Iamdboss:
Sex is overrated...
U will get tired of it in no time

e go hungry u again na

4ckz:
I will really need the input of married men and women on this thread.

So yesterday at the bar, you know, ashawo bar, I sat in the same table with a married man, looked early 40's to me. He got drunk and got all chit chat with me.

He told me that he actually picked up ashawo life style after marriage, told me his wife always used sex as a bargaining chip early in their marriage, and often looked for the slightest reason not to have sex.

He said his first time cheating was after his first child, that his wife refused his touch for more than 3 months, he got to cheat with one of his colleagues at work (lest I forget, the man is well learned and rich too, I could get this from his fluency in English and his car).

The affair almost cost him his marriage. When mata cast, everyone blamed him, but he couldn't tell them how his wife deprived him of sex. He was later forgiven by the wife and the marriage continued.

According to him, before long the wife went back to her style of sexual deprivation, was only active when they wanted children. He did mention that he doesn't think the wife cheated, he has monitored her, and as far as he could tell, the wife was an always at home type of woman, and according to him was a good woman apart from the sex thing.

Before long he went back to cheating again, and that was when he started ashawo life style, he choose not to have a relationship with anyone again because of the threat it posed to his marriage.

He said he is sure his wife knows of his ashawo life style, but never talked about it for the sake of peace, and he has been living like that for more than 10 yrs, and their sex life though not dead comes once in a while, few times in a year.

He advised me that if I should cheat, that I should never keep a relationship with anyone, that I should try as much as possible to make it just about sex. Me that's planning to never cheat on my wife.

So married men, do your wives ever keep you for months without sex?

Also do husbands deprive their wives of sex?

I don't think I can even bear 1 month without, like, I must be lashing my wife like thrice a week to say the least. I am much more scared that since my life is like this now, maybe cheating would be inevitable for me.

So married people, how do you deal with sexual deprivation from your spouse, and is it even possible not to cheat?

What of the health threat to your spouse that comes with it?

. Are you saying the man is an Ashawo?? What is 'Ashawo lifestyle'

The man is just a failed husband who will give her wife herpes in the Future!!

He is a Hypocrite!!!

kurlz:


No matter the compatibility,when a woman just put to bed,her body needs some time. So what will the man do in those period?
Not less than a period of one month I'm sure.

For some of us, that craves for it every day
One month is like one year

misreal:
Well.ayam not yet married, but i have warned my babe that she must never deny me of it oh

What do you expect her to say?

lefulefu:
some men of God will condemn this statement of yours that sex is not everything in marriage and that u get married by faith

Well I dont mean the practical aspect. Just discuss it verbally as Christians since you're not allowed to practicalize it. I dont see anything wrong in that.

J111333:
Some women actually find sex boring but after certain experiences, that can be reversed. Some of them are even bisexual without knowing it.
I've met quite a few, the man needs to spice up their bed sessions a bit and with time, na the woman go begin dey pull down his pants sef.

Visiting ashawo joint is an irresponsible thing to do as a man.

I guess you aren't married so,you won't understand.

Why will ur wife not want to have sex with her husband, why did they get married in d first place. It could be the man is not good on bad, 99% of men out there chit, the wife hv just room for the man to chit

Eulalia:


Well I dont mean the practical aspect. Just discuss it verbatim as Christians since you're not allowed to practicalize it. I dont see anything wrong in that.

can u even discuss the issue of sex in marriage with a pastor in the first place?
he will tag u a sinner
i agree with ur statement though that ppl who get married should try and know if they sexually compactable.There many ladies who get married to men they find highly unattactrative..many hook up with such men cos of money or they feel their biological clock is ticking away.wen they get married to such men its natural to refuse the man sex

eni4real:
. Are you saying the man is an Ashawo?? What is 'Ashawo lifestyle'

The man is just a failed husband who will give her wife herpes in the Future!!

He is a Hypocrite!!!

I was also bordered about the health implications, but the man in his words have been like that for more than 10 years.

Ogbuu101:

I guess you aren't married so,you won't understand.

Understand what? Lack of self control? Abegi!

Read the post very well..the man in qtn cheated cos he was deprived of sex 4rm the wife..

Asadujames202:




Mama Kemi!
are you hearing this?

My blookos must be serviced every 3 days

naso e suppose be narr

You guys were obviously in a relationship and you've both heard past sexual experience.

It appears odd for a Christian

Eulalia:



I concurr. Try to find out your sexual compatibility before you leap. Discuss it.

I remember discussing with a bro and he stylishly delved into that area and asked If I like it so much and can do it so so number of times. I told him point blank, hell no! So from further discussion, I deduced hes the type that likes it so much and would want it every now and then and I on the other hand dont have the strength for such. That was how we maturely ended the whole thing. I can't deal. He too can't endure. So its better we look for our type . Very key.

Funkyswagzz:
Look b4 u leap my friend before u say I made a mistake getting married to her.. there are loads of women out there who are willing to give u sex anytime any day as far u keep her happy. Don't mind that guy he is the one who put himself in that mess.

How did you know this?

4ckz:


I was also bordered about the health implications, but the man in his words have been like that for more than 10 years.

He needs to put his family together!
Bedding prostitutes is lame!

im here to read comments.

i will comment later

It's really not an easy thing especially if you're a public figure who sees people or customers all the time. Today Abuja tomorrow owerri and another day New York or Ontario. This is only possible with one thing...self discipline. I've never seen pretty babes like those in America and Nigeria is next. As a married man, it's not been easy taking eyes off them but if you can discipline yourself, you could overcome this. If you're feeling Hot and home seems far away, open your tab or phone and read a few words of God and pray. At times, I do vigil in my hotel room while I'd be hearing some echoes from other rooms in the dead hours of the night with serious screaming.

When you read the word of God and pray, you'd not know when such evil thoughts would disappear. This is a serious issue nowadays. While at home, your wife would provoke you, she'd nag and you'd feel like looking outside. Without discipline, you can't overcome the temptation. Any married man who says it's not an issue is lying. This method has helped me a lot...my opinion

The 2 reasons for sex deprivation in marriage for women is

1) No emotional connection.
Many women are not so expressive about hurts or offense with their husbands & keep a lot inside without resolving them. It kills any sexual attraction to their husband. Sex is emotional for women. Unlike men dt are turned on easily.

2) No sexual pleasure
A lot of women do not get any pleasure from sex as their husbands do not give them an orgasm. Thrrefore frequent marital sex becomes another chore they want to get out of & just sleep (especially if they have little children).

These are the 2 reasons for Sex deprivation in marriages all over the world. black, white, brown, yellow.

[quote author=lefulefu post=91180710]

can u even discuss the issue of sex in marriage with a pastor in the first place?
he will tag u a sinner

lol.. Thats not true. Most pastors are romantic than even regular men. I once courted a pastor so I know. Very romantic guys. Deeper life men too are romantic o. I have one pestering me now and he talks about everything but we know where to draw the line. Only comma is that they are not fire fire bothers like RCCG.

i agree with ur statement though that ppl who get married should try and know if they sexually compactable.

There many ladies who get married to men they find highly unattactrative..many hook up with such men cos of money or they feel their biological clock is ticking away.wen they get married to such men its natural to refuse the man sex

lol thats bad though.

In a marriage, sex is one of those things couples should sort out as a man or woman depriving the other from it send a message which the other might misinterprete.

The truth is men has to be the one pushing for sex mostly but as a woman depriving him of it for a good reason is acceptable and you need to make him understand.

Although some women purposely deprive their husbands to reasons best known to them, I would tell you the truth it's totally wrong, if you are trying to avoid pregnancy it's not a crime to use contraceptive or contraceptive drugs (see a doctor for the drugs) and also if you don't get the fun in it try do some research on how to make it fun for you and your partner.

Another thing is this, I have seen some women who even treat their husbands to it not because of money or anything but just for fun and to increase the bond they shared.

I don't know about others but for me it's totally wrong to deprive your partner sex for months or weeks, Atleast 2-3 days is okay but you should be truthful and let your partner understands you.

Thanks this is my own opinion

jaxxy:


U can’t handle one woman’s wahala u want to carry 3 women? Asin marry them? Do u like ur self at all?

Concubines wud be better bt it’s also wrong and has its own issues.

Op u plan on never cheating on ur wife bt u spend ur time at ashawao beer palour doing what? Watch premiership. Keep day dreaming.

This is a phase that I believe that I would pass through with time.
I don't really have the time or the zeal for a relationship now, there are things I have to accomplish and I can't add relationship drama to my very tight schedule.

Meanwhile, man must nak, and since I have the money, na to dey nak dey go.
When it's time to build a life with a woman, I will try my best to stop this.

[quote author=Eulalia post=91180864][/quote] deeper life..romantic
abeg i no wan laugh

4ckz:
I will really need the input of married men and women on this thread.

So yesterday at the bar, you know, ashawo bar, I sat in the same table with a married man, looked early 40's to me. He got drunk and got all chit chat with me.

He told me that he actually picked up ashawo life style after marriage, told me his wife always used sex as a bargaining chip early in their marriage, and often looked for the slightest reason not to have sex.

He said his first time cheating was after his first child, that his wife refused his touch for more than 3 months, he got to cheat with one of his colleagues at work (lest I forget, the man is well learned and rich too, I could get this from his fluency in English and his car).

The affair almost cost him his marriage. When mata cast, everyone blamed him, but he couldn't tell them how his wife deprived him of sex. He was later forgiven by the wife and the marriage continued.

According to him, before long the wife went back to her style of sexual deprivation, was only active when they wanted children. He did mention that he doesn't think the wife cheated, he has monitored her, and as far as he could tell, the wife was an always at home type of woman, and according to him was a good woman apart from the sex thing.

Before long he went back to cheating again, and that was when he started ashawo life style, he choose not to have a relationship with anyone again because of the threat it posed to his marriage.

He said he is sure his wife knows of his ashawo life style, but never talked about it for the sake of peace, and he has been living like that for more than 10 yrs, and their sex life though not dead comes once in a while, few times in a year.

He advised me that if I should cheat, that I should never keep a relationship with anyone, that I should try as much as possible to make it just about sex. Me that's planning to never cheat on my wife.

So married men, do your wives ever keep you for months without sex?

Also do husbands deprive their wives of sex?

I don't think I can even bear 1 month without, like, I must be lashing my wife like thrice a week to say the least. I am much more scared that since my life is like this now, maybe cheating would be inevitable for me.

So married people, how do you deal with sexual deprivation from your spouse, and is it even possible not to cheat?

What of the health threat to your spouse that comes with it?

Baba wan dey lah him wife three times a week. lmao

i just pray never to experience sexual depravation from my wife if I even get married...

J111333:
Some women actually find sex boring but after certain experiences, that can be reversed. Some of them are even bisexual without knowing it.
I've met quite a few, the man needs to spice up their bed sessions a bit and with time, na the woman go begin dey pull down his pants sef.

Visiting ashawo joint is an irresponsible thing to do as a man.

Your opinion is myopic.

Do you know some women will not allow their husbands to have sex with them until he bribes them with money? Stop making conclusive statements as if you have seen it all.

Emmanuelcann:
Sex as a weapon and bargaining chip, it's inevitable! Do you expect that things will always be smooth and rosy in a marriage? No? So do you expect that a woman will be happy to engage in love making with a husband who has offended her one way or another?
Marriage for a man is a time to learn that you can't always have what you want - unless you are a polygamist. Learn self control!

This is stupîd...

Rhymeyjohn:
You guys were obviously in a relationship and you've both heard past sexual experience.

It appears odd for a Christian

What appears odd? So if the bro has a baby size P, you'll not ask and go and end up with baby penis? Or if the sister has fallen boobs you'll not use style to find out by asking her how perky they are. I'm sorry if I'm sounding too raw tonight buh.. Hmm. Ok.

Where's Shibaraba sef. Com chuk mouth for this matter

to be honest with you, my wife don't deprive and I don't

it's madness to be married and you ll be acting that shit to each other

sometimes I sleep in another room just to av more space but if she needs me she comes if I do I go meet her ..... me I nor understand a these deprivation and bargaining.... unless u marry a slut, who has had wild premarital sex experience
besides sex in marriage becomes boring once in a while and u both focus on some higher needs, like getting more money changing ur wardropes diet and even living condition all of which requires energy and concentration

that man may av married all these classic women from upper class upbringing cos most of them are like tele novellas. u av to watch them season after season

But I doubt all these middle class and lower sex starved madoo crazy bobos go discharge sex

them go even mix chemical to bang

that man may have picked apple from d wrong tree

If you are wise as a woman, you should never use sex as a weapon to pusnish your man

How can yr wife deny you sex for so long..you too share the blame..it means youre not romantic.

If yu slap her yansh every time u see her in the house..play bite her pelvic bone..suck her earlobes..shes already laughing and getting turned on

lefulefu:
deeper life..romantic
abeg i no wan laugh

Lol.. What do you understand by romantic? they are o. Its not about talking dirty but they are good with calling sweet pet names and treating you like a queen. Buh what I dont fancy is their jelenke prayer life. They make good husbands. I lived in their midst growing up and the married ones made me start yearning for marriage quite early in life. They are good.
Lefulefu stop laughing jor

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