Let's be realistic op you can not afford even the marriage expenses that will be handed over to you.

It's better for a man to be wise than to put himself in unnecessary pressure.

Take a bow, some parents would have arrested you and thrown into jail.

You want to steal their precious daughter by tricks, take your love elsewhere. It's a sad reality, sorry.

Even you as the parents won't agree.

Peace081:

Pls this is not a period of weather her parents reject you or not, we have a critical issue on ground already, pls save us this headache

Hahaha Peace you dey vex o.
Try come in Peace small naw lol

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Yoighaman:
@OP: Let go of that girl. The best is always yet to come, the beautiful ones are yet unborn. You will be blessed with a better person.

It's obvious the family's acceptance is conditional and even if you go for a PGD and Masters, the feeling and hurt will never go away.

Develop yourself and move on, life is too short to be trying to please or prove a point to anyone.

The best form of revenge is success, go and be successful, so much that they'd regret they let you go and didn't allow their daughter stay with you.

Wish you all the best bro.

Exactly!! nice advice.

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AmazingELixir:
She attended Babcock for her first degree and Convenant for her masters degree both private universities with heavy tuition fees and you pass through Osun state polytechnic, a state school for that matter ...you no even fear to carry yaself to the geh papa hous ....you get luck the man no even shoot you..

To compound issue I bet your job no fit pay pass N60k, Mr man you better go find Basira near una village there marry

What were you doing when the lady was developing herself ? I expect you to have made a step that will give tne man hope or you expect the man to accept another liability in the name of love ? REO and Juliet are dead

Ybaby:


The father cannot tell him he has nothing going o for him.....father gave him an abbreviated portion of the whole gist. Sat in Oshogbo while she did her masters and you love her abeg Jesus loves her more. E ko radarada da nu

Ure are very smart and I like her dad, he knows what he wants for his daughter and protecting her intrest bt the guy needs to sit up. He's too relaxed bt then he needs to be given a chance to prove himself. He might not be lazy bt lack of opportunities.

Ur last statement was harsh. He loves this gal and she loves him.

chilet4cici:
My little advice don’t marry a girl if at least one of the parent is not in support of the marriage... Thank me later

why? most people get married without the support of one of the parent, but still got a blissful marriage at the end.

There are mad

bamidelee:

May God forgive you. If you don't have any reasonable contribution, why can't you keep quite.
Does been wealthy guarantee happiness in marriage? I pray you don't continue like this.

So its your level of certification that guarantees happiness in marriage right?
For ur info money goes a long way in determining a happy union

Ybaby:


Finance is a prerequisite for a happy home. Kids are expensive

Did you read the part where he was rejected by his gf's dad simply because he was not a university graduate?
As for the finance that you wrongfully inserted,Did the OP say he ain't working or financially stable?
Smh

Ybaby:


Best advise!

Remember, he needs to work to go for further studies, to me certificate don't matter when it comes to the issue of marriage, her dad is really making a big mistake, if he's not careful, he will make his daughter to marry the wrong choice and nothing good will come of the marriage.

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

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Olayetan:



Forget tomorrow,
Talk about his current status...

God bless you.

They did NYSC together she went for Masters and you are still saying tomorrow which tomorrow again....

RTSC:

No they are not.

If I spend millions and millions educating my daughter up to masters level in an elite environment, she better not come home with less.
She missed all the rich people at school, at work and only to choose an upcomer.
By
A waste of money.

I should have just sent her to Osun state university and save my money.

I know what I am saying..... That is poverty mentality. It affects us a lot in Africa. We are always conscious and afraid of being poor again due to our previous experiences. I wouldn't even think twice to move on if I were the op.

Ybaby:


This!!!! Nature made women hypergamous to encourage men to do away with laziness

There are more wealthy men on this planet whose major trigger to becoming greater version of themselves were decisions to get better in order to enable them get the love of pretty women.

Women are triggers, but the fools who get cheap women freely end up having nothing.

Why would a man work when he can lay the best women for free?

Wonder why huge men end up as bouncers? And handsome boys end up being broke?

Adegunle4:
Eeyh! ...my brother jus Forward March !
1, 2!!

Lol

Midex88:


Especially for polytechnic graduates discrimination from big multi national companies when it comes to choice jobs

What are you saying? are polytechnics graduates not employed by the likes of BAT, Nestle, KC,P&G, Dangote, etc, especially those that studied stem related courses? Go and make proper findings man

silento:
Wetin happen to ur dick give her belle and relax they will call u to sort out things

Mad advice, But honest truth.

stuffs4me:


Read what the OP typed in his story and you'll find out that he is just a factory worker with HND while the girl has first degree and a masters and works in a big organisation in Lagos.

Habba! The two of them no be mate na. If not for NYSC, they would never have met at that kind of social level.

The OP sounds to me like a gold digger. that wants to use the girl to escape poverty and the lady's dad was wise to his conny tricks

If only you know who your sisters dey follow, you'll bury yourself in shame...

crap! father and daughter offering you Bobo juice, she's part of it, don't think her father did that without her consent , the invitation is just to see you as to recognize you if you go funny, that girl is getting married this year , same girl has brought other guys and they are weighing their options

my own told me it was arranged marriage by her papa to a family friend , I later got to know it was all lies.

OP, you were expecting her to quit her job in VI and move from Lekki to Oshogbo? when sharp guys dey Lagos close marking her, ordering her pizza online and holiday Dubai. OP, you get international passport?

meetme01:
Op, to be sincere, if you don't upgrade before you get married to that lady if eventually things is sorted. You would have issues in your home.

See, it's not a curse. Married folks can attest to this.

Her standard is much higher academically, financially etc than yours. You have been seen as a gold digger. She would want to reside in Lagos due to her job. Not mainland Lagos but on the island. Can you afford accommodation in Lekki or or VI.? She would have much say in the home because her income is much higher and her parents would be supportive. If you're not careful, your home would be dictated by her parents. Before you know, you would turn to their houseboy. At the long run, a hit or foul language on the lady will end the marriage.

Please, yoruba would say, ile ola niyonu. Another says, iyawo burku se fe, ano buruku o se ni (You can mange a bad wife but the in-law should not be harboured).

If you like yourself, make her your best friend and remain best of friends. She would love it that way and any request for support or assistance, she would be glad.

Marriage is not only about love o.

Àna burúkú kò seé ní rárá!!
Very true!!

The man is playing his role
You are a bad market (to him)
Don't force him to reason otherwise.
Don't make any attempt to impress him.
Don't pressurise the girl either; not at all.
If she chose to fight it, let it be her decision.
If she chose to respect her father, move on with understanding.





What if the man is an angel in disguise?
You can't be too sure, y'know.
No situation in life is ALL negative.
How you see yourself is most important.
Think less about the certificate bullshit.
The land is wide and fertile.





I pity the girl though, especially if she's the type that dare not confront her father.

stewpid parent with archaic mentality.

ghettochild4u:
White people no get time for this nonsense o

Who are white people?
Snowman?

Well, I believe that's just half of the story.

The other part must have something to do with the fact that you are still struggling to survive financially.

But alright, it's okay, let's just blame the parents for being so certificately-biased!

jaxxy:


Ure are very smart and I like her dad, he knows what he wants for his daughter and protecting her intrest bt the guy needs to sit up. He's too relaxed bt then he needs to be given a chance to prove himself. He might not be lazy bt lack of opportunities.

What do u mean by he is too relaxed, or is it now a competition ? So because she has an msc the guy should kill himself to get one too right?. What if the guy becomes very successful tomorrow n employs her with her masters degree in his company, what would you then say?
N for your info the fact that she has an msc does not necessarily mean she would be more educated than the guy.
Education is way beyond paper certificates.

jaxxy:


Ure are very smart and I like her dad, he knows what he wants for his daughter and protecting her intrest bt the guy needs to sit up. He's too relaxed bt then he needs to be given a chance to prove himself. He might not be lazy bt lack of opportunities.

Ur last statement was harsh. He loves this gal and she loves him.

They started dating in 2015.... 5 years ago. Who will give him the opportunity ? The girls father? Should help him get a job in a big organisation? Poster come and be selling real estate Landwey etc ..... hustle!!!!

silento:
Wetin happen to ur dick give her belle and relax they will call u to sort out things

Guy sense won't kill u.... I concur with this ur idea

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

Love doesn't come easy

Since you both love yourself

You have the option of getting an admission in the university of you can afford now and read a relevant course

Or you let her go and find another one if you don't mind

Most parents places premium on their daughters especially if she attends expensive school

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

Guy you were not rejected for having an HND, you need to understand how people with means think, the lady in question has been educated to a postgraduate level, this implies that there are more opportunities available to her than you. Secondly you are in osogbo she is in Lagos, she has more opportunities than you to grow in career and financial. Should you guys get married are you going to take her to osogbo? When you do what happens to all the investment made on her and opportunities open to her? I don't need to ask I can guess she earns 3x what you do.

If you are serious about this relationship you need to step up your game, you don't necessarily need to get a PhD to gain their respect, you need to look like somebody going somewhere, someone they can take a chance on.