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As usual, they will always have one good thing to say about the dead.

Hmmm...very informative.

Are you sure the girl is his biological daughter?

Benita27:
It's not by force that the person dating you must marry you. She may have found a better man in whom she's getting married to than she previously did in you. Move on!, and quit whining. It would either be your loss or hers later. Nigerian guys have this mentality that spending on a girlfriend in the course of a relationship automatically equal loyalty/marriage. I see that as benefits of being together. She may have also added some value to your life in some other way.

If it had happened the other way round, will you come here to type what you typed? You guys should stop all these double standard judgements!

xxxsami:
See my account balance is for all mtn sim working

This fraudster!!! So you have created another account to dupe people? Lol!!!

Is this the much 'touted' lady?

sarrki:
Frustration is a dangerous thing

It can kill the soul

You have overused these lines! It is stale and empty!

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whateverkay:
This is a clear case of discrimination against the Fulanis. They are Nigerians and have the right to graze their cattles any where in the country. We count on them for meat and milk production but instead of encouraging their business we're banning them. I hope miyetti Allah fights this in court. This is clear injustice

Look for a transformer in your area and hug it very well!!!

Memphis357:
Na only for this kain thread you go dey do power Mike. ....If na the one wey dey talk about your thief thief APC government, na so you go keep quiet like flaccid prick.
Arrant Nonsense!

Omo, you finish dat madridguy o!

Give us reasons why women must not cheat!

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Thanks for sharing. Educative I must say!

Ugbavihi:
Tithe payment is not compulsory but it is necessary.
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Tithe is paid for the sake of God and should be used for the sake of God.
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Don't criticise tithe payment rather criticise what tithe is used for..
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I don't know what you believe but what i believe is that there is nothing wrong with titthe payment rather something is wrong with how the paid tithe is used.
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Ideally 60-65% of Proceeds recovered from tithe and offerings should be used for humanitarian and outreach activities, while the remainder can go to the church, but the problem we have is that reverse is the case.
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Let me not judge so that i cannot be judged.
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Precaution! If you don't pay tithe, don't discourage others from paying. My pain is that some people are campaigning against tithe not for God sake but because they are envious or jealous of the flamboyant lifestyle of some men of God. #AdvisemenofGodbutdon'tfightthem
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#UC_blissfulsunday

How much were you paid to put up this stuff?

thoth:
The slowpoke that wrote this has never been rich in his Life,it's extremely hard to find a wife when one is rich.

You be real ode!!! Don't address people's personality or life when you don't know a hoot about them, ozubo!!! So the rich and comfortable who have been getting married here and there have been doing so only in your dreams and imagination, abi? Say what you know instead of saying crap!

NigelCundy:
I knew someone with the right senses like yours would have something very good to say. The OP must be in his late teens

If I'm in my late teens, then you should be about 5 years old because I believe when I was writing my degree exams in the university, you should be about 10 years old!!! Ozubo!!!

bigpicture001:
...no. of great who married partner they were with when they had nothing....1.2face.....2. mark if facebook....3. p-square ( the both of them).......4. jimoh ibrahim.....5. sarkodie the Ghana rapper.....6....? you can add urs..

You must be high! So P-squre married their wives when they were nothing? Say what you know!

AlmiqhteeAllah:
And there are relationships that survive without money. That's the point.

Wake up from your slumber, please

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Lol. So only adults fall in love? Or your girlfriend/wife is your daughter for whom you're financially responsible, but not financially responsible for YOU?

So, if a guy is still under his parents, and has a girlfriend who's under her parents too, their relationship is pointless, and the love is DEFINITELY false? Or how does a teenager "take care" of his girlfriend?

And, hey! Talk about "real world", what do you know about it? Your "real world" is limited to YOUR own environment and experiences. It's not the real world---merely the aspect you've chosen to take note of, or the only aspect that has been available to you all your life. The world is bigger than that.

Your arguments have a Patriachial ideology underpinning them---that your wife is like your daughter, and you have a responsibility to take care of her finance [but she has no such responsibility towards you]. Sorry, but I don't belong to that school of thought.

To make my point as simple as possible: A broke girl can find love. A broke guy can find love too. And their partner can be either wealthy....... or broke as well. [They know what motivates them and brings them together]

Unless a person thinks of relationships/marriage as a poverty alleviation program, or loves because of money [implying the person loves only money], they know love goes beyond just riches.

Now, I see you have lost touch with reality. What is the possiblity that you will meet a girl from a wealthy background if you are broke? That's why I said you should not allow your thoughts to be beclouded my fairy-tales and fantasy movies!

Teenagers who are still being taken care of by their parents have no business whatsoever with love or relationships.

shaybebaby:
Hun we are not talking absolutes here that are mutually exclusive. He is speaking relatively.
What is your definition of love?
Ofcourse conditions that kill love differs and lack of money is one of those. No one implied it is the only one.
I've never heard of money killing a relationship, rather maybe it's use wrongly would contribute to the demise of the relationship.

Yeah, something I ve being trying to prove to folks but they keep avoiding it.

zumazik:
And their smiling

Scam men again! Na so una go dey advertise cheap data up and down. Una matter dor cast for NL

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Wait........ Define "broke"---what it means to YOU.

if you don't have enough to take care of yourself, it will be wicked for you to want a woman to stick with you. Let's not have our thoughts beclouded by fairy-tale stories of how rich princesses fell in love with poor farmers or labourers! It's a real world we live. Deal with it!

Benita27:
I'd choose a guy who's career driven, vision oriented and a great prospect to match over a rich one I have no idea of how he made his money 'cause my head may be used as sacrifice. Nothing gives me joy more than the idea of being with such a person 'cause I'd part of his success story. I'm not speaking for my gender in general but for myself so don't call me a hypocrite. On the other hand, wonder why the rich folks are apprehensive and careful in choosing a wife?. Good wives aren't easy to come by at such points in a man's life. I still reteirate that it's more difficult for a rich man to find true love than it's for a struggling guy.

Try and separate being rich and being comfortable for once. Don't you think you are mixing everything up? I mean, you don't need to be necessarily rich, you should be able to pay your bills conveniently, live in a decent house and eat decent meals! A man who can't afford these may not even find lust, talk less of love. If you can't get fake love, how do you hope to get a genuine one?

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Being broke wouldn't prevent you from finding true love. Being wealthy doesn't guarantee finding true love.

What's your point?

I don't know what you call true love but being broke may not only prevent you from finding your said 'true love', it can also prevent you from finding fake love. If you are broke, there's no lust for you, talk less of love.

[quote author=AlmiqhteeAllah post=62279030][/quote]Whatever that can make the world go round is even greater than security. Money may not be the bedrock of an affair but it is too important to be ignored, especially, in these present times. Its importance cannot be over-emphasized.

majekdom2:
...you don't need to be extra rich to find true love, you just need to be financially Ok with ambition. It will come!

What else can I say when you have almost committed the fallacy of begging a question - petitio principi?

adepeter2027:
On a scale of 1-100, what's your choose/chances of finding true love in this current society/era/country

They won't give you a concrete answer because their opinions are filled with hypocrisy and running away from the truth.

Benita27:
The two example I gave married when they were nothing. At the time wealth came they were sure of what they had as wives. They already had this security that no matter what; she can't leave me if my shares in the stock market plummets. Would you say same if you happen to marry a lady you're not sure of where her loyalty lies if you're rich?.

I can't argue with you whether they married when they were nothing or somebody. What you should tell me is what period did they get married because I'm very sure it wasn't recently.

Most people that hold this opinion of yours will swiftly show their hypocritical nature if I ask them to support their sisters to marry a broke dude. Watch how they will change opinions like chameleons!

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Although, I disagree with your post in its entirety, I'm quoting this particular part because it's extremely ridiculous and nonsensical. Where did you get the figures, the statistics, the evidence, to make you confident enough to make this absurd claim? Where, when, and how did you conduct your survey? You're just saying nonsense to support your own beliefs, conjuring up hogwash for your own ends. The opposite might even be actually true, since the United States seems to have higher divorce rate than countries where the poverty rate is higher.

Haven said that, these kind of write-ups are ridiculous and one-dimensional rubbish that judge all relationships by a one-size-fits-all standard, ignoring the reality that people have different motivations in life, as well as different reasons for falling in love. So many factors contribute to attraction as well as break-ups that there's barely any consistent way of determining what to rule out or what not when making such considerations as this. Relationships are dialectical, "grey" systems, not some 1 + 1 = 2, simple, straightforward, binary system that you can analyse using Aristotelian logic. Your write-up is flawed.

And, viewing it from a different perspective, you seem to have the wrong idea about love and loyalty. If you make something as uncertain and unstable as money and finance the pillar of a relationship, what happens when conditions change? You might be poor today, only to become rich tomorrow. The person who is wealthy now, can go bankrupt the next minute and end up in penury, due to circumstances over which he has no control. So, what happens then? The "loyal" and "loving" partner abandons him to his fate?

Stop acting as if you have been programmed automatically misjudge opinions! I didn't say money is a bedrock of finding the 'right' partner or one who loves you 'genuinely'. What I'm saying is that success gives you a wider range to your choice of women. Everyone knows what he/she wants in another. On another note, I'm telling you that lack of money will do more harm than good in an affair. Take that to the bank! Everyones wants their future to be secured. Don't hate them.

Benita27:
True @embolden. I felt he had to brush aside reality 'cause his article needs to be sold. Going to dig up names would be a waste of my time 'cause I know it's difficult for a wealthy man to identify/find genuine love. Not that they don't tho.

To add to your list. Locally we have Otedola,
Cosmos and charity of Coscharis group. Women who start with such men are never messed with.

When did Otedola and your said Cosmos marry? Was it few years ago or decades ago? You guys have failed to align things with the present. Don't be living in the past. When I was growing up, I saw my uncles and other elderly ones who didn't have much, living in one room apartments, but they had very lovely relationships. Some even got married to their girlfriends even if they had little. Can you equate that with what we see today? That's where I want you to understand this post from.

gsainttrinity:
Very well said!!


As for the Op, He wrote alot without saying much, the write up is lacking in convincing narratives.. Why?
The Op should have stated how many instances he knew where the rich genuinely found love (I not saying there are none) but when you compare it those who found genuine love when they had nothing, I don't think there would have been any need for raising a counter argument against the obvious.

That been said, I would mention those who found love in nothing like the handle I Quoted had pointed

Zukerberg.. Facebook CEO married his sweetheart from when he had little

2face...Nigerian musician.. Despite all Odds still ended up with his lover from his struggling days when he had little

Ay.. Nigerian comedian..

To mention but a few...

The truth remains If you could find someone who loves when you have nothing... They are more bound to continue loving you... Despite the change in status.

But how many people who found love when they are rich and still manage to stick together when the fortune changes.? Should be the question and the yardstick with which you judge if it was easier finding love when you are rich..

The problem with you guys is that you are always fond of reeling out a few names whenever you are confronted with an issue. It's just like saying having a third class degree does not affect your employment prospect because Wole Soyinka or Gani Fawehinmi graduated with 3rd class, forgetting to put present socio-economic situations into consideration!

You should think of the problems lack of money brings more than the issues its presence brings except you cherish a life of penury! Nobody makes money then start planning on how to cope when the money vanishes.

Cuteamigo1:
A woman that will stick with you and love you b4 you blow is a woman that is worth keeping because her trust and loyalty is already earned unlike some who keep jumping from one man to the other depending on who has the fatest pocket?

Lack of money does more damage to your affair than the presence of it. How do you get loyalty when you are broke? By the way, anyone can jump from one person to another.