TheKingIsHere:
Why will someone take a loan for wedding?

This is silly

E dy happen oh. Forget.

I swear that guy needs to be woken up...

How I wish God can reject the death of a debtor expecially those that borrowed for the wrong reasons...

Can you imagine... Just to impress someone.

D bank also are very gullible, when they will not do thorough background check and follow up...

People that needs start up loans are there, they will not give...

May he continue to rot in hell.

operationmoses:
How can aboki spend 3m just for a wedding impossible

Aboki de bear John? mumu

edoman2016:

How can you reason like this? Can't you read the man is a banker and not jobless. The man committed suicide because the wife simply has bad attitude and not a wife material.

How much do bankers earn?

skyhighweb:
no remorse kill ur self more join, u cant tell me u dont know her behaviour b4 marriage shey, u even borrow 3m definitely because she told u to, 3m not even 500k who lends moni to get married these days self, some people are senseless, houseboy ko, maid ni.

I won't borrow a penny. If she like make she go borrow. I won't contribute in repayment.

Chai this is wicked ooh...how will the bank recover their money now...if only he had known he would have used the wife as collateral.

sisisioge:




But on a serious note, that guy goofed direly! No man or woman should go into marriage without outlining their expectations clearly with their intending spouses. As in, identify them and discuss to avoid these kind stories. A lot us marry because it is time or the other person seems right without checking to be sure that we're both aligned on the same page....if promises are not made, hearts should not be broken o.


The first time I saw a thorough marriage counseling filled forms(a friend showed me what she wrote to her intending husband) chai...I was gobsmacked. She was totally explicit about money, sex, time, her people, his people, chores, etc....chai! My Igbo gf got me scared thinking the guy would just dump her when he sees her expectations. No, he wrote his and they discussed extensively in front of their counsellor and privately. Today, they are very much settled in as each understand their roles. Hian!

Sadly, many ignore outlining their expectations so both parties can discuss about them as it gives opportunity to talk about each other's threshold, what is a no-no, where concessions can be made etc Where one feels he or she can't deal.......take a walk.

Is the qwan tang sweet so much that to spend 3 mil for a wedding?

farem:


https://www.westafricareporters.com/banker-takes-n3-million-loan-for-wedding-commits-suicide-two-months-marriage-crashed/

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This is the type of man the Late Tupac will call SUCKER for LOVE.
They kill for their woman while she is busy fucking another man.
They steal for their woman while she is busy spending it on another man.
They slap their mother in the presence of their mother-in-law.
And when the Love (woman) want to move on they either kill the woman or they kill themselves or the woman and themselves Sucker for Love story always end in tragedy . RIP to the dead!

yomi007k:
I think what happened here is that the lady comes from a rich family and the guy tried to keep up by getting a loan.

He was hoping to eat his cake and have it but the lady turned him to a house boy.

Fake Love
Fake Life.


#personal opinion.

gbam! That's just the story.

Smh

Minemrys:

E dy happen oh. Forget.

In this age, it shouldn't happen, at least not in naija.

Now, he ended up being frustrated with a nagging wife and a huge debt.

Foolish msn. Cowardly man!

bukatyne:
If the deceased knew that the marriage/wife/relationship was so important to him, why didn't he seek a compromise rather than a divorce?

God be with his parents and everyone who would be affected by this loss.

What compromise? He married the wrong lady, period!

He focused on the outside rather than the inside and got badly burnt.

cococandy:
He probably committed suicide because after the divorce, he didn’t know how to pay back the money.
The wife and her family might have been his back up plan in repaying the loan. I don’t necessarily think he took his own life because he missed his wife so much.
More like he didn’t see things working out according to his plan. Which is sad. May he Rest In Peace

This is very factual.

edoman2016:

How can you reason like this? Can't you read the man is a banker and not jobless. The man committed suicide because the wife simply has bad attitude and not a wife material.

And so what if he was a banker?

That does not necessarily mean that he is rich.

It's possible he was just a bank teller or some lowly staff in the bank earning very little money

This is the best time for the song 'No go dey do pass yourself'.

Michelle55:
Nonsense and ingredients
Why borrow to get married? Some people are just seriously busy preparing for wedding with everything they've got forgetting that the real deal called marriage is waiting for them.
Any marriage that would warrant you borrowing is not worth it. If she's not ready to manage with you by going on a low key mode.. My brother waka pass.

If the deceased didn't borrow and make do with what he had for the wedding, he wouldn't have been sooo depressed and frustrated to think of suicide after the marriage failed.

Make do with what you have. Never ever live above your means to impress anyone, you just might be better than them

Rip to the dead

But you people are the course, you people always want to campare your wedding with esther wedding, jenifer, blessing, joy, abigail etc, forgeting the fact that all fingers are not equal. My problem with most ladies is that they dont think ahead. Though you make alot of sense in your post

So unfortunate, how could you kill yourself over a useless woman to you. Must you even borrow money for marriage?

Some of these rich men's daughter have no respect for their husband and they have no ideal on how to take care of their home. In fact they lack home training. Most of them don't know to cook. All they know how to do is eat and have their pussy attended to.
Why will you go and borrow such amount of money because of one stupid woman who like extravagant life

Hypnotise:
That's why as a man, you should love with your head and not your heart.

True talk

Loan to marry?? Na otedola pikin he won marry? People shud learn to stop pleasing people over themselves. Many of those people he tried so hard to please dont care or give a rats ass about him.

2ndly why borrow money only to impress and marry the wrong gal? Disrespectful and arrogant thing with no sense? This guy basically single handedly ruined himself by living a fake life.

If i have my way I wud have a super simple bt CLASSY wedding. Very Low budget. I won’t be impressing too many people. Lol

ojun50:

Forget make Yoruba people no knw the address

hahahahaha! so you mean say Yoruba people fit follow wedding rice and amala enter hell? Na question i dey ask ooh,

TheKingIsHere:


In this age, it shouldn't happen, at least not in naija.

Now, he ended up being frustrated with a nagging wife and a huge debt.

lol, u no go undastand. I d0n't think men like that are in c0ntrol of such relati0nships. And i am guessing he tried to live above himself. [s0mething m0st people do these days. Live to please the world]

So sad. So dishearten.

stevmatt15:
I will never marry
Am not marrying oooooooooooooooooooooooooo

This is not enough reason not to marry
Pray and search for good one

cococandy:
He probably committed suicide because after the divorce, he didn’t know how to pay back the money.
The wife and her family might have been his back up plan in repaying the loan. I don’t necessarily think he took his own life because he missed his wife so much.
More like he didn’t see things working out according to his plan. Which is sad. May he Rest In Peace

u get sense

It is surprising that the deceased did not discover the character of the woman he married during the courtship period.

More worrisome still, is the fact that none of his friends, family members, neighbours warned him about the woman or is it possible that he ignored all their warnings and danger signals because he was blinded by love?

Here is a lesson for all of us intending to marry; know yourself well and STUDY your intended spouse even more!!!

Do not ignore the warning signs, listen to advice from friends, family and neighbours before signing off into a life toxicity in the name of marriage.

Finally, weddings are not competitions. Nobody gets an award for society weddings. Don't borrow to stage a show and later regret it ALONE at leasure.

May the soul of the departed rest in peace and may he find forgiveness from his maker.

To everyone reading this, no matter the problem you might be facing now in your marriage, suicide is NOT the solution. Take all your problems to God in prayers. HE HAS THE SOLUTION.

That guy probably had other unresolved issues.
Suicide is not usually traced to one event.
Issues that probably made the marriage to crash in the first place.

cococandy:
He probably committed suicide because after the divorce, he didn’t know how to pay back the money.
The wife and her family might have been his back up plan in repaying the loan. I don’t necessarily think he took his own life because he missed his wife so much.
More like he didn’t see things working out according to his plan. Which is sad. May he Rest In Peace

According to his selfish plan

cococandy:
He probably committed suicide because after the divorce, he didn’t know how to pay back the money.
The wife and her family might have been his back up plan in repaying the loan. I don’t necessarily think he took his own life because he missed his wife so much.
More like he didn’t see things working out according to his plan. Which is sad. May he Rest In Peace

u are a smart ass one. The girl's rich, the guy saw an opportunity but didn't c0nnect d variables, and it paid back.

So marriage don become business wey you go borrow to take invest?
Regulate your mental capacity to make emotional stress inactive.
Nothing is worth dying for in any relationship.
Self preservation is the ultimate.
Learn to create happiness for yourself.
Do not impress anyone at your detriment.
If you do not have it say so.
If that will end any relationship, so be it and move on.
Let any where belle face be your best line.
So,take life easy and do not restrict your desires or choices to a limited quantity.
Broaden your scope.
Anyhow.... yagayaga!