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purples25:
Toh, to all the virgins out there, if you can remain one please do , that could be fine for you. I have a rather young female virgin friend full of life and fun and I don't tell her to lose herself , she could keep it and also live life happily.

That aside, I don't even know where to start on this. We women may have our crazy sides, but I think our Nigerian men also have some psychological issues. I mean, sleep with women. Then turn around and look for every way to shame those whom you went out of your way to sleep with. Why the hatred from African man to African woman ? It seems the African male always looks for ways to frame and blame his female counterpart ..... ....'I catch you' mentality. It's a pity and for me I don't even bother to defend myself anymore. If it makes the black man happy to nail some blame on his woman, give a dog a bad name, no problem, it's just no longer worth fighting against, for me. Let the man give his blame and live in his delusional paradise of sainthood.


Well, as for those of us fighting here about the worth of virginity against character. Nairaland , is thankfully, not reality. I used to be winded up by these arguments too. Sometimes I wish every lady here could be like me and just sit back, let them rant. Lol, go to real life and see, whether a large number of those getting married aren't disvirgined already. You've done it, you've done it. To win the war in life is now to develop and improve yourself against all odds. In the real world, not nairaland world - guys will marry a strong woman that is hardworking and decent, that can hold and be responsible through hard times. That's the truth. Hardly anybody out there still having much hope for a virgin. No need to get anxious about what guys on here are saying, really.

Toh, to all the virgins out there, if you can remain one please do , that could be fine for you. I have a rather young female virgin friend full of life and fun and I don't tell her to lose herself , she could keep it and also live life happily.

Leave her alone.

Hml


I like your confidence.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Yes sis especially if we are to be taken seriously by our male folks.

Honestly.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Exactly this was what I called out a lady for yesterday when she called bam bam an olosho and people started quoting me up and down.

Women should really stick together.

PastorandMentor:
Very old

As you didn't see any more insults to give her.

Be happy for a successful independent woman, it won't kill you.

They think they can't be called to order once they are praying and doing other religious requirements. Do all the basics and leave your character to rot.

And they are very proud , arrogant and look down very much upon others. And they listen to no one , just stride above everyone else because they are active in church.

So called religious people pray and do all the basics but have very bad characters and attitudes that they don't care to change. I've noticed this as SUCH a widespread thing. I know what I faced when I followed the religious people, though following God is not about putting your faith in other humans.

Poor creature. Was so beautiful and all.

I will transform in many ways , more than just one. Positively. Amen.

ballerin:
Old pap, you ain't done yet want you wanted. why would you place a curse on Tboss and her siblings or a wee bit interested in their marriage if you've made up your mind to forget about them & start off a fresh life.
I agree, we've lost the sense of reconciliation in today's world..

Ah, he wants to forget them but still have a hold on them that will make them to come back to him. He wants them to beg him while he waves them aside and later, grandly , reluctantly , he will answer them after they have prostrated a million times in the dust. Mstchewww

PurplePatch:
Unless there is more to this that you haven't told us, I'm shocked to say the least. Some girls got no chill. You've been a good guy all along. That girl is "sounding" frustrated. Please do not add to her misery. Just ignore.

Don't be surprised. It happens a lot. If some people have their way they will shove you into friendship and romance . Nowadays a lot of people want it by force. If they like you, you must like them back.

I know rejection is painful, really it is but what is the point in trying to force, FORCE the person to like you back ? Its just going to be a fake friendship or love at the end, which probably won't last.

Really can't do without the sex right.

Probably pestered and pestered her and continued to selfishly drill once she got tired of complaining and kept quiet. Lol probably saw all the signs and kept going. What is wrong with him, being so fixated on sex?

Well what do I know. Just passing by.

Diso60090:
My mumu friend go and sleep our girls don wise up keep your mumu dlk and horse

look at that blatant internet scammer. Abi looking for who to use for rituals.

Emvico34:
shut up your your mouth before i shut it for u.
She is lamenting In hell because she died without Christ

And you are the golden headed angel Christian authorized to utter that statement from your holiest mouth.
And you are the one full of pride in his most righteous breast , the blessed one who cannot respect the dead and spews hatred as Jesus must have taught you.

The one that judges for God and hates for God even though the Almighty himself hath not deemed it fit to send angels to showcase on earth his hatred for the girl. But methinks you find yourself a forefront authority of God.

The proud and noble, clean Pharisee that you are.

Drown in your delusional grandeur.

Wait for the day you rot in your lovely clothes of self righteousness.

Drown in your arrogant filth.

blackbeau1:
If that 'fool' had as much money and grooming as u do, I bet she'd be a hundred times more beautiful.

Nobody's ugly o, everything is money , money brings out the beauty lol.

Akalia:
yap, nice to meet you.

Nice to meet you too.

Akalia:
lol, #Team*saggy*boobs.

Abiiii oooooo I answer

Akalia:
ah see why you support her. Your boobs are dropping south, your DP gave you away

Yo, that's better for me then . Let me support my sister.

Herrmes:
I apologise, you've shown me different, maybe I'm still childish but the sight looks unappealing to me, I understand that it happens overtime, but what's your opinion about it on a 23 year old? I think anyone who would be ashamed nature took it's course is not really strong mentally, but even the strongest ones fall too, I'm just saying it looks a bit insecure posting these pictures but I understand you.

Well I get the fact that the sight could be unappealing to you but I do believe that these things come naturally for some girls , yes, at that young age.....I think especially fat girls sometimes , even when they're little you can see some of them developing like that, flat boobs. And I feel sad for them being shamed. You know all women's boobs eventually sag, so this is a fight against shame for us all. You have a point about being mentally strong though but we may need to fight for the weaker ones amongst us. You know, the ones that do surgery, commit suicide easily over such body dissatisfactions ?

Well we respect the diversity of each others views and that's what's important.

Herrmes:
Jesus, you're so silly it's astonishing. This your idea of confidence?

You could reject my point without being insultive. From my point of view , coming out on issues makes way for other people with the same issue, to live better. What I mean by living better is that these ladies, will not have to bow their heads in shame forever cuz now awareness has been created. Not that everyone must bare themselves but she's basically being a martyr opening up channels where people stop body shaming them and they get to feel ok looking like that.

I support her 100%. Every one deserves to be confident.

I support her 100%

MissRaine69:
My question was rhetorical of course it’s not solely the sole blame of the girls hence the part that states it needs to be for both . You can’t target one aspect of a problem that’s created by two people. That’s a very short sighted outcome that will deliver very little.

Yeah I was actually supporting you on that. I just want the two sides to be equally blamed.

MissRaine69:
These young girls are not impregnating themselves are they?
Family planning is for all

It's not the girls that are the problem, but the boys. Boys that feel they should have sex at every moment, and every as.s they want is their right. Every time a baby is abandoned, people be calling the mother as if there was no merciless man or boy that also left her, sometimes even taking it as a payback or joke to abandon a pregnant woman.