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Why Friendship Should Come Before Sex In A Relationship

We live in an era where sex is the first thing most young men think when they intend starting a relationship with a member of the opposite gender. The female folks are not left out. Most young women will 'size' an approaching man from a far. They will not fail to estimate, calculate and approximate the financial status of the man. And if their calculations seem accepted or okay by them, they will not hesitate to start up an affair with the man with utmost alacrity. This is often times disastrous. One mind think sex and the other thinks financial gains (and even sex sometimes too).

Friendship goes beyond sexual attractions. It has to do with having a personal relationship with someone and being aware of both positives and negatives in his/her life. Allowing sex to come before friendship may make both parties to hide vital things about themselves. Most people (especially the female folks) would hide things about themselves after series of sexual acts because they feel there is a bond that has been created which signifies 'commitment' and as such, they would not want the negatives in their lives to terminate the affair.

Have you noticed that you might find it easier to talk about negatives or embarrassing secrets in your life with a friend you have no sexual attachments with than one who you sleep with? It is because true friendship was not formed before you delved into sex. Early sex makes most people to hide things that could practically tear a marriage into shreds later on when they are discovered. Early sex brings with it, bags, bags and more bags of false commitment and attachment.

There are vital things that each partner is supposed to know before a committed relationship is formed. Sex may not allow us to ascertain these things. We have been engrossed in the sweetness of it that we cannot share the shortcomings in our lives in order not to lose the 'sweet flavour of sex'. There are people who see themselves as partners/lovers and have sex regularly yet they might not even know the health status of each other and other little vital things that are easily neglected. That is not a healthy relationship; it is just a long term hookup!!! There are even guys who do not know their girlfriend's surname and vice-versa. They only know him/her as Collins, Fehintola or Kesiena. Sex for these people could be 5 times a week too. If such common information is not known, then which information will you know that is less important than that?

If my post does not harshly condemn or drag sex before marriage on the ground, realize that I am just a social writer who grew up in the streets of Warri and not a moralist. I leave that for the moralists and religionists to flog.

Ugooluwa:
please don't be stupid.. Wait until it kills ur family member. Olodo

Must you insult him to air your views?

Ilefoaye:
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KayCee92:
Just as was expected. No reasonable government will lift the lockdown when a cure has not been found yet....That will be disastrous.

Most times, you guys reason senselessly. So if the audio cure is found in two years time, we should all remain in lockdown for two years?

Lies! Which residents? Only his propagandists like OEPHIUS aka Louis Amoke hailed him.

Niggmatic:
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Judging from most comments made by people from that side, even if they start dying in their thousands they will still call Coronavirus a scam.

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From day one, loudmouth narcissistic drama king Idriss Derby has always been full of his ego. He has never fully fought alongside any other countries' army. He would go alone, suffer losses and whine like a baby. In his reckoning, it is only Chadian soldiers that can effectively defend both Lake Chad area and Sahel Region while other countries' soldiers are mere 'Boys Scout groups'. SMH

Idriss Deby showed many pictures of the battle including cache of weapons seized and where . Why hasn't he shown the video or pictures of corpses of the one thousand terrorists killed and littered around?

Idriss Derby can only bamboozle emotional Nigerians who are searching for new deity to adulate. The reality remains constant: He tolerated and harboured terrorists camps on Chadian soil against Nigeria before they killed 90 Chadian soldiers.

Trash!

Senseless comment!!

Look for another story to tell.

jnrbayano:


Your bondage or freedom bothers on your beliefs not any ancestor of yours...

Believe right..

Thanks Op

Thank you too.

Gave

Scam virus.

The crook nor get the interest of the masses at heart.

On behalf of myself, wife and flenty flenty children, I wish pellow Nigerians a haffy easter celefrasion!

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Signed:
Fresident Mumumadu Bughari.

madridguy:
God bless Don Jazzy.

Yes, Don Jazzy is better than the vegetable in aso rock.

Cc:

V

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merahki:
Our poor, poor ancestors
They don’t deserve the hate/mistrust/paranoia that have been unleashed on them
When there is a mismatch of religion/belief/spirituality, this would always happen.

Nice analysis.

Pavore9:
Insightful.

Thanks.

Epositive:
My apathy towards religion

I nor fit laugh. I can relate.

Useless question.

Useless thread!!!

HeadNigga:
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senatordave1:
Onye iberibe

Ekpa!

senatordave1:
You are clothed with ignorance

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A thread for insane minds.

senatordave1:
I know more than you

You're an ignoramus. Do your worse.

A thread for insane minds.

A thread for ZOMBIES!