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80kg is her carrying a bag of rice and half o. Take note adults

Welcome to the world. The real world.

linearity:
Your arguments are sound, however I want to correct a wrong assumption that you made.

In the Western world, your wife is equal and entitled to half of the family wealth including your 401K retirement saving, regardless if she works or lazy all day in the house.

The law believes that, it is impossible for her to contribute zero and therefore equates those contributions to half.

Even if she is a full house wife, she is entitled to half. You even have to pay more to her in the event of a divorce, if she was a full house wife.

The reason being that, the law seeks to keep the family dynamics as close to the same after divorce, so once they calculate the difference between your income and hers, which will be zero because she is a full house wife, you will be made to come up with more money in terms of spousal support, so that the income of the two homes after divorce will seem equivalent.

Hence, unless you are super rich and don’t mind working and paying your divorce wife salary for the rest of her life, while she does nothing and you do all the work....don’t buy into the none-sense ‘full house wife’ crap, send her to school, let her work...if she is making more than you, the better, the law sees both of you as equals regardless and the burden will be lighten on you if both of you are at the same level or close income-wise.

The only exception to the above default premise of the law is, if you sign a prenup with her and specify what she is entitled to in the prenup.

Assumed posture


Pre-nup

Hassanmaye:
Haha Feminist will question your source of money and still beat you on top

Not in ten lifetimes. Once I detect you're a feminist, I disconnect straight up. I don't keep keep feminists as friends, let alone date

Dijita:
It is your word that you like intelligent debate hence I am engaging you. In your opinion you think all the problems lies with the men. The women are just innocent bystanders like Lagos boy "Jeje mi ni mo nlo, omo Eko"
Does equality means lack of respect? I don't see anything in Nigeria law that states women and men are not equal. Our culture emphasizes respect and patriarchal so also are most of the western culture. The difference between these countries and Nigeria is economic freedom that makes it possible for women not to rely on the men for their survival. Some men as you stated failed to recognized this and some women used the environment and the ladder provided by their husband to bleeped up their husband. Men and women have been found to be responsible for some of these problem befalling Nigeria families abroad.

That's the point


Since when did equality mean :

1. Lack of loyalty

2. Lack of respect

3. Lack of cooperation

4. Lack of dependability

5. Lack of reliability

6. Rebellion

7. Devil heartedness and wicked




People need to work on their understanding of issues

[quote author=Hassanmaye post=97185635][/quote]without privileges of going on dates or clubbing with whoever they want

Salient points. Space your writing to maximum of four lines per paragraph it will make people read your content more

Scout60:
Oga abramovich lost 50% of his net worth when he divorced his man, Jeff bezos lost $30 bn when he divorced to his wife.

my kinsman out of frustration killed his wife because of same issue. The man in question is bigger and mancho. Dey Nigeria dey talk simp till u come over here.

Even over here, your kids can call cops on you and if you do nonsense.... you get deported or sleep long in jail

Oga they didn't have pre-nup before marriage


I am not marrying anyone without one. And I know the T & C I already have in mind for mine


I maintain it, I don't discuss my finances with anyone whatever anyone wants to say or do they do. Simple. I'm not the first man who chooses not to go ahead discussing finances with a woman and by goes through with it

There's always someone that is fit for our preferences and I don't go overboard going for a woman who wouldn't fit into mine. Here lies the problem men choose women under so many assumptions and hopes they'll comply. I don't assume. I spell out my conditions before the game begins



There's nothing about abroad I don't know Oga. I've had dates with women from all parts of the world high class low class. It still stands. My finances is my privacy. And I don't ask women theirs. Simple.

Scout60:
Anyway na wetin we dey talk because we dey Nigeria. When u travel, u go know wassup

Thrash. Make una dey simp for women dey go. The very first thing I tell anyone white o Caucasian o. Indian o. My First principle stands and is I don't discuss my use of finances.

Discussing finances is for. Men. On low tier. Levels. For men higher than that we can't discuss it. Just enjoy the spoiling and. Don't ask strict questions


Simple. If you can't stay bail up.


I don't simp

Scout60:
if she does, what will you do?

beat her or fight her.... for oyibo land na express u dey go

Smiles. It will never happen as long as the earth exists


Make una dey sump for women dey go. Not me

Toor

Scout60:
just ask those based abroad. it do happen in some homes here in Nigeria but most Nigeria men use gra gra to send money come to think of abroad where they get law backing them

Please stop this joke boss


The woman that will question the use of my financial resources has not been created.


She wan short be that. Na which kind joke be this one

koyyes:
E pain am. Truth is bitter, swallow it jejely.

Define man and see if you or the ranters her qualify.

I found be bothered. Anything short of my standard with the male folk is bestiality. Let that sink.

F@ggot.

Go oil your tow tow. Lemme

Dullness


70

koyyes:
Eya, see them crying.

Once upon a time, white folks cried like you. Then they got up and decided not to enslave their women and instead enslave black people.

Set your priorities straight. Stop forcing your head in vagina and use your brains for productivity that doesn't require your $perm. That's not how to be a man.

Time is running out.

Hahahahahahahahaha


See this man woman that can't even get a go at to date her. Na you to yaba mehn


Abeg hide your shame. You're irredeemably stvpid for this lousy post.

Next time digest information before you throw out your misandrists madness. No one is against women but against the entitlement mentality and irrational attitude.

Your brain is obviously as your rusty vagina


Ode

Newman20:
Working at 7pm? what kind of work is that?

I run an ICT unit . My outfit

Newman20:
No1 please learn to use full stops at the end of your sentences.

No2 I dint misrepresent any facts sir I merely stated the truth. No one has a damaged psyche it is just a matter differences in culture and tradition.

Get redpilled


I'm at work. I don't even pay at tent n to typos

Newman20:
I would like to focus on the bolded.


In our culture, even though it is hard to admit, the woman is generally seen as the person who is owned or dominated by the man. Even though you and other feminists view it as "misogyny" you have to admit it has kept the peace in our society.

Now, what the OP wants is for women abroad to submit to their husband's authority (most likely because her boyfriend abroad refused to take her with him or something ). But the truth is that it is simply not possible. The reason being that women abroad are generally supposed to be independent unlike our own system where women are supposed to submit and be taken care of by the man (even though this isn't needed cause they have their own talents to enable them succeed on their own) this creates a power tussle between the husband and wife abroad where the husband wants his wife to be submissive and the wife wants her husband to accept this lifestyle. This often results in unsavory situations such as the husband killing the wife wife taking the husband's properties etc.


Now, back to your bolded statement. It is utterly wrong because as long as Nigeria remains a nation with cultural history women and men will never be seen as equal thus killing the OP's hopes. In addition most (Nigerian) women who say women and men should be equal are hypocritical and still submit themselves to men knowingly or unknowingly due to our country's history.


Finally, I think that the easiest way to avoid situations like the husband killing the wife in abroad nations, is for the husband to marry in Nigeria and keep his wife there because as long as she goes with him ( depending on whether or not they have a predetermined agreement with each other) there will most likely be either a conflict or a divorce.



Count yourself lucky to have received information from the one and only Newman20.

You wasted words. Let me break it for you


It's easier for a white chick to fit into the exact same structure a home made girl revolts against in the name of misandry


It's the psyche. They have a damaged psyche. Stop misrepresenting facts

bezimo:
Wow..desperate Nigeria ladies going diabolical to secure abroad guys.I heard something like this..didn't know it's this terrible.

You guys don't know how far our sisters now go.


I won't open fully. My dear 50% of our ladies is an herbalist. They by themselves.


Nigerian guys should only marry them with an intermediary like family who would then do due diligence on them. The desperate for shiny things with our ladies now is now sth completely uncontrollable and on an insane level.

jornwhite:
Naa man wey wan suffer go suffer, the access point most women are using to subjugate men is westernization, they use words like gentleman & real men to manipulate men. be a gentleman n open the door for your queen, carry her bag naw or you don't love her.
real men give there wife whatever she ask for, money, luxury & gift spend it like Ned
romantic men take breakfast to there wife on bed mmm!

Buh till date we still don't know what a gentlewoman, a real woman and a romantic woman should do ... love naa scam

Thanks for redpill


Manipulative antics of women is what every man should get acquainted with before marriage

otipoju:
Its not always true. Equality is not king. The law favours women in many many cases and once Nigerian ladies understand that power they turn to something else with the influence of their friends.

I have a case where a Nigerian guy. Very gentle even though an ex military and has been on tour to Afghanistan. He pays ALL the utility bills, brought the girlfriend of 7 years and now wife to US and helped her get her first and current job, bought a car for the wife oo. One day , the wife siezed his car key in the precense of the guy's mum as he was about to go to work and told him she will not release it until he washes the plate he ate with. The wife works from home ooo. And this is a guy that does most of the cooking because the wife cant cook that good. How humiliating can that be for a man who bought the house 100% that he lives in.

I never chuk mouth for the matter because i dey wait for the right moment. But that girl go regret that thing wey she do...on God.

Oh my Goodness. How can I unread this fvckery na. Wtf


They think that's what makes a white lady cream



White ladies don't behave in this way. Only in few cases and the extreme ones. You don't hear white ladies talk this kind of shut for goodness sakes the money the man is going to hustle is for the family


Wtf. You've ruined my day with this annoying piece

bezimo:
The Nigerian women that behave this way are mainly igbo girls..bring them abroad..they become disasters you regret..

That's why as a abroad based guy trying to bring a home based 9ja girl over to Europe/USA or Canada as wife particularly is she is igbo..think 10 times about it..dont be carried away by her fake pretence of love.. once she comes over and see how the system favours women she will change to start giving you shit..too many cases to mention..

It's because the men there are simps


The home work ladies do on abroad guys if I spill it here the table go break finally


I'll chip in this two cents. While mehn are sipping, your so called ladies here take your pictures entire details to all spiritual houses and play the perfect game to get what you can offer before they transform.


While the ladies do serious underground work on males. Men just marry them out of feelings with no diligent checks and y'all think it won't end in tears


I know coded places times and acts I Don catch many so called posh chicks.


Spits. I'm disgusted remembering some sef



Abeg males abroad do through due diligence. Don't ask me how here biko


Most ladies are walking shrines and oracles and herbalists that's why you can't hate peace at time with them. It's a game they planned and executed to innocent naive men

jajeri3216:
Thank goodness I'm not with a black woman(original preference is black) , my oyinbo partner is home doing the laundry and cooking as we speak, she doesn't see herself a slave but a trad,(Type trad Western women into twitter.) , I'll gladly do the same for her.

Bills are equal, everything is based on reciprocity not abuse of power.

Like other couples, we argue but no violence or police troubles.

Gifts fly both ways and lastly the relationship isn't based on our rich or poor status.


Compare the aforementioned attributes to an egotistical maniac from one village in Nigeria, wastes all the household funds on useless thing's, hates house choirs, love's collecting without giving, irresponsible child like baboon behaviour , who will call the police on you at the slightest provocation.

All these equality fights is only going to damage the black family as we see in black American.

Now tell me how I'm mentally damaged?

My. Brother this narrative is what we call a blissful. Marriage. Peck that woman for us saying we Nigerian men hail her for taking good care of our brother



How people would see chores as slavery beats my rationale?

If it's for their adultery partners they'll do even more. Hypocrisy

Scout60:
It is never equal but rather it favours women especially during divorce.

A man can lose his house just by shouting at his wife but a woman can shout at a man over there still walk him out from his house or even call cops on him. Z it equality? The woman dictate who the man gives money but the woman can give anyone she likes money or gifts, equal?

I am not praying for but pray that such things doesn't befell your brother.

How will a woman dictate whom a man gives money to?

Hathor5:
I agree.

But then when many see men that tret them well they begin to scheme to use emotions and all sorts to play manipulative mind games


Loyalty isn't slavery as goodness isn't weakness

Naikkie:
Why can’t the Nigerian men marry foreigners?
Problem solved: marry whom is domiciled where you are.

The messiah complex is the problem, you are looking for who to save and who will worship you.

Marry where you are, or the messiah complex is not endearing to women (all races) abroad?

The Nigerian woman who has nothing going for her becomes appealing. She becomes the perceived as the most rewarding to ‘save’

What are you saying there. If I seize your phone there
When Jesus died, He expects loyalty. The same narrative applies.


Loyalty isn't slavery or loss of ones self

Hathor5:
Which men? The police, the soldiers, security personnel? Don't they get money to do their job or do they do it out of charity? And don't the same men intimidate, threaten and endanger the lives of others?

Make I twist ya mouth there. Your mouth bitter. Na mehn you dey wash like that.

Toks2008:
How many i wan begin narrate?

This is why guys don't want to risk bringing any lady over cos of stories that will definitely touch.

Many guys have killed their wives cos of this madness. See make we just leave the matter as e be.

I even have a childhood friend that we went to Uni together... He has cried tire.

Boss teach am Redpill



It's hi time Ken get to love women at the level the women love them. Meaning men should keep their loving and emotions and allow the women do the loving




Boss no more writings




When will your wedding pics reach here na elder

generationz:
This is stale na, try something better.

Hehehehe person not dey follow you play again

Cocao:
I am really sorry for men that fall for such deception, it is not meant to be that way at all.

If I don't personally see and hear from the Lord I fell into the hands of one that looks pure and innocent as an angel . But with her family were intent to give me Duncan Mighty treatment


We love our women however when we speak in this manner we have legitimate reasons. At it being I don't see visions and hear from the Lord I would have become the next Duncan mighty


On top what. They want total control

generationz:
You are still doing yourself if you choose that option especially with an exposed woman.

There's nothing like exposed woman in this discussion but rather damaged women. Too many ladies are damaged in every way possible

I know how many woman use all sorts of antics to destroy the man in a marriage and go diabolical for example in extreme scenarios. But make I no expose secret


I only counsel my brothers to be wise