aktolly54:
hitting her? How are you sure he's hitting her? No evidence. We all know how woman feel like god in UK and forget God instructions of respect your husband. You can see how arrogant she feel by calling cop , if na niaja , will she call cop? Assuming she respect that man, she won't be six feet down though the man should have calm down. Selling his property for his wife to travel abroad not easy. We all know how Nigerian woman be , the man must have sacrifice a lot for the wife to be in UK and he can be with his wife and his wife treating him like shit.

Lol. Are you the man's relative? Because you're acting like you know more than what was already published in the news and attacking other people speculating like yourself. How do you know he sold all his property? Sacrificed a lot? Wife treating him like shit? Is all well at home?

aktolly54:
agba scanner, keep acting like god in UK if you are woman then you meet your match soon. Even the bible ask woman to respect their husband and instruct husband to love their wife but you will be acting like mad woman because you dey oyinvo land.

Respect a man simple as that. The idiot woman start calling cop for her husband, something she can't do in Nigeria. Start raising a shoulder for your own man. Maybe the man sold everything to make sure she travel to UK but you start treating him like trash and you expect him to keep calm and calling cop for him

Again, you're a nincompoop. I am a man. Almost 13 years married with the wife God blessed and entrusted me with. She can't call the cops in Nigeria because men like you are the ones in that system. Again, people like you will rot in jail, it's not a curse. I pity the women and girls in your life because you're clearly a wife beater, an angry and frustrated man hiding under the guise of what the Bible says. It is fathers like you that will send your daughters back into abusive marriages to get killed. All the comments you've made on this post shows how demented and narcissistic you are.

Musty112:
Dayoot...one who is not jealous for his female relations

Please explain

Kingrshd3:
It actually rains everywhere bro 🤣


The game is finally over

Well 😂😆

Jeon:
Open Marriage is very good.
It is better than cheating and expecting faithfulness from your partner..




Mr man ,you have lost. Just divorce her .



The grass ain't always greener on the other side.

😉

I think they should just have divorced. Open marriage is probably good when they don't have kids. Imagine children witnessing this toxicity.

Kobojunkie:
Well, go hit the gym, lose the weight and begin to take better care of yourself. Who knows, your wife might find you attractive enough to consider abandoning the open marriage proposal altogether then..

Some people suggested this too in the original Reddit post.

aktolly54:
don't think it's cheating, it's just misunderstanding that need to be resolved btw couple but werey wife start acting like superwoman calling cop for your husband because you dey UK. It serve her right. Woman should learn to respect man in UK. That mentality woman own UK is trash and no man will like to be treated like garbage in UK by his own wife

You're a demented scallywag. Wife beater. I pity the woman who is or will marry you and the children that you will father. Serves who right? The woman who is dead or the man who is going to be locked up for life?Or the children who will be moved from one foster home to the other and exposed to drugs, alcohol, sexual abuse and even death?
You're very mad.

Hopefully this will be a lesson to people like you who think they can lay their hands on others without consequences. Nigeria will take it but the West wouldn't. I have scanned through some of your comments on nairaland, just don't come abroad for long periods of time because you will go to jail for your misogynistic views and actions.

Jail for a long long time. I have zero pity for any one, male or female who lays their hands on another human being, and worse still to the point of death. Unfortunately, the young kids will be scattered around different foster homes, foster parents, etc. They may never see each other again. Always walk away when you're angry and announce to your partner that you're going to cool off, never ever resort to violence. Ever.

See the Reddit post here:

"I feel like a complete idiot here. My wife and I have been married for 19 years. We have one child. Our daughter moved out this summer after she enlisted in the armed forces. I love my wife but I felt like the spark was gone from our lives. I didn't want to divorce her so I proposed an open marriage. She was upset initially but eventually she agreed.

Like I said in the title of my post I made a mistake. I have learned that just because I wasn't as attracted to my wife as I was when we got married it doesn't mean other men would feel the same. My wife has so many men and dates she doesn't know what to do with them all. Meanwhile it's the opposite for me. Not only that but after my wife agreed to an open marriage I asked a woman who was a colleague of mine out on a date. I was a manager at my job but I wasn't her manager. We worked in completely different divisions and our work had nothing to do with each other's jobs. But even though I wasn't her manager and I am in an open marriage she complained to her manager and showed HR my messages. I lost my job.

I told my wife I want to close our marriage again because I was an idiot for suggesting it in the first place. She said no, she's happy with how things are. It's killing me when I know she is with other men. My brother called me a slowpoke when I told him and said expecting my wife to look like she did when she got married made me a dunce. He even went so far as to say she takes good care of herself and is in great shape for 44, she just doesn't look 20. He had the nerve to say my wife looks better than me and I could stand to lose some weight.

I love my wife and I don't want a divorce. I never wanted a divorce which is why I proposed this in the first place. But she doesn't want to close the marriage. I'm not worried about money because we both work but I do not want a divorce. I'm just glad my daughter enlisted in the RCAF and isn't here to see our marriage falling apart."

“I made the mistake of asking my wife for an open marriage and I regret it.”

As a married man, I think the solution to the no spark would have been to see a therapist, not ask for an open marriage. What is this world turning into?

Married folks, please share your thoughts.

ogbe88:
Another rat talking.

U are warned.

F*** off

mmadu5:
protect this Op by every means necessary he is a national treasure.

LMAO. Says a dimwit. We all need protection from your empty head.

Savedday2:
Tell all the SIMP make them get small sense.

They are here glorifying ashawo that has been overused because she gave birth to a child.

The fact is that none of them can swear that another guy haven't knack the wife/girlfriends since they are 2geda.

Are you mentally ill? Because the symptoms are glaring.
Your mother, your sisters, and all the people who identify as female in your lineage are the real hoes, otherwise they won't have birthed a mistake like you for a child. Total waste.
That also includes all your kind on this platform, we need to start separating the tares from the wheat.

Solofresh2:
I came across this thread https://www.nairaland.com/7922825/husband-before-ask-wife-what and I see the OP trying to justify the saying "what does a woman brings to the table" anthem by men nowadays.

Saying a woman facing a difficult time giving birth to her child is a sacrifice is a no no.It is natural for a woman to give birth to a child,either difficulty or not.

It is also natural for a man to releases sperm,so as to impregnate a woman.

If a man find it difficult to impregnate a woman, will you call that a sacrifice too?

Infact,sacrifice is when a man provides everything for his woman because it is not compulsory.

Anybody can make money to provide for their own needs, not always waiting for your man to do everything for you.

It is your responsibility as a woman to carry your pregnancy if you want a child.

You created a thread this early on a Tuesday morning means you're either jobless or you're not busy. Dimwit. I hope ladies and women are seeing these things, so that they can make informed decisions not to have children with non entities. It will be a colossal mistake.

ogbe88:
Simps .

Cretin. Now run along and go play with your kind. And while you're at it, work on your frustration because you certainly need it judging from the photo on your profile. Don't quote me again.

translux:
Any Husband that is asking the wife for what she's bringing to the table isn't yet matured for a marriage, This is the 14th year that I got married to my wife and for the fact that I have been footing 100 percent of the bills till date, I have never for a day asked my wife for what she's bringing to the table, for the facts that we have somany responsibilities, I aways encourage her in the past that things will get better with time but we thank God Almighty that he has blessed our marriage with everything in life.

God bless you my brother. Leave those small boys and their empty brains. Married almost the same number of years as you. They don't want to be providers or responsible but they want the respect that comes from the title of "husband". Majority of these ones aren't even married yet, and the ones that are aren't happily married because of these wicked mindsets they carry and they attract their kind too. Bless up bro, na man you be.

"childbearing isn't a sacrifice", "you're a simp" coming from fools who can't survive the pain of a mild constipation, let alone kidney stones, but they're here spewing trash behind anonymous monikers lol. Embittered b*st*rds who rave about things they have no clue about because they think it's only contributing their sperm that makes them fathers. I pity your mothers, sisters, and wives who think they birthed good sons, brothers or husbands but will suffer the wrath of the misogynistic views propagated on Nairaland by you lot.

Solid.

Lots of houses like this in North Africa and the Middle East

Obierika:


Are you serious?

100% bro. Happened last year. They were kicked out week of Thanksgiving too. Culprits (husband and wife) are on this platform. If they see this, they know it's them. And to them, we were bad people. Should have listened to my wife lol

Nigeria, a failed state.

optionalY09:
Go home or get help from Nigeria community in canada. Black people need to fix their character and start loving each other. Those who have accommodation should assist the people that do not have.

Love yourselves before you start asking others to love you - Use your brain

No. They should have made plans before leaving Nigeria. And many of them are despicable to their hosts too.
The wife and I housed a family last year and we had to forcefully remove them (with the police present) after 3 months. You know why? Destruction of thousands of CAD worth of property, not a single contribution to bills or the pantry,physical attack on my wife and children, and a diabolical plan to take over our property. Not again! Leeches

vickydevoka:

See the jobless people

People like him will throw his brother's wife and kids out of their home if he dies to take over his properties. Instead of finding a job they'll wait for hand-me-downs

DonBenny77:

Learn to make use of your brain first

Because you are using yours abi? Dimwit. When it's time to approach a conversation or argument with logical reasoning, people like you resort to name calling. self-servicer

DonBenny77:
Of course you belong to your family. They own you. And it's your responsibility to make your family smile before you consider strangers. Build your family I'm not saying you must grant every request but try for your family because when you die na still that family go reciprocate. Some wealthy men impress the streets and let the family suffer then when they fall off in the future they can't sustain because the didn't empower family.
Mikel particularly is a stingy guy, compare him to Mane from Senegal in terms of being charitable. Mikel would rather spend millions on a whip for model than support his family.
Don't downplay family, family is everything

I bet that you're one of the very entitled family members he's referring to. People who take and take and take without nothing to show for it because their brother or sister is wealthy. You want to tell him how to spend his money abi? Who told you he hasn't supported his family over the years? He makes money but because he has an extended family he should live like a pauper to please them? Or he needs to show you what he has been doing for his family for years. Nonsense

UncleKoboko:

You're indeed a very daft fool and it's so easy to know.
For your mind, my facts or opinions are not true and logical, but yours are

You need brain surgery mumu

I'll extend grace to you and restrain myself from saying something to you that will worsen your already miserable existence. It will do you a world of good if you don't quote or mention me again.

UncleKoboko:

Lol
Ọdẹ
Are you that you need healing?
You better go and check yourself before you run mad

Lol. A person with a low IQ will resort to name calling even when the truth and logic is staring them in the face. But I don't have time for your kind.

ceejay80s:

Shazam!!!!

Boy, don't quote me again. Now run along and go play with your kind.

ceejay80s:

Entitled to ur opinion, since u are the most intelligent goat on nairaland

Here we go again. Can't engage in a logical discussion until you resort to name calling? Awwww... sorry. Your bitterness stinks. HEAL. love and light. This forum has continued to give your kind the playing field for narcissistic and misogynistic topics and comments. You lot will be okay. Those of us enjoying our marriages are living life to the fullest Absolutely nothing to prove. Y'all will start making regret posts when you fumble the women you should have loved.

OgaTheTop2:
Wait till your wife starts nagging. Btw, how did you know it was hell if not that you've experienced it?: D

Why are you hell bent on spreading negativity? Man said he has a happy home, you're projecting a nagging wife on him. Is everything alright upstairs?

ceejay80s:

One of sensible comment I have read here today...
The problem is women and they will always claim victim

You are really not intelligent.

UncleKoboko:
The main problem is the women.

I ALWAYS SAY IT THAT THE SUCCESS OF MARRIAGE DEPENDS MOSTLY ON THE WOMEN.
THE MOMENT A WOMAN WANTS OUT OF THE MARRIAGE, THERE'S NEARLY NOTHING THE HUSBAND CAN DO ...

Past lives and records is the major factor that can decide the success and future of a marriage.

The biggest mistake a man can make in his life is to marry the wrong girl.
Who is a wrong girl?

A wrong girl is any girl with low moral values. Region doesn't matter and doesn't deserve if a girl is of good moral or not.

A girl with numerous BODYCOUNT, numerous EXs, numerous breakups can never ever make a good wife.
The more BODYCOUNT, the more a girl loses her ability to form bond with her partner.

There's an adage that says that the size of a snake to a girl doesn't matter if she has not seen a snake before, she'll still be terrified by it.

No girl is born with a manual on how she should be sexed or pleased in bed.
IT'S ONLY WHEN THEY'VE HAD NUMEROUS EXPERIENCES THAT THEY START COMPARING....

She'll compare you with that guy with big dìck
That married man that used to lavish money on her
That Randy guy that can sex her for 2 hours
That guy that usually apologies to her even when she's the one at fault. Etc

THERE WILL BE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING YOU CAN DO TO PLEASE HER, SHE CAN ONLY PRETEND THAT SHE'S SATISFIED.

NEVER MARRY A WHORÉ AND ANY GIRL WITH MORE THAN 2 BODYCOUNT IS A WHORÉ.

First, you need to heal from whatever troubles you. Misogyny will destroy you. Second, the success of a marriage is not mostly dependent on the woman in the marriage but on both parties. I'm concerned for people like you who reason like this and post in on the internet too. There are many many happy marriages, if you don't have one, don't force the bitterness on others who do or who wish to. Heal from your pain.

Rich4god:
Married for sometime now... not even a quarrel between us. Divorce no go see my family.

Am here to read comments and learn.

@OP... kindly adjust the topic, let them also include what lead to their divorce so we can learn from it.

Same here. You're a wise man. May God continue to keep you both. There's nothing like kids growing up in a healthy home.