CHILDREN

I consider children as another major victims of Domestic Violence. In this part of the world , Violence against children is not really recognized.

I have observed that male children are beaten more than female children. They are more stubborn lol

While i agree that spare a rod and spoil the child. Some adult use anger and frustrations to torture their children in the guise of discipline.

Men have done it and so do women, women even tend to do worst in most instances.

The way children are tortured is alarming. If you are current on NL, you will see a thread on Nairaland where a woman was torturing her little child for years. See the boy's head.

There are countless stories where a woman use hot iron on her child in anger, another woman used hot water to torture her child for not going on errands. A woman put knife on fire and press it on her Daughter in law because she taught the girl stole her money only to later discovered the girl was innocent.


I notice women tend to hate children that are not their be they their sisters children, cousin, niece etc.

The question now is that, is it the evil patriarchy that is to be blamed for making this women to torture their children and others.

Can male be victims?

Till date people still don't believe that men can be victims. The media made it in such a way that men cannot be viewed as victims.

A man's life is such that he does not conjure up pity unlike women.

Domestic violence against men includes physical , emotional and sexual forms of abuse, including mutual violence.

Male domestic violence victims may be reluctant to get help for various reasons.

STUDIES
One study investigated whether women who assaulted their male partners were more likely to avoid arrest even when the male contacts police, and found that, "police are particularly unlikely to arrest women who assault their male partners."

The reason being that they "assume that the man can protect himself from his female partner and that a woman's violence is not dangerous unless she assaults someone other than her partner".

Another study concluded there is "some support for qualitative research suggesting that court personnel are responsive to the gendered asymmetry of intimate partner violence, and may view female intimate violence perpetrators more as victims than offenders."

Men face additional gender related barriers in reporting, due to social stigmas regarding male victimization, and an increased likelihood of being overlooked by healthcare providers.

Whether physical violence or sexual abuse. A man is not seen as a victim.

Woe to you man for you cannot be a victim in this harsh world.

Research on men and domestic violence focuses on men as both perpetrators and victims of violence, as well as on how to involve men and boys in anti-violence work.

However, women are not throught to be antiviolent.

It is uncalled for, for a man to Beat up a woman but nothing goes for a woman hitting and beating a man.

It is appropriate that both men and women not hit each other. Not that one gender will hit the other and go scot free.

Dpsychologist:
Woe to you man for you cannot be a victim in this harsh world.

This kinda hurts.

VALENTINE SPECIAL


A DIAGNOSIS OF ONEITIS
In medicine, a syndrome is a set of signs and symptoms that are correlated with each other, and the word itself stems from the Greek word meaning “concurrence”.

Oneitis as a syndrome is the combination of signs and symptoms that are correlated with blue pill thinking.

Perhaps the most interesting factor in the the oneitis disorder is that actually being in a relationship with the woman is not a pre-requsite to trigger the disorder.

In fact, many of the cases that I’ve observed are by men who exist outside the woman’s sphere of awareness, the “secret admirer” type, who builds an elaborate fantasy about a woman who has no idea that he exists.

STAGES OF ONEITIS

Stage 1 : Delusion
The first stage of oneitis often takes the familiar form of “falling in love”, the man becomes fixated on his designated target, and his life begins to revolve around the situations where he is able to interact with her.

During this phase, the man’s ability to make critical evaluations of the situation are decreased and he starts constructing an elaborate fantasy about the woman.

He will always interpret her actions as more meaningful than they are, for instance if the target of his desire is a receptionist he will interpret her smiling and being pleasant as a sign that she is in love with him as well, rather than it being part of her job.

THE SYMPTOMS

Euphoria and depression

If he perceives that his relationship or potential relationship with his dream girl is going well, he will be happy. Conversely, if his perceptions indicate that the relationship is not going as he had hoped, he is prone to depression.

Inability to Make Critical Evaluations
A major factor in men suffering from oneitis is that they are incapable of making critical evaluations of their dream girl.

At this point, the disorder has progressed to be a point whereby acknowledging the woman’s flaws or less desirable behaviors would inhibit him from placing her on a pedestal.

Pedestalizing
The man suffering from oneitis will view his dream girl as the solution to all of the problems he has been facing in his life.

If he feels the relationship (or anticipation of a relationship) slipping, and his grandiose future slipping out of reach, he will take immediate and rapid action to restore balance.

Covert Contracts
The use of convert contracts by the man is a cardinal symptom of this disorder. A covert contract in the most simple terms is based on “if I do X, she should/will do Y”.

Covert contracts exist in many forms within the oneitis disorder, from the husband who engages in “choreplay” to the beta male who does nice things for the target of his affections anticipating that his “niceness” will result in her sleeping with him.

Stage 2 : Paranoia
The second stage of oneitis builds on the first stage. At this point of the disorder the woman is the sun around which his life revolves.

He often begins neglecting many other aspects of his life in order to spend more time with her, or in situations where he might meet her.

THE SYMPTOMS

Building a Grandiose Future
The man suffering from oneitis will begin the construction of a grand future for himself and his dream girl, this dream is not anchored in reality but he will put all his effort into creating this future.

This can even take place before the man has even spoken to the girl in question, in fact it often does among some groups of men.

Black and White Thinking
The man is incapable of seeing his dream girl as merely being human, he views her through a lens of perfection wherein she is all good, and everything that could be imagined to come between them is evil.

At this point the man is deeply engulfed by his delusions and has invested significant resources in the imagined future he has for himself and the girl.

Disconnection from Reality

At this point the man has idealized the woman to the point of divine being (goddess) and his fantasy into deterministic reality.

At this point he reacts strongly to any attempt at critical evaluations of his situation. The relationship between the actual woman, and situation may be greatly different from what is real.

At this stage he can fight you when you criticize his woman.

Stage 3 : Rude awakening

Not all sufferers of oneitis progress to stage 3, stage 3 is reserved for those who are brutally awoken from their delusions and react in destructive ways towards themselves or others.

Men who progress to this stage have their idealizations and fantasies of perfection destroyed, often swiftly and in a brutal manner. They react to this depending on their underlying personality and mental state at the time.

A man in stage 3 tends to react either by lashing in or lashing out, a man who lashes in will seek to punish himself for failing to make his fantasy manifest.

Whereas a man who lashes out will seek to punish others for causing his fantasy to not manifest.

Mystery in “The Game” pining over his oneitis for instance is a classic example of someone “lashing in”, becoming depressed and even suicidal because he failed at realizing his perfect dream world with his perfect dream girl.

For those of you who have spoken to a person who is suffering from a delusion break from reality, you are aware of how difficult it is to break through the delusion in order to orient the person towards reality.

This is just the situation many men find themselves in when they attempt to talk one of their friends down from the ledge, their friend is simply to attached to their fantasy of “the one” to have any incentive to break away from it.

Dpsychologist:
This is just the situation many men find themselves in when they attempt to talk one of their friends down from the ledge, their friend is simply to attached to their fantasy of “the one” to have any incentive to break away from it.

So true. Sometimes you'll be reluctant to talk to them so they won't view you as "enemy of progress".

Dpsychologist:
The term “nice" is gotten from the Latin word "nescius" which means to be ignorant and foolish.

The Middle English derivation of “nice” means
to be strange and lazy (Oxford American College dictionary).
So, when you’re being “nice guy,” you’re exhibiting behavior that is strange, lazy, ignorant, and foolish.
Surprised?

Waooooooo

TheUndercover:

So true. Sometimes you'll be reluctant to talk to them so they won't view you as "enemy of progress".

Most times you have to allow them learn by experience.

Dpsychologist:
For those of you who have spoken to a person who is suffering from a delusion break from reality, you are aware of how difficult it is to break through the delusion in order to orient the person towards reality.

They will call you small boy, fellow men will broke shame you.

okrikaboi:
They will call you small boy, fellow men will broke shame you.

Life is the best teacher. It teaches them lessons.

emmaodet:

Waooooooo

Yes. That was the major reason they are called nice guys that the original meaning.

To want a woman’s attention and companionship desperately means you’re willing to do practically ANYTHING to gain and maintain a woman’s interest. In the long-run, that is not a good thing.

When you’re willing to compromise your personal principles and values, or worse, sacrifice your sense of dignity and self-respect, for the sake of attracting or keeping a woman’s interest, this would be representative of wanting a woman’s attention desperately.

Desperation tend to make you become more afraid
of being rejected and/or ignored by that female. Consequently, the more afraid you are of being rejected or ignored, the more likely you are to be rejected.

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@ purpinkx long time

Dpsychologist:
@ purpinkx long time

Thanks for the mention Sir,

I've been reading at a slower pace. Just doing catch up right now.

Keep up the good work!

Dpsychologist:
For those of you who have spoken to a person who is suffering from a delusion break from reality, you are aware of how difficult it is to break through the delusion in order to orient the person towards reality.

I have a friend whose gf was the best thing that ever happened to him.

I've tried introducing him to the redpill.

Even though I hope he learns to play the game women play, my main concern about him bettering himself in a society that couldn't care less about him.

There's a quote “the teacher opens the door, but it's up to the student to enter!”

I hope enters!

Blue pill Men are fund of putting women on pedestal and will to compromise to get women.

How many times have you heard one or more of
your male friends say something along the lines of, “I would do anything to date her!” or “I would give anything to have sex with her just one time!”

Once you allow yourself to adopt attitudes such as these, you’re setting yourself up to become a loser with women.

I have nothing against a man expressing an occasional compliment, or maintaining a platonic relationship with a woman, only if it’s mutual and reciprocated.

I do not believe in ‘non-reciprocal’ flattery.

Anytime you’re constantly playing up to a woman’s ego, but that same woman very rarely, if ever, flatters your ego, you are on a long thing.

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I am strongly against men PRETENDING to be content
with just a "platonic" friendship, when they know deep down that they want more than that.

Never settle for less. If you want a relationship and she offers friendship drop her. If you want FWB and she offers r/ship drop her off.

Know what you want as a man and never settle for less. This is called standards.

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