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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Toks2008(m): 8:29am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Serene123: Guy just negodu there and think. See marriage is a process... Wedding ceremony is the first stage then gradually the process of marriage comes in slowly and that includes you and her realising the essence of marriage and some terrible habits will gradually fade away until you both get to that point where you have both attained the marital maturity needed to make a happy marriage. If you like leave her and be with another lady,... You must still find a reason to leave... No matter how many times we change partners, there will always be a monster we have to overcome so work it out... As long as she is willing to be with you then build a life with her... Remember what I wrote... These days men don't bother their head with feelings... Just pick a lady responsible enough to be a mum and raise a family with her. If she starts giving you problem, you can always go to the village to pick a small girl as another wife... ONLY IF SHE STARTS GIVING YOU PROBLE and ofcourse if you can afford to take care of another lady. |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by BRATISLAVA: 8:31am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Serene123: You're already hacking her phone, and you didn't see anything incriminating, nor do you see anything criminal in that act. Your mind is playing games on you, and you are not ready for marriage. You've moved on in just two weeks time, so who has really just been pretending to be in a relationship? Controlling partners are never good news. They want to control who you can take pics with, speak to, meet up with, etc. You will still do exact same things to this two week old romance of yours. Call it off and stop cheating on her. Once you see a person testing or hacking their partners phones, know they are not serious and cannot be trusted themselves. Run from such a person. They gave no respect for you to enter your private life which doesn't concern them. |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by ebuclassic18(m): 8:32am On Jan 16, 2021 |
brother take a bow and let her go the other devilish guy don full her chicken brain |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by EduTechTainMent: 8:38am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Skepticus: I am sure I didn't explicitly condemn you, your act or judge you in my comment above. Definitely no one holy pass, but even amongst thieves, there is some honour. Cheers. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by amlos007(m): 8:50am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Serene123: |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by amlos007(m): 8:51am On Jan 16, 2021 |
[quote author=amlos007 post=98112299][/quote] Don't bother your self, let go.marriage is a lifetime commitment. Regards, |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by 2ScrewsLoose: 8:59am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Sundrus:Word |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Blackdisciple(m): 9:01am On Jan 16, 2021 |
No ooo keep waiting for ehhh.... If she's not having a skeleton in her wardrobe why can't she just free the phone when you guys were arguing it's just a simple thing. Guy she just needs time to be with the other dude to see if he's good , if not good she will come back to you as if she's fine now , but if he's good then she will not come back . Use your head bro |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Maximus85(m): 9:05am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Serene123: Pele jare. They can love you and still cheat on you. Don't you know women can multi-task? They can be loyal and still be a LovePeddler. You for no drag her phone with am. You have concrete evidence already. Give yourself time and heal up. If you go back to her and she does the same thing again.... And you come here to tell us, we go curse you ooo. This is 2021.....No time. 2 Likes |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by MummyD2020(f): 9:11am On Jan 16, 2021 |
extol1: Seconded, pls help |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by etrouble: 9:11am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Sundrus: Nairalanders, I am proud of you all. Mad boys and girls that tell you the truth and care not how you feel. Kudos. OP, on the judgment day, Nairalanders’ advices will be shown to you. |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by fredoooooo: 9:14am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Oga do tbe needful don't come back here and cry later |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by MummyD2020(f): 9:15am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Millenniumlady: But how can someone who has ur ring be giving another guy green lights. meaning shes not done with single hood. I dont gerrit. It happens both ways so I'm not ready to be one sided. |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by greatstephenho(m): 9:17am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Serene123:my brother you can only pretend to be calm if you don't love her. I understand how you feel and don't blame yourself for your reaction it will unvail the evil that would have befallen you after marriage. Stay put to the time she wants you to give her if she is for you she will definitely come back. Forget this people saying she is being bleeped by the new guy, nothing might be going on and something might be going on but don't think about that it will only weigh you down. 1 Like |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Bestinstinct(m): 9:20am On Jan 16, 2021 |
extol1:I really don't like commenting on stuffs like this but your input made me want to chip in this. I had a similar affair with a lady who's having a blissful relationship before she met me. All efforts to make her continue her relationship fell on deaf ears as a she was carried away with Yoruba demon things. We were banging eachother while her main guy sees me as a bestie. When he suspected, she dragged phone with him just like the OP wrote and we stopped chatting via WhatsApp and moved to a completely messaging app. I sometimes pity guys like OP. He should just face reality. 1 Like |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Nobody: 9:21am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Millenniumlady:Aùntí what are you saying? All you can see is him moving but you didn't see anything about her act. If it were you what will you even do that will mk him come begging? This una jaruma don dey give una unnecessary confidence. Until una try am with who go hook una for throat. |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by makeherscream(m): 9:23am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Zero by Chris brown . Comes to mind. I thought we were great you took your love back and make us off track. I count all the days do you will come back how stupid was that. These hoes ain't really loyal. Move on with your life bro . |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by alexola20(m): 9:23am On Jan 16, 2021 |
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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by alexola20(m): 9:26am On Jan 16, 2021 |
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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by alexola20(m): 9:31am On Jan 16, 2021 |
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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Siberry: 9:32am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Serene123: Most of the advice here are from insecure men, please shove their advice up where the su doesn't shine. My husband lives in Nigeria and I live in the UK, and he's always accusing me of one thing or the other. I'm full time job and schooling full time at thw same, and I don't even have time for myself not talk of cheating on him. I get at 5am, read before I start work and I do lectures during the day as well. After work and lectures, at night I catch up recordd lectures and do assessments. I barely even have time to eat, yet this man accuses me of cheating whenever he calls and I don't pick up. Sure his friends just like many men on thos post will swear to him that I'm cheating. Now whenever he accuses of rubbish like that, I give him silent treatment for many days. My head is already full, and I don't want him stressing me out again with some stupid cheating accusations. Mind you that alll these are based on assumptions The story here is don't allow these men on here ruin your happiness. From your write up, it looks like you only engaged her because of the money she puts into the relationship. If this case was reversed, you lot would call the girl a gold digger. Now ask yourself these geniune questions: Do you really love her or the money she brings in? Do you really miss her or the money she brings in? Do you have proof that she is cheating on you? Let your answers help you make the best decision. |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by kokkubabboni421(m): 9:33am On Jan 16, 2021 |
My man do you base in Edo?? Serene123: |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Codes151(m): 9:36am On Jan 16, 2021 |
You don’t engage a girl for any fucking reason!!! If you give her a ring, better be ready to walk the isle in 6months. Anyways, sorry. This life. |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by onyibest2020(f): 9:41am On Jan 16, 2021 |
let her be, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by openmine(m): 9:41am On Jan 16, 2021 |
extol1:BRO is the TRUE definition of LOVE not directly associated with VALUE and RESPECT? Just asking sha! |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by jaytee01(m): 9:43am On Jan 16, 2021 |
ogashman:[/b] Don't try the bolded unless you want to lose her to the other guy! |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by Tilykay(m): 9:44am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Ottyn01: Yes o.. he is in love true true... |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by NiceMen: 9:52am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Serene123:LET HER GO... You love her, you clearly do but let her go. I have long made a decision that IF a guy tries to win a girl I am having something serious with, I WON'T FIGHT IT. I WILL LET HER CHOOSE... who really wants you will STAY... and will not give room for nonsense... ALL THAT SHE NEEDS MORE TIME TALK is bullshiiit... MOVE ON! 2 Likes |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by NiceMen: 9:56am On Jan 16, 2021 |
SocialJustice:he might not yet be forking her BUT he clearly is exciting her... 1 Like |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by slumcat(m): 9:57am On Jan 16, 2021 |
List of red flags ignored by the OP. -You had to hack her whatsapp. This shows that you've had some reasons to suspect her. -She doesn't pick the guy's calls in your presence and vice versa. -No trace of chats between her and the suspect. Strictly calls. This alone is highly suspicious. -She says he is only a friend but goes out on secret dates (even important dates like 25th Dec.) and takes pictures with him. -She dragged her phone with you to the point of damaging her nails. -Out of the blue she calls you a woman beater, says she lost her emotions for you and she suddenly needs some time to get her mental health together. -2 weeks has passed and she hasn't reached out. When you try to fix things she says she needs more time Lol. For any wise person, any 2 of the above stated red flags would be enough to make one take a break and put on their thinking cap. Worse still, this is someone that has your fvcking ring!. The truth is that some people are naturally foolish so it is impossible to install wisdom in them. Even if the so called fiancee calls him and told him she was cheating, he would say she was drunk. You called your so called fiancee on 25th December and she couldn't pick. You later found out that she went out on a date with him. What do you think they were doing when you called? . Are you still a child? You no get sense?. Don't you know that fvcking a lady when her main guy is calling is a huge turn on for guys? Worse still she couldn't pick your calls. Meaning the d!ck is very big so she will likely moan out loud lol . See you fulfilling the fantasy of your fellow men . Ahahahahaha . 5 Likes 1 Share
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Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by lucky4west: 9:59am On Jan 16, 2021 |
trust me on this bruv i have been tru similar thing...she is with that guy full time...she weighing up her options when a lady tells a man after a little misunderstanding that she has lost feelings for him it speaks volume, the girl has a spare dude elsewhere and besides na days like Christmas day we de know the guy when get the babe...she must do everything within her powers to be with her preferred guy that day...i cant believe u mugu reach like dis 4 Likes |
Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by NiceMen: 10:00am On Jan 16, 2021 |
Serene123:perhaps she has been deleting them... what you need to do is get a laptop and link her whatsapp to your laptop... anytime she is on whatsapp, you will see what they are discussing. Don't react, just keep reading them... one day, you will see something that you can hold against her. Truth is, something is building up between her and that guy. |
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