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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by ogashman(m): 10:19pm On Jan 15, 2021
humilitypays:
very stupid advice! angry


Only agberos and motor park boys like MC Oluomo and co do that nonsense.


Nothing concerns him with the guy, he should deal with his unfaithful fiancé and not the guy.



The girl is cheating or can't the mumu op see it Next 5 years now he will come back here to disturb us with DNA problem, mumu boys that refuse to learn.

Sometimes I wonder what some guys see in girls that make them want to die on top. Girl. Honestly a guy really need to taste different chicks while single so he won't be acting foolish and idiotic because of one girl angry

Oga calm down.....check my siggy
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by ogashman(m): 10:20pm On Jan 15, 2021
gregyboy:



Tell him to leave your woman, if na me na there i go do am pass


Jeez bro never do that please not even to your wife

OK sir

Check my signature sir
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Nobody: 10:20pm On Jan 15, 2021
Funny enough, more men wail on romance land than women.
Why on earth should a mere misunderstanding lead to a scuffle which damaged her nails.
Children everywhere undecided

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Aka1billion: 10:20pm On Jan 15, 2021
Exactly the same thing happened to me her feelings for u is gone try to move on believe don't ever marry is a red alert

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Deeboiy: 10:21pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

She’s cheating on you already,don’t wife her.she’ll probably Locke back to plead,don’t accept ooo.

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by UncleKoboko: 10:22pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish
RUBBISH

Is she that foolish not to know how to delete sensitive information?

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Angy55(f): 10:24pm On Jan 15, 2021
Tueh!! grin. There will always be this guy that is a caller. Lol
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Beze992(f): 10:24pm On Jan 15, 2021
OP I think you should just move on, she doesn't love you. That a bit blunt, I know, but believe me no lady that loves her man would not want to settle a difference or refrain from calling him for two weeks if there's no one else somewhere that provides her emotional needs, except of course you did something grevious to her. Same thing is applicable to a man.
That being said, I have noticed that in a twisted way most men seem to value women that stresses them . It's really baffling, when they see the loyal ones that never tries to manipulate them, they tend to take those ones for granted.

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Waffarianman(m): 10:25pm On Jan 15, 2021
Bro forget that your old bitch and move on with the new catch just to clear ways and see front wella. Wemove

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Korllami007: 10:27pm On Jan 15, 2021
Beze992:
OP I think you should just move on, she doesn't love you. That a bit blunt, I know, but believe me no lady that loves her man would not want to settle a difference or refrain from calling him for two weeks if there's no one else somewhere that provides her emotional needs, except of course you did something grevious to her. Same thing is applicable to a man.
That being said, I have noticed that in a twisted way most men seem to value women that stresses them . It's really baffling, when they see the loyal ones that never tries to manipulate them, they tend to take those ones for granted.

All women manipulate. It just depends on the level.

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by anochuko01(m): 10:29pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

I want to assume the guy is a toaster but the girl still likes you. She's just enjoying the attention from the other guy, but if the said guy is a jagaban, he may find his way into your girl's pants or heart.
Wait for her to get her senses back then give her the option of choosing either you or the guy. Simple
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by famodje: 10:31pm On Jan 15, 2021
Check her instagram and snapchat dms

Not chat. I can attest to that. I secretly had her WhatsApp on my phone for like a month without her ntoitce.

I saw other chats, but not that of the guy [/quote]
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by tplayer: 10:31pm On Jan 15, 2021
Your case is simple. Don't complicate it. I won't say anything

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by lordswill03: 10:32pm On Jan 15, 2021
I had exactly similar experience! Now I'm married to her.... Alot to tell you but then can't type here. If you can send me a chat on 08038322116
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by NnamdiChidi(m): 10:33pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish
chats can be deleted

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by KingLion007(m): 10:35pm On Jan 15, 2021
I no wan hear DNA stuff tomorrow oooo...Issokay!

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by luminouz(m): 10:35pm On Jan 15, 2021
Beze992:
OP I think you should just move on, she doesn't love you. That a bit blunt, I know, but believe me no lady that loves her man would not want to settle a difference or refrain from calling him for two weeks if there's no one else somewhere that provides her emotional needs, except of course you did something grevious to her. Same thing is applicable to a man.
That being said, I have noticed that in a twisted way most men seem to value women that stresses them . It's really baffling, when they see the loyal ones that never tries to manipulate them, they tend to take those ones for granted.

Your last paragraph is specifically made for women,not men.
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by luminouz(m): 10:36pm On Jan 15, 2021
lordswill03:
I had exactly similar experience! Now I'm married to her.... Alot to tell you but then can't type here. If you can send me a chat on 08038322116

This is bullshiit...


Why not tell him here, so all of us can learn form your wisdom?

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by SexytorresE(f): 10:37pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

move on oga ... Time no dey, no time to start typing long story . That's how some of y'all sees signs from ur babes or guys and still chuk head and later start regreting undecided

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by luminouz(m): 10:38pm On Jan 15, 2021
skyreaper:
Bro, you seem like a good man and normally I will usually read post like this and get one or two points from commentary then move to the next but I'll share my quarter. To be truthful, she may like you and she's only with you because you are the next available guy for marriage to her, that guy she calls and talk to everyday is who she really love. Forget the sacrifice you think she has done for you and even if she has had sex with you or you even disvirgined her or she bought things for your future home, it doesn't mean a thing to her. You are probably a relationship she's waiting to fall apart. Its just like a lady I did everything for, spent on, made comfortable but she has a friend that is always telling her, I'm only spoiling her to get under her pants, im too nice to her because that's how people pretend, nice people eventually change in marriage, she may even say you were pretending before and it's now she knew your attitude, thank God she didn't rush into marriage. Now whatever you do, she's only seeing the ulterior motive, the guy is probably brain washing her and using her to pass time, she went out with him on a special occasion and she lied about it to you is enough sign for you. Pls move on, she doesn't feel the same thing again and the truth is she never felt anything from the start. Pls if the second lady is someone you like, give the relationship a chance and trust me, she will use this second lady as another reason to break up with you that you were cheating on her that u were only seeing what you are doing.

All she's looking for now is a reason to break up with you without becoming her fault.

Pls if you are looking for a long term relationship with a lady, let her be the one to want you, let her be the one to want marriage, don't force it down her throat. Make sure you likes you with no reason and be wary of ladies that has lots of female friends or a lady that has a guy they call their best friend and pls don't date kids, its not about age, make sure the lady is matured in the mind.

God bless, you don't need to thank me, I look forward to your marriage post with someone that deserves you

Nice advice!!!

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Nobody: 10:39pm On Jan 15, 2021
One WhatsApp can't log in on two device at the same time
Serene123:


Her chats, sms, messenger all clean.

Someting happened and her WhatsApp was showing on my phone for months grin without her knowing. I didn't see a single chat with the guy.
Not one.

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by ashawopikin(m): 10:39pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

she's cheating bro, leave her, o better still, take like 3months break from the relationship

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by humblemikel(f): 10:39pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread


You suspect she is cheating,
And you're about to cheat on her.
What's the difference between you two now.
And who told you the girl that's acting all nice and loving today, you won't suspect her of cheating tomorrow.
By the way, if you are not ready to marry. Why give a girl a ring
Some of you men are quite confuse just like Buhari.
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Livefreeordieha(m): 10:40pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

bro follow ur heart.. a union is more trembling than the wave of the Red Sea and Baltic Sea put together.. whether it goes south or otherwise depends on ur compass, and fate nothing is sure except death and birth..
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by stormborn28(m): 10:40pm On Jan 15, 2021
InfernoNig:
In summary. She's cheating. Just be careful.
I powerfully support she is cheating big time....I don't need a soothsayer to tell me...dump that shiit a move on...I hate cheats with passion

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by SexytorresE(f): 10:40pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish
gals are smart . We don't keep chat when we knw we have such guys like u around that goes through our phones cheesy grin
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Seniormanfeyyie(m): 10:41pm On Jan 15, 2021
Op God will bless u and provide and protect your family but if u marry this girl in,question it will not be well with your soul forever becos even me self go Bleep am. Check my pix to confirm fine boy

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by ashawopikin(m): 10:41pm On Jan 15, 2021
EmptyGarden:
Better a broken engagement.
...than a broken marriage

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Oweku: 10:41pm On Jan 15, 2021
what i will suggest is this..
1. if u have access to her phone, download automatic call recorder..
2. install it on her phone and deactivate the notifier of the app so it doesn't popup after each record.
3. after a week find a way to get access to her phone and copy her conversation with the guy..
4. that's my opinion..
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Nobody: 10:42pm On Jan 15, 2021
Get a female friend and be busy on your phone too.

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by akaahs(m): 10:42pm On Jan 15, 2021
Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish
Yeah, since u realised that, concentrate on the new lady, if she comes back fine but if she didn't move on.
Never u call or check on her again.

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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Livefreeordieha(m): 10:43pm On Jan 15, 2021
extol1:

bro, she is deleting the messages after their chat. and u think they will just be making calls without chatting when it is not business dealing
archive tinz but needless to comment let him follow his heart

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