however, aunty has her own children too who obviously need home training. I understand her because I once experienced something similar when my sister and I went to spend only 90 days with my father's sister for Jamb lessons. She practically turned us to her maids while her daughters who were in the same age group as us were left to do nothing! We were all teenagers who would rather be lazy but dear aunty chose to teach only my sister and I "home" training! . It was so sad because that singular experience changed everything for us. Needless to say that our relationship was ruined forever because of those three months!

Biko, let everybody go back to their father's house! The way child A was conceived was same as child B, why treat them differently?

Too many "Bikos" in your comments these days, is that the new "Fa"?

lordlek:
My dear , please just endure whatever she slash at you not everything in this life is rosy as you think.

"You will be a-better-person than her daughter"
Just pray for things to turn out good for your father

kuverah:
That's Nigerian mentality for you "everyone thinks she is good person because she is pastor wife". What is even keeping you in that house? My friend go back to your father's house. This is slavery in the 21 century.

daddio:
GOD FORBID O
BUT
LET'S ASSUME SHE MAIMED OR KILL HER!? HOW WOULD HER DREAM OR YOUR VISION FOR HER COME TO PASS?

NextD18:
Parents should stop bringing kids to this world if they can't cater for them.

Them go just dey born anyhow as investment come dey suffer am unnecessarily.

Look at this lady suffering emotionally and psychologically in the hands of another woman when she has parents, but her parents will be the first to open their hands should a rich man come to marry her.

Codyt:
You have in fact taken words out of my mouth
I have no idea why this nigga is condoning this inhumane treatment. Weird people everywhere.

Codyt:
You have in fact taken words out of my mouth
I have no idea why this nigga is condoning this inhumane treatment. Weird people everywhere.

Orlaoluwayimika:
This ur response speaks volume about ur own Character and Upbringing .

LordKO:
Don't give me further reasons to conclude that you are a bumpkin too. If you don't know what it means not to hold brief for someone one, then keep quite.

If we fail to tell the girl her mistake here, she won't become a better person. Her aunt's action (first action in particular was bad), thus the reason why I've continually said that I don't hold brief for her, but the girl's imperious reply/action didn't do any justice to her also. Knowing where and when to lose honourably is wisdom, I say.

LordKO:
Lol. Someone of you do amuse me; if only we can always imagine the person at the other end our parents senior or superior. Oya, no vex you hear, but embrace politeness in case of next time.

favour32:
Wetin I never understand be why over 70% of women dey maltreat another woman pikin?
But dem nor dey touch their own?
Nor born give another woman make she train am o.
Na there dem dey unleash latent terror!

Codyt:
It seems you're drunk and constipated with respect
Hello? You don't need respect to function in life. At the same time, respect is reciprocal irrespective of age, ethnicity or tribe.
Would you rather discipline an individual whilst subject them to emotional maltreatment? Is this your definition of discipline?
Ask yourself

Raalsalghul:

70%? More like 95%, that shit is inbred: more like there is a special gene in them responsible.

I've seen it play out several times without number.

LordKO:
You've a very bad character. Eschew conceit if you wish to progress in life. I don't care whether your aunt intentionally left her house dirty or not prior to your arrival there - I don't hold brief for her in anyway though - but the fact that you disobeyed her request to clean the house, out of conceit, says a lot about how bad your character is. Obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying.

Citing your said conceited attitude a lone, I don't have any reason to believe that your aunt is evil as you've painted her - only her husband can make me to believe otherwise in this regard.

Oluwatunmise529:
Hi people

I live with my aunt who is a pastor's wife. I got there four months ago due to the fact that my dad had some problems then.

But the first day I got to my aunt's place, I got the shock of my life. The house was totally dirty, even the sink in kitchen was removing maggots. She told me to clean and wash everything but being my first time with her. I told her I can't do them. Then she said she would slap me if I don't do her wish. I ended up doing them and since then am being used like a slave.

When I told my dad about everything.. She told my dad I need home training that I can't do anything and my dad told me to stay since he doesn't want it to cause a rift between them.

My aunt am talking about is an elder sister to my late mom but the same father and different mothers. There was a day she told me my grandmother was a witch and she killed one of her children before she died and she uses my witch grandmom to describe me to people in the neighborhood. I always feel ashamed.

She has a daughter who doesn't cook and clean or do anything... I end up doing everything and still it isn't enough, at the end of the day she tells me am lazy... Am always afraid to look when I pass by a mirror because I always look so dirty and haggard. Just yesterday rain fell here and she left some things outside. I ran outside to take those things inside and the next thing she did was rain insults on me because of that..

She has never raised her hands on me but only maltreat me.. I cried myself to sleep..I was always a jovial person before but now am always crying and moody and am beginning to hate her.

I don't laugh at all anymore even at funny things.. I only have hatred for her and her family...I don't want to hate anyone and I want to go back home and be myself again....am planning to run away now but am really scared of the outcome...
Worst is everyone thinks she is a good person because she is a pastor wife....

Am so fed up and always unhappy... Someone pls help me

LordKO:
You've a very bad character. Eschew conceit if you wish to progress in life. I don't care whether your aunt intentionally left her house dirty or not prior to your arrival there - I don't hold brief for her in anyway though - but the fact that you disobeyed her request to clean the house, out of conceit, says a lot about how bad your character is. Obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying.

Citing your said conceited attitude a lone, I don't have any reason to believe that your aunt is evil as you've painted her - only her husband can make me to believe otherwise in this regard.

LordKO:
I've given you attention more than you deserve, now direct your further mention(s) to small-minded people like you.

Bumpkin.

Oluwatunmise529:
Hi people

I live with my aunt who is a pastor's wife. I got there four months ago due to the fact that my dad had some problems then.

But the first day I got to my aunt's place, I got the shock of my life. The house was totally dirty, even the sink in kitchen was removing maggots. She told me to clean and wash everything but being my first time with her. I told her I can't do them. Then she said she would slap me if I don't do her wish. I ended up doing them and since then am being used like a slave.

When I told my dad about everything.. She told my dad I need home training that I can't do anything and my dad told me to stay since he doesn't want it to cause a rift between them.

My aunt am talking about is an elder sister to my late mom but the same father and different mothers. There was a day she told me my grandmother was a witch and she killed one of her children before she died and she uses my witch grandmom to describe me to people in the neighborhood. I always feel ashamed.

She has a daughter who doesn't cook and clean or do anything... I end up doing everything and still it isn't enough, at the end of the day she tells me am lazy... Am always afraid to look when I pass by a mirror because I always look so dirty and haggard. Just yesterday rain fell here and she left some things outside. I ran outside to take those things inside and the next thing she did was rain insults on me because of that..

She has never raised her hands on me but only maltreat me.. I cried myself to sleep..I was always a jovial person before but now am always crying and moody and am beginning to hate her.

I don't laugh at all anymore even at funny things.. I only have hatred for her and her family...I don't want to hate anyone and I want to go back home and be myself again....am planning to run away now but am really scared of the outcome...
Worst is everyone thinks she is a good person because she is a pastor wife....

Am so fed up and always unhappy... Someone pls help me

donbachi:
Yes...run come my house.

Stallion93:
Very true, Nigerian parents have no love for their children, very selfcentered psychopathic sycophants. Even when they pretend to show love, they have ulterior motive

Firstnebo:
Though I came late to this thread. I really want to talk to you because reading through the comments I have not seen any concrete suggestions so far.

I will like you to DM me. This is a very serious case and you need to talk it out to know what's best for you.

NB. I have personal experience of this issue. Me and later one of my sisters.

DM me

LordKO:
How you and me go take know say she be young adult as she no come tell us her age. And if she be young adult self na that one go vex me pass citing her conceited attitude. Whatever she has passed through afterward that incident is punishment proceeds of her first offense.

I don't still hold brief for the aunt