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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Clashy(m): 1:27pm On Mar 18, 2020
Paxie55:

grin grin
who dey mumu nw,he don give you format nw you don dey fall again. Oloun a ko e yo
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 1:28pm On Mar 18, 2020
allandutch:

This is fantastic, I love it.
But there's one problem... Why is it that if it's a guy offering another guy a similar advice some "people" on this platform will attack them?

They are not really attacking 'them', they are attacking the 'information'.

........ And from time immemorial, truth has always been under attack. So, guess the gender that are spiced up with adrenaline for fight and flight ? The masculine gender, so now you can deduce why it is men that attack, and why they attack and what they are actually attacking.


Know this truth, and you will never suffer. You must learn to decouple sex from friendship and how to couple it back if need be.

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Clashy(m): 1:31pm On Mar 18, 2020
Phadg:

Abi ooo they done see new mumu
who dey mumu nw,he don give you format nw you don dey fall again. Oloun a ko e yo
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Phadg(f): 1:35pm On Mar 18, 2020
Clashy:
who dey mumu nw,he don give you format nw you don dey fall again. Oloun a ko e yo
Olorun ma gbela
Which format dem give u.well i dont really need to reply you sha
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Boxer007(m): 1:40pm On Mar 18, 2020
Phadg:
Hi guys i just joined NL and from what have been reading on here bfor i sign up i feel i might get a response from nairalanders

Am a lady that believes in building with a man and not looking for an already made guys am also an independent lady so i dont really need your money,i work for what i spend, Atimes i end up giving out of the little i earn to my partner, now this is the sad part these guys take me for a fool some just start acting up like some1 with psychosis{apologies} but it the truth well i just broke up with my boyfriend cause i cant deal with his bullshit anymore. now my question is
1. IS IT BAD FOR ME TO SHOW YOU I LOVE YOU?
2. IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO WANT TO BE INVOLVE IN YOUR LIFE{I BELIEVE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER}?
3.IS ASKING FOR A LITTLE TRANSPARENCY A SIN?
4.WHY DO GOOD GIRLS HAVE BADLUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A GUY?

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST.

Forget it. Females are ununderstandable & clearly confuse

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Clashy(m): 1:44pm On Mar 18, 2020
Phadg:

Olorun ma gbela
Which format dem give u.well i dont really need to reply you sha
you have just replied,mind you Alasodun ni e a mo ru yin.Alagabagebe.
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 1:50pm On Mar 18, 2020
Boxer007:


Forget it. Females are ununderstandable & clearly confuse



Ó büzi maka ya ka iji búrú ònyê ókpóntú

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Boxer007(m): 1:54pm On Mar 18, 2020
OkpaNsukkaisBae:




Ó büzi maka ya ka iji búrú ònyê ókpóntú

Hi brother You sound gay. Do you a drink with me?
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 1:55pm On Mar 18, 2020
Phadg:
MY DEAR IT ALLOWED WE ARE IN THEIR GENERATION
how old are you?
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Wisefellow(m): 1:56pm On Mar 18, 2020
Hello dear, I read your post and feel its necessary to remind you that love is real and will locate you but you must be well prepared to receive it. On this platform, you should be mindful of advise flying around! Thoroughly read, filter and possibly pray before digesting any, needfully.

Whatever disappointment you may have experienced from the previous relationship, remain focus and true to self with right attitude. Do not relent building self mentally, financially and spiritually because luck is what happens when preparation meets with opportunity. As humans, we can be emotional to issues but I indulge you to allow your sense of reasoning to stay afloat for better days ahead.

I am sure you are beautifully created, nurtured for greatness and deserve to be happy. Do not throw away the good qualities you exhibit out of love for God and humanity, rather, improve on them in the right way and what you seek shall find and remain with you till death. As for your weakness, work and pray about it; for sure, your goodness will keep you going. Hence, go about your day to day activities in good spirit and out of happiness, someone is observing with keen interest unknowingly. And to blow your bubbles, all you think are issues would become history in no distant time when you eventually find the bone of your bone. Please, do not ask me how?

I know because I am a living testimony and grateful for God's guidance.

Stay blessed!

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 1:57pm On Mar 18, 2020
samtinx:
kelvin Onyebuchi,5ft6, Electrical technician,27yrs,0812 427 8540, you are never wrong I have been I a similar situation as you, just that different strokes for different folks
you will get scammed

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 1:58pm On Mar 18, 2020
Boxer007:


Hi brother You sound gay. Do you a drink with me?



Nope.

I love pussy!
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Phadg(f): 2:09pm On Mar 18, 2020
This really blessed me
thank you very much.God will continue to give you knowledge.
Wisefellow:
Hello dear, I read your post and feel its necessary to remind you that love is real and will locate you but you must be well prepared to receive it. On this platform, you should be mindful of advise flying around! Thoroughly read, filter and possibly pray before digesting any, needfully.

Whatever disappointment you may have experienced from the previous relationship, remain focus and true to self with right attitude. Do not relent building self mentally, financially and spiritually because luck is what happens when preparation meets with opportunity. As humans, we can be emotional to issues but I indulge you to allow your sense of reasoning to stay afloat for better days ahead.

I am sure you are beautifully created, nurtured for greatness and deserve to be happy. Do not throw away the good qualities you exhibit out of love for God and humanity, rather, improve on them in the right way and what you seek shall find and remain with you till death. As for your weakness, work and pray about it; for sure, your goodness will keep you going. Hence, go about your day to day activities in good spirit and out of happiness, someone is observing with keen interest unknowingly. And to blow your bubbles, all you think are issues would become history in no distant time when you eventually find the bone of your bone. Please, do not ask me how?

I know because I am a living testimony and grateful for God's guidance.

Stay blessed!



Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Craig24: 2:12pm On Mar 18, 2020
Look after yourself first n stop being needy of a companion. You can't control people's commitment towards you.

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by biobash(m): 2:14pm On Mar 18, 2020
OP relax your mind, be focus and pray. All things will fall in place.

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 2:14pm On Mar 18, 2020
Simply commit it into God's hands and he'll direct your path.
The Bible says we should lean not on our own understanding. So trying to look for a man by your own standards will always end in pains and frustrations.

Lean on God and he'll make things beautiful in his own time.

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 2:15pm On Mar 18, 2020
Vortex369:
You are assuming that all your questions, have different answers, but what you did not expect, is that all those questions, have just one common answer.

You do not need a lover -

Yes, you are complete, and need no other else to complement you.

Why you feel you need someone, is the sensation from hormonal imbalances masquerading as loneliness and need to be with someone.

The need to be with someone must be taken as such. When you understand that, then you can begin to evaluate who you want to be with outside the periscope of romance.

No sex relationships will keep your cerebral cortex on alert without interference from the lympic system that controls your emotion.

In essence, if you need a friend, find a friend, if you need sex find some sex, but if you need sex from a friend, then first of all have a great friend and convert such to sex friend or lover.

Anyone can have sex, but not everyone can be intelligent and emotionally mature and up to par, so first find an up to par personality before diving into sex.

Did I mention that you do not need love? If I didnt mention, then I must have forgotten. No one needs love, but you want some once in a while to reset your minds from stress, but not all the time.


Please stop spreading this lies from the pit of hell.

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 2:19pm On Mar 18, 2020
Admissionclass:


too many kids on NL one of the reason I will deactive all my accounts soon.
Even the person understood I was just joking . The person i was referring took it politely because she knows I was just trying to make her feel better but you that lack good sense of humor is busy responding like a loosed dog.
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 2:19pm On Mar 18, 2020
Even if you have a lot to share, don't spoil your man. You will regret it.

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 2:23pm On Mar 18, 2020
Jewessgratitudd:



Please stop spreading this lies from the pit of hell.


You must think that you are qualified to respond to me. You think too highly of expectations of who you think you are as opposed to who you truly are - an insecure ignoramus.
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Phadg(f): 2:23pm On Mar 18, 2020
grossintel:
Even if you have a lot to share, don't spoil your man. You will regret it.
I don't understand??
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Akinbahm(m): 2:26pm On Mar 18, 2020
Sirvingeo:
My own is that you should not allow your breast to settle down before you.

Bro, you wicked sha...

Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Admissionclass: 2:47pm On Mar 18, 2020
Sirvingeo:

Even the person understood I was just joking . The person i was referring took it politely because she knows I was just trying to make her feel better but you that lack good sense of humor is busy responding like a loosed dog.
k
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by ichidodo: 2:52pm On Mar 18, 2020
This one Don dey turn to Evening newspaper....Alarm bells Don dey ring... Biological clock Don dey tick dey go....Now she's looking for who to trade her depreciating sexual market value....She's looking to cash out....

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 2:55pm On Mar 18, 2020
Phadg:
Hi guys i just joined NL and from what have been reading on here bfor i sign up i feel i might get a response from nairalanders

Am a lady that believes in building with a man and not looking for an already made guys am also an independent lady so i dont really need your money,i work for what i spend, Atimes i end up giving out of the little i earn to my partner, now this is the sad part these guys take me for a fool some just start acting up like some1 with psychosis{apologies} but it the truth well i just broke up with my boyfriend cause i cant deal with his bullshit anymore. now my question is
1. IS IT BAD FOR ME TO SHOW YOU I LOVE YOU?
2. IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO WANT TO BE INVOLVE IN YOUR LIFE{I BELIEVE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER}?
3.IS ASKING FOR A LITTLE TRANSPARENCY A SIN?
4.WHY DO GOOD GIRLS HAVE BADLUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A GUY?

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST.

Ok.
First as a person you need to setup standard based on what you want in a guy... If a guy is asking you out don't give him an answer within weeks study him (How- chat, call, go on a date and hangout alone in a lonely place - discussed your area of interest in life and see if he has a view) before saying yes.
Note: loving or lusting after someone is normal but it becomes abnormal when it downgrade your vows and morals.

Most time we get into relationship to belong to the society but we fail to understand we will first define our self before society can accept us (fit in).

I was in a relationship once, I know I have high moral standards that many friends (I don't beg for friendship) use anything the can to keep me a friend (Male or female) though am very selective why because I have a clear pics of where am heading to (what am saying is discover your self and your man will never want to leave you - No want leave or avoid any person with vision and highly intelligent).

Be your self in your future relationship and love your partner, still to the vows of friendship... Never implement side advice in a relationship unless when necessary... Finally sex is not a gift to keep a man but a gift to show a man how cheat you are. (Many men who sleeps with some women with time ends it to marry another why?).

Will be posting soon on a topic deception soon

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by FanOfMyself: 3:09pm On Mar 18, 2020
Op might be a male hiding behind the pink "f" letter that drives a lot of betas here crazy cool
But it's okay. "scam is illegal but someone gotta do it "... In Tupac's voice, if you know the original line

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by GoodnessB(f): 3:18pm On Mar 18, 2020
coolWhen you have a deep emotional connection with someone with mutual feelings of love, trust, and respect.

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Boxer007(m): 3:30pm On Mar 18, 2020
OkpaNsukkaisBae:




Nope.

I love pussy!

Brother so you saying you will never suck dik? Are u kidding me? But why not sir?
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 3:41pm On Mar 18, 2020
Phadg:
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
guys are funny though i didnt say i need another guy that will play me or that wont.
am sure if i need another guy not on here.you guys are worst than my exes have been following some trends bfor i sign up i know how you pple advice.thanks to all the guys in my mail and the once dropping contact i think am going pass on the offers pls thanks
since u have admitteed that u do help out ur boyfwend if u add any dude here giving u his number they will probably be asking u for money..normal tinzs cheesy
Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Jman06(m): 4:01pm On Mar 18, 2020
Hearing from the guys that dumped you might reveal the real truth about your personality and the reason why they left you. Typing all the epistles about how great a person you are is not enough to convince any discerning mind.

In a nutshell, check yourself and see if there are some inexcusable faults you have which might be driving men away from you. If however there ain't any such faults, then I'll advise you stop dating irresponsible boys on the grounds of some emotions, but wait for real men to desire and come for you. While waiting, make yourself that kind of lady you'll encourage your brothers and future sons to marry.

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by franchasng: 4:14pm On Mar 18, 2020
Phadg:
Hi guys i just joined NL and from what have been reading on here bfor i sign up i feel i might get a response from nairalanders

Am a lady that believes in building with a man and not looking for an already made guys am also an independent lady so i dont really need your money,i work for what i spend, Atimes i end up giving out of the little i earn to my partner, now this is the sad part these guys take me for a fool some just start acting up like some1 with psychosis{apologies} but it the truth well i just broke up with my boyfriend cause i cant deal with his bullshit anymore. now my question is
1. IS IT BAD FOR ME TO SHOW YOU I LOVE YOU?
2. IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO WANT TO BE INVOLVE IN YOUR LIFE{I BELIEVE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER}?
3.IS ASKING FOR A LITTLE TRANSPARENCY A SIN?
4.WHY DO GOOD GIRLS HAVE BADLUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A GUY?

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST.
Don't over screen guys coming your way, just accept to be friends with as many guys as possible, and don't you ever make the mistake of intentionally turning down guys who are financially buoyant just because you want to build with your man, accept any well appeared guy that your instinct tells you to listen to, whether he is rich, poor or average, don't turn them down. There is no big deal in making male friends if you are not officially married, I wonder why ladies see it as big deal not knowing that they are shortchanging themselves doing that (turning guys down anyhow).

There is no law or rule that says every lady must build with her man. You can still build with a rich guy. You can still be a value to a rich guy or an averagely okay guy, the guy mustn't be broke and poor before you can build with him


I love using myself as example to advice people when they sound honest and in need of honest counsel or suggestion.

I am happily married to a wonderful lady. Before I decided to settle down, I hated the idea of marrying when I am still struggling financially, and this made me to be unserious with ladies, but my wife remained my friend, most times I will forget her self, won't call or message her cos I didn't want to be serious with any lady, but she would call or text me that she just wanted to check up on me, and I will smile happily wherever I was lol.

My dream while growing up was to have my own mansion, have like 3 cars, have a house for rent and a company of my own before I marry, and this made me take time before deciding to settle down cos almost all my friends were married, but I wanted to put things in order first.

Gradually by God's grace things began falling in place like I desired and I looked around my list of worthy female friends, and my current wife and 2 other ladies topped my list.

There was a lady that would have been my wife, she kind of scored high on my wish list except that she was not from my tribe and she grew up in the city and hate visiting her own parents community even her parents and siblings don't visit their hometown and this worried me cos I am a grassroots person. I love having a root amidst all the city life. This made me cancel her out cos I didn't want to marry a city lady, I wanted a city mixed with some grassroots kind of lady who doesn't think life start and end in the city only, its a turnoff for me cos my family is well known in my community, we have a big presence in my LGA and I couldn't marry and be left out.

So in summary, I married my wife not as a broke guy, not as a rich guy either but I was doing very well by God's grace....I had at least 65% of the things I wished to have before I marry when I married my wife last year.

But I can tell you, despite my own little achievements, my wife have also joined in building more. We are about starting some big projects jointly. My wife is like you, she doesn't like bothering me even when we started courting officially. The highest thing I did for her throughout our courting was buying her a car because she needed it and she even refunded me lol funny lady which I later sent back to her.


My point is, you can also build with a guy doing well financially or even a rich guy. Stop turning down financnailly buoyant guys, stop doing it to prove a point to guys. Forget all what we type online sometimes we do it for fun, guys love to spend on their ladies lol


Guys love to have more money than their ladies and be the one spoiling her and spending more on her. Not many guys wish to marry rich ladies. The desire of every Nigerian guy is to be richer than her wife or girlfriend lol

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Re: How Do I Get A Man That Understand Me by Nobody: 4:14pm On Mar 18, 2020
Phadg:
Hi guys i just joined NL and from what have been reading on here bfor i sign up i feel i might get a response from nairalanders

Am a lady that believes in building with a man and not looking for an already made guys am also an independent lady so i dont really need your money,i work for what i spend, Atimes i end up giving out of the little i earn to my partner, now this is the sad part these guys take me for a fool some just start acting up like some1 with psychosis{apologies} but it the truth well i just broke up with my boyfriend cause i cant deal with his bullshit anymore. now my question is
1. IS IT BAD FOR ME TO SHOW YOU I LOVE YOU?
2. IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO WANT TO BE INVOLVE IN YOUR LIFE{I BELIEVE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER}?
3.IS ASKING FOR A LITTLE TRANSPARENCY A SIN?
4.WHY DO GOOD GIRLS HAVE BADLUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A GUY?

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST.


I would have advice but right now. My advice comes with a price

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