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I grew up with this notion that partners who have dated/courted for a very long time have greater possibility of building stronger relationships. As the years roll by, I'm beginning to see things differently. Dating someone for years without concrete marriage plans is to me, utterly useless! It's even a hopeless case when cohabiting is involved.

It's not a bad idea spending time to study someone as you date him/her; it's necessary, yet, it must not necessarily take you years to also know if both of you are fit to tie the knot together or not. Staying in a relationship for years, in the absence of marriage, with that irrelevant idea that you are studying the other person means two things - it's either you are deceiving yourself or deceiving the other person. It's just like a man who builds a house halfway and leaves it for years, telling everyone that he would want the rains to come on it to make the blocks stronger...even when it's clear that he doesn't possess the resources to make it a completed house.

I personally don't buy the idea of women staying for years in relationships with the hope that the guy has promised to marry them. The question should be: What is he waiting for after all these years? Is he still studying you? Sister, you are neither a book nor a university course!!! Is he waiting to be financially stable first? If that's the case, that's when you come in. If you discover the guy is all you want in a life partner, both in appearance, character and educational achievements, you can assist him by putting heads together to make it happen. It's useless waiting for the guy to become financially buoyant; what if after 5/6 years, he's still not buoyant? Will you walk out of the affair? Successful women assist in building their homes, they don't wait for it to be built

It's the ability to accept the other person's flaws in a relationship that sustains the relationship, even into marriage; it's not by many years of dating/courtship.

I know young women who have told me openly in the past that I didn't know what I wanted; yeah, because I left them so early into the supposed affairs before they could get hurt emotionally. I used foresight and not hindsight. I never wanted to waste their time!

There's a particular age and stage we get to in life where we need to leave rigmarole and up-and-down relationships for teenagers! Know what you want and sustain it; if you are not ready, work on yourself and your life and stop wasting your time and that of other people!!!

Good afternoon and Happy Sunday to everyone!

kropotkin11:
Yes you ought to run and hide boy and pass on the message to your friends in the creeks . The Nigerian state will deal ruthlessly with any challenge to its authority

Go look bush!!! If you hear one shot from a locally-made pistol now, you go run go hide under bed!

progress69:
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Useless sentimental tribalistic bull crap, full of lies and deceit

How do one eat is cake and expect to have it. That's the best way to describe what exactly is going on now. Not the thrash u wrote

How do one eat "is" cake? Learn how to spell correctly before you engage yourself in issues you know absolutely NOTHING about!!!

Really?

E dor happen!!! I talk am

I never knew Naijaboiy was a relationship expert!!!

The fault that lies in your post is that you failed to realize the fact that there are many serious responsible hustling young men out there who do not even wish to be raking in millions, as you said, before they settle down...all they are working toward is just to be comfortable first.

I won't advise a guy who cannot afford the basic comforts in life to delve into marriage; things have changed! If you can't provide, your wife might cheat...and I'm very sure you don't expect the wife to do the provision of resources in the home.

Just my opinion

Why are all these rehearsed stuffs always channeled toward the male folks?

So who marries the beautiful women? Cats?

xendra:
this is just one of the lies men are quick to tell, claiming they prefer girls without makeups. whereas that lady would attract more men wearing that makeup than she probably did her whole life. Anyway....

And when the man finds out that she's masquerade behind the heavily-make-up face

Standing5:
Like a budget you need supplementary political insight.

Guy, just use shame take shut up!!! Can't you see you are gradually standing alone? Neglected and abandoned by your 'sai baba' group?

dissybling:
serious,this makeup the give person face prestige

Prestige or you meant deceit?

Lastking147:
I love girls on natural looks
Always cute AF!!!

I'm a sucker for dark pretty girls, light make-up and probably, with natural hairs.

Berbierklaus:
She is so beautiful

Okay, irony.

donbenedict:
I don't even get swayed by heavy makeup. If u like paint like Jezebel from morning till night, if I don't like u, I don't like u. And dat's it!

Na wen make-up go, we go know who be Ojuju Calabar

Lastking147:
Am i d only one who thinks this shit fit cause skin probs!?

E go cause relationship problem first before we go begin talk of skin problem

BeeBeeOoh:
I just hope Buhari will see this yo know what change is all about. But,

























THIS IS FRAUD

Romantic fraud!

bentlywills:
She should wear that makeup forever

Just imagine you met this type of babe at an event and the next day, you see her without make-up! Your spirit go weak!

Ever since I saw this, I have decided to renew my pledge of not going after any girl I see with make-ups. Before I toast any babe, I must see her in her natural state to ascertain the true nature of her appearance!!!

Chai! Mechanics nor allow us know people wey dey crase again!

tosyne2much:
Source: http://tosyne2much..com/2016/08/10-public-nuisance-constituted-by-some.html [/i]

Shuo! Tosin, why u come put ur phone number for the post nah? Babes go disturb ur line for this forum oh! Some fit start to dey bash u sef because u dor bash dem taya before!

mhizAnnie:
Stop the stigmatization people...It's just not right

AngelAnnie, is that you?

Only a romantic fool remains in an affair after observing these signs.

Nice write-up I think some persons are making efforts to bring sanity to this section of this forum again.

Okay! So they were stranded? I am very sure many of the passengers were 'agents of chains' in 2015!!!

In 1998, a man who confessed to be a wizard was caught at Edjeba area in Warri, while trying to 'transport Kolanuts' from Ogun State to Delta Steel Company, at Ovwian-Aladja, in Delta State. He claimed DSC was their Warri Kolanuts Depot!!! He was mercilessly flogged with plantain leaves by angry residents!!!

In 2003, a woman confessed that she was on her way from South Africa when the fuel in her 'helicopter' got finished. She was trying to import bags of pimples into Nigeria! Her whole body was covered with huge thick pimples that were as big as Markurdi groundnuts!!! Dem finish her body with plantain leaves; I trust area nah!!!

Na so one day, dem say Mama Solo for my area na winch! Everybody come gather; some carry wood, some carry stones while others carry bottle! We say we must kpuf Mama Solo becos na she dey mess for the transformer wey dey make am dey blow. As we reach the house, na so the woman just bring hand come out from her window, come shout 'Una father!!!' Na so everybody pick race...many people injure sef! Na there u go fear winch people character!

This is serious!

searchiing4love:
Fayose was wrong to enact such laws in the first place. The fulanis have the right to live and work in ekiti just like every other Nigerian. Why ban their business of cattle rearing when they have no other means? Why criminalize the fulanis as if all fulanis are killers? There are bad eggs amongst every tribe, why do we make it look like violence is exclusive to northerners only. The people we should frown at are cattle rustlers who steals cattle from fulanis and use them as disguise for their evil deeds. The fulanis are peaceful people who go about their business in peace and we all know they control their herds of cattle with mere sticks. Even though we call them primitive, how many southerner can rear cattle for national consumption like the fulanis? Without them how do we see beef to consume? The rustlers are armed terrorist escaping from the north east to the south. What fayose should have done is to forbid any herdsmen from moving around with weapons, not banning cattle rearing completely. If all states cooperated with the FG on creation of grazing reserves throughout the country, there will not be a single cattle left on the streets looking for grass. Instead we chastised president Buhari's brilliant policy in the name of islamization. The ripple effects are the incessant attacks by the rustlers. The grazing bill remains the best and safest option. Not unnecessary bans

Your post is senseless!!!

"He who brings ants-infested woods into his house should not complain when lizards start paying him visits" - African Proverb.

Gullible Nigerians brought this calamity upon themselves.

Clerverly:
Ipob yoots reactions, you mean?

Just imagine how senseless ur post is!!! In all the comments I read on this thread, urs is the most senseless!!!

When will Africans take off the ill-fitting garments and robes of the white people?

Don't despise your humble beginning!!!

Una see wetin impatience dey cause?

agarawu23:
Hian

U dey fast o!