Xchangemadeeasy:
I hope this is true because that guy deserves an award for standing his ground and its something I personally would do.

When people want to get married, they should be responsible for their cost and expenses. If any family member or friends wants to help or support, it's simply out of their own volition and not compulsion whatsoever.

Some people would just have this entitlement spirit that is really annoying. Your husband earns 70k, maybe his net would fall back to 45k after removing transport and other expenses.

The poor guy is probably thinking of how to keep his family in shape planning with the little he has and someone somewhere believes he should donate his nothing less than three months savings to an adult who is not capable of carrying his own responsibility all in the name of in-laws and marriage.

Iberibe set of people...

caniva:
Kuku kill your husband now

NaijaRoyalty:
You're a stupid woman and a stupid wife

No man deserve a stupid woman like you for a wife

tiswell:
Here you go, take it!

Thanks

Ghostmode2two:
Your family has no right whatsoever to bill your husband 120k naira as his contribution to your brother's marriage. When your husband wanted to marry you, did any of your family contribute any money for him? I beg lean on me nor be kill me. Free your husband and you have to talk to your family to stop the rubbish. A man who is managing with 70k montly salary, you want to kill him with bill. Do you know if he took a loan to meet up the demand your family demanded from him when he wanted to marry you? Make you park well ooo.

NaijaRoyalty:



I feel so so sorry for you

Sha don't come on nairaland to seek for marital advice when you marry such over demanding wife

DominusPrime:
Before I say anything when your husband wanted to get married which of your own brothers contributed to the wedding? Now your own brother, a full grown man like your husband wants to get married and they want to bill him another 120k? A man who is managing 70k salary? Anyway I blame your husband. You are earning 70k per month and you went to marry from a poor family. Their demands will definitely be higher than you can afford. Like I always say poverty dey kill love!!! It is better to cut your coat according to your cloth than deceive yourself to marry with poverty hugging you because you are in love. Sheybe the love dey help una foot una bills nah? Even if the wife gets a job things will never be the same. Even if the man gets a higher well paid job they will either hate him for the previous way he treated them or milk him more as money don come...

Parablesonmarble:


Result.....sir, you have successfully convinced and not confused us that love is never enough. There are other very important factors to consider before jumping into marriage, including but not limited to your financial capability, emotional maturity of all parties involved and level of understanding of key people involved.
On behalf of the panel of judges, I announce that you have won. Debate over and case closed. Gbam.

elektra:
You and Your family are a bunch of entitled clowns.

Why should your husband be paying your parents salary? Are they his employees? What are they doing for him? Your mouth did not even heavy you to ask, seeing as you are a not bringing in any income. Your head is not correct at all.

Your father sef! When he was insisting on >500K he did not think of the future. Now the same fate has befallen his son. Shame did not catch him to demand money from his in-law? Your father is a shameless man.

Jeffrey12:
Nairalanders, What's your take on this?
What would have been your reaction towards this matter, If you were the husband?

https://twitter.com/SmartAtuadi/status/1272275117280759810?s=19

BABANGBALI:
don't mind her and her family. Na so them dey kill young men all in the name of marriage

Anuoluwa1234:
This story is very dumb.. and it shows the lady's family HV a low self esteem, in which they see their female children as investment and survival .
If you no marry, won't Ur brother pay his own marriage list.. this is a foolish thinking..
And what has the husband, with her brother.. what is the relationship btw weyrey and Asinwin .
If Ur family needs a means of survival, then the father shud go out and work . Don't drain another man's son dry.
As I start reading, I know na Igbo tribe..
U kule kuku kill him.
Fools everywhere, .. u think it is easy

Ghostmode2two:
. The family nor get shame at all. Even the brother that wants to marry is not ready. Make he dey wait for community effort before he marry

Mstick:
What kind of shameless family is this? Since your brother doesn't have money to sponsor his own wedding isn't it obvious that he shouldn't be getting married?!

Calling your husband irresponsible because he refused to bear your brother's responsibility shows that the entitled mentality of your family is hereditary.

WHITELIGHTER:
I sent this same story to my gf....do you know what?she called the man a stingy man that can't send ordinary 120k to help his bro-inlaw. She went further to ask me if I'm such man....I just ended the relationship there and then. I can't marry a woman with such selfish and self-centered mentality.