Some men want that. Some women who want that will meet a man who wants that and they could go on to lead a nice life.

If the love is true, even if the man goes down financially, the woman will usually become extremely resourceful.

Plus in some climes, it is cheaper for the lower earner to provide child care than both working but 40%+ of their income goes to child care.

WeRblessed:
Sorry to say this as a woman, but please my brother, don't marry a woman without a job or handwork. If all she can offer is sex, cook and clean dump her!

WeRblessed:
Sorry to say this as a woman, but please my brother, don't marry a woman without a job or handwork. If all she can offer is sex, cook and clean dump her!

my dear,I told my mum dat I won't marry a liability, if she no get work she go get handwork.
My mum just say who tell u say na by dat 1,sm fit get handwork n nor still contribute to d family. My eyes cm dey shine.last last,I resigned to leaving it in God's hands

virginprincess:
I said what i said because you guys are taking it like it a must that women must part of the family responsibility, it not suppose to be a must but choice, a woman money is not suppose to be shared.

Weytin Musa no go see for gate

Bobxin:



NAILED IT, GOD BLESS YOUR GENERATION FOR THIS COMMENT.

Amen

400billionman:
The funny thing with the ladies is immediately you want to strike a conversation with them, they will frown their faces. Once you drop a story and mention million in it, they start smiling at you.

This thing about sleeping with women after giving them food is true.

I was chatting up this young fed govt employee, she was just giving me negative responses. Saying stupid things that were degrading. I struck a date with her and fed her after work one day. For the first time in her life, she initiated a call to me.

I went home like a gentle man after the date. Next thing, she is in my house trying to sleep with me. Her girlfriend even texted her asking her if we have started the action. We were using her phone when the msg dropped. Meaning she informed her friend that she was going to sleep with a new guy.

Ladies.

Most girls dont have good priorities. The crave for comfort is what drives women. Stop blaming men for not getting married.

Wow.. I saw this thread on the day it was Posted but did not know it will be a hot debate for real..
I agreed with the Op 1000%..the ladies of today are leaches and they know how to prey on men.. The other day, I jus believe that marriages are the women's only accomplishments nowadays. And its jus like they had won a lottery.
The men who doesn't understand that the society had women as the major contender for marriage hadn't seen anything.
Nigerian men shd be wise, understand the game at play and leave any lady that is ALL AFTER THEIR MONEY..
The end result of all marriages now is kids abi.. But the ladies show affection to thier kids afterwards and leave the men to thier fate.. That is what happens afterwards..
We can't dig this holes till its elastic limit. Just do the one u can and move on

bjprodint:
I like number 2.I have been waiting for marriage for 9 years with 2 kids for him.this week I moved out with my kids and ran to my village,now he wants to pay bride price and me I no want marry again .and yes,his sister is also a free wife ,he wants to turn me to his sister.

Awww. You're a strong woman.

denjjy:
Nigeria is not just a country where a youth would think the next step to take is to lead a lady to the alter. if you must settle down as a youth in this country, you need to be financially and materially bouyant. I usually gets dejected anytime I think about been single at my age, but what will I do, I can't kill myself na. I've been deserted twice by ladies who I promised marraige but couldn't wait any longer because of the delay. Graduated since 2016 and still living in my parent's house, recieves #15000 monthly from a private firm, tell me; considering the hyper inflation in our country today and the bizarre cost of living, can #15000 cater for a family for a month? absolutely no. I know we are in this messful country together, let's hope 9ja go better one day

don't b dejected..nobi ur fault, mehn I don even analyze am.in my own case,it won't b possible but 1tin is for sure,I don start another way,which I believe say I fit dey use am see light.try Google n find out how u fit hammer with cryto currencies gather d money, try osusu,u fit use am do forex...reason in dis line...n pray to God o

cooooooks:
Some men want that. Some women who want that will meet a man who wants that and they could go on to lead a nice life.

If the love is true, even if the man goes down financially, the woman will usually become extremely resourceful.

Plus in some climes, it is cheaper for the lower earner to provide child care than both working but 40%+ of their income goes to child care.

Hi handsome

Edge1:


But you were quick to say that women who are breadwinners do all the house chores, isn't it?
Simp

Quote where I specifically wrote "all".
I refuse to exchange words with a child on this forum.

zeusdgrt:

Really so the woman stay with the kids in school,get pregnant every second of the marriage,only she raise the kids, sorry I tot I was talking to a functional being,stay there Shiloh still get u for mind in the next 20yrs

Mumu, this one has changed from men dying before their time to Shiloh. Nairaland and trashy men. You think it’s everyone that’s broke and single like you. Shioor

Chii59:

There again, another ignorant fellow. I know of mothers who sold akpu, vegetables to train their kids to university level.
Fem! Keep shut.

So wat about fathers that take care of the children and family from d beginning to the university level

Hello Chi babe!

I know it's my comment that was handsome. 0_0

Chii59:

Hi handsome

JoeEeL:
A bad economy is still the principal cause.

And that's what your political masters have caused.

The looting and corruption takes everyone's lives little by little without some realising it.

.

Someone has said the main reason after 17 pages. Everything boils down to the economy. Economic growth of max. 3% in a country where the population growth exceeds 4% and her main revenue earner has its price decline, what else do you expect?

In the future, a well to do young man will have lots of ladies to himself. Wonderful!

nenyewrites:


See what I got quoting a mad man. I'll be careful going forward.

Mtcheeew... Fool...

humilitypays:
There has always been free sex from the beginning of the world sis, and free sex will never stop because women need sex as much as men....its the self-control nature bestowed on women that makes it seem like women don't want sex like men do.....if not for that natural gift of self control towards sexual desire, women would have been raping men everyday I repeat. So leave that excuse.


In fact, sex is even costlier now for an average young man to get his desired sex mate......ladies have put price tags on their bodies.....the hotter the lady, the costlier her body....and the costlier it is to bed her. My point is, it is not because of free sex like you put it that's discouraging guys from getting married fast like in the past.


I am a man too remember......I am a man that have witnessed both sides of life; pure form of poverty to struggling to survive to little affluence to just name it, so I can tell you that the main reason many guys are discouraged from getting married or marrying on time is financial difficulty.


Many single guys you see around wish to be married before 32yrs, but their pocket is not encouraging them.....many of the guys you see on Nairaland fighting ladies and saying guys should not spend on their girlfriends or wives, they don't mean it in reality......it is the wish and desire of every young man to spoil his woman with cash and gifts if he has but the issue is, many don't end up having enough money.....


It is Nigerian women, or let me put it this way, the black women that are very wicked and selfish with their money and financial possession.....they don't allow their wealth circulate unlike when a man has money; women will enjoy a lot of it, likewise men, but when a single woman has money, or when a woman has money, it is only her beloved/preferred immediate family members (siblings, mother, sometimes father) that enjoy little of her money, and once she gets married, it is only her kids that enjoy her money.......our women need to change their mentality towards money and men.


Time have changed.......women should stop waiting for ready made men......if one comes your way, fine and good, be glad and marry him, but for any single lady to be waiting for one rich, tall, handsome, God fearing man to come marry her and bring her life fantasies to reality is suicide mission that may never come to reality.....this is one of the reasons DJ Cuppy, Otedola's daughter is single jumping from one handsome famous star to another hoping her girlie fantasies comes to reality......instead of facing the reality

Some of the things you wrote are correct, like women not allowing money to circulate. But I’m telling you, if vagina wasn’t as free as it is today, men will do everything to get it, and that includes getting a sustaining job or business.

Kranediggy:
Bitter Truth: Main Reason Why Majority Of Men Delay In Getting Married Nowadays.

Its simply because, majority of ladies are broke & depend on their future spouse, to continue from where their parents stopped in breeding them. There's no way only the man's income will be enough to run the family. Women should be earning too, in marriages to balance the financial weight, you should be able to earn even before marriage...

I strongly believe that if women save up for marriage as men do, then couples can easily marry for love & all these few years contract-marriages will end. The most annoying part of this is that most ladies think men need just a housekeeper, cook or a nanny; but they really need a partner who should be a real woman; which is a true helper of her man, that's what woman means.

Common! the two people became one under marriage, there's nothing like the woman's money & there's also nothing like the man's; both are meant to share everything together. Many ladies love a man's material things not him nowadays, that's why marriages hardly start or last today...

I seriously doubt this.

virginprincess:
All this broke men creating nonsense tread self , haven't you people see real men that get married then ask their wives to sit at home, that is becoming full time housewives, those men do they have two heads? are they not the one taking the whole responsiblity? mtcheeeeew.

Honestly eh the reasons the OP gave are flimsy. If you as a man can't take of your wife you are not ready(financially) for marriage.

https://theeagleonline.com.ng/men-who-rely-on-their-wives-money-hardly-progress-reno-omokri/

This is insanely deep!

cooooooks:
Hello Chi babe!

I know it's my comment that was handsome. 0_0

As handsome as the person who wrote them.

nenyewrites:



Some of the things you wrote are correct, like women not allowing money to circulate. But I’m telling you, if vagina wasn’t as free as it is today, men will do everything to get it, and that includes getting a sustaining job or business.

are you telling me that you don't see how young men struggle to make money to the extent some go to babalawos for charm to make money in business and even to get promotions and contracts


In fact, guys of today are more desperate to make money more than men of the past.


Do you know my father used to pity me at a point in the past, watching how his smart, intelligent, brainy, hardworking son was struggling doing everything on earth to become a man, he said during their time things were not as difficult as it is today. They had opportunity to study on scholarship abroad. Getting scholarship to study abroad was very easy he said...getting married was stress free, you don't need much he said.


There were jobs for able bodied and qualified young men then.

If you put in little effort you achieve a lot. To join the army was easy, but today even as our army has become a suicide mission, many young men are struggling to join but cannot join all because they don't have top army officers to endorse them.


Life has become harder and more difficult for young men today than before. It is the economy hardship that's making most young men not to marry early today not because of free sex.


Do you think men marry because of sex Sex is one of the least reasons men marry.

Nigeria men marry mostly to have an heir and to bear children. Another reason is to have a homekeeper to keep their home organised and homely for them when they return from daily stress. Not because of sex. If it is for sex, my sister I can promise you, majority of men won't marry at all.

angelfallz:


Honestly eh the reasons the OP gave are flimsy. If you as a man can't take of your wife you are not ready(financially) for marriage.

https://theeagleonline.com.ng/men-who-rely-on-their-wives-money-hardly-progress-reno-omokri/

Pls can i ask you a question?

Lol.

You're too kind.

Chii59:

As handsome as the person who wrote them.

humilitypays:
are you telling me that you don't see how young men struggle to make money to the extent some go to babalawos for charm to make money in business and even to get promotions and contracts


In fact, guys of today are more desperate to make money more than men of the past.


Do you know my father used to pity me at a point in the past, watching how his smart, intelligent, brainy, hardworking son was struggling doing everything on earth to become a man, he said during their time things were not as difficult as it is today. They had opportunity to study on scholarship abroad. Getting scholarship to study abroad was very easy he said...getting married was stress free, you don't need much he said.


There were jobs for able bodied and qualified young men then.

If you put in little effort you achieve a lot. To join the army was easy, but today even as our army has become a suicide mission, many young men are struggling to join but cannot join all because they don't have top army officers to endorse them.


Life has become harder and more difficult for young men today than before. It is the economy hardship that's making most young men not to marry early today not because of free sex.


Do you think men marry because of sex Sex is one of the least reasons men marry.

Nigeria men marry mostly to have an heir and to bear children. Another reason is to have a homekeeper to keep their home organised and homely for them when they return from daily stress Not because of sex. If it is for sex, my sister I can promise you, majority of men won't marry at all.

Hmmm... you made sense. But at bolded, is this not why there are babymamas everywhere? Same reason why men are saying there’s no point getting married. What if women closed their legs and they don’t get any heir until they are ready to wife her?

virginprincess:
Pls can i ask you a question?

sure go ahead

Marriage is a partnership. It is not about making money or having money. It is a situation where 2 people come together and POOL their resources, efforts, thinking, mentalities for the rest of their lives (potentially).

angelfallz:


Honestly eh the reasons the OP gave are flimsy. If you as a man can't take of your wife you are not ready(financially) for marriage.

https://theeagleonline.com.ng/men-who-rely-on-their-wives-money-hardly-progress-reno-omokri/

Gerrard59:


Someone has said the main reason after 17 pages. Everything boils down to the economy. Economic growth of max. 3% in a country where the population growth exceeds 4% and her main revenue earner has its price decline, what else do you expect?

In the future, a well to do young man will have lots of ladies to himself. Wonderful!

This is what I have been telling them and nobody want to agree.


The major reason Nigerian guys marry late is lack of money resulting from bad economy of Nigeria.


Many single guys are unemployed, underemployed and earning peanuts, how can they desire to get married with such miserable condition


Guys of our time have woken up, nobody except some careless ones want to bring an innocent child into this world without financial preparation to cater for the child.

And the ladies that have good job aren't helping the situation as they refuse to marry the struggling young men and team up with them to build a healthy home, all the ladies both the rich, the middle class, the broke and the wretched want a ready made guy with all the good things of life, which is why successful young men have too many girlfriends and fiancees to themselves today

CHoccolaTE:

Smart comment, many men in Nigeria are depending 100percent on their wives but women don't announce it because of shame, if a man is the one supporting his wife 100percent, he go insult her tire.
Men are naturally selfish and self centered creatures

That's why they keep demanding heaven and earth from women but don't want to give anything back.

u ended up saying nothing, what are the heaven and earth things?

Chii59 said the same thing on the first page.

I personally know people who are getting married even if they are not making 120,000 a month together.

Women who marry and give birth are looking for, and finding, work.

Go to any school now and you will see a long list of application letters by women, single and married, with or without children.

Gerrard59:


Someone has said the main reason after 17 pages. Everything boils down to the economy. Economic growth of max. 3% in a country where the population growth exceeds 4% and her main revenue earner has its price decline, what else do you expect?

In the future, a well to do young man will have lots of ladies to himself. Wonderful!

cooooooks:
Marriage is a partnership. It is not about making money or having money. It is a situation where 2 people come together and POOL their resources, efforts, thinking, mentalities for the rest of their lives (potentially).

Well that is the way you see marriage which is fine. That is why i have always advocated that men should go after women that have the same views about marriage as they have.

I see marriage differently. I have talked about this many times and i am not going to talk about it right now.

nenyewrites:



Hmmm... you made sense. But at bolded, is this not why there are babymamas everywhere? Same reason why men are saying there’s no point getting married. What if women closed their legs and they don’t get any heir until they are ready to wife her?

You are talking about very few insignificant number of Nigerian men; the few successful men who can afford to have a babymama


I am talking about majority.


The number 1 reason majority of Nigerian men marry late is lack of money resulting from bad Nigerian economy as a result of years of foolish governance by old corrupt fools who have looted away the future of Nigeria.


Nigeria need a revolution that will shock the world. A revolution that will lead to a nationwide attack on all past and present political office holders. That is the only way to put Nigeria on track and put fear in the hearts of next generation leaders and politicians to lead well

MAdness full ground.

If he did not marry after 9 years, what new excuse is he looking for?

Also, this is not a Nigerian problem alone. This is also an issue in other countries. However, most of these countries enforce marriage laws on couples of 1-year plus or with children.

bjprodint:
I like number 2.I have been waiting for marriage for 9 years with 2 kids for him.this week I moved out with my kids and ran to my village,now he wants to pay bride price and me I no want marry again .and yes,his sister is also a free wife ,he wants to turn me to his sister.