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I so much dread the tear and cut. My first child the doctor used scissors to cut my vagina for the baby to come out. The pains during the stitching was out of this world.
My second child it was my cervix that tore, the pains stitching the cervix was 10times worst than the stitching of the vagina.

After that experience I stopped feeling pains even when I had a serious bike accident I didn't feel a single pain. Because I have felt the highest pain in this world.

Each time knife cut my hand, I don't feel it. At times now when something cut me I will be bleeding and I won't know until someone show me that I am bleeding.

I dread this cut and tear during childbirth. Each time I remember it, I don't want to have another child

Nacoss25:
I and my wife just settled our fight.
Thanks all for contribution and suggestion

I just pity your wife that ended up with a man like you. That's why they say that men are scum . So you don wash your oblogos for outside finish come now dey tell us say Una don settle. I just pity the poor girl cos she don make mistake end up with you

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Sammy101111:
Best advice call him For meet up
If you love him you . Man can easily continue if they still love you . BUT LET HIM Know hes fault and why you had no option but to leave then just reason with him maturely and not arrogantly

Men don't date for love. They date for s*x that is why once they get what they want, they move to d next girl and leave the old one heart broken and shattered.
Till ladies understand these concept about boyfriend that's when they will stop getting heart broken. If you are a single girl forget anything about love till you are married . When that man puts the ring in your finger then you can resume love for your own safety and health

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

I like your husband kind of mentality but let him try and reconsider and have just one child first then when he blow, he can now add other children to the family.

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

My brother sex matters a lot in marriage. Infact you should put it as number 1

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Lmao.... Nairaland men are so emotional , see quotes abeg

Same question I wanted to ask oh. Men are now the ones bringing there relationship on social media. If a woman brings her relationship on social media these set of men will condemn it.

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

You are regretting not marrying from Enugu or Anambra, another man somewhere is regretting marrying from Anambra and Enugu. The bottom line is that, this is is not balance. Whatever you have, just nurture it because no one is perfect including you. I know that if I sit your wife down now she will narrate her long epistle why she is tired of marrying you

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Jondelng:
Sir, please don't leave without getting a good plan. I am presently in the UK and I am talking from experience.
Your wife can be there and you can visit anytime.

You can take leave and go to find a befitting job, if not stay till you get a befitting job.

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Limitlessss:
I feel betrayed

You see this life, hustle oh. Hustle as if you don't have a brother, or a sister, or a mother or a father. Hustle hustle hustle. If not, even your blood go use you play koso

Onahi95:
**Fourth Experience**

After the collapse of my cloths business I had to get a job as a security man with a 15k salary. It was a one week on one week off shifting work so I looked to something to argument my salary. A friend introduced me to selling if singlets and boxers in traffic. I can't recall the cost price but I know each boxers sold returns a profit of #50, depending on the customers bargaining power, and #100 to #200 for singlets.

It was a whole new experience for me this time chasing after vehicles soliciting for patronage. At times I'm meet with stares from customers looking at me like I was wearing back of cloths. I later realized that I didn't blend with other traders, I looked a bit fresh and wore good clothes too. Not to worry, I would soon blend sooner than later.

Two weeks later and I was a shadow of myself, I had gotten so skinny that by belt was threatening to round my waist, I became confused in complexion, I wasn't dark nor fair more like grey complexion. To make matters worst I wasn't seeing any progress in the businesses. I struggled to make even #1k profit a day aside expenses. I wondered how others were surviving because the business was more like an exchange of money. I had to quite because the stress involved was inversely proportional to the income, I was just trekking round PH like a nomad for little or nothing at all.

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ManirBK:
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I woke up this morning to get a debit alert of 1200naira and they call it sms charges. How can I spend 1200 for just sms . This is ridiculous

GraciousGod190:
getting married to a woman can't motivate me to upgrade my educational background.
already told her it's over so be it, she's the one shedding tears over here.

There is nothing like upgrading yourself. I am a successful business woman and a graduate. But I am still upgrading myself. I still register for more courses on business and marketing, because I see that I have a strong passion for business and marketing. A lot of people think I studied marketing in my first degree.
So my brother, this should motivate you to upgrade your knowledge.
But is good as you are saying you can't upgrade yourself because of your girlfriend. That really shows how much you love her and if the marriage was going to last or stand the test of time. You think marriage is easy. Just one test, you failed woefully.

Emergingnation:
Lie Mohammed is a known terrorist, he has been defending Bandits and killers herdsmen since time immemorial..

What do you expect. Afterall he is yoruba. They are well known for eye service.

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Zordgrub:
Sorry to bore you but ill be very detailed so you all can understand me and proffer right advice.

TLDR; I am being indicted for fraud for not removing my former Boss card details before removing myself as an admin from an ad account and I have to write a Police undertaken before I get paid.

I work as a Digital Marketing for a brand in Lagos. My job involves creating ads, social media management and strategy.

We needed to launch a campaign on google but for some reasons my boss didn't know how to get his password. I suggested I created one, then he accepted and input his card details by himself. I sent him an invite to be an admin so he can see all im doing, which be accepted. He later became skeptical about it cos according to him, he said I created the account under my email so I am primary to the account while he is secondary, and he doesn't want that for his brand cos he already has google ad account, which means his card details is under my email and details. I told him it doesn't matter who is primary or secondary, we both share ownership cos he has admin status to it and he can login with his email too and I am not privy to his card details cos I can't even see the details on the card. He said no, that he wants to shut it down and remove his card. I then asked him how do we now pay for the campaigns already running? According to him, he said when someone replaces me, he would put it back and and initiate payments, I wasn't really paying attention to him, I then removed myself as admin from the ad account, meaning he alone owns it cos he was giving me the impression that I will bear the brunt of payment and I don't want my other ad accounts to be banned as a result.

He then got pissed and asked me to find my way back in to remove his card, I told him he has to grant me access then, he said no that he is not an admin to the account cos when he wanted to gain access to the ad account, he had verification issues while logging in, but I told him that he is the admin now and I don't even have access anymore. I had to reach out to support but they referred me back to him or attached a code to the backend of the site. He won't grant me access because of this primary and secondary thing and that he doesn't wanna click on a link that he's not sure what I have said to google cos he claims he's not the admin. I have apologized tire and explain tire yet he won't listen.

He said I should write a Police undertaken that if anything like fraud affects his card, I should be held responsible so if im innocent I shouldn't have any problem writing it before he can pay my money. Or I should find my way into the ad account to allow him remove his card. I told him I can't write any undertaken cos I wouldn't wanna be held responsible for anything I don't know about. The man is so mean so im being careful with writing anything.

My issue is, I need legal help for this issue. I work 6 days a week and I sleep over at the office some days cos the service we render involves entertainment so I need to gather content. I sleep on the floor in the office cos the accommodation is messy and I've lost weight cos of his work.

What should I do??

HOW MUCH IS YOUR SALARY?

LilMissFavvy:
Why didn't you call her, go on your knees and confess your lies? If you did that, she would have forgiven you, even though I wish in my heart that she should not continue with you because she is a girl of class and she will definitely meet and marry better single men. I mean, it's funny how you could break up with a woman when she did nothing wrong, yet you expect her to beg you , after having a child with another woman, (single father) you still think so highly of yourself, matcheeww!

His behaviour is a topical Nigerian guy behavior. That's how they break relationships for no reasons. I have met guys like him in the past who wakes up and just break a relationship for no reason. One even told me when I asked him why he wants to break f relationship and he told me that he saw me in his dreams and because of that he can't continue with d relationship anymore. That was when I realized that these guys derives pleasure in breaking hearts. And I joined the game to show them that 2 can play the came. So I will now be d first person to break d relationship before he does that. Like d case of this oops. When I started d game and a guy sends me an sms that d relationship is over. In my mind I will say, the relationship that I have already broken � since. Watin concern me. Even if comes back to apologize, I have already moved on cos there was no relationship, I was also in the game and playing it perfectly well

Offpoint1:
I honestly hate making calls, I hardly call ANYONE, in fact the last I spoke with my mom was 6 months ago... Is worse with my siblings and relatives. I can go a year or more without calling them.

I don't pick any call I didn't expect, neither do I return missed calls.

I hate sending people wishes, be it on social media, text or physical.
All my social media handles are in ghost mode, except my business WhatsApp.

I hardly reply messages on my personal WhatsApp line.

Although I get really busy most times, but I don't
think it's an excuse enough. I've tried changing, but it isn't working.

It seems the only place I reply to people is on Nairaland, I've never clicked a "Like button" on the internet before... I have phobia for it.

How can I adjust? I spend 99.99% of my free time Alone in a quiet place soul traveling to universe.

I don't like calls , especially business calls. Most time if I see a business call I will ignore it. I prefer the person to send me a message on my business Whatsapp and I will respond . Because the time I spend to answer call is enough for me to reply like 5-10 messages on my DMs. Most times I have over 700dm to reply. You will now use call to come and scartter my brain and spend 4minutes on the phone. Most time I use my hand to even cut the calls

I refilled my 12.5kg yesterday for 7,500naira

Each time this man makes any promise ,I get more angrier .

sola12:
U are lucky boss... She is still crazily in luv with u. She is only trying to protect n preserve her territory. Draw her close n give her better piping. Moreso women could be funny at times wen they are angry. Learn to forgive and forget!!!

Not when they are angry but when they are stressed. Let him check his wife, something is seriously eating his wife. He should call his wife and have a discussion with her to know her pains and her fears. Ask her what she dislike most about you. Marriage is not easy , it needs constant communication.

Sixsigmahub:
A male graduate who recently got a job in a company shares a story of how the boss of his new company turns out to be the girl he dumped ten years ago because she was uneducated.

On this article, he reveals that the boss in the company was the same girl he dumped many years ago when he gained admission into the university because she was not properly educated at the time he gained admission into the university.

He felled guilty and didn’t know how to ask her how she became so rich that she owned a company.

Read his story:

This world is just a small world, i can’t believe myself, it seems like I’m dreaming.

I just discovered that a lady that i broke up with about 10 years ago, because she was not properly educated is the owner of the company I’m currently working as one of the marketers.

We started dating when i was in SS1 and she was in JSS3, but she was dull, sometimes i used to teach her to some extent but unfortunately after that, she will forget all that i taught her.

Though we were normal until when i got admission into the university, after my first year, i began to hang out with other girls in the school, it was this time i started comparing her with them.

Then she doesn’t know how to speak good English although she genuinely loved and never asked for anything from me but since i have met with other girls, who were outspoken and beautiful too, i thought it was the best time to leave her.

During my ND2, i made up my mind to breakup with her and move on since there are many beautiful and educated girls in campus. So one day i picked my phone and called her and told her about the new development, i was like i can’t be dating someone who is not educated enough, while I’m about to become a graduate.

She cried and cried, pleading with me to stay with her that she will definitely improve soon. but i had made up my mind to leave, i stopped calling her, even when she called or texted, i didn’t take her calls or replied her messages.

Boom i started dating a lady called Amaka, i felt like i had finally met my match, because she was educated and beautiful too, but unfortunately before my graduation we broke up over an unresolved misunderstanding.

After my service, i decided to change location in order to start a new life, i started applying for job, luckily after some months, i got a job but the salary was not much because i had lots of responsibilities to take care of.

I worked for the company for 7 years before i decided to quit and look for another job because the former job was not encouraging, i was only managing all these years.

I searched for a job for almost one year, then one Monday morning, i got a call from one of the companies, i submitted my CV and was told to come for interview immediately, i had to rush there, the interview was successful, that’s how i started working but i noticed a strange movement after two months of working in the company.

I was promoted, while other workers who have been there before i was employed never received any. I was transferred to the headquarter, unknowingly to me that it was all planned by the same lady i dumped many years ago.

The next morning when i got to the office, she sent for me and i was like “what’s happening, at first i got promoted, now director wants to see me”. I walked to her office but couldn’t remember her because it has been years and i never expected her to be in such position.

The moment i got to her office, she mentioned my native name which i knew i have never used since i travelled out of my state.

I received the shock of my life when she revealed that she’s the same girl i dumped many years ago when i gained admission into the university. I was short of words because i have worked for the company for three months, definitely i have received salary three times from the same girl, i dumped simply because she’s not properly educated.

I was guilty and didn’t know how to ask her how she became so rich that she owned a company.

I only pleaded with her not to sack me because i had no other job to rely on, but even as that I’m not comfortable with the work because I’m ashamed of myself.

Sometimes it pays to be patience with one another whether educated or not educated. Don’t look down on anyone because no one knows tomorrow.”

https:///the-girl-i-dumped-years-ago-became-my-boss-at-work/

You get luck. If am to be in her shoes, you will pay for the tears I have shed in d past.

Ekele22:
I tried it but she say,she can't come to a hotel but she can come to any open bar,my brother is it not the same.

Is it not from open bar,hotel spirit dey enter.

I ask her through my fake account to come to my house but she refuse saying we just know each other now.

Hahahahah,that girl na olosho oo

U no be olosho too? A man that has more than one girl friend is nothing but olosho

A woman is being raped and she is scared to speak up , because when she speak up,she will be blamed and the man will go free . I remember some years back when I was ganged raped, I couldn't open up to alter a word to anyone because in those days you there not say it. Not now that women are coming out to speak up . And now women are speaking up and they are still being condemned for speaking. And they say feminism is evil. You do not have the right to speak. And even some so called women of God ,still join the men to condemn us for speaking . We will fight this evil till we win the battle. Yes call it feminism, I don't care. The way of feminism has not even started and they are scared already. We are just in genesis now,by the time we get to malachi they will understand.