₦airaland Forum

sistawoman:
I thought i could pick the state from the list.  Not realizing that what i know is of the city not the state until amos told me the difference on the phone.

I have never been to nigeria, never studied nigeria, never even knew there were states i just thought in terms of cities.

Like i was rasied in Landover, lived in cheverly, and in washington.  If you don't know the US then you don't know that is three cities in two different states.

Like my grandmother is from Norwich, UK.  Is that correct are their cities and states there?  When she asked the question I googled the states in Nigeria thinking i know this and I can pick it from the list.  I was quite embarrassed that I did not see it.  Not knowing that i never really asked him the state and only knew the city.  I knew it started with an A and i kept saying akure in my head but could not find that on the list.

so you were confusing anambra with akure ?

didn't you guys read in her other threads that this was a "green card arrangement"
what time does she have tolearn of him?

_{well she said they fell in love and are now marrying for real}
who shall we ask?

Infact let me do my investigations.
at least if wants to lie,let her lie diplomatically

Ruby_Pearl:


Anambra talking drums will do

Ekwe Ogidi

debosky:
you be winch?

I can imagine if she says he's from Akure in do do state or even ogudu state.
which one is Yoruba from Anambra state
and when people raised eyebrow,anambra changed to ondo _{courtesy of google}
I don't believe this woman,one bit

mesmya:
sistawoman ,im most convinced that u copied this thing smwhere,maybe google

I agree.
did she call the anambra Yoruba man just now to find the answer ?
This woman may not be who she says she is
I'm usually right  

this whole thing smells like a hoax

KarmaMod:
Lol that's how those "Anambra Yorubas" do.

Sista, I am begging you. Before you go crazy, FIND OUT ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND. Something is rotten in the state of Denmark.

He's "angry" about you lying about not babyig yiur kids. He told you he's Yoruba and from Anambra. Abegi. Something is UP

OSANOBUA!
na dat one catch my eye.
He's Ijebu Igbo

Ivvie:
[s]I wasn't threatening you nor am I part of the islamic faith. I can't even see where the insecurity comes from. I don't believe in sharia neither do I know much about it. Whatever the case is, try reserving your opinion. It is a very sensitive matter as far as I am concerned. Islam permits 4 wives and there is nothing you can do to change it. Why he has 21.5x the number is unknown and none of my business. He has been warned to restitute at least 82 of them. I don't know any Amina and you are guilty of thinking twisted coming down harsh on a soft tap. If you never read what I wrote, take the time to. I don't go about talking "hate." What you are doing is hate speech and it is frowned upon. It is not just you to judge is where the point of view is. I am not threatening you and I DON'T support the tradition. You shouldn't consider yourself better or wiser than those that live within its boundaries. There are many people of influence far greater than yours but you don't hear them. Draw your conclusions within your space but not in a manner that mirrors hate. I have heard nothing but bad news from Nigerians concerning this issue. The opposite is from my Turkish, Lebanese and Iranian colleagues. It is bad enough that Nigerians are noted for notorious attributes. Atributes that stand true or false. How would you feel if you were in a gathering and everyone focused on the negatives? I want to believe the people are complacent about it or satisfied and don't see a need for a change lest they relocate. I have my conclusions about it but it has no place on this forum.

The only advise I gave was to be careful. It is really a sensitive matter (the whole faith itself) and some defend it with their lives. You are talking sharia today, tomorrow it may be another related matter.

The story itself is sad because he isn't the only one involved. There are 256 people involved making the subject making it a mass matter. Respect people's religion and culture is the bottom line.[/s]

I hope you don't think you make any sense.
You don't.
Turkish Iranian and Lebanese my calloused foot.
what concerns them here when I'm talking about Nigeria ?
I don't need advise from you.
Make your point and move on and allow me to make mine.
Reserve your caution to those who would appreciate it.
I sure don't

DeepZone:
Breeze don blow and we don see fowl nyash. Where are the southerners that are supposedly corrupt?

Infact breeze don blow, we don sabi say Reverend father  wear boxers

Ivvie:
Queenisha && Dgratruck

Keep in mind that sharia is one of the pillars of Islam and mere talking against it or ridiculing it will not change its structure. It also means that it is 600 years older than you. You met it on earth. If the fellow is Islam by faith, he will have to abide by it. It is clear that 4 is the max you can attain in a lifetime (number of wives) and anything more is going out of bounds. He has been given the opportunity to restitute. If you were born in such environment, you'D have a different mode of reasoning. You did not hear the British say anything negative about the issue or sharia as a culture. Your opinions may be malicious against it but keep in mind the sake of peace. The forum is to about the number of wives not the religion or its custom. Moslems defend their faith to the letter; be very careful. The next time may not be a forum were you mask behind the screen and keyboard.

Is that threat ?
do your worst!
For your information sharia is not a custom or culture, it's totally and exclusively religious
The least you could do is get a little education on certain concepts before opening your mouth too wide.
That old man has done nothing wrong.
He's not molesting kids which ironically would have been aye okay with the same sharia.
Grown women willingly became his wives.
It should be his choice what he chooses to do with them.
He's not harming anyone or is he?
If you tell me Islam permits just 4 wives,then why on earth would the founder marry multiples of 4 ?
In your twisted reasoning, Amina Lawal should have been stonedto death afterall, sharia sentenced her to death?
But for God's grace and the intervention of sharialess societies,she is living.
I bet that must hurt you and your like.

Nella:
what is juju? -- Is that a scientific term? please expatiate this strange words for intellectuals and outsiders like me oo

juju is basically black magic, voodoo and the like.
It's called juju in Nigeria

Hannibal:
Attracted to an uneducated person?? Of course.
In the western world, the margin is minimal. . . . .A lot of peops never saw the 4 walls of a school but u would hardly notice.
Besides, why can't one be attracted to an uneducated woman. . . . . . What has that gotta do with love?
As long as she can read and write plus speak fluently. . . . .I am GAME!!!

How can she learn to read and write when she's unschooled?
Can you be attracted to sikiratu selling pure water at Tejuoso?
That is the question

by papa dims

what do you mean by this?

just take a good at yourself, your president is sick and all you can say is this, courtesy demands that you wish him a quick recovery.
thats the problem with nigerians, you always complain of everything. please change your attitude before GOD strikes you with a deadly disease that you cannot handle.

bia lookie hia.

Who do you think will be striken down first?

answer: one who wishes his fellow human a deadly disease
Idiot!

davidylan:
Some people have no shame. Is this the Kobojunkie who was defending Yar Adua last yr?

I saw that too and remember how she was carrying on about the fact that illhealth should not be a disqualifying factor.

After settling for the Saudi German Hospital in Jeddah, Yar'adua’s handlers issued a deceptive statement that he was going to one of the holy sites of Islam to observe the lesser hajj or umra. He was flown to Saudi Arabia on Wednesday night, a day later than originally scheduled. The trip was delayed in a desperate attempt to minimize the impact of an accurate report by this website that the trip was for Yar’adua’s medical treatment

I wonder why his aides are called handlers
Is he a wild animal ?
All the cover up,greater hajj, medium and lesser hajj
what won't they tell us

CyberG:
Is anyone surprised that this kind of news will never be published in Nigeria? The last time he was rushed to Germany, Nigerian papers did not publish the truth of what happened until several days afterwards.

do you want them to "dele giwa" the publishers?
northern style

Turai Yar’adua has rebuffed the pleas of some Northern politicians that her husband should resign and pay full attention to his recurrent health crises. She told them that, citing Generals Sani Abacha and Murtala Muhammed, that even if her husband died, he won’t be the first ruler to die in office.

someone needs to slap that "first lady"
Is it more important to her that her ailing husband dies in office risking military takeover?
nigerians and greed

big father:
There are two different things . Being a juju man is different from being a ritualist !

ritual no be for the same deparment of juju?
looks like we have specialists on jujuology in nairaland.
Please educate me
I'm completely clueless

KarmaMod:
when a good friend of mine who is Igbo graduated, I knelt for her parents and they looked at me like I was a crazy alien.

ROFL
If you were male,I would think you're trying to peep under my wrapper

I love that custom though.
davidylan and all y'all should be kneeling to reply my posts

theopops:
Wise woman, Queenisha, thanks for your inputs.

I will just let sleeping dogs lie and don't bother with adding more wood to the fire. Next time someone tell me say Igbos no get culture, I go remember to tell them, that you said otherwise.

Yes, I am interested in the basics. Like, if i kneel for his parents, will they get mad? Every man has an ego, so I will be sure to stroke it. I think I am just interested in the basics for now. More like, I want to put my best foot forward. I am sure the rest, I can learn from his sisters.

Thanks once again. I appreciate.

Of course not,I don't think they'll get mad but it's not Igbo culture to kneel for elders or prostrate.
I only see that in Igbo nollywood movies where women kneel maybe it was done during my great grandmothers time.
But it may be just okay if you just bend your knees briefly while greeting and if they bring out their hand for a handshake,you use both hands to shake them .
You'll score major points

My mother told me that one has to be diplomatic in marriage especially when dealing with in laws.
You have just one chance to make a first impression, so use it wisely.
There's nothing a man loves more than a wife that cares about his family[b] especially his mother.[/b]
Even if she's a total witch, to him, she's the best woman in the world
Remember she gave birth to him
treat her well
befriend her
buy her gifts
spoil her with love and kindness.
call her on the phone just to ask of her welfare
Once you get her on your side, the rest is smooth sailing.

any more questions dear?

dgratrock:
this sharia thing will sink this nation one day. can't a man be free to his thing? i think nairalanders should devise a means of pressurising every member of the legislature from our various constituencies to expunge sharia from the constitution and stop this national embarassment

I wish it were that easy.
These people are a big disgrace
Of recent it's been one idiotic news or another from sharryland
First it was amina lawal sentenced to death for fornication while the man went free for lack of evidence
second it was the Miss world saga with fatwas placed on a jornalists head
now they are calling for the death of a grandpa
maybe something to occupy them until they find another pauper who deserves amputation

will they help with my relocation expenses?

subice:
South London never used to be this bad (compared to North London), it's just spreading there. North London is the most fatal, most stabbings and violent crimes occur there, especially places like Edmonton, Seven Sisters etc.

Chinekee
That's where my folks live.
They need to move.

DeepZone:
[size=14pt]Nigerian faces death for 86 wives [/size]

Mr Bello Abubakar challenged Muslim scholars two weeks ago
Nigeria's Islamic authority has told the man who has 86 wives to choose only four and repent within three days or else he will be sentenced to death.

The Jamatu Nasril Islam (JNI) passed their verdict on Mohammed Bello Abubakar, 84, according to Sharia law.

This comes two weeks after the Nigerian press and the BBC reported on the case.

Talking to the media then, Mr Abubakar challenged Muslim scholars, saying there is no punishment stated in the Koran for having more than four wives.

However, Mr Abubakar advised other men not to follow his example and marry 86 women.
https://newsimg.bbc.co.uk/media/images/44901000/jpg/_44901080_wives_baba_226.jpg

No limit

The former teacher and Muslim preacher lives in Niger State with his wives and at least 170 children, and says he is able to cope only with the help of God.

"A man with 10 wives would collapse and die, but my own power is given by Allah. That is why I have been able to control 86 of them," he told the BBC.

Most Muslim scholars agree that a man is allowed to have four wives, as long as he can treat them equally.

But Mr Bello Abubakar told the BBC: "To my understanding the Koran does not place a limit and it is up to what your own power, your own endowment and ability allows.

"God did not say what the punishment should be for a man who has more than four wives, but he was specific about the punishment for fornication and adultery."

Niger is one of the Muslim majority states to have reintroduced Sharia punishments since 2000.

Several people have been sentenced to death for adultery by Sharia courts but none of these sentences have been carried out.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/7574757.stm

The shariarists are just as stupid as the legislature in Nigeria.
No be the same hookworm infested "pure water" them they drink?
They major in trivialities while folks are dying of hunger.
They leave their governors and officials stealing their funds and legislate morality on an innocent senior citizen  who obviously is not harming anyone.
The irony is that these shariarists will see nothing wrong if this man left all these women went out and picked 4 girls under the age of 8 and called them his wives.
What a warped way of thinking.

Ruby_Pearl:
lol! Life don spoil!!
This is kind of gross, a 79 yr old man, c'mon! His time is over na.

For the info that I know, our king of our village is my grandpa's brother.
So the only money he uses (that I know of) is to ask my elder aunt to arrange a trip to America.
This ^boring convention is made, where Ekitis in USA are suppose to come and greet him.
All in all, atleast he does not waste our money sha.
The man is smart, if I tell you sef, how rampant juju is there

Juju is as common in nigeria as hamburgers are in America.
Every area of Naija has juju
That's why I laugh when some idiots come here and call igbos ritualists.

theopops:
I am about to marry an Igbo man, I need to be impacted with wisdom from you wise Igbo women. I am a Yoruba girl and I know next to nothing about the Igbo culture. I keep hearing that Igbos don't have any culture. I am sure they do, so wise Igbo married women, please biko nu, come help me here.

Little info: He is from Abia State.

Thanks.

Now to answer your question ,I'll start with a question.
What exactly do you want to know about his culture?
How to greet his parents,relate to his family,prepare meals?
be specific,I may be able to help
there's another girl on the forum that is destined to marry an Igbo man her name starts with a K
I may help her too

An Igbo man is just like any other man
nothing unique that demands special attention.
Love him, treat him right, stroke his ego, let him be the man
_{this may be my sister in law}

theopops:
I am about to marry an Igbo man, I need to be impacted with wisdom from you wise Igbo women. I am a Yoruba girl and I know next to nothing about the Igbo culture. I keep hearing that Igbos don't have any culture. I am sure they do, so wise Igbo married women, please biko nu, come help me here.

Little info: He is from Abia State.

Thanks.

Is that what Yorubas teach their kids?
I ask this because I've heard this on this forum only from Yorubas.
What do you call iri ji festivals?
what do you call nkpokiti,atilogwu,nkwa umuagbogho and the rest?
What do you call nze na ozo?
Nmanwu nko?
what do you call iwa akwa in Imo state areas?
How about Ekpe in some areas of abia state?
what do you call iru mgbede and igbu ichi?
dibia ukwu na nke nta
and these are just to mention a few
Have you read things fall apart to see Igbo culture,granted a lot have been overtaken by Christianity
Thank God!
_{If not I would have been wearing jigida on my waist as clothing}

what is even this so called culture that Igbos seem to lack?
tribal marks?
seriously I'll like to know what culture we lack
Our protocol for marriage is unparalled with umuada to make sure things are done correctly.

Is it food?
Ofe nsala,ofe onugbu,oha,egwusi,achi,achara and ofe owerri are all Igbo.
mmiri oku uda na ji for nursing mothers nko?
Isiewu, ngwongwo, ugba, nkwobi,abacha and okporoko,aki n'ukwa are igbo delicacies

How about okpa,ukwa,akidi.
next time anyone tells you Igbos don't have culture,tell them Queenisha calls them bloody liars

$600 worth of viagra like medications a month for the ovie?

Ruby_Pearl:
Oba ile Ilemukun, Ikun Ekiti dares not spend the people's money like this . . . . . by the time them don finish using juju on his head, he'll be the one begging people to take money.

Our own royalty spend money on their manhood.
There's nothing left for trips.
see this


Royal father splashes N.72m on sex drugs
BARRY OSA AGANIGBI, Asaba
http://www.champion-newspapers.com/n, le4_250808.htm

Traditional ruler of Oghara Kingdom in Ethiope West local government area of Delta State, His Highness, Issac Umokoro, spends an average of N720,000 annually or N60,000 monthly on sex enhancing drugs.

The monarch who said this in an interview with Daily Champion, explained that the continued use of the drugs has enabled him satisfy his many wives sexually.

The 79-year old Ovie of Oghara who was installed as Monarch on September 1, 1979, also canvassed constitutional roles for royal fathers in the country.

Said He: "I am still strong on bed. I take tablets and water, they help to give me power. My doctors in Abuja and Benin recommended the drugs for me.

"I may be old at 79 but I am still very active sexually. I spend over N60,000 monthly or N15,000 weekly on sex drug. You know, I have many wives…two of them in their early 20s.’

JeSoul:
@David

this isn't actually the worst I've heard. . .
one of those speakers on TBN was 'praying' and 'prophesying' how God was sending "Liposuction angels" to all the fat overweight people watching n listening. "Liposuction angels"? wonders shall never end

You are not serious
where are they?
I need about 24
I need them to begin work immediately on  my bakassi
I need to get into  my little black dress for an upcoming event

touch not my annointed!