OJURONGBE1:
I suffered the same fate last year .
Her mother said she can't marry an ijebu man because they had a terrible experience few years back that claimed one of her Aunt's life as if I was involved in the entire picture
It was painful as I was already into this lady (1 year relationship) but I was grateful it wasn't too deep for me to get over .
Another issue was when she said it to my face that I'm not spiritual enough because I attend The Redeemed church and believe in the entirety of the bible as a whole (2Tim 3:16) while she attends one of these woke Pentecostal ministry where the new testament is their only watchword.
I counted my losses and moved on with my life. Two weeks after that ,she uploaded the picture of her new boyfriend on her WhatsApp status.
I was flabbergasted, immediately I deleted her number and vowed never to contact her again even though I haven't met anyone since then.
So Chief , move on with your life and focus on your study.

Haha you were a sicker for love.
She never loved you
I wonder why guys should waste there time and resources on women that never loved them.

A man should go for a woman that loves him, crazy for him. Not one that doesn't give a damn. It always end in regret. Always

Giwoni:
Yes, she was my first love. thanks

OP, thank your stars and move ON, its not easy but you would live. I try now to always improve myself while working hard to still achieve my dreams and travel, I am still young and the future is very bright. Accept that its God saving you from a life of sorrow, sometimes it would weigh you down but pls shrug it off and keep moving.

I am so sure that she would come back begging and you would probably take her back, but pray for the spirit of foresight, don't allow anyone play on your intelligence and always know when to call it quits, you won't see it now but one day it would be clear as dawn. Be strong and GL with whatever decision you take.

Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

My brother no kill yourself,be happy say the girl you claim be your love just they with you cus of money.The beautiful ones are not yet born .

@Giwoni

I know it's not easy. But you should be thankful that you won't be ending up with a Jezebel.

I doubt if she went to her mother's place. She has gone to spend the lockdown with another man. Did you ask her to put her mom on the line when you called her?

And tell that brother of yours not to rush you.

I beg, I use God take beg you. You see as she has left, just let her be gone. Don't bring her back into your life again. Go and look for another girl.

Hope you people have seen why it's essential for a guy to have multiple girlfriends.

Op I've read from page 1 to 6 and a lot of good advices flying here and there, better leave that girl, if u like kill yourself to please her won't be happy... Her mum knows everything but choose to play u with her daughter.
Now, I've spent so many time here in Anambra state and know what up, how they see us Ebonyians even when you are better and smarter than them ... They were being told not to marry Wawa people because they don't believe an Ebonyi man can buy a land at Uruagu Nnewi, build his mansion, compete in motorcycle and generator spare parts importation, have a good life etc, I take my eyes see my ears but that makes me a better and stronger person today.
If an imbeci or agbero do any bad thing in Anambra they will tag that person nwa Abakaliki Even when the person is from Anambra...I served an Anambra man and know what's up with his people.
Ur girl see you as mugu and always making jest of u in ur absence...I wish u know even.
I have so many stories but let me stop here.

[quote author=MARX77 post=88617485]Permit me to list out a few things

1. From the beginning of the relationship, you have probably given this girl d mindset that if she leaves u, u r done for.

2. Bro, if u use money take open relationship, ready to dey drop money... So all this your expenses here and there na u cos am. Never use money as a means to hold down a woman, they're always in need, and most of them will go for the highest bidder.

3. I don't know who needs to hear this, except the girl na ur wife, never ever let a lady influence decisions that u know can make your life better. NEVER DO THAT. Make decisions to better ur life, Bleep whatever she thinks.

4. Boss, any girl when dey look for consent to marry you don go already. Forget her...

5. You're lucky you passed your exam, you for know afa

6. I can bet my left ass that your lady has someone already promising her the moon and the stars.
[quote author = Giwoni] op ur advice is here
cc Giwoni

...my brother a broken relationship is better than a broken home. So let her go, with time ur heart will be healed
Ah feel it pains #Sorry

RonaldoVido:


Okay, since you guys have gotten to this level.

STOP GIVING HER MONEY: If she stays she wants you, if she leaves, let her go. Don't even give N1,000.

DONT EVER MENTION MARRIAGE AGAIN: Your neediness over marriage caused her attitudinal change. Just avoid any marriage issue. If she brings it up, act like you didn't hear her. Then you can regain control over the relationship.

Let him forget about that girl completely...If na me, I go just dey fvck her for like 3 consecutive days before I dump h her..

johnisaola:
have you ever sleep with her, if you did, you are a 60% fool, but if you didn't you are a 100% fool, have you?

of course.

op ur own even gud,I almost die becos of dis gurl nd her troubles,her family abandoned her nd I took care of her thru school,mehn op if I tell u say dis gurl mama Just woke up frm no where say me nd d gurl no fit marry o,say one pastor say d marriage no go gud or smthng,I was just sad,d gurl follow her mama join mouth too,to cut d long story short,right nw she is dating anoda guy nw,wen I saw it,mehn my hrt wan collapse fa,after all I did for her nd her family bt I leave everything for God to judge.op just forget her nd b strong bt e no easy o,cos am still thinking nd very hurt nw,

Na so Anambara girls dey do.......na so one chop me but I wise leave am alone. Nonsense people .....Guy take heart better girl dey for you.

missimelda01:
You only told us the things you did for her, what of the things she did for you?
Did you notice at any point in the relationship that she was acting uninterested?
Marriage is a huge step, did you both have marriage in view while dating?
Parents have huge influence on some people, maybe she's one of them.

In conclusion, it's not advisable to convince someone to marry you.. move on with your life, you'd find someone else who'll feel the same way about you.

Dem date?

Giwoni:
She usually give me sex whenever she wants, she also cook for me occasionally, which I cooked more for her.
she also gives me fruits which I did more than that.
In 2019, I noticed she was acting uninterested but went on to tell my male class mate that she has made her mind to be with me while waiting for her parents conclusion.
In the beginning, she was even the person that brought marriage up.

I have not even gone quarter of what I did for her which she usually tells me that she doesn't have any to give me in return.

alaye, women no dey get stable mind. You sound too gentle and nice which is not bad. Woman naturally prefer rough guys .... You should thank your star that you just dodge a bullet.

YOU ARE THE HEAD QUARTER OF MUMU don't spend what you can't forget for ladies I mean don't spend something it will be when you think about It will not feel pain, but what you spend for your mother, wife sisters is not foolishness.

A woman that can not fight tradition or her people for your sake .
Dude she don't loves you.
She was using u as money bank in the school.
You never train a woman In school it an old story now.
She will come back for the money but she will not marry you.
She has someone to marry already.
Please don't give her another chance or u will not be able to come here and tell the tale.
Move on with ur life dude .

themaestro08:


"She would leave me if I don't pass my exam" , "I bought her point and kill worth 9000"....


Point and kill kill you there... Silly dude.

Lol. Point and kill kill you there

Spaceclenzy1:
Is one of those things.. She might still come back.. Women are jst like dat.. Dnt beat urself up too much.. Loving can never be a crime no matter the outcome.. U did all that because u love her.. She jst feel lik confirming hw it will be outside.. When she test other guys she will come back.. Don't beat urself up at all

Does not work that way.Someone must be better or worse than you.Let him cut his loses,business is profit and loss.Didn't he enjoy her puna can he pay her back for that.Cheers.

This is really touching

Obviously you have been played. It’s well scripted. Girls often say those they can’t marry they can’t date so she knew you both won’t end up been together.

Her mother though, why didn’t she say so from the onset of the relationship?? Such a cruel heart break but you would get over it.

So gather yourself together and forge ahead. Cry it out if you need to. She isn’t the only girl in the world.

I just get one question. Are medical students smart at all?
I stand to be corrected, Engineering students can't be this dumb

@Giwoni
That u are med student doesn't mean u can't be coming to nairaland politics section for more eye opening, don't stuck ur self with only romance section.
I've been fighting this tribal war head on since 2010 I joined nairaland and see how my people are being demeaned, cajoled, riddicule, rewriting our stories to suit them, dividing Ebonyi within Ebonyi (Afikpo/ohazara vs Abakaliki section) I single handedly stop that and unite the entire state.
When Ebonyi people were hiding here because of discrimination I stand alone and fight until many of u started to identify with ur beautiful state.
I can go on...

@achi4u

better to stay single, than marry your enemy

Take this as a Motivation. Get money big bro. You can't take care of a grown lady with no income bro. Grow your pocket. Go abroad come back buy G Wagon toast her again then dump her finally. . Don't be a stalker bro this is money issue. When money jam money abi when Naira jam Dollars, you know the fate of Naira. If you know the fate of Naira, go and get dollars! Get it fast

WORDWORLD:

My brother abeg move on with life,live as if she don't exist at all. YOU ARE A TREASURE.

Leave the girl! She and her Mom are "one chance " for you.

kaykad:
his eyes is not yet opened, if she use style come back i have a feeling that he would take her back. if as a person you are looking for happiness in another human, you will always get disappointed. humans are not perfect being

we all know when one is in love he/she does not heed instructions this nigga is still in love forget that girl that is using her mother to lie the main problem between my mom and sisters is my mom doesn't like their suitors but they go on with their already made mind, nothing love can't do, I pity him the girl is so heartless.

Bro move unto the next, in this world of ours.. To deal with a marital issue, you need more than one lady experience, go out(move on from her) date, learn until you are ready

Martinez39, ubunja, see another victim.

caylakays:
Lol....same with me... I can't marry and ebonyi man. Even my parents won't support it. U guys have a long way to go in reviving ur image

Lol this is serious. Ebonyians have a long way to go indeed

akinszz:
alaye, women no dey get stable mind. You sound too gentle and nice which is not bad. Woman naturally prefer rough guys .... You should thank your star that you just dodge a bullet.

gbagam.
He really dodged a bullet but won't know.