nnamdiosu:


Your dream is an indication of your future ministry. I strongly sense, you will have a ministry that fights against the marine kingdom, that's why they are even trying to have you on their side in the first place.

The dream speaks a lot. Its to let you know...

1. How they operate (by convenants)

2. How they deceive (see how she tried doing pity pity to invoke sympathy? See how the deceived the sailor to come back to her )

3. To let you know ahead that in many cases, the deliverance of people is in their own hands and sadly, not everyone will be saved. Not because God can't save them, but because they were deceived to think their case is hopeless.

4. Their weak point. What they dread or fear.

Note: that sailor in the dream, doesn't generally mean a sailor, but people who have sailed the way of the marine or strayed I to their camp. People who have ventured into their domain.


Lastly that ground of fire? That's the begining of the gift you have. That's the begining of the effect you will do in the spiritual realm when you are ready, and angry.

This was my interpretation too. He has a calling and powerful gifts. Hence the serious spiritual battle. May God be with him and empower him.

AbdulMagaji:


Why are you trying so hard to persuade him to go against the purpose on which he was created?

I noticed too o. Whether na by force

What a world!

The end is nearer than we think

Ficklemind:
Good evening, please how do I politely tell my married ex to stop bringing back our past memories?

My ex and I separated on good terms, he is AS likewise myself so we had to go on our separate ways. It over 6 years that we separated but we still talk once in a while. I don’t have any feelings for him anymore but I don’t know about him and I don’t have any intention of seeing him either though we are far away from each other.

I don’t want to block him and I don’t want to offend him ,but when I take a picture with a random male friend and I upload it on my status ,he tells me he is jealous that the guy is an idiot for holding me or touching me. Asking for my recent pictures and sending me my old pictures that I don’t even remember existed.

This guy is married with a child. How to I politely tell him to stop all this because I don’t feel comfortable with them.

You know what to do. Stop indulging him and block him. Talking about "I don't want to offend him". Plus all these men giving us men a bad name. You're a married man and you lack sense still. Radarada.

mostHandsome01:
I will be brutally honest with you and summarise as much as I can.

Believe me, it is better to marry who you love and loves you back than to marry someone because they are AA and after marriage, your life becomes miserable. Many ignorant people will tell you, don't marry your fiancee, you will suffer if you do, etc. But the truth is, knowing you and your fiancee are AS doesn't mean you will both go ahead to have children with SS. You can marry your fiancee that is also AS if you are properly informed. Many will tell you it is not worth it. Yes, it is not worth it to give birth to SS children and let them suffer, but it is worth it to get married to who will give you peace and then you both go through other well known, well proven means of giving birth to children without SS.

Some will tell you, it's too expensive to do as though the money is coming out of their pockets. This mostly happens in Nigeria due to the so many uneducated and uninformed people we have . Some are even educated but still uninformed. Technology has changed the scope of many things. To cut the long story short. If you must marry someone who is AS like you. Do not make the mistake of having a child without doing one of the 2 options below...

1) Prenatal testing: fertility clinics in Nigeria do this. When a woman is pregnant, they check the genotype of the fetus, if the featus is AA or AS (75% chance) they leave the fetus. But if the fetus is SS(25% chance) they safely remove the fetus. Now this isn't for everyone as some people may feel it's against their morals to remove a fetus even if it's SS. So for people like this, you can go for the second option

2) PGD : this is a process where a woman's egg is fertilized with a man's sperm. Several specimen will be carried out, the couple can then choose the one with either AA or AS, that way they stand no risk of having an SS child. Some people use this process to choose the gender of a child. And this process can also lead to twin and even more as many celebrities or people looking for children do this and that's why you see them giving birth to twins at once.

Now listen to me, some people will still discourage you. They will say the stress is not worth it because they are already lucky to find a partner that's AA. Some will say the money is too much even though the money isn't coming out from their pocket. The decision is yours and yours alone. If you want to marry for love and peace and the person giving you this is AS. Go for any of the options above. It's all your choice to make. So there you go. You either marry AA, or do any of the options above. Just make sure you do not have SS children.

Correct. Couldn't have said it better. AA+AA/AS can even end having kids with developmental or neurological issues. It's not black and white.

May their souls rest in peace. What a disaster. Good that other countries are rallying support

Nonsense

KeyEndurance:
Am A Kind Of Man That Enjoy Been In Relationship but To My Greatest Surprised my girlfriend Had Shocked Me Today.
There Was A Girl I Toasted ending Of 2016 we Enjoyed Our Been Together So Much To The extend That i Engaged Her January 2017 I Bought Her A Ring To Avoid Being disturb By Some street Boys, she Was Been Disturbing me To Marry Her Ever Since Then As If Marriage is Simple Thing That You Can Do with Ordinary Paper. I Told Her To Endure for Me till 2020 (everybody Knew How 2020 was bad) so i Did Not do Anything. And The Love We Have For Other Is So much nice to The Extend That We Cant do Without Seeing others every Day. She Do Complained To Me That Her Parent were Disturbing Her To Marry, but I Cant come And Rush My Self Because I Have No Money. To Short The Story this Girl Return my Ring this Morning with Tears That Am Wasting her Time without Showing Sign Of Marrying Her, i Wonder How She Want me to Show Her Sign.
I Can Never Trust Women Again In My Life because Of what She Did to me today

Lord of the rings! Bros you wicked o. Since 2017

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

How does 3 marriages translate to your topic Mr. Observer? Marriage is hard work by two people. I have been married for the 12th year this year and can say I love my wife more than I did when we first got married. We have times when we're unhappy with eachother but that doesn't last long. I trust her with my life as she trusts me with hers. I made up my mind as a man that my kids will never grow up in the toxic environment. My wife's dad died only last year. 58 years of marriage and they still acted as kids around eachother. Her mom has been ill ever since because they did everything together. It is a journey not a sprint. It is an adventure. I look forward to going home to my wife and kids after a long day. And when we're apart it is hard. Marry who feels the same about you not someone who wanted a title of daddy or mommy or husband or wife. Most people nowadays marry for the wrong reasons. I still wonder till date what my wife saw in me. If she loved me then when I was nobody, with all my baggage. How much more now? Wo, marriages are working. Don't let a few bad eggs deter you.
The challenges will come but a threefold cord cannot easily be broken with God as the third person in your marriage. Be eachother's peace. Shalom.

BadRadio:
Honestly... This thing happened to me... I had sex with this girl and since then, I haven't had one night of good sound sleep... I have had series of multiple Nightmares in one Night.

Ómo... no be small thing...

Immorality has its consequences, immediate and long term. Keep having casual sex.

Gerrard59:


Other countries are available, but getting their visa is very difficult for the average Nigerian. The Czech Republic, Poland, and Austria are doing Nigerians yanga. Norway recently cancelled her free tuition for international students, Sweden got more than 90K applicants (more than 10% are Nigerians alone), Germany puts it explicitly on its Nigeria embassy's website that visa dates/appointments can take up to a year, Portugal and Mexico have closed their embassies in Nigeria, Switzerland is tough and should this rule be applied, Ireland would become very tough.

As for Suella, trust me, should this rule be applied, she will be rated very high within the party and amongst the supporters. It is the reason she was appointed. She is doing what is expected of her.

You're right. She represents a party fixated on anti-immigration laws and policies. But the countries you listed aren't the only countries. Truth is that the UK will no longer be a choice destination if this pulls through. The sole reason why people came is because of the post-study visa and it is not free. It costs at least £2000. So they want the money as a government but they cannot bare the consequences. We're not even in the top 2 countries with the largest immigration stats. She needs to deal with her kinsmen from India first. And China. This was what they did with the Carribeans who came here before the world wars. They have a knack for using and discarding people.
I have been living here for the 13th year this year and the post-BREXIT issues are serious. Shops have limited products and brands to sell too. It is tougher for the average person/salary earner. They're sinking.

ifihearam:


We are not talking about Visa fees of both the ones granted visas and those millions rejected.

The UK lives off Nigeria.

You're right. Let us not forget the IELTS set by the British Council. IELTS is almost £150 now

“But education officials fear this will make the UK less attractive to foreign students, who pay far more than UK students for their courses and are a major source of income for universities.”

This is what will happen. UK will be the least favourite destination for international students and other countries will open their doors. I will see how they survive this move coupled with all the post-BREXIT issues

Suella will either be sacked or she will resign.

muyico:
I didnt support rape! But 4 dat age, at north she done ripe 4 marriage

Paedophile

victooman:
l use to be an advocate of no cheating and usually stood against men who leave their beautiful wife at home to cheat with random girls, l feel a man can control himself and stick with one woman if the woman is good, perfect and beautiful.

Now l am in that position now, my girl is both beautiful in and out, the perfect woman l am intending making my wife without any doubt,
we have been together for almost 2yrs now and l still love and cherish her.

Our sex life is great and perfect, but honestly of recent there is just this lustful desire to test another woman, this has nothing to do with love or commitment, but l find myself lusting after girls that are not even half as pretty as my woman, chances keep springing up here and there and l don't want to do it, guilty conscience is already disturbing me.

Please guys who overcame this, is this a normal thing? how did u handle it?

You'll get what's coming to you. Kontinu

Naira20:
If it's up to you alone, Avoid it.
Except there's a clear Divine instruction or she hates living that life.

Most times, it affects them negatively and they'd take it out on you.

Be wise

Is this a statement of grace?

MOST AFRICANS STILL DON'T KNOW THAT THE MAN'S CHROMOSOMES DETERMINE THE SEX OF A CHILD. Maybe the doctors in the house can expatiate further.

omaira:
Dear Nairalanders is it advisable to confess the truth to your partner if you cheated ??

Please I need your opinions

He or she knows.
Mess around again and find out.

Kapeter:
Shouldn't she still be happy abi at least one thing I've come to learn about Nigerian girls is that if you are not so certain about marrying them (infact if you never marry them self) don't even ever let your chest mistakenly touch theirs especially when you notice they are in love with you cuz na the beginning of their witchcraft madness be dat. If you ever hear them screaming "You used me" after breakup na wetin Dem dey talk gan gan be dat. Honestly Alexx did nothing wrong by not touching her really. You can see dude is quite more concerned about his life, Fancy just insecure nothing more. Wrote that long epistle about how she'd cancel the wedding bla bla bla and then still waiting for Alexx to reply even after already telling few friends and one Mrs Toyin. When you know you don't share same vision then take a stand and be sure what you want to do. All the she's spending too much bvllshlt are just excuses.


One thing I noticed here is I think she wasn't getting enough attention from Alexx, and I think Alexx belong to the school of silent achievers. Men that don't do much talking but prefer to take care of things instead and then Alex looks ambitious too, person say him wan go for doctorate you dey complain. Abeg jare this fancy just bring the poor boy matter for open market. Nonsense.

Man STFU! Are those your deductions from the post? I haven't gone past the first page but you've made silly comments. Read to comprehend not blab.
Boys like you give men like us a bad name. People like you deserve your kind so you can come and make Nairaland topics asking for advice.

L

You asked them to come over but you're adjusting policies to frustrate them too. Double standards

Neptunium:
Exactly. And you read my mind. I was going to say her relocating to the UK (aka. joining him) won't make him leave the dating site. This isn't about her being in Nigeria. He may lie to her now or when they're together that he's no longer on it when he still is. Or he may join another dating site behind her back. Most men on dating or hookup sites are repeat or continuous users..a married man on it, who is getting access to different women, sure ain't leaving. OP is on a long tin.

So young a marriage too. 1 year plus. Pity.

Neptunium:


Chai, see lies . He's on there for exactly what he said he's not on there for: dating. Lots of men also use dating sites to meet different women for sex. He's not leaving that daying site. A man like him started cheating long before now. Oyo is your case

Gbam! And STDs full everywhere. Na her husband take him hand destroy their marriage. Joining him will not stop him from lashing. The man still dey lie give am, no remorse, no nothing. She better not let the prospects of joining him in the UK cloud her judgement. She love him but he no love am. Husband and wife o, no be boyfriend and girlfriend.

Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

My family and I have lived here for years. I am a man that has never been on a dating site. 99.9% of dating sites are for sex. He didn't go to church/mosque/bar to socialize, na dating site. I no too get advice, put yourself first and tread carefully. Your husband dey lash steady. Tech bro wey no be man.

Reading majority of the comments, some Nigerians really don't read to understand. Or should I say that they lack reading comprehension skills?

Adun27:
Our relationship is 8yrs now, we dated for 6 years before she officially leaving with me
I am not legally married to her right now because of personal reasons. She had cheated on me in 2019( that's the only one I know ), I didn't take it too serious we are both in the University but different schools, that shit happens in school. The main issue is this.. " lately a male colleague has been calling her, I told her 3 weeks ago that I don't like it and whatever he wants to tell her can wait for the next working day, she flare up that night and left the sitting room , normally we go to bed together any time I get done working, she went to bed that night with that anger, I never raised a fight with her. She roses early the next day and bath, bath our only son too, she left for work very early, she had never gone to work that time before, she got to work and in some hours I receive some messages on Whatsapp , he's apologizing that he calling my wife, I never replied him ( She claimed that the guy noticed her face and came to ask thats why she told him, meanwhile I never even fought her, their office are next to each other as she claimed)
Now after my woman and the guy knows that, some days ago the guy called my woman just to ask why she didn't come to work, he asked how her husband is doing too and that was the conversation I could here because she put it on loud speaker. After that I checked my woman's phone when she didn't know, I found out that the Guy is still calling her , I also saw that my woman still calling him too though not everyday, I asked her why she had ridiculed me so much , after going to report me to the guy about this calling, you are calling him and he is still calling you, don't you and the guy knows that it's dangerous for your relationship? , She flared up again I have had sex with my woman only 7 times in 3 months, she keeps saying she doesn't want to get pregnant soon and I should go buy condom , we haven't been using condom since we started 8 years ago( she got pregnant recently and we had to abort it because our son is only 11 months)
She does how's chores perfectly and also support me financially only when I don't have, I'm the Man of my house."
What's happening here ?
Please only married people

Guy, make I word you. First, no dey carry this kain matter come Nairaland. E no too pure. Because majority wey dey this forum are toxic. You say you keep woman for house - relationship of 8 years, dated for 6 years before she moved in with you. Why you no do the right thing? I no judge you o, but I dey follow you talk bro to bro. I see the other thread wey you create. The truth of the matter be say she no be your wife YET. As you never wife am or do the right thing on top her head. She come born for you again, get bèlé again, una come abort am. Why una no go do family planning even if you no like condom? She fit no dey sleep with person for outside. 7 times in 3 months no too bad if you wan calculate her safe period because she no wan carry bèlé. And women libido dey come down o after dem don born. If she get another bèlé, una go comot am again abi? E no good o for her body and for her mental health. Go hospital go do family planning. Mbok. I don marry now, na my year be this. I court my wife for 3 years and I almost lost her because she think say I no love am and I dey waste her time. But I come reason am - her friends don marry, dem don born finish. Her juniors for school don marry, her small sisters too don marry. She no pressure me o...but na society pressure am. She go collect subtle insult and advice. And she dey use that one vex for me. She no dey happy. We dey fight tire that time. Dem go tell am say I no dey serious but I dey hustle that time. She too dey work. Omo I gas put her mind to rest and wifed her in 2010. Because she be correct woman. If I come this life again. Na she I go marry. We don almost reach 4 years of courtship. God bless us with two children. So bros, call your woman, talk to am. Make una go do the right thing. But I go also talk say make you dey careful too. I no know whether she dey comot with that her colleague. But follow am talk. Na action dey cause reaction. She fit dey vex or worry because dem go don tell am say you put am for house, give am bèlé, you no still go pay dowry. Nothing dey outside again o...I no go lie you. If you know for your mind say she good, you don dey with her for 8yrs. Haba! That one mean say she good. Nobody dey perfect o. Even you sef, if we talk your matter now, you too fit don chop for outside. Fix up o. You sef wicked o. You carry am put for house, you never marry am. Abeg go do small thing on top her head. Nigeria hard now. No carry your mata come here again abeg! Jah bless