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Benita27:
On the contrary, it's said that a friend's loyalty is known when the chips are down. Those who made this quote were not drunk and it has been proven to be true 'cause wealth attracts sycophants. The married great men of this world met their women when they had nothing 'cause that's when you test a man's loyalty. Wonder why Mark Zuckerberg ended up with an average looking Asian instead of the beauties of America?, it's 'cause she was with him when he was nothing.

You said it's easier to pick your kind of woman when you have wealth. Sorry, it's a herculean task to pick your kind of woman when you have money. A wealthy man is full of insecurities.

You wouldn't marry a lady you're not sure whether she loves you or not, realistically speaking.

I fault your opinion that the great men of this world met their wives when they were broke. That's a fallacy of hasty generalization. Why don't you gather their historical details and post it here so we can all see? Whether you have money or not is not a guarantee of meeting someone who loves you genuinely.

Rocktation, Tosyne2much, toks2008

adepeter2027:
This post is da bomb



Wow

You attacked everything rapmoney

Nice one

Thanks man. I appreciate.

Read patiently...

Most of us grew up with the false belief (my opinion) that you will only find the right woman, the one who would love you genuinely when you don't have a dime or when you're not yet sound financially. I held unto this idea for a very long time till I got to a point in life where I could no longer struggle with reality; I had to face it.

I have come to a stage in life where I no longer entertain ideas that are not practical or are not in touch with realities. True-life experiences will sometimes teach you that ideas like the one this post revolves around are nothing but mere abstract craps which people use to give themselves hopes.

Let me tell you today, having money and even excess of it will not stop you from finding a woman who suits you and who loves you dearly. It depends on your class and what you want. I strongly believe that holding onto the idea that you will only find a woman who will love you genuinely, when you have not achieved financial success, is a mentality that is seriously laced with inferiority complex! It is like saying no comfortable or financially successful young man will marry a woman who will love him genuinely. If money will not make a woman love you genuinely, then you can try poverty. I believe it will help! Being broke as ceramics is not a guarantee that genuine love awaits you whenever a girl agrees to date you. People date for different reasons. Among the super rich, rich, comfortable, struggling, broke, poor and poorest, there are honest people, so also there are deceitful people too.

The number of marriages or homes that get broken every now and then in our society due to lack of money far outnumbers the number that get broken due to the existence of money and much money. You might want to think otherwise considering the the rate at which you read or hear about broken marriages in the news. It is so because the people involved are mostly celebrities. Whatever they do is news. It is even news if they go to the restroom! You don't know the high number that get broken everyday among broke people who 'genuinely' loved themselves because they are not popular. It is hardly news when theirs happen.

What's the essence of having a wife that loves you 'genuinely' because she met you struggling, when there's a high possibility that she can cheat on you because you don't have money? Or isn't it the present society we live in again? Why do we always throw away the issue of financial compatibility when the woman is at the receiving end but embrace it strongly when the man is at the receiving end because he's probably broke?

I'm not suggesting that one should not marry when he's not comfortable. A man can marry whenever it suits him; be it in riches or in poverty. What I'm saying is that the idea that you will only find a woman who will love you genuinely when you're not comfortable doesn't hold weight. What if she happens to have achieved more financial success than you? Would she still be a gold-digger who doesn't love you genuinely? A comfortable guy should go for a comfortable girl so that financial appreciation could be a mutual thing. You will only attract leeches and parasites when you go for broke girls who would have looked down on you years back when you were broke even if they, themselves were carrying poverty on their heads as if they were hawking it.

Whether you like it or not, financial success gives you a wider room to make choices when it comes to women. That's the same reason why a broke guy always begs his girlfriend not to leave him...because his choices are highly limited. No woman is perfect. In Nigeria, money gives you the opportunity to get closer to your choice woman. Young Nigerian women nowadays are allergic to long stories of how bright your prospects are; face it!!! I don't hustle to impress ladies. I hustle so that I can give the mother of my kids and my kids the best. Whether she loves me genuinely or not is nothing but a headache for the idealists!

Good morning!

Na wa o! Who dem catch nai do

Jesusloveyou:
Ok ooo,
But idiotic pigs of Biafra will not learn from their elders.

Buhari should forgive them, because the idiotic pigs of Biafra do not know what they are doing.

I joined this forum called Nairaland in 2008. That's about 9 years or so but I must tell you, I have never read a post as senseless as yours before. In fact, this is the most senseless post I have seen since 2008 till date!!! Why didn't you address what the man said instead of making a total fool of yourself on a public forum? Look at your username, 'jesusloveyou' indeed!!! What a hypocrite you are!

ChyOmaa:
[color=#000000]Wonderful write up.

We should also be conscious of the kind of life we live as singles so that it don't affect our children.

Rapmoney longest time [/color]

Wow! Where have you been, Mzpecs? It's been a while.

adepeter2027:
Well articulated

Thanks.

jake247:
Why u dey spoil market for oloshi, and ashawo na, thats there talent, and they sell small small.

Wetin concern fish and raincoat? Ye knoweth not what thou sayeth.

Loyalblak007:
hmmmmm

Yes.

An Open Letter To Young Nigerian Mothers

Dear Nigerian Mothers,

"A man builds a house but it is the woman that builds the home".

I know being a mother is not an easy task. I still vividly remember the pains my mother went through, raising three boys and three girls (six kids) in a Nigerian city where 'open eye' was the order of the day. I have come of age and I have come to realize that all mothers are women but not all women are mothers. I pray God to keep us alive so I can reward mine here on earth for all what she passed through. Same prayer goes to everyone out there whose mother has proven to be a woman and a mother too.

In as much as this letter intends to address Nigerian mothers in general, it is worthy to note that this letter specifically addresses young Nigerian mothers who are still raising teenage and school-age daughters. Reason: Your young daughters are very much important and precious to the society. There is still room to teach them how to work hard with their hands and brains and not to be unnecessarily dependent on the male folks for their survival or existence. It is easier to teach a young tigress to be friendly with humans than an adult tigress. One does not learn how to use the left hand when he/she is old (African Proverb). Ladies of my generation do not need the re-orientation that is contained in this letter more than the younger ones.

The family is the smallest unit of every society, according to Sociologists, of which I concur. In a society where most of our young women have replaced their brains with their buttocks and boobs, I wonder how the next generation would look like if you, our young Nigerian mothers fail to teach your school-age and teenage daughters the importance of acquiring entrepreneural and real-life skills that can see them breaking free from this 'dependency mentality' that has continued to hang around them like the Sword of Damocles.

Most of our young women now sleep with different men of all shapes, sizes and ages just to acquire simple personal gadgets such as phones that may not even cost up to 30k!!! Some do not even mind licking the navel and belly of of a man old enough to be their grandfather just to purchase an Android phone! Now, if such young women intelligently put their hands and brains to use, they too can buy 5 of such phones (or whatever) in no time without sleeping with even an ant or a lizard!

Is it that the brains of the male folks are too developed whereby, acquiring of any form of property is an exclusive activity for males based on mental and physical capacity? How come there is this mentality that whenever a young Nigerian lady needs anything, there must be a male out there to provide it? The answer to these, I believe, lies in the over-dependency nature of our young ladies. Whatever people get used to becomes a habit and then a culture.

Most of our young ladies have stopped using their brains for rational thinking; they now prefer to use their bums and boobs! As soon as a young girl starts noticing certain curves on her hips and the appearance of two prodruding oranges on her chest, that is the end. To hell with her hands and brain! She now has two 'assets' that are bigger than the four factors of production (land, labour, capital and entrepreneur) put together.

Right from a tender age, the female child should be taught the importance of diverting her attention and focus from her body parts to other worthwhile activities that can make her independent, respected and successful in life, while still being conscious of her 'natural endowments'! Your bums and boobs are parts of your body; they are not factors of production!!! Whenever I see young women who are thriving in science, arts, sports, technology, education, agriculture and other paths in life, I cannot help but give them a respectful salute as if I was giving a salute as a military personnel to a fellow officer. I always doff my hat for them because I know such women have bums and boobs but looked beyond these because they had dreams and visions they were dying to actualize! Genevieve Nnaji, Chimamanda Adichie, Asa, Asisat Oshoala, Serena and Venus Williams, Simi, Yemi Alade and a host of others have vaginas and boobs too but they knew they had something burning in them that was struggling to be noticed!

Let our young mothers harness the talents of their young female children. Talent is not an exclusive potential to be utilized by the male folks. If you have a daughter and she is good at sports, such as field events, it is expected you nurture her to be successful in the path she is gifted in. At 16, they should be following one endeavour or the other to be dependent and successful in life and not various d*cks of all sizes for survival!

Thank you and Good morning!

Yours sincerely,

Kelvin U. Kartez (Rapmoney)

BiggerPRICK1:
Send me the link... i didnt see it

Check front page. It is still there.

BiggerPRICK1:
H for hugeAss

Na wa for you o! E be like say you like ass well well o! Hope u didn't masturbate on that Daniella Okeke's thread?

H

An Open Letter To Young Nigerian Mothers

Dear Nigerian Mothers,

"A man builds a house but it is the woman that builds the home".

I know being a mother is not an easy task. I still vividly remember the pains my mother went through, raising three boys and three girls (six kids) in a Nigerian city where 'open eye' was the order of the day. I have come of age and I have come to realize that all mothers are women but not all women are mothers. I pray God to keep us alive so I can reward mine here on earth for all what she passed through. Same prayer goes to everyone out there whose mother has proven to be a woman and a mother too.

In as much as this letter intends to address Nigerian mothers in general, it is worthy to note that this letter specifically addresses young Nigerian mothers who are still raising teenage and school-age daughters. Reason: Your young daughters are very much important and precious to the society. There is still room to teach them how to work hard with their hands and brains and not to be unnecessarily dependent on the male folks for their survival or existence. It is easier to teach a young tigress to be friendly with humans than an adult tigress. One does not learn how to use the left hand when he/she is old (African Proverb). Ladies of my generation do not need the re-orientation that is contained in this letter more than the younger ones.

The family is the smallest unit of every society, according to Sociologists, of which I concur. In a society where most of our young women have replaced their brains with their buttocks and boobs, I wonder how the next generation would look like if you, our young Nigerian mothers fail to teach your school-age and teenage daughters the importance of acquiring entrepreneural and real-life skills that can see them breaking free from this 'dependency mentality' that has continued to hang around them like the Sword of Damocles.

Most of our young women now sleep with different men of all shapes, sizes and ages just to acquire simple personal gadgets such as phones that may not even cost up to 30k!!! Some do not even mind licking the navel and belly on of a man old enough to be their grandfather just to purchase an Android phone! Now, if such young women intelligently put their hands and brains to use, they too can buy 5 of such phones (or whatever) in no time without sleeping with even an ant or a lizard!

Is it that the brains of the male folks are too developed whereby, acquiring of any form of property is an exclusive activity for males based on mental and physical capacity? How come there is this mentality that whenever a young Nigerian lady needs anything, there must be a male out there to provide it? The answer to these, I believe, lies in the over-dependency nature of our young ladies. Whatever people get used to becomes a habit.

Most of our young ladies have stopped using their brains for rational thinking; they now prefer to use their bums and boobs! As soon as a young girl starts noticing certain curves in her hips and the appearance of two prodruding oranges on her chest, that is the end. To hell with her hands and brains! She now has two 'assets' that are bigger than the four factors of production (land, labour, capital and entrepreneur) put together.

Right from a tender age, the female child should be taught the importance of diverting her attention and focus from her body parts to other worthwhile activities that can make her independent, respected and successful in life, while still being conscious of her 'natural endowments'! Your bums and boobs are parts of your body; they are not factors of production!!! Whenever I see young women who are thriving in science, arts, sports, technology, education, agriculture and other paths in life, I cannot help but give them a respectful salute as if I was giving a salute as a military personnel to a fellow officer. I always doff my hat for them because I know such women have bums and boobs but looked beyond these because they had dreams and visions they were dying to actualize! Genevieve Nnaji, Chimamanda Adichie, Asa, Asisat Oshoala, Serena and Venus Williams, Simi, Yemi Alade and a host of others have vaginas and boobs too but they knew they had something burning in them that was struggling to be noticed!

Let our young mothers harness the talents of their young female children. Talent is not an exclusive potential to be utilized by the male folks. If you have a daughter and she is good at sports, such as field events, it is expected you nurture her to be successful in the path she is gifted in. At 16, they should be following one endeavour or the other to be dependent and successful in life and not various d*cks of all sizes for survival!

Thank you and Good morning!

Yours sincerely,

Kelvin U. Kartez (Rapmoney)

GavelSlam:
There must be censorship of divisive news media.

You cannot instigate the people against constituted authority on the simple but often abused premise of freedom of speech.

If you attended a university, the institution should, in a matter of urgency, withdraw your certificate and cancel all courses you might have taken!!! So people who claim to have sane minds can reason like this?

Kobicove:
Nothing happened to Peace Hyde...the naughty guy is just imagining what he would like to 'do' to her in za oza room

How you take know my mind? Be like say you be magician

janellemonae:
What happened to her?

She make sense!

Una see this Peace Hyde ehn...make I no just talk sef...see ehn...make I no kukuma talk!

UbanmeUdie:
It is alright to have an opinion but it is insane to have a stupid one.

Must you force people to hold same beliefs as you? Using abusive words on people who disagree with you clearly shows how unintelligent, myopic and parochial you are!!! SMH.

Toyin Tomato?

Benita27:
Op, you're right on the aforementioned, but these are the superficial. If you scratch a little deeper; psychological maturity is what I look out for in these set of guys...how he behaves, his reaction in certain situations, and general mindset. Can't deal with an overgrown kid.

Yeah, but the list is inexhaustible.

ArchangeLucifer:
You left out Satanists.

That's an affront.

You are one?

Guys: Things Ladies Look Out For In You When You Turn 30

The age of 30 is very significant in the life of a young man in our society. There's a certain consciousness than young men tend to experience when they get close to this age. There's also a silent ritual of deep reflections that's attached to it. Trying to pick a soulmate and make a headway in life begin to come to play clearly like never before. At this stage, there are certain things that ladies want in you. Please, this post is not for guys who are still striving hard to get pink lips to impress little slay queens.

1) A GROWING OR STRONG FINANCIAL BASE: I'm not against ladies going for young men with a stable financial background. Every responsible and hardworking lady deserves a man with a growing or strong financial base. She probably has a blueprint of how she wants her family to be. Don't blame her. I only frown at lazy and visionless young ladies who hunt for the already-made. At 30, a woman wants to see you doing something worthwhile that brings income. If your case is the opposite, sorry, you will need to do more! As a man, it's a shame to depend on a woman for finance. It clearly makes you a kid!

2) FREEDOM FROM MATERNAL STRINGS: Now, take this as a practical test from me. At one time, take out 15 minutes to talk to a lady who admires you about your mum. Tell her how your mum influences your life. On another occassion, do same about your dad. See which one makes her slightly uncomfortable. I bet you, the first would do. Women know how their emotions work. They know their extent of influence in a man's life. The female specie of humans mostly make decisions based on emotions rather than rationality. It's a common trait. As it is in your girl, so it is in your mum; they are women! At 30, women want to know whether you are still a puppet to your mother. She wouldn't want your mum's decisions to be binding in her matrimonial home! Among all your family members (extended members inclusive), your mother will be the greatest concern to that woman that considers you her partner.

3) PERSONAL SPACE/A KNOWN ADDRESS: This is another thing women look out for when a guy approaches 30. They want to date a man that lives somewhere, not a cloud!!! You can't just be hovering around. You can't be at Okezie's place today, Teguolo's place tomorrow and Ademola's place the day after tomorrow. Ogbeni, where your house dey? Which street? Which area? Abi you be spirit? Don't even think of hotel, except you are dealing with a runs girl and looking up to a one-night-stand!

4) MATURE DRESS SENSE AND GENERAL APPEARANCE: This is one very important thing women look out for when you begin to approach 30. This shouldn't be a time to be chasing pink lips or adorning yourself with clothes that are suited for teenage guys! Nice clothes fitting for your stage in life should be appropriate. Shirts should look neat and ironed. You only deserve a presentable woman when you, yourself is presentable too.

5) RELIGIOUS INCLINATIONS: This is one of the most hypocritical notions I've come to discover in recent times but we should save that for another day. When you approach 30, women (especially, Nigerian women) want to know your religious inclinations. That's because we tend to be too religious in this part of the world. When a girl starts probing into your religious backround, she probably wants to be serious with you. At 30, you should be open and sincere in revealing your religious beliefs, be you a Christian, Muslim, Bhuddist, Nihilist, Atheist, native doctor or magician! Whoever wants to stay or go will. It all depends on the woman's beliefs and outlook on life.

Good morning folks!

A.M.I.L. - All Money Is Legal.

gbzed:
Self employed sure pass.

But not everybody can b self employed cos who will do the work?

Not everyone can be self-employed but everyone can start doing something about their future now.

5 Negative Characters Most Nigerian Employers Exhibit

This post lists typical attitudes most Nigerian employers exhibit, especially, in organisations where the boss is the sole-proprietor. The gospel truth is that labour is very cheap in Nigeria. The extreme cheapness of this labour has humbled so many young graduates to accept and tolerate unnecessary and harsh policies that have succeeded in enslaving them. No matter where you find yourself today, never lose focus on building your personal dreams. You cannot be TRULY satisfied in life building another man's dreams in a situation where you work as a slave! It's a basic fact; you can take that to the bank!

1) NOT PAYING WORKERS ON TIME: Some employers are not humans! Yes, not all employers are humans. Some are worse than Monster Caliban in the popular drama, 'The Tempest' by Shakespeare. How can you owe employees for months with no explanations as to what the reason for the delay is? And on Sunday, na you go first reach church, come go front seat go sidan with white starched native! Your family members eat and live well but have you asked yourself how family members of your workers are living? Your employees, especially, the hardworking ones, are the engine of your organization; they are your team members, not your slaves. Pay them on time or pay them off if you can't continue with the business! Oga boss, no be by force o!

2) THEY WANT YOU TO WEAR DIFFERENT SUITS TO WORK BUT YOUR SALARY IS 40K!!! : I curse poverty! Oga boss, why are you so wicked? I mean, why you be like this sef? How can you pay a graduate 40k monthly and still want him/her to change suits and wear fly coporate clothes to work? Do unto others as you would want them do to you. It's a natural law.

3) THEY GIVE YOU LOADS OF WORK THAT IS BEYOND YOUR CAPACITY: Most one-man organisations, especially private schools, are typical of this. I almost got trapped in a private school, where I was nearly killed with work some years back. My first day at work left me wondering whether it would be wise to resume the next day. How can one person teach Civic Education Jss1-3, CRS Jss1-3, Government SS1-3, Literature-In-English SS1-3 and Social Studies Jss 2&3? Even if I be Aristotle sef!!! Una wan give person pikin madness? Not to talk of the lengthy lesson notes on top cabin biscuit salary ! The principal called me the next day, asking why I didn't resume work but I told him he was calling a wrong number!

4) THEY SLASH YOUR PAY WITHOUT EXPLANATIONS: Many employers will just slash your pay with no explanations, yet they want you to do your best. One employer even told me that I should do 'his best' and not mine when I told him: 'Sir, I will do my best'. Meanwhile, I was being owed two months arrears with previous slashing and slicing here and there as if my salary was finger chop bread! Abeg, wetin man do man, my people?

5) NOT REWARDING HARDWORKING EMPLOYEES: You may never know what you have till you lose it. Most Nigerian employers always fail to reward hardwork among their employees. Reward people who go extra miles to see that goals and targets are met. If you lose them, you may never get their exact replacements. When you water your crops, they flourish and produce fruits but when you don't, you know the rest.

I was listening to 'Better (Remix)' by Oritsefemi ft. Vector and the rapper (Vector) said: 'Oritsefemi...How I wan respect the boss wey no dey pay?/How you wan enjoy salary wen the pay no dey tay?'. #WORD