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Galaticos444:
Dis happens wen u marry 4rm a poor family and d lady is d 1st child

completely true

1StopRudeness:
The brother knows all that is going on.....he planned it together with the wife to frustrate the guy .....he doesn’t want to settle the guy again... we’ve seen worse...
....he just pretending to be neutral....how can they throw ur brother’s mattress in the rain and u won’t say anything.......
If U check well, they might not be siblings.... igbos like to call people from same village or compound their brother.....
No sane guy should disown his brother that’s been living with him since he was 15years old becos he wants a small apartment...is that not what will eventually happen...

You get sense bros

hisgrace090:
Your observation about his brother is right, 8 years is not 8 months.

the op's brother is the main problem.

In anything you do, do not, I repeat, do not leave that house. If it's a tenant issue and you decided to move out for peace, then that is commendable, but not in a case like this where your brother affair is at stake. Leaving the flat for them is winning the battle, but the main war, you have allowed her to win. When a thief threatens you with death to surrender your assets, it's advisable to surrender, but of course, he is interested in your assets, and not concerned if you're smart to surrender. It's a similar case, don't leave that house.

What is happening to your brother happened to my uncle, but it was his mother (my grandma) against my uncles' wife and sisters. She was tormenting my grandma until she left her sons house for the sake of peace, and that was when she unleashed her demon on my uncle. He was a good man, but ungodly women do not see good people but see ripe victims. To cut the matter short, they are separated and their kids transferred between them like chicken, they suffer the brunt.

The first mistake you made was to slap her younger sister. Never hit a woman, with the only exception of self-defence. If any of her sisters touch you, then beat (not fight) her real good. Women do not operate on physical violence, those are a male thing. You've given them a reason to unleash their anger on you with the excuse that you slapped one of them, which you should have avoided. Right now, you have to be your brother's invincible armour, since he is obviously weak. Stop eating her food, or sharing any edible things with them. Buy an inflatable mattress to use when you wanna sleep, and talk with them only when absolutely necessary.

If it happens that there is any pandemonium that ensued between you guys in the future, it should not be started by you, but you should respond appropriately. They should effectively be invincible to you, starve them off conflict and attention, while your presence implicitly sending a clear message via your action that you're here to stay, and your occupancy is not something they have power over. Your presence is enough to destroy whatever plan they have, while at the same time, not giving her a reason to convince your husband why you should leave.

As for your brother, perhaps he is a good man, but a weak one. He should have at best, assist the two sisters to get a place to stay and not bring them over to his place. Good luck

veave:
K.

He is right. You only succeeded in spilling trash.

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

Your brother wife brought her sisters to drive you away from the house.

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

One sided advice.
What do u mean by don't touch a woman
Even if a younger woman in d house purposely spit on my face or slap me
I will surely make her not to forget that day in a hurry.

Heathrow44:
completely true

Heathrow44:
Hmm I would av said this comment is good till I saw d likes and the outrageous comment she made. Firstly if u want privacy go and rent ur own bloody apartment this is to the silly comment she made about women needing privacy, such a silly comment, no 2. She said no matter d grievances don't touch a woman, lemme tell u madam, no matter d grievances don't touch anybody weda man or woman, stop this nonsense mentality of always protecting the women which they av now abused, the women should start t respect themselves if they don't want t be beaten as simple as that, No 3 she's trying to say is OK for d wife to bring her sis to her matrimonial home but not d Hubby's broda, pls madam u re silly with that, the wife shouldn't even bring her in-laws talk more of sisters to her home, and the hubby should try and watch d boy's behaviour and those sisters of the girl is high time they look for their own husbands and get out of her sisters husband and home, nonsense! Every other things has a good tune to it!

Na man u be

Championxxx:
Thanks I agree with you because he promised to settle me when I am 25 years old with a huge amount of money to start up my own business and then he changed his mind that he has had spent a lot of money during his wedding and building his house that he don’t think he will be able to settle me again in 2 years time that I should wait when I am 28-30 he will give me double of the amount he promised me . But the way things are going I don’t think I will get anything from him I can only leave for the village I don’t have any trusted friend to stay with in Abuja I also don’t have any money to rent my own place , village is my only option . Yes he is my blood brother we are 5 in total 2 boys and 3 girls he is our first born and I am the last

Ajumobi o kan tanu, eni oluwa ran si ni seni lore. Guy! Trust in God and not man. I was once in your shoes. I will cry to God everyday to make way for me. Where I am today is better. Do not trust anybody.

LadySarah:
We manipulate always. ;DThe question is whether it is for good or bad.
Igbo will say a family that has only one rich man has nobody. The reason is that if he should fall everybody is affected.

When I noticed it in my husband's place, I insisted that something should be done.

If she was wise she would encourage her husband so this young man can become useful to his family. In the long run, the burden on the husband will be less.

i'm just knowing that for the first time. May not be true though

Fhemmmy:
Ain't you working and making a living or you only help him at the shop without any compensation?

You have been so annoying with nonsense questions since. Is it so difficult to comprehend the little passage up there? He is an apprentice of a trade, hence he is not paid and get a token of #3000 at most once a while. Haven't you heard about Igbo style of setting up an apprentice learning a business/trade with them before? What exactly are you driving at? The young man is passing through some hard times already, all these your JAMB questions wouldn't solve his problem. I don't think his story sounds like he is at fault in any way. He was with the brother before the privileged strangers came in the name of in-laws.

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

... I have advice for you if you have mind... behave like a sheep and Bleep the two sisters till they get pregnant... put everyone in to shame... especially your brothers wife and their parent for not taking responsibility

SecretSpy666:
Your brother is a very stupid man. How can he stop greeting you when he knows that his wife and sisters are against you. When they put your mattress inside rain, a reasonable man will make sure he punish whoever did that.

How can a reasonable man allow his wife to come to his house with two younger sisters. Who does that. I'm a married man and can never take that. My wife invited her younger sister to my house after two years of marriage, when the girl started disrespecting my younger brother who is living with me, I sent her out of my house and warned her never to even step my house again. My wife threatened fire and brimstone and I told her she is free to go. She cool down by herself

My advice for you:
If you have any money with you, travel back to the village and work hard to make it. Leave your brother and his foolishness. Your brother should never stop greeting you because of his wife's sister. Only a weak and foolish man do that

Men are talking not the woman wrapper that have been saying shit.

One question for you, Do you have money to rent an apartment for yourself and feed yourself if Yes Do. if no endure for a while and be kind to even your enemies if you go back to the village you will cry by the time you heard your brother is dead. Your brother loves you and he does not want to offend you and his wife he is playing safe. though to me he was manly when he insist you should lie on the sofa when the wife think otherwise

fieryy:
Finally, the comment I've been waiting for! They all should be kicked out.

hmmm madam no nonsense

Your brother is weak in settling the matter. So, you have to be a man and move on peacefully.

akpota:
Op heed dis advice. Treat those ladies especially d 24. Take them out 4 small shopping, dem go dey feel ur absent self. Respect ur bros wife. Also try get savings 4rm d 5k ur bro dey dash u.

Don't heed to this. This is the most useless advice so far.

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

God punish that girl wey go try come between me and my brother..... Where was she when I was suffering with my brother..... Metchwwww........ Na my brother's comfort first before anyone oo..

Worksunlimited:
You see it is that no. 3 that spoils you women..

You people too, no matter what don't challenge a man, don't raise your voice at him and no do pass yourself..

I am tired of boys masturbating over this point 3.
If you can be very honest, I'll like you to answer these questions:

Pls can you, in all sincerity, slap:

1. Your female Boss in the office who verbally assaults you and ridicules every genuine effort you make for the company, treating your sweat as trash? CAN YOU!

2. A uniformed female personnel, armed or not, who rains invectives on you? CAN YOU?

3. Your mum, who in the heat of a misunderstanding, exposes your life history to your face, not minding the presence of possible strangers around? CAN YOU?

4. Your elder/younger sister in her husband's house or in the presence of her husband? And Devil help you if she is married to a military man? CAN YOU!

There are more examples I can give, but please be honest with your answers.

Championxxx:
No he doesn’t pay me any salary but he provide for my needs he buys me clothes , foods , airtime sometimes he give me 5k ,3k but no more than that

You see those 5k, 3k your brother is giving you, I'll advice you to start saving in earnest o.

Anything fit happen one day, best to be prepared.

Report him to ur parents or sisters. Tell them all wot u told us. That he does not want to settle u. Whatever u do don't leave of ur own accord...bear it till he settles u.

Championxxx:
They were doing all this to frustrate me I think she brought them to the house with a mission to frustrate me so I can leave , the funny part is they don’t come to clean only to watch tv and making all kind of noises to disturb my sleep and if I am awake they will go back to their room to sleep till noon. These girls has never help around the house when I am around , I do everything mopping , sweeping , washing dishes when they around pressing phone my brother doesn’t say anything to them. I asked him if he is right for me to do all these chores when we have his wife sisters at home , he said before he married I was the one doing it and why am now I complaining , I told because it doesn’t sound right for me to be doing chores when the girls are busy pressing phone, anyway there is more but not everything is good to say on social media. If he refuse renting a place for me I think I will go back to the village because I am short tempered I don’t want to stay in the same house with that mannerless small girl because I don’t want to do something stupid that will land me to prison for life . I prefer to be in the village than staying somewhere where I am not comfortable

Just pack your things and leave! believe it or not you will not win this war, tell your brother to fu ck off! and leave his bloody house for him, like some people would say, is he God? trust me once you leave the house he will come find and beg you besides are you his slave? what kinda rubbish brother lets his wife's sister slap his brother? your brother is an idiot!

Forget about them, nobody should deter you in your quest for happiness in life, because if ur brother really loves you, am sure he will understand what u are passing through




## Live your life

Championxxx:
Thanks I agree with you because he promised to settle me when I am 25 years old with a huge amount of money to start up my own business and then he changed his mind that he has had spent a lot of money during his wedding and building his house that he don’t think he will be able to settle me again in 2 years time that I should wait when I am 28-30 he will give me double of the amount he promised me . But the way things are going I don’t think I will get anything from him I can only leave for the village I don’t have any trusted friend to stay with in Abuja I also don’t have any money to rent my own place , village is my only option . Yes he is my blood brother we are 5 in total 2 boys and 3 girls he is our first born and I am the last

You're between a rock and a hard place
Damned if you do and damned if you don't.

You're just 23. Your life is still before you. You can start from the scratch and build you lofe
I'm sure of it. Especially as you're not sure your brother intends to even settle you eventually.

Go to the village. You will make it

jubrilELsudan:
YOUR BROTHER'S WIFE IS A WINTCH.

HER SISTERS ARE WINTCHES.

THEIR WHOLE FAMILY ARE WINTCHES.

YOUR BROTHERS WIFE WILL END UP KILLING HIM.

SHE IS CONTROLLING YOUR BROTHER SPIRITUALLY THATS WHY HE CANT BE A MAN AND HANDLE HIS WIFE AND SISTERS AND PUT HIS HOUSE IN ORDER.

True talk

Championxxx:
Thanks ma I agree with you, I think the reason why his wife carry his sisters to the house is because she wanted me out that is why they had been treating me bad so I can leave the house for them

Please leave the house for them and go hustle either in the village or anywhere. God will help. For your brother refusing to greet you is the highest level of foolishness. Please leave. Don't carry his properties when you are leaving and make sure you let him know when you are leaving. If possible tell someone in the village that you are planning to leave your brother house so that he will not lie to them that you run away with his money

lol jajaja

AgamaProf:
True talk

Championxxx:
No he doesn’t pay me any salary but he provide for my needs he buys me clothes , foods , airtime sometimes he give me 5k ,3k but no more than that

Why not get a job that pays you. Learn a trade, give yourself a short while and move out

From all indication, u did not welcome those two girls, they would have rather love u and always hang around you and playing with you. They know u dont want them, that is why all this trouble is coming.

I am in same kind of situation as yours but mine is that I'm a graduate yet to get a job so to keep body and soul together, I do menial jobs while still searching for better work and hustle,I live with my elder brother for about a year plus without having issues till he brought in the girl he's about to marry when she got pregnant.
She was giving me all kind of attitude and always complains to my brother on anything I do but as a gentleman I am, I studied her character and just ignore everything she does, Due to how I ignore things or just walk away she gets bitter the more..
She made me and my bro had serious issue although my bro later apologized to me later on.
All what I do and will advice you to do is just ignore and walk away although it's kinda hard because atimes u feel the urge to insult back or create a scene but what I always tell myself is that it's just a matter of time ''This too shall pass'..


Ignore all bro it's only a matter of time..