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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Liposure: 12:19am On Jun 16, 2020
IJEYdiamond:
Nwa ooo... una don carry this gist reach here... hmmmm...
ijeylolo1 what say u
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by edwinbiz(m): 12:19am On Jun 16, 2020
May I not end up with a woman like this, what nonsense, he’ll soon be required to buy a car for her brother.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by davillian(m): 12:20am On Jun 16, 2020
Once I perceive
This entitlement thing from any woman I'm gone and not even looking back.....

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Decallmemartin(m): 12:20am On Jun 16, 2020
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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by WHITELIGHTER: 12:23am On Jun 16, 2020
Liposure:
thats how u wood hav bought goods on credit

I swear my brother .... although its something I have noticed before now, but this tops the cake
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Mikeparlo12(m): 12:23am On Jun 16, 2020
The more reason we have to revisit the bride price of Igbo ethnic group. Some of the elders are just wicked. They don't think of what will happen to the bride when she finally move to the husbands house. Bride price will be like Chemistry questions. I give it to the Yorubas.... they make life easy they share the wedding expenses... not just living it to the grooms family..

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by OB3344(m): 12:23am On Jun 16, 2020
Dear lady or woman or whatever you are , do you even have sense , are you even Educated, after ur family have extorted the young man during wedding,you still want him to keep on contributing to ur family....for getting angry that he said he is not contributing anything, you're a NITWIT and you are blunt and mannerless....maybe na ur body make him marry u sef...as for sense (-0.5)...mtcheeeew.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Clinton207: 12:24am On Jun 16, 2020
this is so surprising !

wait how much did the your said brother contribute in helping your husband pay/meet your family demand for marrying you?
my friend your brother is still a boy and not ripe for marriage, he should focus on becoming a better man!
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Wiseandtrue(f): 12:24am On Jun 16, 2020
elektra:
You and Your family are a bunch of entitled clowns.

Why should your husband be paying your parents salary? Are they his employees? What are they doing for him? Your mouth did not even heavy you to ask, seeing as you are a not bringing in any income. Your head is not correct at all.

Your father sef! When he was insisting on >500K he did not think of the future. Now the same fate has befallen his son. Shame did not catch him to demand money from his in-law? Your father is a shameless man.
After selling his daughter, he's still expecting compensation grin grin grin

Na wa oooo

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by bptc10: 12:27am On Jun 16, 2020
Not only your husband contributing to your brother marriage you guys should also tax him to pregnant your brother wife, NONSENSE
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by lordrukker1: 12:28am On Jun 16, 2020
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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by thomas(m): 12:28am On Jun 16, 2020
You should have told him that it wasn't marriage you were looking for but an investor. So he could raise your bride price alone and your family had no mercy to reduce anything? what is stopping your brother to raise his own? your father actually sat down and give you your own share to pay or your husband to pay? Definitely this must be an Ibo thing ,the way you so much place emphasis on money over people's mental well being. If you don't understand you better know now that your husband didn't anything into a financial draining agreement cos he married you. If you even remotely think by marrying you he owes your family any financial responsibility then you are in the wrong contract , for that is not what marriage is meant for. This is how you go about sending young men to early graves with stress, when your father got married no one was this hard on him, ask your mother. Imagine sounding like the man is committing a crime .
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by InvertedHammer: 12:30am On Jun 16, 2020
Jeffrey12:
Nairalanders, What's your take on this?
What would have been your reaction towards this matter, If you were the husband?

https://twitter.com/SmartAtuadi/status/1272275117280759810?s=19
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I would have told my father-in-law to go to hell.
His son should hustle to raise money the way I hustled to pay the extortion fee.

Final final...return my money and take the daughter back. The family is a leech and must be avoided at all cost.

Out of N400k, they expect the guy to contribute almost 30%. The guy is in hell by marrying from that family. I blame the guy--he is a slowpoke for getting entangled with the family in the first place. They will destroy his home with silly requests supported by an uncompromising wife.
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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Charly68: 12:31am On Jun 16, 2020
God have mercy ,I they know your husband will be part of the family ,they should have treated him well when he came to marry you..let your brother that is old enough to marry go and source for fund,your husband will support his in-law as he so desire not by obligation. Please note that whether he gives to his in-laws is a privilege and not an obligation . know how to protect your home from the influence of your own family ..
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by chukzyfcbb: 12:36am On Jun 16, 2020
wait so I am supposed to be sending money to my wife's parents monthly and support my brother in-law wedding bride price if I am married.

Haha, even God know say I never dey mad to try this one.

May I never fall inside such family in Jesus name, amen!

Inukwa!
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Hahjascho(m): 12:36am On Jun 16, 2020
humilitypays:
This story we are reading is one major reason so many men are poor in Nigeria - they carry financial burden that is more than their income!


You will see a struggling poor single guy earning meagre income go and marry one unemployed, jobless single lady who has no job, no hand work, no business and they will be forming we love each other....and they will be hoping that as soon as they marry, manner will fall from heaven and they will end up rich like Tinubu, hahahahaha cheesy cheesy


Listen young guys reading, marry with wisdom. The world has changed so so much today. Love is never enough reason to marry.


If you are not earning at least 300k as a single guy in Nigeria, don't marry any unemployed lady with no job, no handwork, no business doing, don't do it if you don't want to enter the poverty rat race many Nigerian men have been racing for decades.


Stop that nonsense talk that you don't like career ladies, you better love them now oh!!

Go to Europe, go to US, go to Canada, even China, just name it......husband and wife work! They pull their resources together to run the family and execute family projects.

It is only in Nigeria that women stay idle in the name of marriage and Nigerian men glorify it! it is bad for Nigeria's economy, every woman should find work or business or trade and do to earn income, it is a must today!


Single ladies reading, please go and get yourself something to earn steady income if not, na yeye husband you go marry oh because correct guys with future dreams and goals cannot marry you as a jobless lady with no income, no matter how rich he is, he would love you to be financially productive, it is classier!! wink
Increase the volume pls! ..lol

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Liposure: 12:37am On Jun 16, 2020
BABANGBALI:
very shameless family. As for the girl herself, if na me be her husband, any time I fok her and she no moan, scream, shout, give me better ringtones make all our neighbours know sey we dey do or she come before I come, na die be her name that day. I hate nonsense
oga ur blood de hot
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by larryking540: 12:38am On Jun 16, 2020
thorpido:
Well your husband does not have a responsibility to send money monthly to your parents.He could but he is not obligated to.
Your husband also does not have an obligation to contribute to your brother's wedding.It is your own obligation as the sister.He could do that however as an inlaw.
I guess the problem with your husband is that your family did not treat him well when he wanted to marry you because of the list he was given.
You both need counsel from wise elders.

my brother ,that's Igbo tradition o,
my relative who married from that side is currently looking like a pencil,may God give that man long life

my uncle now pays school fees for the wife younger sister
my uncle now contribute to every occasion that takes place in the wife's family (Igbo)
infact my uncle first child name is also an Igbo name.
and I also believe the Bride price my uncle payed is also equivalent to the op Bride price

it's so unbelievably ,after collection of huge amount of money from you son in-law to be ,few months later you are still asking him to contribute for another occasion,some human being no get conscience oo

igbo people fear them oo,,,who no go know know

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by redsun(m): 12:39am On Jun 16, 2020
How can your brother have a wedding if he can't foot the bills himself? And you will need to to get a job to start helping your immediate (primary) and extended (secondary) families.

70,000 nairas is a pittance in Nigeria and it is barely enough to take care of an individual's running cost for two weeks in Nigeria, let alone, a couple and extended costs.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Liposure: 12:42am On Jun 16, 2020
chukzyfcbb:
wait so I am supposed to be sending money to my wife's parents monthly and support my brother in-law wedding bride price if I am married.

Haha, even God know say I never dey mad to try this one.

May I never fall inside such family in Jesus name, amen!

Inukwa!
my bro its called palliative
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by larryking540: 12:42am On Jun 16, 2020
chukzyfcbb:
wait so I am supposed to be sending money to my wife's parents monthly and support my brother in-law wedding bride price if I am married.

Haha, even God know say I never dey mad to try this one.

May I never fall inside such family in Jesus name, amen!

Inukwa!

then u better not marry an Igbo lady ,else OYo na your own ,,
if I have not see this happening in my eyes I would have said the story is fabricated but it is not ,it is happening ,
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by VickyRotex(f): 12:43am On Jun 16, 2020
BABANGBALI:
Rubbish! Nonsense. Is your husband your family's ATM? Some families and their children no get shame. [s]Imagine how your parents sold you out like a slave to your husband. Poverty na curse walahi. If i be your husband, any time I fok you and you no give me better ringtones make everybody for our street dey hear or you ?. come before I come, na die be your name that day. You people are the main reason Nigerian men die young.[/s] Vickyrotex abi kini mo wi?

You for make small sense oo if not for the rubbish rubbish rubbish wey you take end am.
0/10!!!
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by chukzyfcbb: 12:45am On Jun 16, 2020
larryking540:


then u better not marry an Igbo lady ,else OYo na your own ,,
if I have not see this happening in my eyes I would have said the story is fabricated but it is not ,it is happening ,
I know it happens, that's why I am saying may I never fall into such family.

it's things like these that make mehn not to go past age 55 in Nigeria coz they carry too much burden on them that thier body system fails quickly
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by larryking540: 12:46am On Jun 16, 2020
Clinton207:
this is so surprising !

wait how much did the your said brother contribute in helping your husband pay/meet your family demand for marrying you?
my friend your brother is still a boy and not ripe for marriage, he should focus on becoming a better man!


abi you should be asking how much the younger brother added to the Bride price list ,it seems most Nigeria are ignorant of how Igbo tradition plays ,....try make friends with Igbo people then you will not their tradition better ,the op Bride price even small ,a family friend of my payed roughly 700k including the Ghana must go of wrappers and tubers of yam ,last last the marriage no even get head, everybody don Waka e seperate way
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by chukzyfcbb: 12:46am On Jun 16, 2020
Liposure:
my bro its called palliative
na straw Dem put for inside that man body, Dem no go stop until Dem suck all I'm blood finish.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by larryking540: 12:48am On Jun 16, 2020
chukzyfcbb:

I know it happens, that's why I am saying may I never fall into such family.

it's things like these that make mehn not to go past age 55 in Nigeria coz they carry too much burden on them that thier body system fails quickly

yes na ,I have never had an Igbo lady as a girlfriend and I don't even plan to ,
most Igbo lady escape with their said boyfriend to a new destination to avoid these crazy Bride price and many don't go back home for ever

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by larryking540: 12:48am On Jun 16, 2020
chukzyfcbb:

na straw Dem put for inside that man body, Dem no go stop until Dem suck all I'm blood finish.
lol wink cheesy cheesy cheesy wink wink wink cheesy
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by redsun(m): 12:49am On Jun 16, 2020
No one should marry a burden. Marriage is primarily for convenience; both sides.

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by larryking540: 12:50am On Jun 16, 2020
BABANGBALI:
Rubbish! Nonsense. Is your husband your family's ATM? Some families and their children no get shame. Imagine how your parents sold you out like a slave to your husband. Poverty na curse walahi. If i be your husband, any time I fok you and you no give me better ringtones make everybody for our street dey hear or you ?. come before I come, na die be your name that day. You people are the main reason Nigerian men die young. Vickyrotex abi kini mo wi?
10/10
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Nobody: 12:51am On Jun 16, 2020
I see a post like this and I ask myself once again...do I really want to get married most especially to these Nigerian women who think this way
wow

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by babadem2much(m): 12:54am On Jun 16, 2020
That's why a priest said there's difference between wife and madam....
This madam want to detect how things should be not minding the miger salary he is collecting... Intact the family craze de run for their DNA... You no pity pesin but you still wan come milk am... Thunder where art thou?
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by amosrich(m): 12:55am On Jun 16, 2020
Hmmm...na wa oh...
It's high time some families emancipated themselves from mental slavery sha

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