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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Olarewaju89: 12:12pm On Nov 19, 2020
Afikoo:
Please can we focus our energy now on making money.
Please suggest best possible ways I can help my financial situation

Op, how old are you?
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Harshreality: 12:15pm On Nov 19, 2020
Afikoo:
Please can we focus our energy now on making money.
Please suggest best possible ways I can help my financial situation

The problem is there's no straight path.
You could try buying and selling of in demand goods. And like someone said you could also try getting a skill like copywriting, designing, programing, event management, electronic repairs, etc.

One problem is that things like this take time to learn and be good at.
You can't just take one 20hr course and become a professional.
You'd most likely invest a lot of time (which can run into years) and money before you can start making reasonable money.
If you choose to tow this path I'd recommend picking something you have interest in so you wouldn't loose interest even when the money isn't forthcoming.

On the bright side, you can learn this on the side while you continue your job. It will just take longer.

The first real money is never easy to make but subsequent are very easy

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 12:15pm On Nov 19, 2020
youngmo001:



be wise before u get scamm ooo
so petty bro! how can he get scammed by learning a skill? I see you are a private teacher but I know that teachers ain't close minded. Well, I'm also a teacher ( I teach people how to make websites) and I am also a mentor. feel free to check my personal website (link on my signature below) and see some of the stuffs that I have done. I can teach you too IF YOU ARE OPEN MINDED

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Jamestown123: 12:18pm On Nov 19, 2020
pretydiva:
I think you should suspend the wedding, then you both work on your income. Things are pretty hard these days
You both should be financially buoyant before venturing into marriage
Salary of 80k. You are still talking about improving income, haaa.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Nobody: 12:19pm On Nov 19, 2020
yomi007k:
Brother. Go for thanksgiving.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Jamestown123: 12:20pm On Nov 19, 2020
Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.
I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.
This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have beenplanning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isnt going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.
Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (she is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.
Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian. Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.
Patiently reading.
You don't know what God has done for you bro, a graduate receiving a salary of 80k is really Thanksgiving. My brother haa.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Akinbahm(m): 12:21pm On Nov 19, 2020
yomi007k:
Brother. Go for thanksgiving.

Ah swear for missing a stray bullet..

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Jamestown123: 12:23pm On Nov 19, 2020
Demmy60004:
You can learn another skill that has nothing to do with school. People are learning skills this year. You could follow your girlfriend and learn Copywriting (one of the high income skills now) and the good thing is I'm sharing free tips on how to start and it's starting on Monday, 23rd of November
Join the group
https:///J6q6EMN8Srx8iGs5ciy1RS
And as easy as it sounds you are earning above 80k abi?

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by yomi007k(m): 12:41pm On Nov 19, 2020
Akinbahm:


Ah swear for missing a stray bullet..

The guy still dey ask me "thanksgiving for what"

I don't pity men that women deal with. They actually deserve it bro.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Jessepaid(m): 12:45pm On Nov 19, 2020
Hehehe..so women no still understand that Rude boy reason with me song grin

Look for woman wey get income..

Nobody can be understanding forever...at one point or another their patience always runs out..

Listen man you earn twice the minimum wage... You not doing bad at all..

If I was in your shoes, I would be thinking of upgrading myself instead of allowing women issues to weigh me down

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by SarutobiEky(m): 12:48pm On Nov 19, 2020
Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.
I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.
This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have beenplanning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isnt going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.
Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (she is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.
Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian. Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.
Patiently reading.
is this why you have a heavy heart?

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Akinbahm(m): 1:05pm On Nov 19, 2020
yomi007k:


The guy still dey ask me "thanksgiving for what"

I don't pity men that women deal with. They actually deserve it bro.

Probably life hasn't dealt with them beyond imagination nd they see things ideally not from realistic point of view....

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by seanwilliam(m): 1:33pm On Nov 19, 2020
Harshreality:


The problem is there's no straight path.
You could try buying and selling of in demand goods. And like someone said you could also try getting a skill like copywriting, designing, programing, event management, electronic repairs, etc.

One problem is that things like this take time to learn and be good at.
You can't just take one 20hr course and become a professional.
You'd most likely invest a lot of time (which can run into years) and money before you can start making reasonable money.
If you choose to tow this path I'd recommend picking something you have interest in so you wouldn't loose interest even when the money isn't forthcoming.

On the bright side, you can learn this on the side while you continue your job. It will just take longer.

The first real money is never easy to make but subsequent are very easy
you're intelligent

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ednut1(m): 1:41pm On Nov 19, 2020
Why are you desperate to enter into suffering ehn

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by AyarmBoye(m): 1:44pm On Nov 19, 2020
Escabado:
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A man earning 80k is very good and right to get married. Your woman is a materialistic woman and so is her family. If her elder brother thinks u are not doing well , he should assit you with some money to start something that suits him. Pls man up . Don't allow them determine for you , other wise they will be the one controlling the marriage. U need to dump that girl and find a better girl. Imagine a jobless girl complaining about your income. She should go and work to make money too .
80k right now in Nigeria won’t do anything however people still marry with less even in Lagos.. but op shouldn’t b one of them.. Aren’t Nigerians tired of poverty ni.... Op should save aggressively n start a side hustle....

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Chenko001(m): 1:48pm On Nov 19, 2020
thesicilian:
With the marriage plans, it seems you were heading into the life of the average Nigerian family man living daily from hand to mouth and praying fervently for the next day's meal. Thank God for your girlfriend and in-laws who God has used to redeem you (whether their intentions are genuine or not).

My advice to you is that you should invest most of your salary into marketable skills, keep your certificates aside for now. Learn a skill that you know can set you up within 6months to 1yr and then start your own business based on that skill. It could be in IT, Real estate, engineering, construction, general grade, etc, just something with good potentials that God can bless for you.

You talk like all these you listed are easy. Hmmm be calming down. For someone who earns 80k per month, save a little or half then in a few months, probably 5 or 6 use those and start a business that pays you day in, day out. All these ones listing Real estate, this and that have not done it before at all. I first started selling aba made shoes and to be honest, I make up to 5 to 6 thousand daily and towards the end of the year, I would be making 8 to 9 thousand per day. Now I deal cars, but the money I used to start it up was from selling shoes.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by pansophist(m): 1:50pm On Nov 19, 2020
Your girlfriend is the kind that sees marriage as the realisation of childhood fantasy, a place where she will go and enjoy herself, without having the basic understanding that its a place of responsibility, support, hardwork. She probably learnt it from her mother, her mother orientate, instead of cautioning her from it.

Like someone already adviced, postpone the marriage for now, increase your income, which will make you have options. You need to know that when it comes to marriage, you, the man, set the rules. You're the one she will move in with, pay the brideprice, sponsor wedding ceremony and co. You'll also be a provider till you die. So why accept this treatment? Increase your options and don't put up with their unreasonable behaviours.

Your write up gave the hint like they are doing you a favour to allow their daughter marry you, that's not a good foundation to start a family. If you put up with these now, be ready to put up with more and more. Be vigilant.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Escabado: 2:03pm On Nov 19, 2020
AyarmBoye:
80k right now in Nigeria won’t do anything however people still marry with less even in Lagos.. but op shouldn’t b one of them.. Aren’t Nigerians tired of poverty ni.... Op should save aggressively n start a side hustle....


He should be the one working and saving money you while His fiance should be idel or better still be sleeping with other men waiting till he makes millions abi . Just listen to your self.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by AyarmBoye(m): 2:17pm On Nov 19, 2020
Escabado:



He should be the one working and saving money you while His fiance should be idel or better still be sleeping with other men waiting till he makes millions abi . Just listen to your self.
what r u saying ... where did I say fiancé should be idle .. as a matter of fact I would advice him to forget women and focus on finance .... women are hypergamic in nature ..even when his woman earns more , she still expects his to take responsibilities ... Good day!

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Cerebellum: 2:19pm On Nov 19, 2020
FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development
Oga Mi
Make una teach me pls!!!
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by xest(m): 2:28pm On Nov 19, 2020
FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development
can you teach me too? Please
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 2:34pm On Nov 19, 2020
xest:
can you teach me too? Please
Yes of course
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 2:35pm On Nov 19, 2020
Cerebellum:


Oga Mi

Make una teach me
pls!!!
Check my previous posts here
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by stanvesco(m): 2:35pm On Nov 19, 2020
Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.
I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.
This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have beenplanning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isnt going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.
Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (she is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.
Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian. Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.
Patiently reading.

Try Ngo jobs na.....or save money and enter canada ojarey.....come back later to marry her or laugh at her

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by LikeAking: 3:03pm On Nov 19, 2020
Make una help dis guy condition, that what he wants...

Show him d way.

Not relationship advice.

Most of you talking about making more money are guys under 20, una never see anything. The highest biz you have done is Bitcoin.

Dat one carry him on problem.

To make money is not as fast as you think.

The biggest mistake I made in my life was not finding a babe I truly love when I was under 21. I was not serious with babes and focused on money..

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by DontBullshitMe: 3:09pm On Nov 19, 2020
Stay the fuçk away from marriage and enjoy your bachelorhood.

What the fuçk will marriage offer you that you can't get now?

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by alexmakaay(m): 3:34pm On Nov 19, 2020
Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.
I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.
This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have beenplanning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isnt going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.
Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (she is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.
Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian. Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.
Patiently reading.

Mister I hope it's not what I'm thinking .? Cos your case is familiar.
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by kherlly(m): 3:46pm On Nov 19, 2020
You even earn pass me you better be grateful for everything.... May God leads you to the right path and choice.


May God bless our hustles

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Gerrard59(m): 3:51pm On Nov 19, 2020
Honestly, I don't get the fascination with Nigerians and marriage especially in the current economic climate. For goodness sake, you don't have enough to properly raise a family and boom! You are jumping into marriage. I'm sure you are one of those people who see marriage as a blessing - ridiculous way to reason. No wonder, you people just pop out babies like rats thereby populating what is already known as a shithole! Tomorrow, you will call Donald Trump a racist.

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Effulgent(m): 3:53pm On Nov 19, 2020
FanOfMyself:

web development sir.
But web development can be said to be a subset of software development. Web applications (like Nairaland for instance) are softwares in their own right the difference is that they need the web ( as a backbone) to run. Other "subsets" of software development includes Mobile Applications development ( andriod and ios apps dominates here), Embbeded systems ( e.g. a software system embedded in a car dashboard), Desktop Applications development (apps running on our laptops/desktop computer), Artificial Intelligence (Robots) etc.
Take this to the Bank sir!!!!!

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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Gerrard59(m): 3:53pm On Nov 19, 2020
AyarmBoye:
what r u saying ... where did I say fiancé should be idle .. as a matter of fact I would advice him to forget women and focus on finance .... women are hypergamic in nature ..even when his woman earns more , she still expects his to take responsibilities ... Good day!

Don't mind them. You are dealing with Nigerians who are largely ignorant about how women are. These people think the average woman will use her money in majority of situations, worse still a modern African woman. Ask him if he can marry a woman who has more money than he does, na voicemail him go enter.

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