Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision...

BTW, I'm looking for a good flutter developer, please recommend.

If you do not have plans of marrying her then don't cage her in your house.

Let her use the opportunity of NYSC to meet other guys so she can weigh her options objectively.

As for you, at this stage in your life you don't need any encumbrance to tie you down...you need to sort out your finances first!

There is no point since the disadvantages of accommodating her outweighs the advantages. Do not make decisions that will lead to had I known. Just do what you think it’s best for you.

To live with pregnant woman don dey hungry u.

The question is are you ready to father a child now. If you are then go ahead and be ready to marry her if she gets pregnant. Well it's a beautiful day, Do you need a well designed attractive Logo?, check my signature
Have a great day ahead

Hmmm
Just kukuma tell us that u want free kpekus

Be a nice guy and just allow her come stay with you. Congratulations daddy Femi

Hmmmmm..
Egungun be careful.

Staying with a Nigerian girlfriend is like staying with the devil.

na ur money go talk, are u financially balanced

Hightser:

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.
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At 29, u wanna escape all these.

Even immortal angels cant escape these if they stay with a woman in same house

“Self contain” is meant to contain one person.

Inviting her under your roof implies she's your responsibility but you're too broke to carry that burden. Don't start something you can't finish.

Candid advice

Pls pray well about it especially if u are a Christian because there is more to living together than pregnancy (anyway the probability of that happening is high). What if she fall sick?
What if anything happens her.

Kobicove:



I you do not have plans of marrying her then don't cage her in your house.

Let her use the opportunity of NYSC to meet other guys so she can weigh her options objectively.

As for you, at this stage in your life you don't need any encumbrance to tie you down...you need to sort out your finances first!

I seconded this comment

Toluwashe778:
Candid advice

Pls pray well about it especially if u are a Christian because there is more to living together than pregnancy (anyway the probability of that happening is high). What if she fall sick?
What if anything happens her.

Are you for real? As a Christian, he should pray whether to stay with girlfriend or not? What kind of Christianity are you practicing? Please repent. Thank you

you spoke lyk who have already made his choice bt need online advise to put the blame on when things go wrong....all i can say is that since you aint married its wrong to stay with your bea azin to be staying with your bea because the many disadvantages outweigh the few sweet advantages especially when you have plans to wife her....try and convince her that its wrong bt if u still want to allow her stay just make sure that you are ready for what the outcome would be because i know say na free and endless samankwe de influence your decision...just follow ur heart bt use ur head and avoid any idea from dt little boi behind ur legs bcoz dremo say "konjinaba" n i wish u well my guy n try to de play safe always if she ends up stayin with u even if its almost impossible
dad always say "that thing wey u de do for secret in the night go surely show face for morning oo"....

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

BTW, I'm looking for a good flutter developer, please recommend.

are you on Twitter ? I can recommend

collinsfhk:


Are you for real? As a Christian, he should pray whether to stay with girlfriend or not? What kind of Christianity are you practicing? Please repent. Thank you

Lol

Explain to her, she should understand living together with a man that has not married you is very bad and risky.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

BTW, I'm looking for a good flutter developer, please recommend.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

BTW, I'm looking for a good flutter developer, please recommend.

But if my gf is to come here,
the agreement will be clear
and concise, you fend for
yourself while I fend for
myself, don't worry, the
relationship is that defined
and she understands
i love that agreement and also agree not to have sex until u are finacially stable :PBut if my gf is to come here,
the agreement will be clear
and concise, you fend for
yourself while I fend for
myself, don't worry, the
relationship is that defined
and she understands
i love that agreement and also agree not to have sex until u are finacially stable

Don't, hustle first, make the money see if she is still with you before investing and marring her.

collinsfhk:


Are you for real? As a Christian, he should pray whether to stay with girlfriend or not? What kind of Christianity are you practicing? Please repent. Thank you

bros, to the ops, he is trying to render assistance (i hope u get that)
the reasons why i suggested he should pray is that if his faith did not condemn it and if he is sure there will not be problem afterward then it is fine. or did ur bible not tell u about helping others?

He has a good intention towards her but the risk is also high

SqueezedPant:



are you on Twitter ? I can recommend

Yes I am, please do

Kobicove:



I you do not have plans of marrying her then don't cage her in your house.

Let her use the opportunity of NYSC to meet other guys so she can weigh her options objectively.

As for you, at this stage in your life you don't need any encumbrance to tie you down...you need to sort out your finances first!

Baba everything is not marriage, she is just 22 and going for NYSC, no career yet and that's why I want to help her find her feet, I'm not interested in marrying someone without a job or career, except my money becomes long.

My brother,co-habitation is a sin.If you love this girl and would like to marry her,then let her remain with her parents/guardians until you come and take ger hand in marriage.Then the both of you can live together.Runaway from premarital sex and don't put yourself in comprosing situations and God will bless you as you obey him.

Ablyz:
But if my gf is to come here,
the agreement will be clear
and concise, you fend for
yourself while I fend for
myself, don't worry, the
relationship is that defined
and she understands
i love that agreement and also agree not to have sex until u are finacially stable :PBut if my gf is to come here,
the agreement will be clear
and concise, you fend for
yourself while I fend for
myself, don't worry, the
relationship is that defined
and she understands
i love that agreement and also agree not to have sex until u are finacially stable

If she doesn't come to stay with me, sex will still happen, we are not doing it in exchange for money.

chukwunweikeemi:
My brother,co-habitation is a sin.If you love this girl and would like to marry her,then let her remain with her parents/guardians until you come and take ger hand in marriage.Then the both of you can live together.Runaway from premarital sex and don't put yourself in comprosing situations and God will bless you as you obey him.

For now, sex with my gf is the only sin I can't run away from.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

BTW, I'm looking for a good flutter developer, please recommend.

Help her if you can, not as your girlfriend but as someone with good heart who you think deserves better. Success

Geeksamir:
Hmmm
Just kukuma tell us that u want free kpekus

Lol, been getting the free kpekus or whatever for as long as I recall, it's not new, I'm talking about something serious helping her find her feet on something tangible.

Kobicove:



I you do not have plans of marrying her then don't cage her in your house.

Let her use the opportunity of NYSC to meet other guys so she can weigh her options objectively.

As for you, at this stage in your life you don't need any encumbrance to tie you down...you need to sort out your finances first!

so going to serve in one village in katsina is where she will find her husband? Don't you think she will find a suitable person in Lagos than a village? And who told you I don't have plans to marry her? After NYSC the next thing you are suggesting for her is marriage, after you all will be clamouring for independent girls for marriage, what do you all really want sef.

She either works it to Lagos or she doesnt.

When she comes to Lagos, she either stays with you or she doesn't.

If you are worried about all these, but you feel you want to help her come to Lagos, then do so and tell her your place is not comfortable.Inform her that she will/must have to look for her own place. Let her know you are more interested in the prospects and opportunities that abound for her and you are not bringing her here to become a live-in lover. She also should be focusing on her career and financial independence. A relationship should be secondary.

Who even told you that when she comes to Lagos she won't see another guy and move on? Listen to me, your life is first to yourself. Yourself first. Live for yourself first and not for anyone else. If you feel it will be stressful living with her and the risks are much then avoid it at all cost. A Chinese Proverbs says "IT IS FOOLISHNESS TO PUT OUT THE CANDLE EARLY AT NIGHT TO SAVE IT, IF IT WILL TO LEAD TO TWINS".


These are your options. Simple and clear. Worrying only makes one ignore the facts and logic in the matter.

Why start something you can't handle or finish? Living together is bound throw up many issues, including getting her pregnant. Since your financial standing isn't strong enough and you have plans to bring your sister to come stay with you, why not make your girl look for accommodation in her PPA, or better still, she can rent a low-cost apartment since you want her to be close to where you are.

Alternatively, you can allow things to work the way it should, by not influencing her posting to a choice location. I say/write this because more, than anything else, you need to ensure that you build your finance to a reasonably strong height and that fact that marriage isn't on the to-do list yet, is another reason not to unnecessarily overstretched yourself.

My brother...all these advice is not necessary, ull still follow ur mind..to me,ur mind is to bring the girl to ur house...ur 29...get a child nigga even if u no wan marry...no wait till u be 50 and ur child is just 5...it is always shameful to see
But las las do ur thing. Keeping the girl with you might be the best thing u will ever do...or most regretful thing..ur choice not ours