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SLAP44:
Ihedioha is not making noise. He's planning. Okorocha came with too much noise and too much braggadacio

Oga, no problem. I'm not doubting you. I know what u people can do. Is it not this same Imo State I know.
No leader in Imo has left office with the same accolade you guys welcomes him.
Even the Chief Sam Onunaka Mbakwe all of u are hailing now was not treated well by u guys during his last period of his leadership.
The MILADS also got the same treatment.
What about Ohakim?
Rochas
Now Dee Ihedioha.

We are watching

lilmax:
this idiotic boy always acting as if his family is the only family on earth


these peoples looks are average, wonder where the hype dey come from

Just congratulate him and pass before jealousy will ruin you.

SLAP44:
We need safety first, dismantle all death traps and plant natural trees not the artificial ones Okorocha left.

OK...we will be here observing you guys. Let me not hear that Ihedioha is the worst governor Imo ppl have had.
Let the praise singing continues like this till the end of his tenure and even beyond.

AntiWailer:
That guy in the picture is not dead

Instant death and his leg in that position. We should apply common sense

It's either the person that posted this is lying or doesn't have the real picture.
Look at the picture again. If that man lying down there is the dead man, do u think those ppl around there will look unconcerned?
The lady was even backing him and was looking at somewhere else. Same with the man and the few ppl standing a bit far from him.
No one was even attending to the dead man. No crowd gathering to behold the dead man.

Fake news.

SLAP44:
Your a learner. Okorocha left the whole of world bank for 8 years with bad and impassable roads and be doing gates and rubbish, and you expect Ihedioha to start repairing the roads in 3 months?

To you, u believe that your most pressing need as an Imolite is the dismantling of Okorocha's beautification projects in Owerri?

Amaco123:
they don't want imolites to remember Okorocha for anything good

Why haven't him destroyed Eastern Palm University? Why did he want to convert it to Imo State University?
Dey should destroy all Rochas' project. They are substandard. The university is substandard. They should pull it down.

THE STORY OF OTOKOTO MONEY RITUAL KILLINGS OF 1996 & GROWING MENACE OF "YAHOO PLUS" IN OUR SOCIETY

On 19th September 1996, during the regime of late General Sani Abacha's, in city of Owerri - Imo, an innocent 11-year-old boy named Anthony Ikechukwu Okoronkwo was murdered for Ritual.

The little boy was hawking boiled groundnuts, which was his daily routine.

He strolled along, selling his groundnuts for peanuts to whoever wanted to buy.
When he got to Amakohia area of Owerri, his eyes lit up with joy when a customer beckoned on him to approach.

That ‘customer’ was named Innocent Ekeanyanwu, aged 32.

The boy was called into the famous Otokoto Hotel and the little groundnut seller was visibly very excited, since it was a hotel, it meant that the new ‘customer’ would probably be buying plenty groundnuts which will mean more money to take home to make his parents happy and assist his struggling family.

While waiting,the boy was treated like a guest, he was given a bottle of Coca-Cola to cool off from the punishing heat of tropical Africa.
Innocently, he took the Coke and gulped it with relish.

As he was sipping his soft drink and taking a look at the glittering surrounding of the hotel, he could have imagined having a hotel of his own too later in the future. As he was dreaming, his vision became blurry and the sounds around him became muzzled and dull.

In a matter of minutes, he dozed off, never to wake up again. His tray full of groundnuts was lying in a corner.

Observing the boy from a safe distance was the man who had called him to buy his groundnuts. He had spiked the boy’s drink and once he saw he was asleep, he took the limp body of the drugged lad into one of the hotel rooms and what followed next remains one of the most evil things anyone can ever dream up.

A sharp cutlass emerged from nowhere and the boy’s head was severed from his body. He was beheaded in a matter of minutes. After the boy’s head was cut off, he disembowel his torso, removed his liver and other parts he needed.

Not done yet, the boy's genitals were not spared as well.

After butchering the boy,and sorted out the organs, he packed his head inside a polythene bag, and buried his remains.

The Butcher, Ekeanyanwu then took the polythene bag containing the boy's head,and headed for the next destination: to the house of the man who needed the fresh head. The man who is behind it all.

HOW DID THE INFORMATION LEAK OUT:

After the grisly murder of the little Okoronkwo by Mr. Innocent Ekeanyanwu (what a name, innocent indeed), he left the hotel to deliver the head where it was needed. He then Stopped a Bike man (Okada rider) to convey him to the place.

It was the Okada man named Opara, whom he stopped to takek him to his destination in Eziama that realized that was his passenger was carrying inside a polythene bag was a fresh human head. It was still dripping with blood.

When he alighted,the Okada man quickly alerted the police.

The Police then intercepted Ekeanyanwu on his way back in a Peugeot 504 car, he was carrying the head with him in the polythene bag

he was going to the residence of a highly-influential figure named Chief Leonard Unaogu at Eziama, Ikeduru Local Council Area with the head.

but upon arriving, he was told Mr. Unaogu had gone to Lagos.

So Ekeanyanwu had no other option but to return to Owerri with the boy’s head.

When it was time to take the headless body of Ikechukwu to the local mortuary,there was a massive procession and protested by Owerri people.

People came out in 1000s to protest the boys ritual killing.

They stayed around and within the hotel premises, waited for the police to confirm that it was indeed a ritual murder.

While more were matching and trooping to the scene of the ritual Murder as the news was spreading.

It was in the midst of this tension that the local media station made its miscalculation. They showed the image of Innocent Ekeanyanwu holding the head of his victim.

The goal of the media was to assure the people, assuage public fear, ask the public to help identify the boy and show official transparency but what followed next was a catastrophe.

All hell broke loose as the enraged people of Owerri went haywire after the image was first broadcast on the 24th of September.

All Owerri residents abandoned their businesses and congregated at the town’s central marketplace. It was there they decided on the next plan of action and outlined their strategies to deal with the Otokoto ‘headhunters’.

The news spread rapidly, every home in Owerri had hear news or seen the image of Okoronkwo’s head or his shallow grave.
Unemployed and disgruntled youths took over the parks and issued threats to the Owerri millionaires.

From the Owerri main market, the riots exploded and spread.

The pattern of destruction was neat. The rampaging crowd first went to the morgue and from there, they rushed to the Otokoto Hotel and burnt it to the ground.

From there, they went to the nearby palatial mansion of Chief Vincent Duru and destroyed his property, his expensive cars were wrecked and Duru himself narrowly escaped.

From there,the crowd split into attack groups and spread out to other sites of the priviledged elite and unleashed maximum destruction.

The well-known Piano Plaza and Stores, alongside another hotel, Chibet Hotel, and various businesses linked to the Otokoto and their associates were utterly destroyed.

The Zubairu-led government later confiscated all the property as recommended by the panel which was headed by Justice PC Onumajuru.

From there, they rushed to the palace of the traditional ruler and chairman of the state council of traditional rulers, Eze Onu Egwu Nwoke (later indicted alongside Aneke and Abure by the panel of inquiry) and burnt down his residence and his petrol station, they also destroyed the king’s 15 airconditioners and many of his cars.

They were not done yet, from there, the crowd ‘troops’ headed for the residences of former Imo State officials.

These administrators were targeted because of what was described as ‘their alleged unwillingness to properly tackle several cases of ritual murder, kidnapping and robbery while in office.’

The angry rioters only agreed to calm down when the military administrator (MILAD), assured them that a full, state-level investigation of the incident was going to be launched.

Ekeanyanwu, who murdered the boy, was aged 32 and he worked as a gardener inside the Otokoto Hotel.

THE OTOKOTO HOTEL

At the time of its existence, Otokoto Hotel was located in an upscale area of Owerri, specifically the Amakohia side, and it was a favourite location for the rich and wealthy youths to meet, drink and have all manners of fun.

Duru’s hotel was made up of three buildings, (3,5 & 6 Stories each, one behind the other).
It was owned by Chief Vincent Duru, the father of Obidiozor Duru, the leader of the Black Scorpions secret cult that was responsible for robberies and kidnapping of children in the state.

BACKGROUND TO THE STORY

Before this horrible incident, the people of Owerri were already very mad at the bizarre actions of some loud, extremely powerful and obscenely wealthy individuals in the state. These people were highly-connected and oppressed everyone where they went.

Rumours were all over the place as to their very dark dealings and even the possibility of ritual murders and killings but no one really had any hard evidence yet or probably those who had it were too jittery to say anything.

Whatever the case, these rich people who had no really tangible or easily traceable sources of wealth kept on living large and instilling an atmosphere of terror and fear on the Owerri populace.

This was how Owerri was described at that time: When the people heard of what happened inside the hotel to the boy, Owerri exploded with anger and resentment that had been piling up for years.

For two straight days, the people of Owerri trooped out in their thousands, protesting and rioting.

Not even the strong-arm tactics of the Imo State military administrator,Colonel Tanko Zubair,could stop them (the administration of the former military governor Navy Captain James Aneke was already seen as corrupt,419-based and even complicit in the protection of the Otokoto men.

They simply ran amok and the national and international media focused on the Owerri riots of 24th and 25th of September, 1996, also known as the Otokoto riots, the people felt they had had more than enough.

Any property suspected to belong to the ’Otokoto men’ were set ablaze, from posh hotels to luxury supermarkets, their flashy automobiles, palatial mansions, everything was destroyed and burnt to the ground.
Any suspected member of the Otokoto gang was lynched.

Prior to the riots,the youthful members of the Otokoto gang & other secret societies (believed to be offshoots of campus secret cults) involved in ritual killings went everywhere oppressing others with their ill-gotten wealth making other hardworking youths look clueless & silly.

The Owerri public had no faith in the police and as a matter of fact, the commissioner of police at that time, David Abure, was seen as the personification of corruption who wined and dined with the evil ones.

THE INVESTIGATION

Following the arrest of Ekeanyanwu,he was remanded in police custody while awaiting trial. But while he was in the police custody,magic happened,he was killed by food poisoning 4days after.

He killed the boy on Thursday and by Sunday morning, he was found Dead.

But luckily for the interrogators,before he was killed,Ekeanyanwu confessed and mentioned Leonard Unaogu as the brain behind the ritual killing syndicate.

He confessed that the ritual killing ring was a well-organized machine that specialized in the harvesting of human body parts.

and sold them to those interested in using them for rituals and all the usual nonsense they claimed to be using them for. He also said it was Unaogu who ordered him to get a human head.

Reports has it that the Otokoto saga had been in place as far back as 1976.

Confessional statements revealed that no one was spared at the Otokoto Hotel. Innocent guests and unsuspecting travellers who lodged at the hotel were drugged or attacked in the middle of their sleep and hacked to death after which they were cut into pieces for sale.

Police officers who swooped on the hotel discovered not only the shallow grave containing that of the little boy but also graves containing other victims with their decomposing and dismembered corpses.

No one knows the exact exhumed at Otokoto Hotel was up to 24 bodies.

Some were buried at inconspicuous locations such as under the flowerbeds. Such evil, such horror!

The man that Ekeanyanwu mentioned before he was poisoned to death, Leonard Unaogu, was a business tycoon.

And he was the junior brother, Laz Unaogu, a serving minister under Abacha.

Leonard Unaogu was eventually arrested by the police.

When the police arrested Unaogu, he lied with a straight face that he never knew anyone called Innocent Ekeanyanwu and that he was not even in Owerri when the crime was committed, saying he was in Laos.

THE TRIAL AND JUDGEMENT:

Trial started on the 9th of December, 1996 with Hillary Ngozi Opara as the first prosecution witness.

Nine people testified before Justice S.O Ekpe, who took over from Justice Gabriel Ojiako,the retired chief judge of Imo State, during the trial.

The court also admitted the confessional statement of Innocent Ekeanyanwu.

Margaret Acholonu a receptionist of the hotel stated that two spots were dug at the hotel premises and it was from the second one that the body of Okoronkwo was exhumed.
She also implicated Chief Duru.

She also said that on that fateful day, she saw Ekeanyanwu with a black bag and he told her he was going to his village at Eziama

A sergeant Sunday Onwucheka, told the court he was in the office when Ekeanyanwu was arrested with a fresh human head of the innocent boy.

According to Onwucheka, before the police took Ekeanyanwu to Otokoto Hotel, the crime scene, he confessed to killing the boy at Mba River in Ikeduru and dumped the body inside the river. The police followed the false trail but found nothing at the Mba River.

So at about 7:00 pm on the 20th of September, they returned to Owerri. The following Monday, they continued with their investigation and took him to Otokoto Hotel where the headless body of the boy had already been identified before the police team arrived.

On 20th August 1997, a senior magistrate court in Owerri docked 9 police officers.
For the murder of Ekeanyanwu.
They were:

Ifeanyi Anozie, an assistant commissioner of police

Chukwu Obasi, an assistant superintendent of police

Kevin Ezirim

Christian Nnazi

Clifford Odiaka

Felix Nnorom

Christopher Aguobi

Ignatius Igwe

James Ibezere

Josephat Nwosu

The case snailed on till 14th October, 1997, over a year,and after series of adjournments, absence of lawyers,Presiding judge, suspects or even the retirement of judges or their transfer etc

When the case Finally resumed, many were pissed off. Leonard Unaogu, the minister’s brother, was transported in a new station wagon from the prison to the court like a royalty.

Vincent Duru and other suspects were brought in a Black Maria from prison to the court, with handcuffs.

Duru protested the preferential treatment given to Unaogu.

Many judges handled the case.
First, it was Gabriel Ojiaku, then Simeon Ekpe who was almost done with the prosecution until he was elevated to Court of Appeal.
Then finally on 28th April 1999, Justice Chioma Nwosu-Iheme.

Justice Chioma Nwosu-Iheme Judgment:

She Sentenced All the seven suspects to death, they were:

Chief Vincent Duru, the owner of the Otokoto Hotel and Unaogu denied knowing each other, but Justice Nwosu-Iheme said that was a lie.

He appealed the sentence in 2012 but he was unlucky as the sentence was upheld by the Appeal Cou

Leonard Unaogu: He would later die some years ago at the Port Harcourt Prisons in what has been described as very mysterious circumstances.

BLACK SCORPION SECRETE CULT:

After judgment, the convicts all moved to the Port Harcourt Prisons in the middle of February, 2003 pending their execution.

Prior to the case of Okoronkwo, several children had disappeared in Owerri, never to be found till date.

Some were kidnapped and their wealthy parents will pay ransom. It was so serious that in May 1995,the daughter of Dr. Okoh, a Physician in the city was kidnapped by the Black Scorpions, one of the elite secret cult,asked the doctor to pay $12000 before the girl Will be released.

Eventually, the police stormed the hideout of the Black Scorpions and months later, the leader of the cult, Obidiozor Duru (who happens to also be the son of Chief Vincent Duru, owner of the Otokoto Hotel) and Amanze Onuoha, were both arrested.

They were brought before the Imo State Robbery and Firearms Tribunal on the charges of armed robbery,capital offence.

Businessman and politician Emmanuel Iwuanyanwu was also mentioned in the saga but he denied ever knowing anything about the case.

what happened next was nothing but a mockery of justice.
Duru and Onuoha were treated like royalties in the prisoner rather than criminals awaiting the death penalty.

They got the most liberal visiting privileges, ate food cooked and brought from their homes. They were like lords and Duru (a Ph.D holder in psychology from California State University) even impregnated one of his female Jailers and did a ‘traditional wedding’ with her before he completed his case.

And while they were incarcerated, the rate of child kidnappings in Imo dropped drastically.

In 1997, six people were executed by a firing squad following a judgement by Justice Emmanuel Nnodim.
One of those killed was Obidiozor, the son of Chief Vincent Duru, leader of Black Scorpion Cult.

WHERE IS OTOKO (Vincent Duru) NOW?:

Chief Vincent Duru(alias Otokoto) one of the men convicted in the celebrated case of the ritual murder of September 19, 1996 in Owerri, Imo State, was reportedly hanged.

His execution took place on Sunday, November 13, 2016.

This was 13 years after his 2003 conviction.
This was after government approved the execution warrant.

For His Properties:

During the administration of Ikedi Ohakim as governor, he tried to revoke the right of occupancy of the police to the confiscated Otokoto properties but people were said to have kicked against it.

The Duru family was also said to have approached Governor Rochas Okorocha over the confiscated property saying the property belonged to the Otokoto Group and not Duru. Okorocha stylishly brushed the matter aside.

Each time the issue of returning the confiscated property to the Otokoto family, Owerri people rise and protests.

CONCLUSION:

Nigeria is still in the grips of ritual killers, almost two decades after the Otokoto saga. The same factors that gave birth to the 1996 Otokoto ritual killings are still in place today: poverty, irrational beliefs in supernatural powers that lead people to believe money can be made from flesh without doing any work, weak/corrupt law enforcement agencies and a super-slow judicial system.

The presence of these factors explains why after bloody Otokoto saga, the country still had to face the Okija/Ogwugwu shrine saga in Anambra State and the Soka forest horror of Oyo State.

The Nigerian disease is still there – yet to be healed.

We must put a stop to the growing menace of "Get Rich Quick" Syndrome pervading our society today.

Otokoto happened in as far back as1996 when most of the young men and women involved in "Yahoo-Yahoo, Yahoo Plus, Ritual Money etc, were not even born then.
Funny enough, all those who involves in Human Ritual Killings, do NOT end well. because 'THE DEVIL HAS NO FREE GIFT'.

So Youths, becareful
Say NO to Blood money
Say NO to Human Ritual Killing
Say NO to Kidnapping
Say NO to short-cut to Wealth

God bless U All

Techm8:
I am tired of searching for the most suitable data bundle for my limited budget and I know I'm not alone. Pls if you know the best and most affordable data plan whether from Airtel, Glo, MTN, or even 9mobile pls tell me.
By business requires that I stay online at all times and I can't afford to be spending a chunk of my income just to buy data and stay in business

Any online business you are doing which cannot generate enough fund to cater for your subscription does not worth doing.

If you are doing online business, don't just only consider the affordability of data. Also consider network speed. If the data is affordable with almost non functional network, u have succeeded at achieving nothing.

tillaman:
spot on bro!!
I don’t see anything wrong with the living room at least he has a place of his own and perhaps should the need arise to remodel or if he feels compelled to redesign his living room he can do that any time he desires, the main thing is he has his own place!!

TeddyA is just a real guy. He's not faking his life. Probably, he has a more demanding projects of target than buying a porch house or living in a house that will make ppl feel he has landed.

This has shown that he knows what he is doing. Other Celebrities will come to social media to display fake wealth and all those.
Teddy knows where he is coming from and knows where he is heading to.

The troll want him to live a fake life by living above his means. Tomorrow, if he goes broke, they will be the first to laugh at him.

I don't give a fu*king damn.

tillaman:
So they expect his living room to be heaven on earth or Atlantis themed living room?? Dude seems comfy in his own world which is very important, the troll should post his own living room too

Don't mind that silly busy body.
He is still sharing same house with his mother and 7 siblings.
He does not even have a room of his own not to talk of having his personal property in the room.
His sound system is his phone which he plays music with through the N2,500 Bluetooth MP3 player.
He watches TV from the one in their common sitting room.
He is due to marry, but where u see money. Person wey him mama still dey dash money.
Come to Enugu and see where they are living, shame will even catch u on his behalf.
I pity that poor old woman.

NwaAmaikpe:




Just like that fan, I also have concerns over the feasibility of this apparently doomed union.
Aside Teddy's financial readiness to cater to a family, he is so domineering and BamBam has no sense of selfworth. She'd end up doing all of his biddings and debasing herself as long as it will earn her his validation.

The only closure will be that their kids will know their mom still married the man who shagged her in the toilet.

Teddy should know that marriage is totally different from just being a deadbeat babydaddy.

But why girls rush men who have been declared worthless by their former partners still eludes me.
Maybe they want to have a taste of the agony those ladies felt.

Anyways,
I'm happy I was there from the beginning and witneseed the takeoff of this ill-fated union.
Good-luck to them.

Go and get ur own wife first, let's see how well u will marry her.
Mr. Prophet of doom.

All these "First To Comment Youths" sef

Mortiple:
I HATE to see comments like this.

It might interest you to know that Basic is more YORUBA, HAUSA or BINI than Igbo just like other Igbo kids born and raised outside the shores of Igbo land who cannot even understand Igbo language not to talk of Igbo culture.

BTW, abum nwafor Igbo.

Go and sit down.
If the boy was born and brought up in Yoruba land and eventually was caught in a bad act, you will never tend to claim that he is a Nigerian. You would have pointed out that he is an IPOB, Igbo, developer and all the nonsense names that can come to ur head.

Please you not an Igbo man stop claiming that. That u can write 2 words in Igbo does not qualify u to be.

Ugosample:
I don't think so

But I think so

Even if 1Gh Ceedi is equal to 1million NGN naira, your money no fit reach money wey dey only Dangote floor mill.

Don't make us start another e-war with Ghana

After delaying menopause for 20yrs, they will be producing abnormal children.

I dey pity unmarried men. U guys are set to marry extraordinary chaffs.

They should also develop the way to test women to know if their menopause has bn extended.

From Menopause to Menostop and even Menoexit.

See how dirty they are smelling sef. Kids that could not even afford decent soap to bath with a deodorant to apply are doing this.

Now, two of them may stay in that prison. The daughters know about the escape. She was part of it. She brought in the silicon mask that the father used to disguise himself. She is guilty of conspiracy. The girl should be on a watch list. Her father's criminal blood runs strongly in her.

muykem:
Big disappointed to IPOB who think such protest is strictly targeted at Buhari.

Your hatred for IPOB will lead u to severe heart attack.

IPOB is on her own on this show. Let the Afonja lead, let's see hw far they can go. Now they want IPOB to join them fight for the release of Sowore. When Nnamdi Kanu was in detention, they were the ones telling Buhari to kill him.

Mmanu akara di uto, onye ratu ibe ya aratu.

Yyeske:
My IPOB brothers won't see threads like this to comment on. If only it was a Governor in the SW or north that said this, the thread would have gotten to the 10th page already.

How many times did u ever support IPOB or Nnamdi Kanu when he was condemning all these.
Now, let us assume the position u guys took when IPOB was fighting these abnormalities.

mmsen:
You used the word 'normal'. What makes somebody 'normal'?

If you re-read your statement you will see who is silly here and why you have resorted to ducking questions and abusive language.

It seems u have comprehension problem.
Nobody has bn referred to as bn silly here unless u want to claim that someone is which I am very sure it can't be me.
Pls go and get busy and stop following me around.

Royalbloodline:
You are very very wrong bro. Very wrong! I am so irritated by this comment of us! From all indications the OP is not a pauper . he is working his ass out just as every sane man is doing in this country! So to u if he makes more MONEY the wife will change?
Please just mind ur own business! It's not by force to drop advice

Oga, please direct ur anger to ur current situation and not to me. I am not the cause of ur situation.
U are telling me to mind my business in another man's business. Are u not mad by saying that.
Every advice given here must not be in conformity with what u think. Why not give urs and steer clear of other ppl's view.
Why must u carry the case on ur head.
Don't ever try this shit again.

Adewunmibaba:
@bolded... u restrict ur siblings from coming to live with you, but it’s cool to let the wife sibling lives with u... is the wife siblings more important

Don't worry. When u get to that point, u will understand.

mmsen:
You decided to ask a question with a question to get out of answering. You are not slick.

Silly question demands a silly answer.
What do u think?

Anonymus010:
I Need The Advice Of Experienced Married Men

NB: This is not my real account, I created this account for the purpose of this issue.

Please, I need the advice of married people (especially married men). I will make the story as simple as possible and I promise not to compromise the truth to favour me in this issue.

Brief Introduction: I am a man in my late 20's. Got married last year and currently have a 3month baby.

Brief history of my relationship prior to marriage: I dated my wife for 4years before we finally tied the knot last year. I met her in the university, we were classmate in school.

Before I started dating my wife, I was dating a girl in the same class but we both agreed to separate after 1year because we were age mate and she was keen on getting married immediately after graduation which I knew I will not be ready for marriage by then (Note: No sex in the relationship, She was a virgin and because I couldn't assure her of marriage, I didn't sex her).

After the break up with my ex, I became close to my wife and we started dating. She was self sufficient as she had a source of income while in school, she supports me, gives me money, cooks and buy me food etc. She was the best woman any man can think of. I fell in love along the line and decided this is the right lady to marry.

Note: There were several backlashes from other classmates insinuating she snatched me from my ex but we scaled through all that. We dated for 2more years in school and we graduated. We dated for another 2more years post school till last year.

Brief history immediately before marriage: Everything was fine till my wife's birthday last year. I did tripple shifts at work(48hrs work non-stop) and came back a night before her birthday and slept off. I woke up 2:30am to wish her happy birthday. She got angry and told me I didnt put her in mind and that I was not the first person to wish her happy birthday (She later told me her ex wished her first at exactly 12am). I apologised to her and told her the reason I missed the time. I had just 10k, gave her 5k to do a birthday photoshoot, used about 3k to buy her goodies as salary has not been paid.

Fast forward to after 1week of the birthday, she came up with serious issue, saying she wanted a break but not total break-up for some months to put herself together. She lamented she was not getting anything from the relationship, I don't usually take her out, I didnt celebrate her birthday well for her, I didnt buy cake, I didnt buy gift etc. I apologised and pleaded with her to be patient as we had big projects before us (wedding, masters degree and family apartment) which she knew I was saving for. We settled it and had sex. After 7days, I saw a call log on her phone where she had a conversation with her ex for almost an hour between 11pm and 12am. After 1month, she missed her menses and was pregnant. I asked her if she ever saw her ex, she cried and swore that she didn't (Note: I trusted her because she is modest and she is not the sex type). So, I agreed, accepted the preg, quickly arranged an impromptu wedding, I quickly sourced for money, spent over N2million on the wedding......

THE PROBLEM:

2weeks after the weeding, my wife started abusing my family especially my mum, telling me she hated how my family behaved during the wedding. I pleaded with her not to allow this to affect our home. The insults and abuse became perpetual. My wife works from home and will give me several reasons why she cannot cook after giving her money for food stuffs once I collect salary. Its just 2 of us living in a mini flat & I wash my clothes myself, but she will give me thousands of reasons how the non-existent house shores prevent her from cooking.

After 9months, she gave birth, I asked her who she wanted to come do omugo with the baby between her mum and my mum. She opted for my mum (claimed her mum will be giving her problem). Not up to 1week that my mum came over, she has started complaining about everything she does. Despite the fact that this woman will wake up 5am, wash everybody's clothes, bath the baby but she doesnt cook. My wife started complaining about her being obligated to cook every morning because of my mum's presence(Note: she doesnt cook in the morning, if I am going to work by 8am, I will either warm a left over previous night's food or source for food outside). When the complain was becoming overwhelming to the point of her almost insulting my mum in my presence, I told her I will tell my mum to go back to her house( my mum lives in a mini flat too with my dad, so they are very comfortable). She said I shouldn't. After 1 month, my mum left. The abuse, insults and complain continued. She will nag about how my mum did when she was with us, abuse and insults my family. I will appeal to her and defend my family. My wife became complete opposite of who she was when we were dating.

The real issue at hand: We would be migrating to the US soon. Lately, I can't control my wife, anytime I don't buy her idea or wish, she will rain insults on me. Just 3days ago, she told me I don't have sense repeatedly just because she said we should go and greet her mum's pastor which I told her not now but we can go later. If I tell her to do something, she will do otherwise and give me thousand of reasons she can't do it. 2months ago, I reported all her attitudes to her mum, her mum talked to her but no change, she is getting worse. Last week, I did 24hours at work, I got home, my wife didn't cook. I got into the kitchen, made custard and placed the soup on the gas cooker. We were both in the living room. She perceived the soup was getting burnt and insulted me, telling me it was because I was not the one that dropped money for the soup, thats why I wanted to burn it (She cooked the soup with her money because my salary was delayed). She insults me at will, gives me no respect and treat me as trash.(Note: I had never cheated on her and she doesn't doubt my fidelity. Likewise, I had never suspected her of such too).

I am currently scared because I know US is women's world because I have included her and the kid as my dependents in my green card petition. I am scared for my life and career because she could go worse in the US and destroy all I have laboured for.

Please kindly advise me on what I can do to change her.

Sorry for the long write up and any grammatical errors.

I will give u just one piece of advice and that will solve ur problem
My brother, u have done nothing wrong to ur wife.
Your wife has done nothing wrong to you
You love your wife and she loves you.

The problem u are having with your wife is that you need to make more money.
No matter how much ur wife loves u, if your not very much capable to provide for the family, she will tend to behave somehow.
It is very rare to see women that will be taking some vital roles of a husband in the home and still be very humble.
If u can provide all the money for the feeding, let her own just be as an optional additional, then she will be somehow humble.
But so long as most times, she will bring from her purse cos u don't have it, she will tend to behave as if she is the head of the house. That is women for you.
She is feeling independent cos she can get everything for herself and also provide for u too.

Even in the Bible, Adam was providing food for Eve, there was never a problem. The first time Eve gave Adam food, that was the day God chased them out of the Garden of Eden.

My brother, pray that God will bless ur hustle so that money wont be an issue to u again and u will see how humble this woman will be. Without money, she will feel that you are stuck on her and u have no option.

[b]N.B:[/b]Please, never allow ur mom to do OMUGWO for ur wife unless where ur mother inlaw is unavailable. U will be safer to intervene inbetween ur mother inlaw and ur wife dan when u do same bt ur wife and ur mom. Your wife will accuse u of taking side with ur mother as well as ur mother accusing u of taking side with ur wife. Either way, u are in trouble. With ur wife and her mother, u can only say to ur wife, honey take it easy with her you she is ur mom. To ur mother inlaw....Mom, please take it easy with her, u know she is just a little daughter of urs.

Same applies to letting ur siblings live with u guys. Take care of ur siblings but restrict them coming to live with u. Where unavoidable, let ur wife sibling live wt u.

God bless ur union.

Logobenz2:
Woman insult your family in your presence you no jam am till she collapse
Bros you dey fall hand o
Please no one should advise this kind of weak man.spits!
Who wouldn't know what to do at this point?some people dey born sha
Just look at someone's son.e be like na pap den use raise you.
Your mom comes to your own house and your wife not only mistreated her but tried to insult her in your presence?you know why?she knows you are a weak man.
That was your golden opportunity to teach her a bitter lesson that will be justified anywhere in Nigeria.
I wonder what she will do to you if you take her to the US.
Better cancel all plans of that visa,withdraw the application,divorce that woman whether the child is yours or Not,do not care!just be sending upkeep money for the child and get yourself another woman.
Jesus Christ!

Chaii......as I was reading through this, ur advice reminded me a portion in the Bible. The cause of the division of the Kingdom of Israel.
A king, Jeroboam rejected the advice of the elders and accepted the one from his fellow youths, his classmates and peers.

This ur advice is sounds like that one that Jeroboam took that caused him the Kingdom his grandfather David handed over to his father, Solomon which he was supposed to inherit but lost it cos of wrong piece of advice.

See below:

1 Kings 12:8-16 New International Version (NIV)

8 But Rehoboam rejected the advice the elders gave him and consulted the young men who had grown up with him and were serving him. 9 He asked them, “What is your advice? How should we answer these people who say to me, ‘Lighten the yoke your father put on us’?”

10 The young men who had grown up with him replied, “These people have said to you, ‘Your father put a heavy yoke on us, but make our yoke lighter.’ Now tell them, ‘My little finger is thicker than my father’s waist. 11 My father laid on you a heavy yoke; I will make it even heavier. My father scourged you with whips; I will scourge you with scorpions.’”

12 Three days later Jeroboam and all the people returned to Rehoboam, as the king had said, “Come back to me in three days.” 13 The king answered the people harshly. Rejecting the advice given him by the elders, 14 he followed the advice of the young men and said, “My father made your yoke heavy; I will make it even heavier. My father scourged you with whips; I will scourge you with scorpions.” 15 So the king did not listen to the people, for this turn of events was from the Lord, to fulfill the word the Lord had spoken to Jeroboam son of Nebat through Ahijah the Shilonite.

16 When all Israel saw that the king refused to listen to them, they answered the king:

“What share do we have in David,
what part in Jesse’s son?
To your tents, Israel!
Look after your own house, David!”

So the Israelites went home.

mmsen:
What makes somebody 'normal'?

Do u think u are normal or abnormal.

If u can answer this, then u have the answer to ur question.
If u cannot answer it, u need an urgent help.

mmsen:
Some people have no business having children or getting married.

Any body that tells u that he/she does not want to have children or even get married, know it that the person is not normal or has a problem that he/she has not bn able to tell u.

Every normal person is wired to love to procreate.
Some may say they don't want children when they know they have problem with their fertility. They will use that as a cover up.
Some will say same when they have gotten involve with some dirty religion or cult or even when they don't even have money to get married at the first time.

So any person telling u he/she does not want to have children, go a bit deeper, u will find out what he/she is trying to hide.

I am even wondering why Cossy is bothered about the whole sh!t. Is it that she doesn't want her name messed up?
That brings me to the point of asking which name sef.
Cossy has, right from time bn associated with all bad thing both in and outside the movie industry.
She should not be bothered when more bad things are linked to her. They are just more "glorious" feathers to her cap.

Cossy, you already have a dirty name that no amount of good thing u will do now that will make ur name come close to bn clean.

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