I don't see any factual explanations from what the op posted

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I've had my share too. Got no time for ladies but friends and family be asking how far with your babe, i just keep saying all is well so they don't disturb me and i no fit dey tell stories

Sterope:
Good and virtuous woman? Bleh!. Cute little words that I don't care about

You can't have a positive attitude when your spouse is determined to be inconsiderate. Check out this post
https://www.nairaland.com/4375117/daily-routine-lagos-father

Notice his opening statement, marriage will be sweet when one party is not forming my duty is more important or stressful. Like i said, the help you need from a man as a lady should be earned, i guess the wife didn't call a round table discussion on how to share the house duties but the fact that the husband know she has a job and she must not resume late made him to assist the wife. But did you notice that the guy didn't talk about what happens after they're back from work? That means the wife does the needful! Don't try to neglect or belittle your role as a woman in the house but you can earn a helping hand from your man,
I believe you are a very good lady at heart and you're gonna be a good wife and a great mother

Safiaaa:
If you’re not doing your job as a husband to provide fully for me, yet expect me to cook clean and help you with the bills, I have the right to be separated ted from you. I have the right to find someone else who will make my life stress free. Same way if the woman is not doing her wifely duties, realistically what do m

Listen. All I’m saying is, if it’s 50/50, play your role significantly. I may still end up doing more house chores but play your role significantly.Help me to Cook,clean,take care of the kids and I will also help you out financially. If you want to take care of all the finances and my needs, then I will do the rest. There will always be minor exceptions but let the roles be finalised.

You seem like a feminist.
Like i tell me female friends that are feminist that ladies should earn the respect and not demand for it, i wish we could get to chat better

Sterope:
Routine doesn't demand less. For house chores, It doesn't get easier unless it is something you enjoy.

All these men talk are merely what you think should be. It is not what it is in real time. Men will still be stuck doing the same old boring jobs like their wives. Nothing is going to change. Both parents will continue to adjust their income relatively to their expenditure. Your average home consist of parents who either holds a 8-5 job or runs a business.

Keeping a positive attitude towards your responsibilty and looking away from the sacrifice but consider the greater good, the love and peace it will fooster and build in your home should put a smile on your face and a feeling of satisfaction to you as a good and virtuous woman

Sterope:
I am tired. You have no argument!

I usually don't argue, i only want you to see it from another side

Safiaaa:
There’s nothing about shame here. It’s about being smart and knowing what you deserve. You have to pay the price either directly or indirectly. Whether you replace him or get a maga. Everything in this life is replaceable whether shameful or not, so quit that mentality.

All I’m saying is do your job, I do mine. Simple.

What Happens to a society without shame? Getting a maga is against the contract of marriage both legally and morally.
Let me say it again, equality is not a standard way here but equity where one party must surely do more than the other (but not that one party neglects it responsibilty or feel its too bursdensome and so avoid it)

Safiaaa:
Not only provide a shelter with food, those are compulsory necessities. Provider in all sectors, providing and taking care of all my wants. Making sure I live a very comfortable and smooth life. That’s your job as my husband, then sure I will take care of the kids and house. Of course everybody can be replaced partially. The house help can do my job as well as a maga can do yours. But that’s why we’re married, because we want to help and benefit each other.

If you cannot perform your job as a provider fully then you will need help. As well as I will need help as a nurturer. I can’t help you without receiving anything back. That’s what silly women do,and then complain later on about doing everything. Pick one and stick to it.

Getting a maid is legal, but getting a maga is shameful,
Now, lets turn the table around if he decides that if you don't do your duty as expected, he's not doing his too; you can never get equality one has to do more, rather seek equity

Sterope:
House chores don't reduce over time with kids until they are adults. My scenario also covers a situation where there is no kid.

House chores demand both mental and physical energy.
You need the will power and physical strength to fold those clothes.

Do you know that when something is a routine, it demands less from the person? So does house chores. But the demands on a man is not a routine, demands increases and a man must be able to measure up to the standard demanded of him

Safiaaa:
I don’t give a damn about mental or physical stress. It is both stress at the end of the day. If you cannot financially take care of 'all my needs' and pamper myself and my children, then please do not expect me to cook and do all the house chores. We can do half and half as long as you won’t compromise your position in the domestic sector. You cannot pick and choose, when things are convenient for you, it doesn’t work that way.

All your needs? Humans needs are unlimited my dear.
But if he can provide you and the kids with shelter and food i think he has done something and if you can do the food, clean the house and kids then you've done well (but you know that a house help can do all of these).

Sterope:
It is not relaxing for ladies. House chores is not for the weak, it is demanding on its own. Then try doing house chores with a proper job and see if you won't cry all night.

I don't know the ladies you are talking about but I know that in most average homes I am familiar with, the woman carries the financial burden of the home equally. By equally, I am not talking about the amount she spends but the fact that she spends the same percentage as her husband. Basically, her life is not financially better sunless she is married to a rich guy.

Over time house chores reduces either by kids or house help but this will affect the man more as more responsibility will be added.
Like i said, it is more of mental stress for the man not physical stress and you already know that mental stress drains strength than physical stress.

jennyolive:
Really sò she will not give birth abi? it is 2 cups she will cook forever? u see that u don't have sense

Intellectuals don't solve problems from the complex part, we tackle it from the simple! If she can't cook for two then she can't cook for more.
And from the post, she didn't mention cooking for a family, she was too lazy to cook for her husband that they share the same bed.
Like i said, any lady that feels cooking for her husband is too burdensome for her is lazy and dirty and such doesn't deserve a husband.
Finally, i hope nobody come here to cry that her man is staying out late or he's seeing another mistress..
And for the latter part of your post, I chose to believe you are not referring to me

Sterope:
When she is alone, she cooks whenever she likes or don't cook at all. I really don't know what your problem is, is not like the guy doesnt eat or clean either when was alone.

I really don't see the essence of marriage if my life is going to be unnecessarily harder than it was.

Its a two~way thing and couples are meant to compliment each other.
Life don't get harder for ladies it only becomes more of relaxing with less financial burden. But for the guys they have to hustle more and harder to make more money to care for his family and the demands. And you expect that same man going through such mental stress to still go through the stress of getting good food when he has a wife who doesnt go through that stress?

Trying to play the blame game we're all aware of your own deeds

I think she's a lazy and dirty girl. If she was alone, wont she eat? Abi how does cooking for two become so difficult? Before you do cook 1 cup of rice, now you're gonna be cooking 2 cups! What's the big deal when it is not like your cooking for like 5 Persons?

Nukilia:


Why are you like this? The same oyinbo technology gave you the opportunity to use a mobile phone which you're using to communicate with people all over the world. Don't tell me you are in tandem with the bokoharam ideology. You need deliverance....

Like I Said, we need technology that solves our own problems not just become a new technology comes and we embrace it. What is the use of automation in a largely populated country like ours? What is the use of artificial intelligence device and robots? These technologies don't solve our problems. We need to look inward and develop our own technology that will tackle our unique challenges in this nation.
I'm an engineer and i've seen quite alot hence my opinions

Nukilia:


Stop thinking like you're in the stone age! The stupidity of our government and the trash kind of education we dish out to our citizens is the reason for the backwardness we experience today.

And you think we need these advanced technology for us to develop as a developing nation? Oyinbo educational system/curriculum won't help us, we need to develop our education to suit our challenges not to compete with other countries and in so doing, we will be recorgnized

I Laugh!
I bet you, America is not producing these vehicles for use in their country but for mumu countries like ours to use!
Since when have they developed the self driving cars? Why are they still doing the test run and showing them off regularly, yet they have not fully integrated it into their system?
We don't need advanced technology/artificial intelligence in this country for now, we must evolve into that level and not just jump into using them

Oh My goodness!
Which kind of leaders do we have in this country? They don't have foresight at all. Why must we go into bio with these agricultural products (sugarcane, oil palm and cassava), we need aboundance of food and not aboundance of fuel, who fuel help?
Except the hectare of farmland will provide sufficient raw material for all year round production and they will not require to buy from local farmers, if not all these crops will no longer be available for people to consume rather, everyone will want to sell them for fuel purpose...
Nigeria think! We don't have these crops in excess that we can think of making bio fuel from them.
#FoodFirst

Even though its free energy, What Is 85 Kw Power that is worth CELEBRATING? There are even Cummins generators that generates more power than this.
Abeg, this should not be a state project

GF

Beautiful Piece! I feel like loving again

sinaj:
help me preserve my spec till m ready

I'll be waiting for you then.. But its better we get to know each other better

sinaj:
Ur no 8 tho

I like guys dat got 4 nd 9
Pls no 4 should be a slight one.

found your spec

Make i just dey here dey observe things

Molayan:
How many kongos make a bag or How many paint rubber make a bag of garri

30 kongos = 1 bag 3 kongos = 1 paint rubber 10 paint rubbers = 1 bag

NIGERIA

All we need is a WORKING SYSTEM.
I believe we can get things right in this country, I've been influencing anyone that comes my way why we need a working system, I believe soonest with ripple effect from this, this might change soonest.
Most of us don't even know that the problem of this country comes from we the citizen.

I Will make another wand that will be forever