₦airaland Forum

This is so sad.

Mental and Emotional pain is difficult to heal.

I hope she survives.

Not in Nigeria,, girls that express their desire for men are called oloshos.

They are not husband material.

Tallesty1:
It's possible to forgive and forget but it takes alotta time.

Have you forgotten all bad things that happened to you?

Its not possible to totally forgive and forget. Cheating causes a lot of emotional pain.
Emotional pain is very hard to deal with because there is really no cure.

If you are not married to your partner, I suggest you end the relationship. It hurts at first but you will get better.

If you are married, Consider your children. Are they worth staying in the marriage for. If yes , you may have to stick it out with him.

In both cases, Refuse sexual activity until he is tested for Std's and such. You have to go together for these tests.

I feel a lot of empathy for you. A cheating partner is selfish. Remember that this is not your fault.

mobuch:
out of 100 single girls in my area at ajah, over 41 have between one and three kids out of wedlock.....

Then marry the other 59 without kids and stop wincing. If you don't have a solution to the problem, keep your mouth shut.

Nairaland men like bashing women for no reason.

mobuch:
the statistics is easy to provide, and i will give u an assignment; how many single ladies do u have within 500 to 1000metres on your street; how many have kids out of wedlock?

I only personally know one single lady with kid. She gave birth to that kid im the early 2000's.
All my friends are happily married with kids.

Besides, we banned postinor, we stigmatize abortion and birth control pills. The person who is in charge of safe sex in Nigeria is the man. He is the one with access to contraception.

Women dont really have much to do in order to protect themselves in this country.

Nigerian men have failed us.

Burger01:
... My friend, stop that. Do you know me Well, I'm really a nice person just that I don't support corruption at the expense of 150mila of Nigerians. It's well

Niger-Delta's deserve a lot more credit than free education. They have been supporting this country since 1956.

Burger01:
Well, you right there. What's not right is the amnesty itself.

The amnesty program stopped the Militants in Niger Delta.

Let's be honest, they deserve it. Most of Nigerian revenue comes from their land. They are entitled to free Education and more!

mobuch:
my friend. this is what is happening in today's nigerian society, and we need to talk about it, before it gets out of hand; maybe one day, if we are not careful, young men like you wont find any single lady without a child to marry,.. it is a serious issue

No you are exagerrating the issue. There is no increase in the amount of unmarried ladies with kids.

If you want to prove me wrong, bring out statistical evidence.

Women bashers! If women are so bad , marry a man.

jcflex:
Result of Gender equality

Court Wedding contribute to it.

Ladies been forming Miss Independent.

Peer influence, major factor, they refuse to learn from our fore fathers, All in the name of Civilization.

I tire for una oh.

Ladies are independent, working for their money .. we call them bad, they are not wife-material.

Ladies decide to stay at home while husband brings money ... we say they are gold diggers.

You people cannot be satisfied.

INTROVERT:
If you have benefited from a scholarship program you wouldnt talk like this. The amnesty program ends Dec 2015. They should please pay those people fees let them have certificate since it has been started. How will it look like if in the end no palli and huge amounts wasted.

Exactly!! Put yourself in their shoes. Years of hardwork and suffering only to be rewarded with this.

Burger01 is heartless.

This is unfair.
Allow them to finish their program before you cut them off.
If you want to cancel the program, go ahead, but don't leave the students already enrolled to suffer.

To all of you saying otherwise, its easy to say so when you are not directly affected by this. Sometimes we have to put political differences aside and find empathy as humans.

If there were signed contracts, I hope these students sue the government for this.

This is an embarassment to Nigeria.

Another post to bash women again!!

Do these women conceive immaculately?

Wrong title.

The title says all officers must speak one of those languages in addition to English.

Nigerians have Migrated a lot to England. Its ridiculous.

[size=13pt]Femi, What did Mr Buhari say to Obama?
Is it only Obama that was talking or does our president voice not matter?

One sided reporting[/size]

Nothing about legalizing gays yet!

Where are all those people that were shouting

[size=13pt]Ahmet Ali Çelikten(born İzmirli Alioğlu Ahmed; 1883–1969), also known as Arap Ahmet Ali[ or İzmirli Ahmet Ali, was an Ottoman aviator who may have been the first black pilot in aviation history[4] and was one of the few black pilots in World War I, like Eugene Jacques Bullard. His grandmother came from Bornu (Nigeria) to the Ottoman Empire as a slave.

Ahmet born in 1883 in İzmir, in the Aidin Vilayet of the Ottoman Empireto his mother Zenciye Emine Hanım and father Ali Bey, of African Turkish descent.He aimed to become a naval sailor and entered the Naval Technical School named Haddehâne Mektebi (literally "School of the Blooming Mill" in 1904.In 1908, he graduated from school as a First Lieutenant (Mülâzım-ı evvel).And then he went to aviation courses in the Naval Flight School (Deniz Tayyare Mektebi) that was formed on 25 June 1914 at Yeşilköy.He was then a member of the Ottoman Air Force.

During World War I, he married Hatice Hanım (1897–1991) who was an immigrant from Preveza.He became first black military pilot in aviation history when he started serving in November 1916. On 18 December 1917, Captain (Yüzbaşı) Ahmed Ali was sent to Berlin to complete aviation courses.
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alphalpha:
I disagree with you...
i think that should be between the couple. they should understand themslves.


Question: on who works more, stays at home more, or is breadwinner;

what if wifey is a billionaire, hubby is a millionaire, both can equally, independently cater for the family? Who does the cooking etc?

If wifey is a billionaire and husband is a millionaire, they must have maids. It take a lot of time and effort to make that kind of money.

my own logic : If wifey works more than husband (e.g more hours in a day), then husband should do most of the houework. If its the opposite, wife should do most of the housework.

Keep hope alive!

I think our public universities themselves sgould be scraped.

Both Op all jokes aside. All those courses are useful. Even the aatronomy, he can use it to further his studies in other countries.

So all these years, the woman didn't do anything for herself?

She did not get a job or education?

Anyway OP, If you don't want her.Let her know.

Respectfully accept or refuse their advances.

I completely support the imprisonment of teachers who flog children.

Even animals are not treated as bad as Children are in Africa.

Flogging and abusing children in the name of discipline. If you children are misbehaving and you cannot control them without violence , maybe something is wrong with you.

This is why I will not have empathy for people who complained that soldier punished/Flogged/slapped them. This is the same thing you do to children and they even have a lower threshold for pain.

I will never abuse my children.

This is ridiculous. How can they expel students because of a letter written in bad English by one student.

This news better be false.

Leave Bubu alone jare.

I love the fruits inclusion.

Yum!

no2fuks:
executive chefs has nothing to do with cooking at home. exec chefs cooks at the job ie hotel or resturant.

I used that example to show that men cooking is not abnormal or unmanly.
I also believe that men cooking at home is not wrong especially if the woman is the breadwinner.

falconey:

Weyrey!!!

Is this really necessary? You quoted me just to insult me! Your intelligence level must be really low.

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snakebeat:
But ur gender says otherwise. Aren't u proud of ur gender?

I changed genders because i was receiving too much emails.

This is a common sight in Nigeria.

If she's lucky, a governor will pick her up and take care of her.

This is why we have to advocate for birth-control methods in this country.
If you are not financially capable of taking care of a baby, don't have one.