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I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:14pm On Aug 31, 2020
I am an introvert that is into programming and I work for companies from home. I became tired of all the gold diggers I was attracting because I discovered they are only looking for sponsors so for the first time I made up my mind to start approaching.

I saw a young lady walking towards me so I decided to start with her. I greeted her and immediately she answered I didn't know what to say next thing I said was are you coming from the gym and she said no and looked at me somehow only for me to stammer and then ask for her name she just ignored me and was pressing her phone.

It bad to be sitting indoors everyday I swear loneliness dey kill me.

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by YoungLionken(m): 6:14pm On Aug 31, 2020
It's a good start..

Try again next time...

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by chatinent: 6:17pm On Aug 31, 2020
If you aren't ready to settle down, save yourself the stress, bro. Time will tell.

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Humanoid01(m): 6:17pm On Aug 31, 2020
If you don't fail try, you won't know what to do next. At least you tried, you took the step. That's a sign that you're willing to step out of your comfort zone. It's not really easy bro, but it gets easier when you have someone who's willing to help you out. I was wondering, is it that you're naturally an introvert or you just have social anxiety?

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:19pm On Aug 31, 2020
Humanoid01:
If you don't fail, you won't know what to do next.
Wow it really exposed how weak I was with women

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:19pm On Aug 31, 2020
chatinent:
If you aren't ready to settle down, save yourself the stress, bro. Time will tell.
Na for you people o.

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:20pm On Aug 31, 2020
YoungLionken:
It's a good start.

Try again next time...
I will try sha

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Blackmoran(m): 6:22pm On Aug 31, 2020
welcome to the game, well done am proud of you, you don't have anything to be ashamed of first of all you have express yourself instead of you keeping mute and later on your bed your turn to imaginary screen writer.. secondly don't see it as a lost but rather the other way round. .. thirdly you will get more confidence by approaching girls, but let me warn you let say in a day you are to approach 10 girls the likelihood that 8 to 9 will turn you down is normal, when you asking a girl out don't be emotional about it just see it has having fun

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Kalatium(m): 6:26pm On Aug 31, 2020
Bro. I will advice you to read HARDDON's dating drills on this platform.

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by BuddhaPalm(m): 6:26pm On Aug 31, 2020
Jannuxajj:
I am an introvert that is into programming and I work for companies from home. I became tired of all the gold diggers I was attracting because I discovered they are only looking for sponsors so for the first time I made up my mind to start approaching. I saw a young lady walking towards me so I decided to start with her. I greeted her and immediately she answered I didn't know what to say next thing I said was are you coming from the gym and she said no and looked at me somehow only for me to stammer and then ask for her name she just ignored me and was pressing her phone. It bad to be sitting indoors everyday I swear loneliness dey kill me

This is good...

The lesson from this is that there is no danger at all. Nothing will happen if a girl rejects you.

If you look at it logically, you were not intimidated by the girl, but your brain "panicked". So you need to condition your brain to not see it as a big deal.

And you can do this by approaching many girls and showing your brain that you will not die. Then it'll calm down.

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:27pm On Aug 31, 2020
BuddhaPalm:


This is good...

The lesson from this is that there is no danger at all. Nothing will happen if a girl rejects you.

If you look at it logically, you were not intimidated by the girl, but your brain "panicked". So you need to condition your brain to not see it as a big deal.

And you can do this by approaching many girls and showing your brain that you will not die. Then it'll calm down.
Mmmm that's a good start

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Sage161(m): 6:28pm On Aug 31, 2020
Don't let your mind hold you back. Be positive and confident. Let me give you a hint - when next you converse with her, assume she likes you. It would automatically boost your confidence. Moreover don't think too much nor pretend. Just be yourself and be positive. But this your lady seem not to have regard sha. If she doesn't agree, move on. Don't try forcing her to accept you and don't pretend to get her. About all you can do in life is be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won't like you at all.


P. S - IF YOU JUST WANT TO BLEEP HER, ABEG DON'T EVEN READ MY ADVICE. . I DON'T ADVICE FUCKBOYS

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:29pm On Aug 31, 2020
Kalatium:
Bro. I will advice you to read HARDDON's dating drills on this platform.
I will try but the truth be say woman no dey my mind but konji one kill man

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by JOACHINpedro: 6:29pm On Aug 31, 2020
Nice one bro.
We move!

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:31pm On Aug 31, 2020
Blackmoran:
welcome to the game, well done am proud of you, you don't have anything to be ashamed of first of all you have express yourself instead of you keeping mute and later on your bed your turn to imaginary screen writer.. secondly don't see it as a lost but rather the other way round. .. thirdly you will get more confidence by approaching girls, but let me warn you let say in a day you are to approach 10 girls the likelihood that 8 to 9 will turn you down is normal, when you asking a girl out don't be emotional about it just see it has having fun
Wow bro. That your last sentence really made me feel better

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Kalatium(m): 6:34pm On Aug 31, 2020
Jannuxajj:

I will try but the truth be say woman no dey my mind but konji one kill man
Then you have no choice. Use this night and start reading. You won’t regret it.

https://www.nairaland.com/2893475/dating-drills-guys-only

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:34pm On Aug 31, 2020
Kalatium:
Then you have no choice. Use this night and start reading. You won’t regret it
Thanks alot bro
Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by HomerTimpson: 6:41pm On Aug 31, 2020
You try pass me o

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by SocialJustice: 6:51pm On Aug 31, 2020
Jannuxajj:
I am an introvert that is into programming and I work for companies from home. I became tired of all the gold diggers I was attracting because I discovered they are only looking for sponsors so for the first time I made up my mind to start approaching. I saw a young lady walking towards me so I decided to start with her. I greeted her and immediately she answered I didn't know what to say next thing I said was are you coming from the gym and she said no and looked at me somehow only for me to stammer and then ask for her name she just ignored me and was pressing her phone. It bad to be sitting indoors everyday I swear loneliness dey kill me
Too early to quit. Next time greet a girl and politely ask for her number. Then chat with her on WhatsApp for days to familiarise yourself. Take it up from there.

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:52pm On Aug 31, 2020
SocialJustice:
Too early to quit. Next time greet a girl and politely ask for her number. Then chat with her on WhatsApp for days to familiarise yourself. Take it up from there.
Thanks man

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 6:53pm On Aug 31, 2020
HomerTimpson:
You try pass me o
Hahaha you no mean am
Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by shawnfamous(m): 6:59pm On Aug 31, 2020
Bro u even try pass me.. I no even get guts to approach women for road.. Something must connect us before I go say I wan even follow person wey I nor know dey yarn

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by HomerTimpson: 7:11pm On Aug 31, 2020
Jannuxajj:
Hahaha you no mean am
i dey tell you bro
Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Jannuxajj(m): 7:15pm On Aug 31, 2020
shawnfamous:
Bro u even try pass me.. I no even get guts to approach women for road.. Something must connect us before I go say I wan even follow person wey I nor know dey yarn
I swear naso me sef be but loneliness wan kill me na why I determine

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Creeza(m): 7:25pm On Aug 31, 2020
No green light no approach. A basic rule which you failed.

anyways, next time dont stop ladies on the road. Go somewhere cool, maybe a spa, an eatery or a get together with friends. Dont rush, stop thinking about the game and become the fu*king trophy! Sooner or later, a lady will spot you(green lights) and you dont want to look depressed or out of place when she does. Now you may choose to approach. Work on you. become comfortable in your own skin.

And if you must stop a lady on the road, dont do it the first time you see her. One, it will create awkwardness, two, make you no go carry mami water enter house.

If na konji dae hold you, then a relationship is definately not what you want, try the ALLEN AVENUE girls. Your hood babes will be difficult to smash except you can assure them you wont "kiss and tell"

But mind you, they will tell their female friends if you prove reliable in keeping your little secret. Learn this and ladies will flock to you from all corners. And may GOD have mercy on your sceptic soul. cheesy

justli:


That basic rules seems to me the most important of them all...

You have to size up a girl before you ask her...every successful gamer knows this ... With experience you'll learn to spot girls your type from observation...

And I don't get how people find it comfortable flagging down a stranger on a busy road and try and ask them out
Very vital and overlooked by many.

I know some guys who actually get dates right off the streets but dude, you better be in a ride or strolling with guys who are all brushed up and clean for a stranger on the road to even give you a second of her time. For personal reasons I prefer to call those who do it alone regularly as the sigma male( The compliment of Alpha)

Heard stories of successful pick ups like these but they are very skilled in the craft. They are pros and the conversation is usually a brief one to just get contacts for follow up later.

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by PrinceOfEast(m): 7:30pm On Aug 31, 2020
When i start naso i dey fear woman..until i start to mingle with gees and go outings na there i start to get liver take talk to girls based on say my gees dey give me ot and moral....

bro, no fear any vagina...them no fit slap u (abi them dey mahd!) package urself, dey free around ladies and no dare make them realise say you dey fear! talk to them like say u dey talk to ur fellow man but put sugar for ur talk, just dey whine d babe and make her smile but if her head strong..abobi disembark....

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by PrinceOfEast(m): 7:33pm On Aug 31, 2020
Creeza:
No green light no approach. A basic rule which you failed.

anyways, next time dont stop ladies on the road. Go somewhere cool, maybe a spa, an eatery or a get together with friends. Dont rush, stop thinking about the game and become the fu*king trophy! Sooner or later, a lady will spot you and you dont want to look depressed or out of place when she does. Work on you. become comfortable in your own skin.

And if you must stop a lady on the road, dont do it the first time you see her. One, it will create awkwardness, two, make you no go carry mami water enter house.
Taaah!! Stop to dey yarn dust!....u fit run ur package anywhere and anytime....i don run babe for church and browse 4 her wifi d nxt day....na OT u need.

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Creeza(m): 7:42pm On Aug 31, 2020
PrinceOfEast:
Taaah!! Stop to dey yarn dust!....u fit run ur package anywhere and anytime....i don run babe for church and browse 4 her wifi d nxt day....na OT u need.
Not on the road and you probably better at the game than him. He is still not comfortable and less confident.

and dont quote me again. Your statement is stupid because you failed to understand the context of my post

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by Creeza(m): 7:45pm On Aug 31, 2020
PrinceOfEast:
When i start naso i dey fear woman..until i start to mingle with gees and go outings na there i start to get liver take talk to girls based on say my gees dey give me ot and moral....

bro, no fear any vagina...them no fit slap u (abi them dey mahd!) package urself, dey free around ladies and no dare make them realise say you dey fear! talk to them like say u dey talk to ur fellow man but put sugar for ur talk,
just dey whine d babe and make her smile but if her head strong..abobi disembark....

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by PrinceOfEast(m): 7:45pm On Aug 31, 2020
Creeza:
Not on the road and you probably better at the game than him. He is still not comfortable and less confident.

[s]and dont quote me again. Your statement is stupid because you failed to understand the context of my post[/s]
you just display your lack of home training.

it's a shame u'v parents.

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by careytommy37(m): 7:46pm On Aug 31, 2020
Congratulations. You have taken a very crucial first step cool

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Re: I Approached A Lady Today And I Was Disappointed In Myself. by PrinceOfEast(m): 7:47pm On Aug 31, 2020

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