It's quite unfortunate that you feel that way kodewrita; a world void of love is indeed a world empty of hope.

For starters, a husband and the wife can never handle the same case, as this will constitute what is commonly known as 'conflict of interests'.

Now, would I marry a legal practitioner? NO. Why? we'll talk each-other to death for one and we'll forever argue for another. However, it might actually be interesting as you share another common passion; your career.

Questions such as this are not exhausted with a yes/no answer. At the expense of sounding repetitive tonight, I dare say it again depends on what the parties want for themselves individually and collectively. Falling in love, STAYING in love and getting married to someone goes beyond these mundane issues. If he has to be a lawyer, so be it. As long as he's intresting, exciting, caring, loving, considerate and above all God fearing, it's all good, really.

@diakim, I completely agree with reasons stated in points 1 and 5. Having said that, again, it depends solely on the couple. One man's meat is another man's posion and people certanly have different ways of managing their affairs.

Very sweet indeed. But I guess she'll appreciate it better if you were to get an artist to write out the words on a plain card for you. That way it looks more personal. Just a suggestion.

I particularly like the song myself and just yesterday had a rather interesting conversation with a friend about it.......

I beg to disagree.

When I was a student in UI, it was the in thing to date married men. Infact it was more common and natural than brushing your teeth. Now, if you take a closer look at 90% of the babes into this 'trade', such as it is, they are by far not from poor homes. Most of them are from very comfortable backgrounds. They do it for the money alright but let's not confuse poverty with greed here.

We are all of the popular consensus that however wrong it is, it is common place now for married men and even women (God help us) to have scores of affairs, but it still does not make it right.

@ Femi, that was just a silly jibe re your post saying how available you were and stuff.

I must say that your woman is very lucky and blessed to have you. Romance is so essential guys!!! Should I say that again? It's the lubricant in any relationship. I think if guys can only start to treat their women the way they did before they got married, this world would be a better place for all partie concerned.

The saying that 'what it took to get me is what it takes to keep me' should be applied more often. But being the softies the good Lord created us as, we make it far too easy for you guys and go all soft on you and stuff.

In any event, it is good to pamper your woman, it makes your life easier and keeps a radiant smile on her face. May my husband text or even call me from in the same room if he so wishes, to profess his undying love. Amen

I dare say you misread Femi, at least on that last post. Well, I still insist that I like the ad and think it's cool.

I also happen to think it's romantic, but Femi dear, your availability is a bit.....what shall I say?...... unapplicable?

Another ineffectual conclusion! But we won't go into that here. A more cogent reason; because God ordained it and therefore it does exist beyond any iota of doubt. Plus my three older folks are married to their perfect soul mates and they are a joy to behold. My parents, despite their initial teething problems (told to me, not experienced) remain the best happily married couple I ever saw in my whole entire life. Need I go on......?

There is hardly a proper way to define true love than to say that it is a fellowship of minds, unity of souls. The only way to know true love is when you find it. You positively know that it can't possibly be better elsewhere. Your soul is at home, your mind is at peace and your feelings are adequately reciprocated. Far be it removed from either party to even think of cheating on the other in true love, there simply isn't any room for that. The more I think about it, the more near impossible it seems in this age of gross materialism, warped orientation and mentality birthing and permitting  infidelity for true love to still abide. Yet it certainly exists, however scarce. But I strongly believe that if you're determined to find your missing rib, the very bone of your bone and doggedly refuse to settle for less in the name of tradition or following the more often than not suffering multitude to get married at a prescribed age, you'll eventually meet the soul that was destined to be in harmony with yours.

What am I going on about? I am an incurable lovebird and could go on for ever about this, but in a nutshell, true love is when you willingly sign your heart and all that you hold dear, yes including your possession over, knowing fully well that even you can not possibly take better care of these things than the recipient. Total trust and faith in your partner which of cause they must have earned time and again. This is not to suggest that there will not be the occasional spar over different issues as no man/woman is perfect, but as they say, ‘making up is the best part of falling out’

Interesting debate so far. As I said earlier, no single person knows it all or holds all the answers to matters of the heart. More often than not, we're all better individuals for sharing ideas and learning from people's experiences.

Suffice to say that I've learnt a thing or two so far and I'm certain other people have as well.

As relates to the issue of committment; it takes time to grow you know? In my opinion, committing to a relationship would mean that you both know each other to a very reasonable extent and are ready, knowing what you do about each other, to give your all to the relationship. That is when both parties start talking about getting engaged, either the traditional way by getting the parents to know themselves or the western way by exchanging rings and all.

In any event, I wish everyone what they wish themselves relationship wise. May all looking for it find true love with which dwell happiness, joy and peace of mind together with fulfillment. Did I hear a resounding amen.....?

That makes two of us dominobaby. slimbeauty seems to be looking for a modelling contract of some sorts. I however regret to annouce that we have no need for models here unless of course they wish to contribute handsomely to our various discussion, in which case we throw all doors open in a warm welcoming gesture.

Dear Seun, erm ... I think it's time you gave me your number. We seem to have a lot to discuss about relationship, marriage and the things that go on behind closed doors ... Your thoughts about these things are refreshingly innocent, bless you.

Femi, for your sake, you had better at least still be cute, forget cuter, or else trish will ..., you know the drill, mate.

Thank you jare Femi and Tilly, at least now I know I'm not from Pluto

No one knows it all really and absolutely no man is an island. I've often wondered what exactly makes, constitutes and maintains a great relationship. Right from the onset; when boy meets girl and likes what he sees and hears, hiss next action is to ask for her number, is this the point where the babe is expected to turn coy and refuse to give him the number?

How do you know when a girl/guy is only having you on?

How do you convey to a suitor that you also like him without appearing too forward or 'cheap'?

Having started the relationship, what are the unlisted dos and donts that sustain it?

If anyone by chance knows the answers to any or all of these questions, please shoot, cause I'm all ears

seun:

Women. Today they love you. Tommorrow they 'realise' that they have never [I]really[/I] loved you, so sorry the relationship is off and there's a new guy ...

So to answer kodewrita's question. I was probably my first date's 999th date. And she probably didn't consider it a date, or maybe she did but won't tell me, who knows?

Women!

Dear Admin.,

Don't let's even go there! If a woman loves you today and falls out of love with you tomorrow, not being a mad woman and all, is it not worth pondering over if maybe some crucial thing changed in you or worse still that you never had that 'thing' but simply pretended to be who you weren't just to get her undivided attention? It's been known to happen, you know? At least a ZILLION times.


MEN!!!

As a boarding house school student in Sagamu, I would go to the school stadium (within the compound and quite nice), sit on the steps and watch the sun sink in the evening. I loved, even then, to see the clouds change colours and remember dragging some of my friends with me. In the mornings as well, before training (I was a member of the school team, yes, football).

I've once again deviated from the root of this debate but I wish to address this issue of 'Nigerians Living In Nigeria' as against those who aren't resident in Nigeria. For screaming out loud, I am no less a Nigerian as you simply because I do not right now reside in Nigeria. I was born there for God's sake; I lived there all my growing up years up until quite recent years. The idea that 'dominant point of view on Nairaland must be that of Nigerians living in Nigeria. That's part of our unique value proposition' is preposterous at best.

If appreciating nature is not your thing, it's got nothing to do with you staying in Nigeria. Believe me, if you moved to Singapore or Dubai, two of the most beautiful countries in the world (in my opinion), you'd still find no time for nature. Please let's wrap this mentality that people who don't live in Lagos, Ibadan (where I did all my growing up, thank you very much) and Abuja.... have some really different mentality and opinions about discussion. While it might be true in some cases, it will be an outrageously fallacious argument to assume that it's true in all.

Mr. Admin....., this is not our first time of bickering over this (sorry to wash our dirty linen outside ) but I'm hoping it's the last unless of cause if I ever completely go out of line and start quoting Tony Blair while you're talking about OBJ.

Capische?

I think I understand what tayotina is trying to say. Some of us crave those embellishments, while to others it's unnecessary waste. But really, a date is not about going to the Burj Al Arab (the only 7 star and most expensive hotel in the world) or whatever, even if all he did was take you to Buka, a date is a date is a date...

Now, my first date, properly so called, was as recent as last year actually. And it was simply bliss. All that I dreamed it would be and I dream a lot, mind, so I don't say that lightly.

I had the most pamperedly nice time. So much so that all previous dates faded into insignificance, sorry.

I should think it really depends on who the caller is actually and the level of familiarity between us. Some callers don't even get 'hello' from  me. Most times I simply go, 'hey, what's up?' to my friends or 'Monkey, na now you just dey call' or 'hello darling' deservedly reserved for my darling , you know, ..... it depends.

For people who withold caller's ID, I simply go, 'hello, who is this please?'.

Arsenal 0: Chelsea 0. Get this though Man U 0: Everton 1

Anyways, so it's still 11 points ahead of us by Chelsea but it was a really tough match. Although I must say Denise B. seems to be running on low steam these days.

Well, we've got a new pope and he's German. Congratulations to you Catholic faithfuls

Are you speaking for the populace of Nigerian girls or the selected few that you happen to know? I wish we'd stop seeing things through jaundiced view.

I categorically put it to you that I would accept that from my man and walk on air all through the day for his thoughtfulness to share something so beautiful and peaceful with me. Don't let the fact that he likened the sun to the shine the babe had brought to his life escape you either. If your babe won't appreciate that, she's simply a different kind of person or you've got real trouble on your arms mate. Relationship is not all about giving and taking of material things, the earlier you made your woman understand that, the better for all parties concerned.

Well, I predicted mince meat and that was what NC got. Man U polished off the match at 4-1. So, battle of the Titans next month Man U Vs Arsenal, promises to be super duper interesting!

moved from Football or Soccer Fans in Nigeria: Introduction

@Seun and all Man U 'lovers' , Man U is about to play Newcastle (match starts in 5 minutes). As much as I want the impossible to happen, I'm afraid Man U is about to make mince meat of NC. Let's sit back and watch. I'll be back shortly (2 hours actually) with the details.

May I take it upon myself to welcome very heartily the newest member of this forum? AYA, it is good to see you here. Hop on board or better still, welcome aboard!!!