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8. YOU ALWAYS PLAY THE VICTIM OR NAG : Something is always happening to you. Someone did something to you. Going on with this routine can become a vicious cycle. Like the boy who always cried ' WOLF! ' and always got ignored, you may end not being taken seriously or believed. We always need to watch out for just how frequently we complain about certain things, else our audience gets fed up and we lose.

As Ghandi once said , ' Does it improve on the silence? ' . Talking to others should , and can be done with skill and tact.

4. YOU CONSTANTLY TALK AND THINK OF YOURSELF ALONE : So, you're talking and everything you are saying is about you. Even the ideas behind whatever you say suggest that you are not considerate of others. If you are guilty of this, you need to think more about others before you speak. No one wants to hear all about you for what seems like an eternity.

5. YOU FREQUENTLY BELITTLE THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS : Some one says something and you immediately judge it to be wrong or dumb. This is a problem if it has become a habit. Once people know that if they talk, you will only discredit them automatically, they will prefer to say nothing. Also, they wont listen to you too.

6. LACK OF ENTHUSIASM : One cannot expect to be taken seriously when his/ her ideas are explained to others with little or no conviction and confidence. Most people will feel you do not know what you are saying or you are just not excited about it. If you aren't okay with what you are bringing forward, that mood will also affect listeners.

If you have a problem with being listened to whenever you're having a conversation with others, this article is for you. Listed below are reasons why people might just tune out or not take you seriously whenever you talk.

1. YOU ALWAYS INTERRUPT : If you are talking to others and you do not give room for them to succesfully air their views, you butt in while some one is yet to finish a sentence - chances are that the person/people you are always interrupting will feel angry and less inclined to listen to you. Everyone will just keep quiet and ignore you while you say whatever you like, since you are so rude.

2. YOU REPEAT YOURSELF REDUNDANTLY : When expressing yourself, try to monitor what you are saying, so that you can notice quickly if you keep repeating those stories/ideas again and again. Chances are that people will quickly get bored if you continue to say the same thing.

3. NO POSITIVE INPUT: Once others notice you ALWAYS have a negative vibe, they'll move away from you. Try a little positivity.

In pidgin:

If to say we take and obey instruction on how God want relationship between man and woman to be, we for no dey confused like this by now.

see confusion na. Some people will be with bf e go reach until she old. Some people go be with bf, im go marry the girl. Girls just dey blunder with confusion, sister if the bf marry you, na your luck, if him turn you to 'old woman' gf, na your luck.

but why hang womens fate like this and say we should just accept like that.

villagecraft:
Permission to copy

Your friend has gotten his topic on frontpage na. You could copy that.

The last two tips.....

6. Dont Worry Excessively About Problems:
It is better to do something about a problem than to waste your time and energy thinking about it but doing nothing. Do not allow problems to stand in the way of keeping yourself active and achieving goals. If what you are worried about can be achieved later, write it down and continue with the goal you are currently focused on.

7. No Multitasking :
We should endevour to take our goals one at a time. Multitasking is quite energy draining and less productive. We may be able to achieve and perform better when taking things one at a time.


If this article has helped you, one of my aims for today has been achieved. Stay Strong !

3. Avoid Negative People :
Negative people will always have something depressing, insultive or discouraging to say. They are also reffered to as toxic people. It is better not to spend too much time around them, so that you can keep being inspired to achieve your goals and so they dont drain the little positive energy you have.

4. Have Healthy Eating Habits :
To keep up our strength and always feel energetic to do important things, we must watch what we eat. Take time to research on those things that will keep you sprightly and active. Food that will not make you feel so heavy and useless, or fat. For me, eating in moderation and having more vegetables and fruit is a 'yes' !

5. Avoid Energy Draining Arguments:
Fights, verbal arguments , are quite draining especially in the emotional aspect. Letting that ' storm in a teacup ' go, will actually be good, as you could literally say you are doing yourself a favour. Keep your strength for the things that can help you.

Hello All !

Have you ever felt drained and depressed, just tired , and incapable of achieving anything substantial from day to day, running into months and maybe longer? I have made a little research on ways we can curb this feeling and who knows, these few tips might help you as i feel they have been useful to me too. Lets check them out :

1. Do Not Browse Endlessly/Obsessively :
Browsing for too long every day affects our eyes and our health negatively. If you browse and waste all your energy sitting and watching dopamine - inducing videos and such all the time, what energy will you have to achieve other goals? Feeling depressed might be your body's way of letting you know that you are stressing it with this obsessive habit.

2. Exercise Regularly :
Nobody's pressuring you to be a body builder, calm down guys ! Take a walk for 30 to 40 minutes every day, maybe add a few push ups or sit ups and we are good to go. Its just part of shaking off that lazy or depressed mood and keeping yourself active.

Very beautiful woman

Gave it all, lost it all.

ednut1:
This looks fake. Are kenyans even fine Wives again kwa

those tourists are rich and have had an overfill of fine women. At a point all they care for is to have sex with a lady that is 'exotic' ( by a different skin color or whatever). As long as shes not abnormal, it is sex they just care for.

dreamwords:
a bitch cant step on my toes and go free, i will clap back,,
learn to be a man bro and not a sissy_man,, ladies like hard and wicked men

maybe girls that are not wise or have not suffered. I dont think any sane lady wants a hard (harsh) and wicked man.

Nice! I've learnt some new words.

Congrats to the lucky couple

I feel sorry for you on what you've been through. Sorry on behalf of your aunt. Leave the kids alone. You need to be distant from their whole family. You need to leave her to God, and prove the devil wrong, and come out of this clean and still happy, despite all.

Dont do anything bad because of anybody. At the end of the day nobody cares who hurt you and made you do it, all fingers will point to you.

Tedassie:
ehn! maybe God wants me to come back n win souls, especially on Nairaland...is it impossible.lol

souls in naija too stubborn sha.

If only they had thought of approaching the business man and stating their issue and asking for business advice, he might have even helped their businesses grow. Or he might employ them when they explain and beg, better than stealing

this here, its impatience and greed/callousness . These are things that everyone struggles with and we have to hope it doesn't overcome us. Those that are building wealth painfully and slowly are not fools.

Tedassie:

I was raptured...that's different

if you were raptured i can't imagine what would bring you back to earth, Nigeria and nairaland especially.

Tedassie:
runaway friend

lol, so you didn't run away too?

Those saying it doesn't happen, this is very possible.

sometimes when its just I and my very young brothers(13,14yrs) at home, someone comes to knock the door by twelve midnight. This scares the shit out of me. Just knocking. The other time my aunt reported a man shining a torch into the room at night. There are men that watch to know when the women or a woman is alone.

when my aunt lived with another lady, men wouldn't let them sleep. Strange men at night, they will come and shine torches on them, they are boldly trying to see their bodies. My aunt would be awake in fear until the men/man goes. It was when the man got bold to start knocking, he bellowed in hausa that they should ' OPEN THE DOOR FOR HIM! ' of all the nights, that evening, they finally started raising alarm. I think only one male neighbor helped them. The others felt it was their fault, their female voices were too loud, let men know they were living there.

faceland:
They are colourful and original (especially the close-up portraits). It is always a good idea to practice freehand and photorealisim/grid. Switching up your approach improves your artistic skills/

i will continue trying to improve. Thanks.

faceland:
From secondary school, inspiration (from others) and YouTube.

thats awesome, keep it up

faceland:
Thanks, I am flattered

you're welcome, keep it up, you're talented. Where did you study art?

forreelliinc:
Yea lets talk about something else, how your weekend go be?

i will draw, paint, do a little art/ diy art to sell, continue my writing and do some extra special house cleaning too. Read novels/ stories on nl. You?

forreelliinc:
As she no come fine nko?

thats your opinion and i have mine. I am off this issue now

forreelliinc:
Me? I'm just telling za truth

las las you are a stubborn boi, you no go repent...

Pettyprincess:
I experience online bullying alot both my facebook nd nairaland bt on facebook i just block nd that's the end,i'm only here to mix with Nigerians nd catch fun,its something i have gotten used to!!!
I am kinda introvert,thats why i open nairaland to just have fun nd make friends within this forum,i noticed people that usually bully me are guys that always try to get my attention!!
For example I dnt reply guys fb messages nd they will insult me nd say demeaning stuff because i ignored their messages nd boom i will notice them nd block them!!!
I am very proud girl,so i have gotten used to online bullying!!!

these people are relentless. Again i'm just glad you have a healthy self esteem. Keep being strong as you are and keep ignoring, to them they think it is fun.

they cant dull your glow.

Pettyprincess:
Babe dnt know why you replying them
I have stopped giving them my attention a long time ago.
They just want me to notice their pathetic life
On a normal day they can't approach me in real because i dnt roll with kids nd lifeless dudes.

i like your strength sha ! Since its not bothering you i wont disturb myself about it again also.

I love this thread, it is good to discuss and try to curb a bad thing..... and i hate bullying. I even spent some parts of the day indirectly trying to convince forec and newguyhere not to bully.

i have endured social bullying and verbal (not talking about my lil incident yesterday, thats settled). The op has adressed everything

forreelliinc:
Yea I know, why she go just run like that? Me sef no dey support b!tch like behaviour

you know i am talking about you.

Newguyhere:
What's your phone number? I really like your picture. You fine pass Pettyprincess any day anytime

If you dont become her friend i cant befriend you .