| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by timocruzcmbb(m): 12:55am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Not all that glitter is GOLD.just stay with you boyfriend and forget any distractions. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by FluxEmpire(m): 12:56am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Jaqenhghar:
Nobody here can tell you what is right and what is wrong. If you feel this guy is worth taking a shot with , go for it. If it doesn't work out dont beat yourself. Everything na risk If she come get belle for the new guy wey him com dump am, you go gree marry her and take care of d pikin? Nor say no coz as u talk am, everything na risk; make you sef risk am. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by BluntTheApostle(m): 1:07am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
You met your boyfriend 6 months ago. Then, you met another guy 3 months ago and developed feelings. Very soon, you will meet another guy. You know what the truth is? I will tell you. You are not ready to commit to any relationship. You still want to explore. I will advise that you stay off relationships for now. Because if you continue like this, you may end up in regrets before you are ready to commit. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by doris4u(f): 1:11am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Babe the new guy will definitely have good qualities because he is still new to u, wat makes you think he is even better than ur boyfriend. They come like Angels at first then later u will realize their only demons that are waiting to devour you. Think before you act !!! 1 Like |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by NiCurious: 1:13am On Aug 01, 2020 |
You're distracted by the new and shiny.
As stated severally by others, a relationship is held together by the choice and will of those in it. Observe your own behaviour. The guy says he's no longer available to you--so now you want him more than ever. You seemed content with your boyfriend, before you met this guy. Has he changed? Or are you just whiling away your time with him? If so, why are you wasting his time, then?
Supposing you dump your boyfriend for this new guy.
(a) You date until one of you gets distracted by somebody else, new and shiny.
(b) He's just playing you, making you want him by making himself unavailable, then he uses you once and dumps you.
(c) Maybe your boyfriend is testing your loyalty with him. Think about that. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by JayNok(m): 1:14am On Aug 01, 2020 |
This girl sound like hope but the p is silent in the weekends 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by cooooooks(m): 1:16am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Have you ever had a steady relationship?
When you join this new guy and a new guy with "better qualities" comes along, what will happen then? |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by PoliticallyInco: 1:18am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Two things control human behaviour: 1. Instinct 2. Reasoning or Higher Intelligence. Humans when born, first learn and act on instinct. Instinct make us behave more like the lower animals. We see a male with a bigger "mane" and we want to mate with that male. We see a female with a broader hips and fuller body and we want to "impregnate" them. Just like every animal. Then there is reasoning. Step on a snake and instinct makes it in such a way that you will bitten 100 out of 100 times. But step on a human and you will get various responses but hardly a fatality. Humans can think before they act. A lion is hungry, sees a meal and instinct makes the lion kill it and eats it. A human is hungry sees a meal and asks who has this food? Can I have some? Was it properly made? Is it from Mama Caro? No o, I don't eat her food. Etc. Reasoning is what allows us think as humans. This is what we have that other animals don't. This is what sets up apart as an Animal Of Higher Intelligence. So, listen your behaviour and feelings are not strange. Do not let anyone deceive you that your feelings set you apart as strange or deranged or ungrateful. People are just hypocrites that want to be seen as saints as often as possible. Those in relationships see people far better than their mates. However, you have to have the reasoning ability to understand that this is normal occurrence and there are guys out there that even have more than the new guy. There are guys that are more handsome, richer, will even take care of you better than he can and you can dream. Now when this happens. When you meet a lot of these guys what will you do? Dump this one and jump to the next? Or lie to yourself that "God this is the last one"? Now, Let me make something clear to you. Forget all that bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh bullshit. That "made/ordianed in heaven for each other" crap. On earth there are many people you can get happily married to OR be happily in love with. Whenever you are ready you search within the possible areas of influence and sphere of activities you make a choice. If you don't like the choices you keep searching and expanding this until you find the requirements you want. But note that when you choose to finally select someone who meets the criteria as at that time society expects that you please stay with the option. Listen, temptations will never end. But if you feel this guy will treat you better and has better plans for the future which works for you both, then give it a shot. Now the question is what do you even want from these relationships? Towards what goal? Dating experience? Marriage? Just having company? Is he worth the wait and the trouble? This will determine if you should simply end it with your current boyfriend or stick with him. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by FluxEmpire(m): 1:27am On Aug 01, 2020 |
humilitypays:
Ladies are their own problem.
relationship is not marriage. Until a guy pays your full dowry, you don't owe him any explanation to walk away or fvck another sweeter dick.
Why must u seek for permission from others to date a guy u find attractive for your taste.
We guys are hypocrites, we make too much noise, we want ladies to be what we can never be.
Can that your boyfriend swear that he hasn't fvcked other chicks since u guys started dating And if he says yes he has not, then he is broke, ugly, not classy 
You better your eyes and explore, guys do same. Don't listen to guys opinion on this cos we are hypocrites, we want ladies not to double date while dating us but we fourtiple abi fiftiple date and heavens haven't fell.
Don't break up with your boyfriend, just flow along with both of them and stop brandishing one yeye boy that have not paid your bride price in the name of girlfriend boyfriend that most times don't lead to anywhere good at the end!!
You mustn't tell every guy you meet that you have a boyfriend, you ladies are demarketing yourselves by doing that. You are single until you are legally married!!! If you were the first boyfriend, she cheats on you with the new guy, contracts a deadly disease from him and use Xender to pass it to you...I'm sure you'd happily take it like that's life. It's your type who end up becoming motivational speakers or pastors after life's hit you on the wrong side. Instead of you better telling her to be single than to put herself and everyone on an emotional trauma ride, you're advising her to hold onto her boyfriend and still go along with the new. That's fvking greed. That's the best advise you'd have given her if she was your sis; right? Ride 2 cars at the same time... Gaddamnit!!! The reason why I go lone wolf when it comes to having male friends...they'd be better off just knowing I've got a woman/sister/cousin than them actually seeing her. |
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| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by drdanny(m): 1:42am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Hmmmmmmmm... Sounds very familiar... |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by koladata(m): 1:52am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Date both of all of them, its called polyamory |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Ikjosh04: 2:00am On Aug 01, 2020 |
donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.
You see this?
You see this?
And this?
And this too....
You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.
The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!! It's well. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Nobody: 2:01am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Hoes ain't ever gon' be loyal. There will always be someone else more beautiful/ handsome , wealthy, hot, better and more exciting than ur current partner but the ability to stick through it all together in all transparency with dedicated loyalty is what commitment is about. And OP has none of that. I bet after a while this new guy go tire u and what will u do then... Ohh yeah u will jump on the newest dick in sight as usual. My ancestor King Solomon has always been right... I'm yet to find that true woman not even one 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by stayclearofme: 2:01am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Please don't dissuade those that want to offer their opinions.
This is my story and it's not fake. You are very selfish and wicked. One man cannot satisfy you, it is people like you that commit adultery after marriage....olosho. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Vello(m): 2:02am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Firstly, Never repeat again you love the first guy. You don't. Secondly, let's wait to see how soon you also find another guy with better qualities than the second guy. Thirdly, it's evidently evident your heart is unstable. I pray you don't lose a good man for a mere mirage. So help you God |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by ikorodureporta: 2:04am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Did you ask him if any girl is around him with all his swag... & you're only thinking of dumping a serious guy u'v known.
Na bcoz of this kyne longthroat guyz use & dump ladies |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by stayclearofme: 2:05am On Aug 01, 2020 |
ikorodureporta:
Did you ask him if any girl is around him with all his swag... & you're only thinking of dumping a serious guy u'v known.
Na bcoz of this kyne longthroat guyz use & dump ladies This one na confirm olosho! |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by mrkings84(m): 2:22am On Aug 01, 2020 |
It's not fair you stopped loving him while he is still there for you. But like u know, the choice is yours. My only advice is, learn to to be contented with one partner cos u will always see someone who appear nicer and more attractive and u will keep jumping from pillar to post! |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by samwash(m): 2:27am On Aug 01, 2020 |
@op, when you get married & you find a male collegue/ male friend attractive, so you will dump your husband.
From your story, it shows you are immature & can't control your emotions. Ladies like you na some guys dey decieve, go chop & clear mouth as he dey HOT. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by NamelessOGBENI(m): 2:30am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Whatever happen after, just know that we're glad it's coming from you and most of us ain't surprised one bit... |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by sholay2011(m): 2:32am On Aug 01, 2020 |
linked:
Don't be a door without a lock. It is clear that you are not committed to your present relationship. Now that's a big problem. It speaks more to your character than anything else. The problem is not whether you like the new guy more than your guy, but that you don't understand that commitment is essential for a healthy relationship.
Maybe you are not matured enough to know that in life you will always meet someone more interesting, more handsome, more wealthy, more nice than whoever you chose to date or marry. Las las I suspect you will end up a wretch if you do not discipline yourself with self control.
You should date or marry a person not because you have not found someone better than them. Rather it should be because you CHOSE to be with them. Even when you find someone better (which will definitely happen), it wouldn't matter to you. Wow...I learnt from this post. God bless you. 1 Like |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by DSHADOWWALKER: 2:34am On Aug 01, 2020 |
donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.
You see this?
You see this?
And this?
And this too....
You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.
The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!! You sound like a fool,so someone cannot develop feelings again?? Did she act on it?? |
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| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by ChengHun(m): 2:35am On Aug 01, 2020 |
It's better u Break up with ur bf now. d fact fact that you are falling for another guy indicates that ur love for ur bf isn't genuine, If d other guy really loves u I advise that u go for him and let ur bf move on. When u marry someone you don't genuinely love, d marriage will we eventually end in divorce |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Fucsheetup(f): 2:41am On Aug 01, 2020 |
donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.
You see this?
You see this?
And this?
And this too....
You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.
The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!! So many words, conveying large quantities of foolishness. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Fucsheetup(f): 2:44am On Aug 01, 2020 |
EricBloodAxe:
And another slut in nun clothing surfaces. That's how these hoes keep recycling dicks n spreading STDs to innocent, unsuspecting partners because of silly dumb stories like these.
You came here to get a reason to unleash your whorish tendencies while sugarcoating it with all manners of bunkum.
I pity your boyfriend because he obviously is on a blue pill. If he was red, he'd be done banging the shiit outta you and moved on to the next.
Disgusting slut like my mom!
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| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by asatemple(f): 2:46am On Aug 01, 2020 |
dukeprince50:
dont go and make up ur mind, be here doing DELAYtionship and decamping from one man to the other every three months till u turn 35,
dicey dice u there, Rubbish you have finished work |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Fucsheetup(f): 2:47am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Mgtowmonk:
only a fool takes any woman serious 
Women are useless..the sooner men internalize this fact the easier their life will get. Son of a useless woman. Your mom teach you that or are you just naturally asinine? |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by olaeffect(m): 2:52am On Aug 01, 2020 |
linked:
Don't be a door without a lock. It is clear that you are not committed to your present relationship. Now that's a big problem. It speaks more to your character than anything else. The problem is not whether you like the new guy more than your guy, but that you don't understand that commitment is essential for a healthy relationship.
Maybe you are not matured enough to know that in life you will always meet someone more interesting, more handsome, more wealthy, more nice than whoever you chose to date or marry. Las las I suspect you will end up a wretch if you do not discipline yourself with self control.
You should date or marry a person not because you have not found someone better than them. Rather it should be because you CHOSE to be with them. Even when you find someone better (which will definitely happen), it wouldn't matter to you. Nailed it. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Shopatcandice(f): 2:56am On Aug 01, 2020 |
You are still young. You don't know what you want. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Dagz007(m): 2:59am On Aug 01, 2020 |
#I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day#[color=#990000][/color]
If this story is true and one read through this extracted lines one would naturally understand what a kind of person this second guy is. We play good, look good, speaks good, smell good and appears in good conduct all these are our bait in catching our Target victim and once the hook is caught hey my whole-ly sister remember nobody serve worm to a fish in the net .
The secret of having it all is believing you already do. Your guy could be the real nigga and possibly you don't deserve one for now.
I know karma , it would serve you what you deserve.
Enjoy your Odyssey to the land unknown. LovePeddler |
