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SiriusRhyme:
Hi qtguru, trust your day is going well.

I thought as much when I didn't get your response as regards the copy I wrote for Retani on Twitter, it's alright if you stay away, even better if you don't comment about the election at all. Politics has always been a dirty game; this is what the uninformed crew who only started supporting a particular candidate fail to understand. They want a complete overhaul of the Election Process and Politics as a whole which is close to impossible. Not in our Nigeria, there might be some changes but the effect will only go towards where those holding the Country to ransom wants it.

I have come to realise that Politicians with no exception are not worthy of emulation, and I bite my tongue for no one. So I only watch from afar and try as much as possible not to be influenced by them through Religion or Politics.

About your spouse to be, you have a lot of work to do, people are becoming more toxic nowadays and the resultant effect of their beliefs affect everyone. My advice are:

•If possible, relocate to another country, this will save the constant stress you might likely face.
• If you can't, try as much as possible to keep your family off of social media, I tell you that's the best. Here's a quick reason, a Black Man from Sudan got married to an Arab Girl; also from Sudan and they uploaded their pictures online. The comments received were so bitter and toxic it might influence one of the couples if care is not taken. One comment reads "... why do you marry your slave; referring to the guy as a slave to the Lady"

We are emotional creatures, so the best to do is stop something from happening than source from cure.

Finally about your friend, you need to get married first before you can understand Couples problem. I'm not blaming your reaction towards the Man as that's what every sane person would do, but experience they say is the best teacher.

While not supporting either of them, here is a scenario similar to theirs, a woman went to meet an Islamic scholar crying with a bleeding hand to report her husband maltreatment, on seeing this, the scholar was furious as to what might have made the husband commit such an act. Reality sets in when they arrived at the woman's home only to be told the husband she went to report is at hospital as a result of what the woman did to him. Apparently she injured her husband and then self inflicted herself to appear as the victim.

So couples matters are complicated, be thankful your friend was still calm enough to sit you down and explain himself, he might be lying but he still valued your friendship by narrating to you what transpired after you had given him a piece of what you were made of.

I wish you success in your Visa process and do take care of yourself.


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