jmaxjohn:


Blind bat, pls read again. Thank you. If you still don't see it, kindly don't mention me or comment. You're welcome.
Only reposted the intriguing twitter story. Take your ish up with the tweet

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sirdouglas:
Now before you judge me, I beg you to hear my side of the story.
I said my side of the story cos if she is here, she may not agree with everything I have to say.
This is a lengthy one but I will try to make it as short as possible.
I it is important to note that I am not writing this to be judged or ridiculed. I want matured and reasonable people to help out.

I met this girl in 2017. Can't really remember the month but it should be getting to 2years now. We started dating. As at the time I met her I wasn't struggling, I have my own business and apartment so I wouldn't say she met me when I had nothing. I was a big boy then if I can use that word.
She was just 19 or so then. I am this kind of guy that really really take relationship serious and always looking out to see if things can work out. I don't spend on her, I don't do much for her then. I wanted to see the kind of person she is. She doesn't care or even ask of anything. She might ask for something once in a while but I will pretend I didn't hearw her and to my amazement, she will never talk about it again.
With time I started noticing something about her that I don't like. First is she is really not smart and educated. I noticed that she doesn't have her own say. She listens to gossip and always bore me with what this person said or that person. I really hate that shit.
She is a mama's girl too. Sometimes I wonder if she gives her mom details of our sex life.
She won't sweep the house or do anything for me even while the relationship progressed. I started taking care of her and helping out with her needs. I constantly keep wondering if I can settle down with her but I am always stuck with that question.

I ended the relationship when it was clear to me that I can't live with her. I am an ambitious young man and I am not there yet. I want a woman who will be more than a sex mate. I want someone who can confidently handle my business and manage my home when I am not there. She is to naive to my liking. I am tired trying to build her into the kind of woman I want.

There is only one main reason why I wasn't really hard on her. She was one girl who accepted me from her heart and I know it and I respected that too. I suck when it comes to women and I respect women a lot. You know what they say about guys that respect women. They are mostly single �
She came back few months later. She wasn't ready to let go. Being that I am a loner. My defence wasn't strong enough. We started dating. I got hold of myself and ask her to go again because I couldn't see a future with her and I can't bring myself to be wasting her time.

She wanted to stay, I told her in plain words that I don't want to marry her and that's why I am setting her free.

She left and came back the third time. We had sex and all that but this time I was determined to let her go. I went to a lab for a test with to make sure I didn't infect her with anything because I treated staph before I met her and I was afraid it may still be there or something. To my utmost surprise, she was the one who infected me with gonorrhea. I treated mine and hers and ask her to go.

I noticed that she haven't seen her period and asked her and she confirmed it. She left and came back few weeks later that she is pregnant. She insisted that she wanted to have an abortion but I wasn't interested. I told her to keep the child. Besides, she has been the one telling me that my sperm us not working. I laughed over it. I became afraid that she will try something stupid so I took her to a pharmacist friend of mine to discourage her.

Her mother got to know and ask her to call me. I went with a friend and told her mother everything. I started suspecting that the child might not be mine because I treated her of an infection she possibly contacted from another person. In fact, I was shocked when she confessed about the infection. She said it is the toilet they use at home but I never believed her.

I told her mother that I am not sure about the paternity but however, I will take care of her. I told her family that I don't want to marry her and I have told her that severely.

We had a long discussion that day and I left. I started taking care if her the more. I made sure that I made my stand clear on the matter. I don't want to be a murderer so I got to do what is necessary. She started complaining about abuse from her siblings and war started. They beat her almost all the time and I wanted to take it personal. Shit do happen at times but that is not enough reason to kill their sister.

When all this is happening, I was processing my papers. In fact, I started processing my papers before she got pregnant and she is full aware of that. I took another group of friends to their home to help beg the brothers to stop beating her so they don't kill her and the child.

My visa took time so she was almost due for delivery before I left. I sent money to her account and bought some things I felt she would need even the unnecessary ones and left.

My problem now is that she contacted me few days ago to tell me that the scan said she is having twins now not a boy. I can't explain in details because I don't know but the bottom line is that she is now having a twins. I feel for her like I always do.

I don't want to marry out of pity. I don't want to live a promiscuous life. I don't want to marry this girl honestly and having a twins for me just complicated the matter the more.

She said the doctor said she will be delivering this month. I am thinking of sending my uncle and younger brother to her family house to do the iku aka or whatever that is called so I can lay claims to my kids.

Her family is so messed up that I will never want to do anything with them on a normal day. They are from onitsha in anambra and I swore never to marry from that state. That's one of the reason I kept chasing her away. When I say messed up, I am really not that good with English to find the right word to define how disorganized it is.

I am feeling like a monster already. I need all the help that I can get. I never expected this to happen. I never wanted to complicate her life but here I am in the middle of all this.

Should I marry her out of pity and save her the embarrassment or give her money and make sure she comfortable and go ahead with my life. Honestly I don't know what to do.

marriage is a lifetime thing so please never marry out of pity. You can make the babies legitimate by accepting them and taking care of their needs.
Please do not make any drastic decisions. Thank you

Re

tiredoflife:


Yeah I can see u are open minded
U want kids
Ivf
No be u dey ur profile
U think Ivf is for broke ass
Abeg shift
Go cheap
Get pregnant with a random guy
Don't ever ever put Ivf with u in a sentence again

you're definitely not worth it. If you're anything above 18 then I sympathize with your mummy.

tiredoflife:



Abeg no make me laff
Who no wan marry
Abeg no dey talk this kind thing again

A grown human being will just be so close minded to life.
Who no wan marry?. Is that really a question?.
There are billions of people in this world and you feel they all want to get married.. let's leave the Priests and Sister's aside even.

Nigga I no wan marry. I've known this since I was 16. The only thing that might scare me into marriage is the old age loneliness ish cos my friends would obviously have their lives at al.
And don't go bullshitting me about never being in Love, I've been in love and I'm still in Love; Marriage is just a whole lot extra.
Of course I want Children, and there's IVF and whatever for me if not getting married is my final decision.

Now see how 'not restricted and shallow' Life is.

xendra:
if that's her hair, then which hair she come take deceive us for lions heart

it's an old picture

mikejj:
Uptill now this girl never marry?? Just asking

what if she doesn't want to?. Do y'all ever stop to think about that?. Not everyone desires to be married off to some Prince Charming and Mr Perfect or whatever. She already has a beautiful child and perhaps it's all that matters to her.
At 16, I knew that I wasn't marriage crazy or anything, At 20, I still say I'd rather not get married at all, and don'tsay I'm young and naive or anything; you know nothing about me.
Marriage takes a lot and is for the strong. Some persons don't just have that strength.


Y'all stop judging please. Not everybody wants to get married, male and female. It doesn't matter that they didn't become Priests or Sister's too.

Guy that Lady is making it and leaving a legacy for herself. Who says she needs Marriage to be complete?

I did this oooo... Used office pins too���

teamsynergy:


have you heard of gay Gene?

Before now, Nope.

Just read about it. Read recent 2017 reports on it too.
It's existence still isn't a certainty that one would turn out gay.
It was stated that other factors such as environmental, etc plays major roles.
There also exist a higher percentage of people with this gene who are straight.


I believe my submission is obvious from the above.

kullozone:



But I've witnessed some cases where a boy starts acting feminine as early as 3-4years of age. I saw one (now a teenager) recently and he's "obviously" gay. How is it possible for them to make such choice in that early stage na Definately not from porn.

I also have no doubt that the rest would turn out thesame... No be say I dey swear for them sha

A girly boy ain't Gay. That is a false believe.
I've got a girly brother. He isn't attracted to the same sex in any way. He just has certain female mannerisms. A lot actually, but he's as straight as straight can be.
People show the whole gay concern but they're wrong.
The society with their erroneous belief end up pushing these males into becoming gay by influencing their mindset.
A lot of them work on becoming masculine as they grow up. I have a firsthand experience of this.

Krissjones:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay or a lesbian some people are just born that way simply tell your family to accept her and nove on.

Carry out a research before giving advices like this.
It's so not true.

Megabig:
there is nothing wrong with her,people are just born the way they are and it's not a disease too,it may be hard to accept as Africans but my dear,you have to just deal with it

This is far from the truth. A detailed research was made on this by the then president of Zimbabwe.
NOBODY IS BORN GAY. NOBODY!!!.

Carry out your own research. It's a thing of the mind.

So our Police officers now wear Slippers on Uniform

Prof. Emeka Chianu of Faculty of Law, University of Benin is top of the list.
Dr Gabriel Arishe is a great Lecturer too.
Prof Mrs Violet Aigbokhavo will not be forgotten by yours truly.
All of the Faculty of Law, Uniben.

Kingsley1000:
Christ blesses you based on the good things u've done and not by going to church

i believe in God but i dont believe in religion

Fellowshiping with Christians is essential. It isn't religion.
Recall the first Christians.
Please do take going to church important.
I had this say my own prayers at home ideology many years back.
I'm glad got gave me the required insight to know better.

Iye!!!

Please don't spoil me

Educative topic.
Thanks

Kikiki
This isn't a good sight in any way.
These pictures should be saved.

bobokeshington:



Because you're on NL now you think everyone na your mate abi...


I go slap sense enter your head now

kikiki

Damn funny. It's a pity you had to go check out my profile before you could type this.

Sincerely, you can't do nothing even if I was right in front of you.
Stop blabbing nonsense please. The heat is already too unbearable. Save my eyes from reading all this.

An aside tho...
Of course I know you're an OLD man. If you remember correctly, my first question was ; AIN'T YOU TOO OLD FOR ALL THIS?.
Can't start thinking you're my age mate, can I?

bobokeshington:



Ask your yansh

Nigga, come quote me when you can spell correctly.
Thank you.

bobokeshington:
ADIEU PAPA

Ain't you a little too old for this?

spongeisback:
Customary yes. Legally YES. You can take your marriage certificate to the courts and make an amend. Forget all they will say about African culture and what not the most important people (you,your husband and your immediate family) were present that's ALL that matters.

Sort out the legal aspect. Except you're tired of your marriage.

Sorry to say this but you are WRONG about the Customary Law aspect.
The DOWRY is so important and cannot be done away with in a Customary Law marriage. She has other elements of a Customary Law marriage present, but with the most important element absent, I must say she is yet to be married traditionally.
You can confirm this by checking it out.
I'd advise she performs a valid Customary Law marriage if she wants to tho, cos Marriage under the Act also has it's advantages and she might thus want to make do with just her Court Marriage.

I don't know much on Court marriages, but I think it wouldn't be too much of a stress if she takes the certificate back to the Court for it to be signed by the appropriate Authority.

Japhet04:
ok thanks, where do you study?
How did you know bimogha?

Yup. I'm a Law student. 400 level as well. In Uniben.

Bimogha lives on my street. He's a good friend.
I was born and bred in Port-Harcourt, but decided to have a change of environment for my tertiary education.

Small world really. I was in your school for the NDDC moot/mock competition late last year.

Japhet04:
yeah I know him, he is in my class

Just checking.

Your introduction is giving you out as a 100 or 200 level student.
Personally I did think so too.
Was surprised to see that you were in 400 level.

I'm a learning colleague too tho and we'd certainly be in Law school at the same time if there's no unnecessary delay.

I do hope you find a working remedy to your supposed Vilitigo.

Japhaet04, do you know Bimogha?.

Sincerely tho. That dude wasn't wrong to have asserted that it was completely unnecessary for you mention being a Law student tho.
The introduction was not a general one, neither was it of any relevance to your plea.
Either ways tho. It was what you deemed fit to be a proper introduction.

That said, I believe it's Vilitigo, and there is sincerely no permanent cure to it.
Best bet is that you let it spread to the other part of your lower lips to at least put and end to the incessant questions; as there exist lips like that. Then you'd adopt the already stated remedies to prevent a spread.

Don't mean to sulk, but online tests are the worse.
Had network issues till I had 1 minute left.
Couldn't load half the questions even.
Had to switch between my data and a friend's hotspot.
And to think that I had no network issues with the sample test.

Hopefully things would be better next year.

Draei:

Depends on which department you wanna know. #69,900 is the least we've seen so far tho something shocking came up today.(check the previous thread)

okay.
Thanks