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An Open Letter To Young Nigerian Mothers

Dear Nigerian Mothers,

"A man builds a house but it is the woman that builds the home".

I know being a mother is not an easy task. I still vividly remember the pains my mother went through, raising three boys and three girls (six kids) in a Nigerian city where 'open eye' was the order of the day. I have come of age and I have come to realize that all mothers are women but not all women are mothers. I pray God to keep us alive so I can reward mine here on earth for all what she passed through. Same prayer goes to everyone out there whose mother has proven to be a woman and a mother too.

In as much as this letter intends to address Nigerian mothers in general, it is worthy to note that this letter specifically addresses young Nigerian mothers who are still raising teenage and school-age daughters. Reason: Your young daughters are very much important and precious to the society. There is still room to teach them how to work hard with their hands and brains and not to be unnecessarily dependent on the male folks for their survival or existence. It is easier to teach a young tigress to be friendly with humans than an adult tigress. One does not learn how to use the left hand when he/she is old (African Proverb). Ladies of my generation do not need the re-orientation that is contained in this letter more than the younger ones.

The family is the smallest unit of every society, according to Sociologists, of which I concur. In a society where most of our young women have replaced their brains with their buttocks and boobs, I wonder how the next generation would look like if you, our young Nigerian mothers fail to teach your school-age and teenage daughters the importance of acquiring entrepreneural and real-life skills that can see them breaking free from this 'dependency mentality' that has continued to hang around them like the Sword of Damocles.

Most of our young women now sleep with different men of all shapes, sizes and ages just to acquire simple personal gadgets such as phones that may not even cost up to 30k!!! Some do not even mind licking the navel and belly of of a man old enough to be their grandfather just to purchase an Android phone! Now, if such young women intelligently put their hands and brains to use, they too can buy 5 of such phones (or whatever) in no time without sleeping with even an ant or a lizard!

Is it that the brains of the male folks are too developed whereby, acquiring of any form of property is an exclusive activity for males based on mental and physical capacity? How come there is this mentality that whenever a young Nigerian lady needs anything, there must be a male out there to provide it? The answer to these, I believe, lies in the over-dependency nature of our young ladies. Whatever people get used to becomes a habit and then a culture.

Most of our young ladies have stopped using their brains for rational thinking; they now prefer to use their bums and boobs! As soon as a young girl starts noticing certain curves on her hips and the appearance of two prodruding oranges on her chest, that is the end. To hell with her hands and brain! She now has two 'assets' that are bigger than the four factors of production (land, labour, capital and entrepreneur) put together.

Right from a tender age, the female child should be taught the importance of diverting her attention and focus from her body parts to other worthwhile activities that can make her independent, respected and successful in life, while still being conscious of her 'natural endowments'! Your bums and boobs are parts of your body; they are not factors of production!!! Whenever I see young women who are thriving in science, arts, sports, technology, education, agriculture and other paths in life, I cannot help but give them a respectful salute as if I was giving a salute as a military personnel to a fellow officer. I always doff my hat for them because I know such women have bums and boobs but looked beyond these because they had dreams and visions they were dying to actualize! Genevieve Nnaji, Chimamanda Adichie, Asa, Asisat Oshoala, Serena and Venus Williams, Simi, Yemi Alade and a host of others have vaginas and boobs too but they knew they had something burning in them that was struggling to be noticed!

Let our young mothers harness the talents of their young female children. Talent is not an exclusive potential to be utilized by the male folks. If you have a daughter and she is good at sports, such as field events, it is expected you nurture her to be successful in the path she is gifted in. At 16, they should be following one endeavour or the other to be dependent and successful in life and not various d*cks of all sizes for survival!

Thank you and Good morning!

Yours sincerely,

Kelvin U. Kartez (Rapmoney)

BiggerPRICK1:
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Check front page. It is still there.

BiggerPRICK1:
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An Open Letter To Young Nigerian Mothers

Dear Nigerian Mothers,

"A man builds a house but it is the woman that builds the home".

I know being a mother is not an easy task. I still vividly remember the pains my mother went through, raising three boys and three girls (six kids) in a Nigerian city where 'open eye' was the order of the day. I have come of age and I have come to realize that all mothers are women but not all women are mothers. I pray God to keep us alive so I can reward mine here on earth for all what she passed through. Same prayer goes to everyone out there whose mother has proven to be a woman and a mother too.

In as much as this letter intends to address Nigerian mothers in general, it is worthy to note that this letter specifically addresses young Nigerian mothers who are still raising teenage and school-age daughters. Reason: Your young daughters are very much important and precious to the society. There is still room to teach them how to work hard with their hands and brains and not to be unnecessarily dependent on the male folks for their survival or existence. It is easier to teach a young tigress to be friendly with humans than an adult tigress. One does not learn how to use the left hand when he/she is old (African Proverb). Ladies of my generation do not need the re-orientation that is contained in this letter more than the younger ones.

The family is the smallest unit of every society, according to Sociologists, of which I concur. In a society where most of our young women have replaced their brains with their buttocks and boobs, I wonder how the next generation would look like if you, our young Nigerian mothers fail to teach your school-age and teenage daughters the importance of acquiring entrepreneural and real-life skills that can see them breaking free from this 'dependency mentality' that has continued to hang around them like the Sword of Damocles.

Most of our young women now sleep with different men of all shapes, sizes and ages just to acquire simple personal gadgets such as phones that may not even cost up to 30k!!! Some do not even mind licking the navel and belly on of a man old enough to be their grandfather just to purchase an Android phone! Now, if such young women intelligently put their hands and brains to use, they too can buy 5 of such phones (or whatever) in no time without sleeping with even an ant or a lizard!

Is it that the brains of the male folks are too developed whereby, acquiring of any form of property is an exclusive activity for males based on mental and physical capacity? How come there is this mentality that whenever a young Nigerian lady needs anything, there must be a male out there to provide it? The answer to these, I believe, lies in the over-dependency nature of our young ladies. Whatever people get used to becomes a habit.

Most of our young ladies have stopped using their brains for rational thinking; they now prefer to use their bums and boobs! As soon as a young girl starts noticing certain curves in her hips and the appearance of two prodruding oranges on her chest, that is the end. To hell with her hands and brains! She now has two 'assets' that are bigger than the four factors of production (land, labour, capital and entrepreneur) put together.

Right from a tender age, the female child should be taught the importance of diverting her attention and focus from her body parts to other worthwhile activities that can make her independent, respected and successful in life, while still being conscious of her 'natural endowments'! Your bums and boobs are parts of your body; they are not factors of production!!! Whenever I see young women who are thriving in science, arts, sports, technology, education, agriculture and other paths in life, I cannot help but give them a respectful salute as if I was giving a salute as a military personnel to a fellow officer. I always doff my hat for them because I know such women have bums and boobs but looked beyond these because they had dreams and visions they were dying to actualize! Genevieve Nnaji, Chimamanda Adichie, Asa, Asisat Oshoala, Serena and Venus Williams, Simi, Yemi Alade and a host of others have vaginas and boobs too but they knew they had something burning in them that was struggling to be noticed!

Let our young mothers harness the talents of their young female children. Talent is not an exclusive potential to be utilized by the male folks. If you have a daughter and she is good at sports, such as field events, it is expected you nurture her to be successful in the path she is gifted in. At 16, they should be following one endeavour or the other to be dependent and successful in life and not various d*cks of all sizes for survival!

Thank you and Good morning!

Yours sincerely,

Kelvin U. Kartez (Rapmoney)

GavelSlam:
There must be censorship of divisive news media.

You cannot instigate the people against constituted authority on the simple but often abused premise of freedom of speech.

If you attended a university, the institution should, in a matter of urgency, withdraw your certificate and cancel all courses you might have taken!!! So people who claim to have sane minds can reason like this?

Kobicove:
Nothing happened to Peace Hyde...the naughty guy is just imagining what he would like to 'do' to her in za oza room

How you take know my mind? Be like say you be magician

janellemonae:
What happened to her?

She make sense!

Una see this Peace Hyde ehn...make I no just talk sef...see ehn...make I no kukuma talk!

UbanmeUdie:
It is alright to have an opinion but it is insane to have a stupid one.

Must you force people to hold same beliefs as you? Using abusive words on people who disagree with you clearly shows how unintelligent, myopic and parochial you are!!! SMH.

Toyin Tomato?

Benita27:
Op, you're right on the aforementioned, but these are the superficial. If you scratch a little deeper; psychological maturity is what I look out for in these set of guys...how he behaves, his reaction in certain situations, and general mindset. Can't deal with an overgrown kid.

Yeah, but the list is inexhaustible.

ArchangeLucifer:
You left out Satanists.

That's an affront.

You are one?

Guys: Things Ladies Look Out For In You When You Turn 30

The age of 30 is very significant in the life of a young man in our society. There's a certain consciousness than young men tend to experience when they get close to this age. There's also a silent ritual of deep reflections that's attached to it. Trying to pick a soulmate and make a headway in life begin to come to play clearly like never before. At this stage, there are certain things that ladies want in you. Please, this post is not for guys who are still striving hard to get pink lips to impress little slay queens.

1) A GROWING OR STRONG FINANCIAL BASE: I'm not against ladies going for young men with a stable financial background. Every responsible and hardworking lady deserves a man with a growing or strong financial base. She probably has a blueprint of how she wants her family to be. Don't blame her. I only frown at lazy and visionless young ladies who hunt for the already-made. At 30, a woman wants to see you doing something worthwhile that brings income. If your case is the opposite, sorry, you will need to do more! As a man, it's a shame to depend on a woman for finance. It clearly makes you a kid!

2) FREEDOM FROM MATERNAL STRINGS: Now, take this as a practical test from me. At one time, take out 15 minutes to talk to a lady who admires you about your mum. Tell her how your mum influences your life. On another occassion, do same about your dad. See which one makes her slightly uncomfortable. I bet you, the first would do. Women know how their emotions work. They know their extent of influence in a man's life. The female specie of humans mostly make decisions based on emotions rather than rationality. It's a common trait. As it is in your girl, so it is in your mum; they are women! At 30, women want to know whether you are still a puppet to your mother. She wouldn't want your mum's decisions to be binding in her matrimonial home! Among all your family members (extended members inclusive), your mother will be the greatest concern to that woman that considers you her partner.

3) PERSONAL SPACE/A KNOWN ADDRESS: This is another thing women look out for when a guy approaches 30. They want to date a man that lives somewhere, not a cloud!!! You can't just be hovering around. You can't be at Okezie's place today, Teguolo's place tomorrow and Ademola's place the day after tomorrow. Ogbeni, where your house dey? Which street? Which area? Abi you be spirit? Don't even think of hotel, except you are dealing with a runs girl and looking up to a one-night-stand!

4) MATURE DRESS SENSE AND GENERAL APPEARANCE: This is one very important thing women look out for when you begin to approach 30. This shouldn't be a time to be chasing pink lips or adorning yourself with clothes that are suited for teenage guys! Nice clothes fitting for your stage in life should be appropriate. Shirts should look neat and ironed. You only deserve a presentable woman when you, yourself is presentable too.

5) RELIGIOUS INCLINATIONS: This is one of the most hypocritical notions I've come to discover in recent times but we should save that for another day. When you approach 30, women (especially, Nigerian women) want to know your religious inclinations. That's because we tend to be too religious in this part of the world. When a girl starts probing into your religious backround, she probably wants to be serious with you. At 30, you should be open and sincere in revealing your religious beliefs, be you a Christian, Muslim, Bhuddist, Nihilist, Atheist, native doctor or magician! Whoever wants to stay or go will. It all depends on the woman's beliefs and outlook on life.

Good morning folks!

A.M.I.L. - All Money Is Legal.

gbzed:
Self employed sure pass.

But not everybody can b self employed cos who will do the work?

Not everyone can be self-employed but everyone can start doing something about their future now.

5 Negative Characters Most Nigerian Employers Exhibit

This post lists typical attitudes most Nigerian employers exhibit, especially, in organisations where the boss is the sole-proprietor. The gospel truth is that labour is very cheap in Nigeria. The extreme cheapness of this labour has humbled so many young graduates to accept and tolerate unnecessary and harsh policies that have succeeded in enslaving them. No matter where you find yourself today, never lose focus on building your personal dreams. You cannot be TRULY satisfied in life building another man's dreams in a situation where you work as a slave! It's a basic fact; you can take that to the bank!

1) NOT PAYING WORKERS ON TIME: Some employers are not humans! Yes, not all employers are humans. Some are worse than Monster Caliban in the popular drama, 'The Tempest' by Shakespeare. How can you owe employees for months with no explanations as to what the reason for the delay is? And on Sunday, na you go first reach church, come go front seat go sidan with white starched native! Your family members eat and live well but have you asked yourself how family members of your workers are living? Your employees, especially, the hardworking ones, are the engine of your organization; they are your team members, not your slaves. Pay them on time or pay them off if you can't continue with the business! Oga boss, no be by force o!

2) THEY WANT YOU TO WEAR DIFFERENT SUITS TO WORK BUT YOUR SALARY IS 40K!!! : I curse poverty! Oga boss, why are you so wicked? I mean, why you be like this sef? How can you pay a graduate 40k monthly and still want him/her to change suits and wear fly coporate clothes to work? Do unto others as you would want them do to you. It's a natural law.

3) THEY GIVE YOU LOADS OF WORK THAT IS BEYOND YOUR CAPACITY: Most one-man organisations, especially private schools, are typical of this. I almost got trapped in a private school, where I was nearly killed with work some years back. My first day at work left me wondering whether it would be wise to resume the next day. How can one person teach Civic Education Jss1-3, CRS Jss1-3, Government SS1-3, Literature-In-English SS1-3 and Social Studies Jss 2&3? Even if I be Aristotle sef!!! Una wan give person pikin madness? Not to talk of the lengthy lesson notes on top cabin biscuit salary ! The principal called me the next day, asking why I didn't resume work but I told him he was calling a wrong number!

4) THEY SLASH YOUR PAY WITHOUT EXPLANATIONS: Many employers will just slash your pay with no explanations, yet they want you to do your best. One employer even told me that I should do 'his best' and not mine when I told him: 'Sir, I will do my best'. Meanwhile, I was being owed two months arrears with previous slashing and slicing here and there as if my salary was finger chop bread! Abeg, wetin man do man, my people?

5) NOT REWARDING HARDWORKING EMPLOYEES: You may never know what you have till you lose it. Most Nigerian employers always fail to reward hardwork among their employees. Reward people who go extra miles to see that goals and targets are met. If you lose them, you may never get their exact replacements. When you water your crops, they flourish and produce fruits but when you don't, you know the rest.

I was listening to 'Better (Remix)' by Oritsefemi ft. Vector and the rapper (Vector) said: 'Oritsefemi...How I wan respect the boss wey no dey pay?/How you wan enjoy salary wen the pay no dey tay?'. #WORD

Nice one, emusmith!

Pay your gaddem rent now or you are thrown out!!!

omoelerin1:
I want to believe you are not a half-baked but a fully- baked, then what are you doing? Where is your innovation? where is your contribution? Who tells you that those guru in technology are professors/first class grad? Did you know majority of them are drop-outs? Are those Arab project managers professors or graduates?

Oga, if you read the post very well, you would have observed that I was even trying to show that there is no correlation between the little indigenous technology we have and 'outstanding' degrees obtained by some folks. I didn't pin-point Arabs that supervise project works as professors or compulsorily, graduates! Don't attack the messenger, attack the message! You are almost contradicting yourself.

ToZaraWithaZ:
Rapmoney, nice write-up. You spoke the plain truth, and I agree with you.

The MAIN problem is that ordinary schools, especially the ones in Africa, are designed to churn out people who can read and write, haven't set their ambitions too high, and will be able to fit into the working world where they will carry out a menial and bureaucratic function for average pay.

There are so many people with astonishing potentials, but have had them killed because of the education system. One of the worst mistakes the state can make is to shovel all children, no matter their differences, into "one size fits all" schools where they get a standardised curriculum that is never tailored to any child's particular needs and talents. If you provided everyone on earth with a one-size-fits-all set of clothes, most would look terrible, while, for a lucky few, they would be a perfect fit. So, it is with education. For a few, the education system is just right - for everyone else it's a lesser or greater disaster.

The students with the best grades are often not the most intelligent ones, but the ones with the best short-time memory or best at rote, robotic learning. After an exam, they usually forget most of the material.

That's why, like you said, it's the outsiders, the non-conformists, the freethinkers, the rebels and heretics who find the system nauseating, that tend to create anything worthwhile.

Education ought to be about discovering what children are good at, and what they're not. If you teach mathematics to a person who has no mathematical aptitude, you will shatter their confidence and self-esteem. Don't keep making people do things for which they have no glimmer of talent. It's pointless, counter-productive and psychologically damaging, and in the end, their real talent remains undiscovered and unexplored.

Thanks. Wonderful analysis.

ivolt:
@Rapmoney, this is a very good question.

The answer lies in Nigeria's priority.
As you know that scientific development is largely dependent on money
We don't have enough money for food and health(allegedly), so R& is
relegated to the back room.

What is even surprising is the mindset of many Nigerians even the learned
ones, I can see some posters already blaming Britain for the problem we face
when the same britain colonised singapore, malaysia and South Africa, yet
some seemingly literate people think that britain hid the
"true education" from Nigerians.

Until our schools start encouraging thinking instead of linguists-only and the
government stop mismanagement, the first class and professors will
continue to do what their predecessors are doing, collecting salaries and
getting by while blame continues to be passed around.

You are correct. That's a sensible observation. All the same, I think Britain didn't colonize South Africa; South Africa was colonized by the Dutch.

oluwamitomisin:
OP and commenters in support of him/her, all I could read here is some form of hatred for a particular set of people- first class holders and professors.

Mind that you are a graduate of whatever class you got from the higher institution also, and the burden is on all to improve our society at large. Stop being inferior!!!

I wish I have more time to reply y'all.

I don't think you read the first paragraph of my post because if you did, you would have sounded differently. Don't take it personal; truth hurts. By the way, the atmosphere surrounding the post has nothing to do with superiority or inferiority.

Nukilia:
@Desyner is not correct with the abusive words used on HND graduates. We have smart guys who have HND and are doing great. I guess the problem is with the idea of everyone trying to get a certificate and they don't know what to use the knowledge acquired for in the society.

When an Engineer becomes a comdeian and people hail him because he/she is making money, then you know there's problem with the system.

When a biochemistry graduate start making money from frying "Akara" then his pastor will tell him that frying "Akara" is his calling.

We have lots of problem in this our country, and all will be solved the day our universities and polytechnics review their curriculum and get enough funding for research and direct application of result to national problem.

Thanks for understanding.

Desyner:
What's the use of a brilliant mind that's subject to dull retærded illiterates? You can have a First class and still be under a smelly illiterate with HND because everything is by quota arrangement. Let's restructure the hole.

I tell you today, there are so many young and intelligent folks out there labouring under the weight of other folks who are clear examples of mediocrity.

On the other hand, I don't think being a holder of HND makes one an 'illiterate' or educationally inferior as you stated.