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sleeknick:
I dey here o

mehn, sleep come later show. How you dey? Hope no be on top valentine matter you no sleep?

Hi, so am looking to buy myself a nice wrist watch for valentine. Can we talk

I can't find sleep.. . Who's up

mamadsquare:
Don't feel bad sir, thank God that in your own little way you are still able to provide for your family's basic needs.
Now to some points you raised up there:
30k on accomodation every month - that amounts to 360k for a year's rent, i'm guessing you had been staying there before you lost your previous job, however, maybe there are some things that could change. Ofcourse you are the one who knows the full dynamics of your situation. I don't know the area where you stay but supposing you are living in a 3 or 2 bedroom apartment, could you consider moving to a place with one less room, thereby reducing cost or if the area is the reason for the cost could you consider moving to a "low" brow area? Seeing that you have a personal car, going to and from work should be much problem.
My 2cents.

I agree with this. You need to understand that your circumstances have changed, rather than cry foul, you should effect changes appropriately . Instead of the luxury 360/year house rent go for a lesser one and you have more to provide for your family and even save.
For what it's worth, I think you are doing good so don't feel bad.

For me, it's all levels of inappropriate abeg. I wouldn't do it so I don't give room for it. Which kind childish play na abi love

freeze001:
The problem with all this discoveries is that they amount to nothing until the Senate and the opposition wake up and activate the necessary provisions for karma to swing into action! Yes, APC is chock full of lying hypocrites and bastards but that doesn't address the problem! Action does and PDP has fůckïng gone to sleep!

it's just worse to think Nigeria is not a two-party state and pdp is the opposition while the rest opposition are not mining from this. They wait till 2019 and bring some unknown guy.

Psoul:
You must be a professional. Like u ve bn in this situation before.

actually, I have not. Just logical

Dunno, disconnect something only him can connect say the connection to the speaker or change the wires connecting to the TV.
PS :it's not what you think..

Please, don't end up penny wise pound foolish Bro.. You don't have to save so much to end up buying medications with it. Food in itself is the first medicine.
Then it's important to eat at the right time, because when the body begins to feel hungry, you end up consuming twice but when you stick to eating at say 8am,2pm and 8pm,you would do good. I think 10k monthly savings is commendable.

This is an unnecessary tension really.. .
As a life lesson, I think it's important we keep assessing our relationships with people to know where we stand and be objective.
My point is, you gotta step up and objectively determine what you want with him, this drama is not healthy for either of you. You gotta have that conversation where nothing is implied. It could go either way, if it fortunately doesn't go your way, then you need to cut ties totally, would be difficult [being there] but you would be better off knowing your place in the scheme of things.

eezeribe:
They will always defend their kind

mehn, looks like you are on the loose? Why attack the person actually making sense. Not cool!!

Nicely put only I feel the need to emphasise on the over emphasis of 'fights' in relationships such that people set their minds to expect these fights or believe there relationship isn't good. Believe me, when you set your mind at something, you almost definitely get it. Then these fights come and they get overwhelming and tires everyone. Although, don't also expect a definite smooth sailing. Just allow love take its course.

Hope I made sense to someone..

orunto27:
The following groups are against it:-
19 Northern Governments.
The DSS and The IGP.
All the Fulani Ministers and Special Assistants to Mr. President.
The Caliphate of Usman Dan Fodiyo.
Majority of The Emirs and majority of Northern Politicians who are hell bent on taking over Yoruba, Igbo, Ijaws, Tivs, Ibibios etc Lands for Fulani Grazing.

what is your point sir? The idea is to know the thought of the common Nigerian who is feeling the impact and still think it's not necessary to express our displeasure

So why are you not for the protest, tell us

ozoebuka1:
did you vote for or against this government in 2015 if "no" then your topic is justified, if "Yes" .....

you see, trying to blame one another is stale and needless at this time, Americans can still do that with trump. I take it you are for the protest, good luck.

Good day fellow Nigerians..
I could write up an epistle to preempt what I want us to talk about but it's rather needless. So I want us to get on with it..

Are you living in this extremely harsh realities happening, I say extremely because it's never being a merry go round in nigeria..
So there should be a clarion call to get this government on course but there seems to be some people who feel otherwise. Hence, the need to know why these people feel this protest isn't necessary.

Please tell us why you feel so and try being very civil and respectful whilst stating your points.

gunners160:
The reason for the above was because the last batch that went for camping Batch B Stream 2,were asked to bring their medical fitness report on a short notice. Due to this reason,a lot of them had to use a forged medical report or collide with a Dr. to issue them fitness report. Since NYSC has introduced bringing medical report before being admitted into the camp, certainly, Batch A will also be asked to bring medical fitness certificate and to avoid going through the stress of moving from one hospital to another or looking for a forged certificate, it is better to get the certificate at hand than a dying minute rush

alright, makes sense... I don't even like all that rushing things

gunners160:
NYSC has not sarted the mobilisation of Batch A corp members but they will start anytime soon. Right now, most schools are trying to start their clearance so as to submit the senate list of approved students that have graduated to the NYSC board for mobilization. Partening your second question, you are to follow thesame procedures this current Batch A will be going through because you fall uinder dsame category whether you graduated 5years ago . And finally, pls try getting ur medical report of fitness

medical report of fitness? Isn't this needed for camp, what is the need now when they haven't started mobilisation

Please have they started any from of 2017A mobilisation? I deferred for sometime but am ready to go now. What steps do I begin with as my case wouldn't be like a fresh graduate's. Or any one in my situation here?

I couldn't help but feel compassion for you while I read. Since you understood what you were getting into, I can only wish you more power to do what is necessary.
Plus I don't think it's asking to much to appeal to him.

I feel there needs to be a thread that teaches people how to give advice. How can someone after reading and trying to relate with what this lady said advice her to pray or endure or say divorce is not an option,stick to your husband.
The worse kind of abuse is the emotional one, worse than the physical, it messes with your psychology prolly why the lady hasn't moved on after 2years of separation,she maybe feels she isn't good enough again. Even if brother wanted to work something ready, he would have acted in 2years.

Oh please for the sake of your sanity, flip a next page... Moving forward, you don't need the new guy yet, rather rebuild yourself so the new guy wouldnt see you as broken and take advantage..

colik:
Thanks for the speech.
By the way,why should I go find love when I could just go find money?


Being single rocks!

you see from experience, money doesn't solve all needs genuinely for long ie money might get you friends but it wouldn't keep them etc..

Just thought I clear that but if being single floats your boat, ride on.

I don't understand people with this 'penny wise, pound foolish mentality' . The day his luck will run out, he would blame all what not..

cutiem:
I guess am just scared of getting to love someone and eventually breaking up after spending so much time together.. I just want to b wit d one meant for me instead of all dis heartache

understandable, only you wouldn't know the one meant for you if you don't try. Abi dem dey write am for face?

talk2alabama:
just do as I have said...ask him why he left

asking him this is very unnecessary and irrelevant, it puts the problem on the lady whereas the brother might just be the punk ass. Also I think the thing you saw and called pride is actually grief, it makes us recount unnecessary events that was prolly done selflessly.

So op, I think you are wallowing in the need for self pity, you want us to tell you how terrible the guy is. But you don't need all of that to grow. You need to begin a process of healing and it starts with accepting the worse has happened and forgiving the brother for his unfairness. You would be fine, believe me..
I hope you come out a better lady.

Donpizzle:
My first post is just a logical estimate.
Mathematically
x + (x/2) + 1=100.........(1)
therefore
2x+x+2=200
3x=198
x=66 sub x into the eqn (1) above
I have 66+(66/2)+1 which equals to
66+33+1=100.
Done
Pls x cannot equal 198 because 198 is already greater than their sum (100). Thank you.

the birds didn't say we need half of us more plus you or anything that suggested more had to be added to them. Rather they said we need half of us plus you. I think it's 198,then they would need half of us[99] plus one

Life is a risk, there is also the possibility that the next guy would be way sweeter, just keep your mind open to that...
The issue is deciding if this risk would be worth it in the long haul and this, we cannot do for you. Then again, you should know that you don't suddenly feel you can get upset about things you allowed while dating like this one you wrote about.

So it's important you ask yourself these things now!

You need to learn to control your mind, most actions and inaction stems from that. Now she knows your mumu button. Any solution would begin with you learning mind control so when you decide you would touch her, you don't! With time, she would realize your head is no longer between your legs and adjust