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madridguy:
Nigerians girls always looking for ways to compete with guys.

Tallesty1:
Longest time my dear.

It's beautiful to come across an old moniker here, especially important ones like yours. Very beautiful.

madridguy:
Nigerians girls always looking for ways to compete with guys.

Astark:
guy let's not deceive ourselves we black men are really backward.

Look at how white countries is and how they treat their women and compare it with us.

Godbpraised:
you actually did not need to respond this way, you should have responsed on the on the orginal thread, the tone in your response depicts you are proud and have an issue of submitting to a man. If you are confident of yourself then find a white man.

safarigirl:
It was men that threw insults first

Ugly men with ugly personalities, forgot the message and chose to attack the messenger.

The OP did not even say anything to warrant being called names, but a bunch of nonentities rushed to look at picture, so they can insult themselves.

I don't take kindly to anyone who comes for the looks of another person, unprovoked

Astark:
our gender like to over estimate their selves.

They don't know they are at the bottom of everything good. They think white and Hispanics women are rushing them while stats says otherwise

LordShiva97:
Can y'all make better logical arguments or shut the bleep up?

90% of the males countering the OP's well structured rebuttal can't and haven't made any meaningful point so far. All I can see here are weak insults and sly digs targeted at the lady's physical appearance and manners, nothing reasonable.

Astark:
that's the same way whites and other races of women find us the least attractive.

A white woman will move to other side of the road when they see a black man coming.

An Asian woman will close her face and go to other side of the seat when they see a black man.

Have you heard of other races putting their women down except black men? White men built their country and treat their white women as queens that's why you lust over them.

We need to do better and treat our women right because no one will

djon78:
It's more about who will give you peace of mind. Will the successful ladies humble themselves?

Why will someone expose himself to so much toxicity?? God forbid bad thing

mikkyangel3:
As a software developer working remotely for a US tech company, I am paid well (circa $5k) and I live in Nigeria. Do I wish to immigrate to Canada? the thought used to cross my mind but since I got my remote job, my people I perished the thought. I even used to watch @whizqueen videos on YT (she used to be my neighbor in Surulere so I know am reach house) but not anymore.

Baba I aint going to any Canada or any foreign country at least permanently. if I want to collect fresh air , I can travel briefly and return or I go on company expense during our yearly retreat which is most times in Europe. Visa issues for me is the only time I hate my nationality and the green passport I carry.
$5k in Nigeria is not beans with $1 == #420 now and likely to increase.
Brethren just keep praying make oil fall on your head and you make it anywhere you are. Clearly Canada isnt heaven. I prefer heat (I can put on my AC) than subzero cold.

To each man his own.

Peace.

Akpaamunsi:
U shut up your dirty mouth, ashewo thread active member. The bish is in her 30s.

I remain Akpaamunsi Agwu

Galactico4ever:
Bros,you can lie for Africa Sha

xendra:
did you first genuinely treat them right? everybody wants the right person but never try to be the right person.

even those women they come to take form Nigeria, even from village, they still end up killing themselves there because...... they start giving the woman shit thinking since she's from the village she wouldn't know the difference..
any successful union is mutual effort, go an ask those couples who have live many years together still happy, they did not fall from sky.

sylve11:
Don't play with some people o. They are what they say they are...

djon78:
My dear if a woman is toxic there is absolutely nothing a man can do about it.

Most of these successful ladies are not humble and extremely toxic. So how can a man build a successful relationship with them.

Proverbs said it is better for a man to live in the desert than to live with a toxic woman.

Even the one they come back to take here carries the same toxicity.
It's not a must to marry from your people. One can marry even from other races or other black countries.

I remember the popular Nigerian American football player Asomugha when he wanted to marry. He married an African American actress. And they have had a splendid marriage. Marry someone that has great respect for your personality for men.
And a woman well raised, and cultured. Not uncouth and gutter kind of woman.

sylve11:
Safrian you dey vex o. Easy na. I understand it's wrong to insult others' looks; but you're taking it too personal here.

Ayinke93:
Y'all should spare me all this yarns about women being toxic when they are successful. The issue is successful women know their worth and won't take shit from men. Look around and see a lot of marriages, they all survive on the ability of the women to keep taking shit thrown at her by her husband, submit to him, feed him, massage his ego, make babies for him and damage your body in the process. What do they get in return for all these sacrifices? More bullshit.

I'm all about women being as successful as possible, attain the greatest height of your career and watch men drown in their damaged esteem.

You all keep referring to Nigerian men having successful marriages when they marry white women, but have you seen how they worship those women? Because they know that any bullshit from them won't be handled lightly.

Y'all can keep dropping your threats and insult towards successful women on NL, it won't make you more desirable to them. They don't need y'all and you guys ain't all that.

ibkayee:
LOL

Which oyibo women are rushing naija men? Jokes aside, please explain

djon78:
It might interest you to know that many of these white women are very humble and down to earth. That's why there men worship them.

They are very good home makers and raise very responsible kids.
Why growing up I had very close friends there mum was a European, very fine blonde. Anytime I visited there home there was this peace, well organized and we'll kept home. That experience left a mark on me even as a young kid.

My cousin is married to a German woman for more than ten years and the guy is extremely happy. Gives him peace of mind. What men want most is a woman that will give them peace of mind simple.

GraGra247:
I was totally convinced that silly guy on the earlier thread was talking gibberish.

His line of reasoning wasn't carefully thought out.

MYMINDER:
If you have 12.5 million in cash, you are better off than many people living abroad. Stay in Nigeria and make the right investments while enjoying being around those that understand your culture and look like you.

legalwealth:
[color=#0000ff]and most importantly, RESPECT even if the woman is the bread-winner of the house.[/color]

djon78:
That's the secret most of them don't understand. They think it's raising there voice and talking anyhow to a man in uncouth and gutter form.

Men worship women that are humble, down to earth and peaceful.
There are women that are the major bread winners in there home but they still respect there man. Why won't that man worship that kind of woman.


A man told us that it was when he lost his job and was jobless for close to three years he understood the gift God gave to him as a wife. He was working a very good job, the wife was also working, but he later lost his job. He said at a point he was suicidal. But his wife will encourage him e go better. Sometimes she will wake up in the middle of the night to encourage him that things will get better.
When she brings her salary, she gives everything to him, for him to decide how they will use it. The guy was dumbfounded. Things later changed and he bounced back even better.
But he then knew he was married to a jewel.

Why won't a man worship this kind of a woman?

iPopAlomo:
Stop... We both know it's true.

Mstick:
Anybody with a brain knows that thread was created to massage the ego of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men like to praise themselves and make it look like women from other continents are falling over themselves to date them but believe me it's 100% false.

Black men are just the worst honestly, you see them opening threads upon threads insulting and humiliating black women but you would NEVER see men from other races do that. Are their women perfect? NO! but they respect and protect them anyway.

The reason why most of this black men go after white women is because of the standard the white men set for their own women, they built a country and environment where there women can thrive meanwhile our own men are still here debating if we're allowed to serve them garri with one meat.

legalwealth:
[color=#0000ff]Well said and I hope some of them will see this you've posted and reason deep, only if their bloated ego would allow them.

No matter how I like any female most especially because of their intelligence, hard work etc, I loose interest big
time once I'm able to confirm through series of observations and possibly tests that she is toxic and proud.

I hope they will learn with time like others who have eventually learnt their lessons later in their life.[/color]

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

djon78:
I think it's only a very foolish and unwise man that will do otherwise.

Most of them don't know that guys especially those that believe in the sacredness of marriage are extremely observant when they hang around prospective women.

They observe everything and draw there conclusions.
How can one expose himself to toxicity, insult and ridicule all In the name of marriage, to live in pain and regret for the rest of one's life on earth.

God forbid bad thing.

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely