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Oh lady!! I don't know you or what you have been through in the hands of guys but from all your piece of mind,I didn't want to say ranting,it seems like its being terrible.
Like I feel sorry for what they made you but I don't believe circumstances should determine what we become as we would all turn out awful.you should probably find someone to talk to,you are on that thin line to the other side.

Wish you well(I couldn't resist lending my voice to the course,noticed your recent comment)

Mine is being with a terrible woman.

For clarity sakes,this isn't true.you got it all twisted,an idea of accounting gives a glimpse of the rest. Believe me,economics is in accounting ie you study economics to be an accountant.
Even in layman's term,to be able to provide accounting info,you must understand the economic framework and management

HartIse:
I'd have to say Economics, an idea of Economics gives one a glimpse of Accounting & Business Admin

Am I the only one irked by what's happening here? Ma'm you need to relax,what you are doing could be the disease you are dreading. Also worrying is the kind of mindset you are putting on the little kids,I know you call it caring. Just saying,you can never tick all your cards,just come!

Everybody is saying let her go which is probably best,I just want to give you a flip side to salvage your love.
You see,my family is or was pretty much like what you are about having. my dad was the eldest and all his siblings took turns to live with us like you and my mum tried to understand. My point is I understand her fears,firstly its going to be a new marriage and when push comes to shove,you would take your siblings' side as she would be like the odd one. Its the natural thing to do unlike if its just two of you and they visit,she would feel a sense of entittlement.
That said ,I think she needs to be assured of her position when heads start to roll, that you would not put your siblings first, that you would support her when there is agrument and not stay on the fence like you say you do. She needs authority!! So bro,you have got work to do. Believe me,her reaction is normal.

Whoa!!! Being a guy myself,I find most of the comments really low,normally,I would just ignore but I felt you need to hear it blunt.. The flip is you can't change him,manage him.Everything is wrong with the youngman please and you don't have to subject yourself to this lifetime of worry becasue you are 27. Madness!!!
Sometimes I read comments on here and am wondering if its a sane person writing it,I don't want to quote any. We read stories of violence and wife beaters and you see comments like leave the marriage,didn't you see signs from this same set saying manage him,husbby is scare and the dumb likes.
You my dear,have seen the signs you need,I hope your story is not the case.
Btw,you might want to try the family section next time you have a serious issue like this and need experienced comments.no pun intended

Bro,well said. Except you can actually incorporate and then 'establish'. Then unless you are plc,you are at liberty to choose the date you want as your anniversary.

MyTime3:
Yes @ OP. The Year you started the business is the "Established Year" while the Year you Registered the business with CAC is the "Incorporated Year".

Anniversaries are usually done with the Year of Establishment which is usually earlier or the same as the year of Incorporation.


in order words.. "You CAN Establish before you incorporate", You CAN "Establish and Incorporate at the same time" but "You CANNOT Incorporate before you Establish"

Kinda makes one wonder....what's with the spirit in those 3weeks in the camp and relationships especially for ladies. I relate bro

GoldenJAT:
Op.... I stopped trusting girls.. Since my babe of 5yrs..changed immediately she went 4 her nysc. I still feel d shock... Bt nevertheless sum very few gud ones DE.

You are a pretty lady believe me,nobody has it all the way they want. Just appreciate yourself and see yourself feel better.
,I just might have disvirgined my 'pm-ing' but for ....

Please don't wonder what that is

Oh please!!!! Am I the only one who read the part where she is a secretary in a transport coy. Reeks my curiousity how a secretary to a transport Coy would be as terrible as the op depicts. Should think she would have a good carriage in public atleast that's inline with her job.

I think money has changed the op but all the lady wants is for things to be as they where. You the 'ordinary' things that made them happy then but op is not having that anymore.

I don't have an explicit advice so to say,there are so many of them already,I feel you should just take a moment and talk to the lady,just bare it all out to yourselves,then decide for yourselves what is best

2kobo from the depth of my heart.

pato405:
your sentiments reek of even more immaturity than that of the Op. Just when I thought I had read the worst! Whatever happened to being there for each other? with a smile even when it seems you are the only one bearing all the expenses. A LOT of men out there are sole bread winners, their wives only being 'house-wives'..they do all they can to saddle all expenditure without grumbling, but when it's the women...OH DEAR me! hell will be let loose, and they'll go about like OP, letting the world know how they've been sole providers. It's just plain silly to me...and I think your sermon doesn't even make the situation any better.

hey..... Firstly,I think we should take a deep breathe. That said,you have lost the point of the lady's write up,I suggest you read again and this time with an open mind. The lady doesn't seem to have problems suporting her man. She is only deeply concerned about a new turn of habits where his well paid salary finishes so easily and he resorts to hers. Quite frankly that should call for worry and that's all she is.
Then I think you didn't finish reading my own comment because you would have read I said she should surport him. Am not sure but I think this subject seems to be a triger for you from your comments.

pato405:
Op, I think you are loud-mouthed, very arrogant nd so full of your self. Why all these bla bla bla, you strike me like a notorious nag. You needn't all these. Learn to be mature, to bear, to be tolerant and understanding. gooooosh I feel so dissapointed, just try to grow up and STOP whinning.

I rarely comment but your post was all silly to me,couldn't resist to ignore. I think we should learn to be objective and put ourselves in the shoes of the writer before writing disheartening things to others. Your closed mind is why you didn't notice the op is the caring wife fight for her new marriage cos this situation could lead to a series of other unwanted one.

Well for my rare 2kobo,I would say you give him but its also inportant you investigate what dries your hubby's good salary precisely so your worries are not uncalled for. It could be something that has a good long term derivative.so it doesn't seem like you weren't supportive when he need you 'most'. Cheers

immortalcrown:
Your tone reveals that you are aggressive. So, I won't interfer in this matter.

what are you taking about agreesion, the young man was hurt and I do not see any abnormality in his actions. Wana expantiate?

I feel most people read with their minds closed so they don't try to understand the situation before commenting. Most people do this on NL.

For me, before the actual 'act' of adultery takes place, there is a thought process that tries to justify it in the subconscious. That make it an attitude. So the mind in most cases is predisposed to it, knowing it's pros and cons. Little wonder the famous cliché, 'once a cheat, always a cheat'.
Even the Bible talked about looking lustfully at a person, that is a 'state of mind', given the opportunity the 'act' happens. That said, there is always exceptions

My 1kobo

I crave a certain kind of connection for myself.

I wish there can be less hate in the world. The hate around now is terrible.

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Richy4:
Sometimes I don't really understand this 21st century we are into anymore.

An Important discussion like this, The man responsible does not know, the immediate family members does not know and she rushed to social media as if everyone has deserted her. is social media not supposed to be the last resort?

Is it that the internet is getting too cheap, or people do not use their brain anymore or I that I am getting too old?

sometimes, people want general opinions of unbiased minds, like we must likely know the kind of talks that would come from her family. There is nothing wrong with seeking the opinion of people you don't know in delicate matters as this before getting the spanks from family. so you are neither getting old nor are brains losing it.

My 2kobo, i just had to type this for some reasons would have normally looked on. I feel we need to be open minded to these things before we share our opinions.

Sometimes, I wonder the kind of relationship some guys have with their families. A guy should start having his say in his life early on so has to prevent this type of situation where his family tries to control his home. God knows my family know there limit and would not try this type of flip not to talk of future wife's own.

Plain silly... No offence just feels funny when I read stuff like this especially from the guy's family.

I need the gmat and KPMG questions too. Any other materials of interest you have would be appreciated too. Igweraymond20@gmail.com.thanks

Wow!!!! What can I say.... That was an unguarded comment, behaviour and more so really sickening to be proud of it. A wrong can never cancel out a wrong to make either right . what happened to allowing God be the judge of all even jess tired to bring those against him to his side not harm them.

Am def following this tread...

I am actually the male version of your wife only that telling me thank you for something I did seems like nothing really to me although, I say thank you much to people. That said, I think people are different so I think if you haven't expressed this feelings explicitly to her then you might fall off the grid because it obviously is making you unhappy which will eventually rub off on other events. You need to bare your mind totally...

jonnieoneng:
DO YOU HAVE A DAUGHTER OF YOUR OWN ?IF THE ANSWER IS NO..... I DON'T THINK YOU QUALIFY TO ADVISE THIS LADY MENTAL MATURITY OR WHAT DID YOU SAY ? YOU DEFINITELY HAVEN'T BEING READING THE NEWS OF LATE WHICH KIND RESPECT DEY BETWEEN PRICK AND TOTO. IS THIS WHAT YOU WILL SAY IF SHE WERE YOUR LITTLE GIRL.IF I SEE YOU I FOR PUNCH YOU BLACK AND BLUE

mister, relationships do not have to be a drawback or be a disadvantage so to say cause you seem to have that mindset. Some relationships actually make the parties grow. You maybe read my post again with an open mind.

I am not sure why the comments here are tilting towards its will fail and all that negatives. Well, I don't think so cause the lady seems to be mentally mature. Op, hope you know to filter the comments here, not all relationships are terrible, although you should open you mind in case of its eventuality.

For me, I think you are ready because relationships have more to do with psychological maturity than physical just be a little careful because human beings can suddenly go wacko. We know the worse things your mates are engaging in whilst not as smart as you seems.

By the way, am I the only one that appreciates her English not the whole abbreviations that people especially teens write with now. Op, i think am almost in love with you, nice one.... Cheers

Personally, I have my reservations about Pope Francis, i think he is trying so much to be 'media friendly' with his all talk on homosexuality, divorce and all other trending discussions around now. Pulling the 'who am I to judge card' so he isn't seen as taking sides. John Paul wasn't like that, he called a spade a spade. Am Catholic by the way, just baring my mind.

So this kind of thing still happens in this millennium... Whatever happened to letting mother nature take its course. God knows nobody would try this for me when it's time.

For me, I relate with the post, well said. That no6 got me in the moment cos ever since my relationship ended, bin feeling so lonely and empty not dat am idle, am a super busy guy and I have few female frnds not dat am a loner just dat connection op mentioned is not there. Nobody tries to change me here, we are wat we are. All is well.

What the flip do ladies nowadays take men for!!! creeps me so much. Oh my!!! We are not weaklings for God's sake

agarawu23:
why are we like this ? Something hasn't happen to you doesn't mean it's not happening to others. Yes we can cry for love. I was once in his shoe, i learnt it from my close friend then.

It's emotional tears bro

bro, i knw of emotional tears but why wud a guy cry at every issue, I tink dats petty and sissy, IMO.

Chillisauce:
After praying with your friend you came and shared her sad story online
And what made you think the other person would be better off as a good spouse to your friend?
Adults make decision . Let them deal with the outcome. That does not mean your own life is better off.

u need to chill for Christ's sake!!!!! Not like she mention any name or sometin. Sometimes pple want to share their stories, dats all. Just read and pick the point and move on. Jeez! Ur post actually infuriated me.

I don't comprehend why someone would want to eat his or her cake and still have it on the palm. She doesn't want you yet she wants to cling on... I think you made the best decision for your sanity because it would be terrible being friends when u want more.

Exponental:
Sex.... hobby not included in a CV.
If it's her hobby, bros, how should she manage in 2yrs?
Pls let peoples business be their business.
She might love the guy but needs the gap filled. I don't support cheats but I don't support sex starving in a sex relationship. Distance relationship is only good for virgins, if not, expect assistance.

THIS!!! got me 'awww'....


I find it creepy dat most of u are leaving the crux of the d thread and going all out on the guy... Whatever happened to having values and upholding to dem.

Mine is writing a piece of my mind to dis lady I liked. Still feel silly wen I remember, cannot imagine wat she wud have done with the letter, maybe showed her friends, trash it.... Oh my!

Easy