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HV u considered speaking with a medical specialist? They might be of help too!

Prayer can help...for sure. Ask Jehovah for holy spirit and self control.....like someone advised above...read your bible for mental cleanness.

if you are watching porn, stop the habit.Read Philippians 4:8-10. It tells us what to think about.

carls003:
Dear good people of nairaland, please I urgently need advice on my daughter, who is an albino, she's still 2 years plus. Some people have advised that I buy some herbal drugs from the yorubas that it will help to reduce her skin colour. Some others said that I put some drugs in her eyes to correct her clocking eyes. Please how true are these advices? Please I don't want to make mistakes out of desperation. God bless us all.

It is rumoured that salt intake is not good for the conditioned, that it makes black spots appears on their skin

so go ask ur doctor all the questions u need to know

Dont let ur child in sunlight for so long

Have u heard people say coconut oil makes them black ?

Well, that it is the reason some people Dont use it on their skin but prefer it on their hair

I wonder if it can have the same effect on children and adults with albinism

I guezz u never know, until u try it

use coconut oil as her body lotion

Dont put anything in her eyes o

One more thing, coconut oil, sweet almonld oil and sesame oil can make ur skin dark.

There is way to make coconut oil, that will make the user darker very fast. I suspect someone with albinism,can benefit from continues use of such coconut oil. Do some research.

Xcoolwunmi:
Am Solomon,
I am married with one kid. I try all I can to make everything available for the family and to the best of my understanding for an average guy how did not plus normal.
but the issue is considering the standard of living in Nigeria and ekiti to be precise is not showing or making the work visible. its still feels like vision 2025 for break through. if i was single, I dont think the situation would have been better. but now my question is; stay single , get married which propels you more to success and stability??

You can't determine success and stability....those things are beyond our control.

You can only set goals and strive to attain them. Your goal can be to stay single or married . Which ever choice makes u happier , choose it. But take note, life is in stages. Even for those who decide to remain single, as time passes, many begin to reassess their goals, finally get married.

If a single persons finds someone who makes him or her happy, n is serious about married, well, let them marry.

Success and stability comes and goes at any time. So those two are unimportant in in a real relationship.

The keyword is contentment.


So,

Restroom:
https://draxe.com/vitiligo-treatment/

Read this article and see if it helps.
The suggestion on using vit B12 and folic acid is particular interesting

Read up more on this vitamin B 12 and folic acid concept and other effective natural remedies.

Everything that acts as triggers, avoid them.

Your number one goal is to contain the spread....

Ask your dermatologist which vitamins could like be of benefit to u in this case.

Japhet04:
I noticed the symptoms of Vitiligo on my lips around August last year..At first it was just a small patch but subsequently it began to spread to other parts of my lip and also outside the lower lip.

I get questions everyday asking me why my lips is like that... Some assume I got burnt by acid or fire... I'm a very confident guy so I don't really allow the insults and tantrums get to me..at least I try to hide it as much as I can.. But of recent it is becoming too much and I've told myself that if the spreading continues I would have no other option than to end my life because I cannot imagine living a life of stigma, pity and neglect.. I really can't

I have met severally with dermatologists and have bought several creams and drugs but all to no avail.. The spreading did not still stop.. Not to talk of repigmenting.

This has affected my social life in many ways, I can't boldly walk up to strangers anymore because I always have this feeling that they are looking at my lips.. I no longer have female friends and I'm always withdrawn inside my shell because of it... My self esteem is down to zero. The mere thought that I will live with this forever and it will never stop spreading has made me suicidal.

I got a camouflage tattoo but it wasn't effective upon all the pain I passed through.. Now the substance I use to cope with it is hair dye which I apply before going for my law classes in the morning ... I still wonder how I will be able to practice law with this kind of lips.

Please nairalanders help me with any advice that might be helpful to save a brother.

https://draxe.com/vitiligo-treatment/

Read this article and see if it helps.
The suggestion on using vit B12 and folic acid is particular interesting

Why are you depressed?

Why are you losing your mind?
spill the beans first.......so we all know where to start from!

You know the answer already ....

Demonic phenomena that has nothing to do with the dead person....

CHAPTER THREE
Background Information ritual kidnapping & safety tips for parents II

The same thing applies to northern Nigeria. Ritual kidnapping in northern Nigeria is reported often in states like Kwara, Kano, Abuja, Jos, Nasarawa, Sokoto, Kaduna and Niger State. Although the north is highly volatile, due to ethno-religious crisis feeding on the region, it is less affected by the plague of ritual kidnapping than western or eastern Nigeria. However, child kidnapping and trafficking in the zone is higher than in western and eastern Nigeria. Because there are scanty statistics available on missing persons on northern region, the problem of ritual kidnapping in the entire north is somewhat distorted. NBS statistics on missing persons in northern Nigeria is not helpful at all, when it comes to knowing the real figures of missing persons in that region from 2001 to 2015 and to date.

There are no missing persons’ data for more than 10 states in the north. In my mind, I strongly suspect that the missing persons’ rate in northern Nigeria could be higher than all the other regions in Nigeria, but I have no figures from NBS to support my belief. As a region, it has about 20 states, whereas, western Nigeria has only six states. The figures of missing persons provided for the northern region in NBS Abstract and Social Statistics, does not mirror the problem of missing persons in that region accurately. The lack of comprehensive missing persons’ statistics on the region, makes northern Nigeria appear safer, if you choose to look at those NBS figures alone. But, judging from media reports and stories of ritual kidnappings in the north by child traffickers, you get the idea that northern Nigeria, for real is the third most deadly ritual zone in Nigeria!

Southern Nigeria and ritual kidnapping
All the structures built for kidnapping people in western Nigeria exist in southern Nigeria also. Subtle mass ritual kidnapping activities by ritual kidnappers and traffickers takes place daily in all the southern states in Nigeria. The problem has been acerbated lately by the increasing pace of poverty nationwide, pushing more individuals to embrace child trafficking, ritual kidnappings, killings and money rituals as a way to survive! In Edo state, areas where kidnapping reportedly takes place in subtle ways by discreet drivers at night or early morning time are places like Ring Road, Ugbowo Benin Lagos Expressway, Ekenwan Road, Airport Road , Sapele Road etc. In the same Edo, in Ekpoma area and other parts of Esan land, vehicular ritual kidnapping are reported more often than in Benin Metropolis. Students in the Edo State University in Ekpoma can attest to the activities of ritual kidnappers in that part of the state easily. In other words, widespread organized ritual kidnapping methods formerly associated with western and eastern Nigeria, have spread to northern and southern Nigerian, as more Nigerians take up murder for money, to become rich. Yet, ritual kidnapping in these two other regions are not as rampant or brazen as is found in western and eastern Nigeria, where you can practically be kidnapped anywhere, everywhere and by every means, by all manner of ritual kidnappers at any time of the day!

Hence individuals and parents want to first recognize the areas and states where ritual kidnappings are prevalent and keep their eyes wide open on this threat.

Variation in incidence of ritual kidnapping
Interestingly too, even in each of these states, the rate of kidnapping is higher or lower from one community to the other, just as the methods of kidnapping in one part of a state may be different than others within the same state. Children may disappear more in city centers compared to those dwelling in rural areas. In the east, children are plucked from the streets and the rural communities more than in the city centers. In Kano, child traffickers and ritual kidnappers are virtually in all parts of the states roaming for vulnerable children to abduct. In Lagos State, school children in city centers and those in their neighborhoods make up a large number of children who disappear from communities. In Edo state, child traffickers in vehicles prowl from place to place, in many communities, searching for kidnap to children!
The higher the number of child trafficking networks in a state, the higher the number ritual kidnappers actively combing the state, searching for children to kidnap. Hence, the reasons why some states have higher incidence of missing children than others. Also, the most commercially and politically active states in Nigeria, also have high ritual kidnapping rates. Ritual kidnappers prefer to operate in such busy areas and surrounding communities because of the ease, victims can easily be abducted by force or charms. This is why, parents in certain communities report higher cases of missing children, compared to parents in other parts of the same state. In other words, there are hotspots for child and ritual kidnapping parents should be aware of.

Interestingly, the tricks used in picking up children in say a place like Iyana Ipaja, by kidnappers maybe different from the method used for snatching children in Ikoyi. Kidnappers adapt their methods to their environment. In fact, many child kidnappers love to move from place to place, in search of fresh territories with low kidnapping incidence, with the goal of stealing unsuspecting children from such communities. In some communities, they just seize the children and bolt with their cars. In others, they charm the kids and lead them away calmly. Still in others, they bait the children with sweats, biscuits or money or even pretend to be lost, asking for directions from children. Some dress like women, others pretend to be searching for something only to snatch unsuspecting children when no adults are around. Many, also trail school children and abduct them, when on lonely roads or streets. Hence parents need to know, how criminals in their zone operate.
But when residents discover their antiques, and become vigilant, the child traffickers flee to neighboring areas, to continue their trade. So nowhere is actually safe for children, because child trafficking syndicates can snick in at any time to steal children on streets, homes or playgrounds, for onward trafficking.

Nowhere is safe for children in this Nigeria. Some communities experience daily, weekly or monthly cases of child stealing. While others experience none. But the fact that in your street or area, cases of child stealing has not been reported does not mean, that someone, where in another locality within your local government or ward, has not experienced it. Neither does it mean that it will not happen someday, when some random child kidnappers and traffickers happen to prowl into your community. Remember child kidnapping and trafficking is now a major occupation in Nigeria, involving thousands of unemployed persons who depend on the racket for income and survival every day. Hence for individuals, actively roaming areas everywhere, for possible children to abduct, is a serious big business in Nigeria. For these simple reasons, parents must constantly learn to be on guard, irrespective of where they are. They must train their children on how to play, where to play, who to play or talk with and also monitor them.

Safety tips to protect from kids from ritual kidnappers
Be aware of the tricks employed by child kidnappers and teach your children about these tricks, to avoid being kidnapped by such evil persons.
You must stop your kids from wandering all over the neighborhood while playing, if they have this bad habit. They can easily be picked up by child traffickers. They must learn to play inside the compound and not on the streets for fear of being kidnapped when no adults are around.
Adults and children alike should avoid late night stroll in areas with high crime rates.

Teach them to be wary of talking to or responding to strangers who claim they have lost their way and need directions to their destination. Many of such strangers are professional kidnappers and child traffickers who rely on speech activated charms to hypnotize and kidnap their respondents.

You must train your child not to accept gifts, money or sweets or whatever from strangers. It is a bad habit that can harm them. They should never pick money or anything they see on the ground that does not belong to them!

An easy way kids are kidnapped, is when they walk alone or play on silent streets/roads during the day. Get your kids indoors always and train them to stay indoors even when you are not around. This is especially important if your compound is not fenced and your neighbors are generally not alert to happenings in the community.

Eve when you are indoors, your kids should always be within sight while playing. That is your job, especially if your area is a crime zone or those areas where people are not alert to happenings around them!

Be wary of new tenants (especially single young girls, irrespective of the tribes) who move into your compound especially when you have little kids, don’t allow your kids to form friendship with them neither must you live your little ones with such new tenants when you have somewhere to go. They can just snatch your children and escape with them for good. If you need to go somewhere, just take your children along with you than to live them with a new tenant from hell. Nobody knows who is criminal at heart. Recently in 2018 (around April/May), in Edo state, a parent who left his two little children, with 2 girls (from Akwa Ibom) that recently moved into their compound, returned home only to discovered that her two daughters had been stolen by the new tenants!

A new apprentice (especially girls) coming to learn a trade in your store or shop, should never be trusted. Under no circumstance must you live your child or little ones with them. Anything can happen. As much as girls are kidnapped and used for rituals, that is also how much, they kidnap children, work for kidnappers and baby factory owners, all just to make quick money. The deadliest child kidnappers are those who target you in your business point, to become an apprentice, with the sinister goal of snatching your child one day, in your absence.

More ideas on child safety are found in the chapters-school runs, domestic staff and apprentice!

In the next chapter, I talk about public transport kidnappings and protective steps adults can take to reduce their risk of becoming missing persons via one chance!

eCONTROL:
"...whom they place under the spell of Juju"

Your quote above was where I lost interest in whatever you've written because every rational mind knows that there's no such thing as juju that actually works, but in one statement you verified its efficacy and that shows you don't reason critically.

Yes people are wicked and occultic minded in this country all the harm they inflict is physical but certain ignoramuses attach some sort of spiritual or supernatural ability to it (both of which don't exist)

And this is also part of Nigeria's problem, we're a superstitious lot... that's why we think we can get rich by killing virgins, beheading our own mums and pounding babies in mortars to fortify ourselves but all of this stems from ignorance. It actually doesn't work but you and millions of Nigerians out there think it does but it's all superstitions.

Placebo effect at best.

Endeavour to reason critically and logically.

I guess you Dont believe in juju?

Well.......

Call it voodoo
Call it charms
Call it black magic
Call it juju

They all mean the same thin

If you know
You know

If you Dont
You Dont

You can not explain the higher order with English, no matter how intelligent you think you are.

Things flow from the spiritual
to the physical

that is why Christians pray

that is why juju worshippers or pagans carry out sacrifices

So if you know
you know

Either you are serving Jehovah God
or
You are serving the Devil

there is no superstitution anywhere here

the spiritual controls the physical
the physical never controls the spiritual

because the spiritual is higher and more intelligent

What you believe does not change the equation of things...

Only shows you are gullible!



Religion and science are two different things

Science operates at the physical level

Religion operates at the spiritual level

Dont mix it up brother

The one operating at the science and physical level looks at the man praying or rendering sacrifices and he thinks to himself, this guy (worshipper ) must be crazy.

In the mind of the worshipper communicating with unseen forces, the one operating at the science level, is a novice, and an enlightened ignoramus, who does not understand what is going on at the spiritual level.

Hence what you call superstition because, you Dont understand how it works, is part and parcel of the worshiping process of demons.

Anything the white man does not understand or cannot explain scientifically, he tags it as superstition!

Did God create science or did science create God?

Until you get the answer to that question, you can't start comprehending the effect encounters with evil spirits have on mortals.

But to give you an idea......ask people who have experienced speechlessness during the night, when they find themselves struggling with unseen forces. Go and just ask.....All attempts to shout for help are seized mysteriously until the encounter ends.

The point is this: Satan, demons and his human agent employ their evil powers to bewitch or hypnotize people they desire to harm. So, the first thing they all try to do humans on contact is seize their speech.

Did an Holy Angel of God in the Bible not make, Zacharias,Johns father speechless?

The angel just told him, guy you will be speechless and he became so.

Satan and demons have that same ability.

Mind you, juju worshippers know as much power they can get from Satan, by worshipping him with what will open the door to such powers.

Only Jehovah God does not ask for human sacrifices from humans and he does not give his power to people to do evil.

But reverse is the case for Satan,demons and followers.

Dont let science mislead you....
because, blind science is a religion unto itself, that denies the existence of God , do not realize they are worshipping man made science beliefs.

I am sure, you Dont know, that Africans sold into slavery during the European slave trade where hypnotized with juju, just before being handed over to European slavers at African ports?

You think the white man Dont know what Juju is?

Go and dig up the dirt's on that trade, and find out how more than 60million Africans were sold to the white man for over 450years!

Of course, no western historical books will tell you that Africans sold to Europeans were hypnotized with juju! They left that demonic part out of all the things they documented about the trade.

If you know
you know

if you don't
you dont

[quote author=CoolFreeday post=68939443]Good piece but too long[/quote

thanks bro..it's actually a book. chapter one and two...I'm trying to get readers reaction or reviews.

[center][/center]CHAPTER ONE
[center][/center]RITUAL KIDNAPPERS AND KILLERS

Nigerian ritual killers are deadly predators who come in many forms: those who reside underground or in manholes around federal expressways, bridges and forests. Those who operate special abattoirs in forests, city centers and lonely places and those who go about stalking their victims openly whether in daylight or under the cover of darkness. Many times they also double as kidnappers themselves and actively combine the use of occultic powers in capturing their victims, whom they place under the spell of Juju.

Irrespective of the kidnap tactic employed, ritual killers and kidnappers actively back up their game with potent charms. Hence, the secret weapon of highly successful, serial ritual kidnappers, particular those linked to human parts merchants is Juju. They practically try to charm anyone they wish to abduct. Commercial transporters, child traffickers, friendly strangers, people asking for address to certain destinations, Ghana Burgers, agent of Juju priests and even ritualists themselves all employ Juju for hypnotizing their potential victims either via speech, touch or actions designed to bewitch the persons without the victim knowing it.

As a result of this uncanny dimension to ritual kidnapping, hitherto perpetrated via forceful abductions of individuals from streets, roads and bush paths, anyone can now fall into their hands in broad day light, in the presence of other unsuspecting members of the public, without anybody realizing that a kidnap operation is underway. It is as if the charms ritual killers employ has a strange way of making them invincible, enabling them to perpetrate their demonic activities in the full glare of the public without the masses recognizing the ongoing kidnap.

A person hypnotized by a ritual kidnapper (either by means of conversation, body contact or performance of an act by the ritual kidnapper) automatically becomes docile, dumb and submissive to the charmer without realizing that he or she has been captured. Ladies make up the bulk of ritually abducted persons’ in Nigeria, judging by media reports of dismembered corpses, missing persons and those who escaped from ritual killers. Kids are also very susceptible to the charms of ritual kidnappers and child traffickers as a result of their young, trusting and inexperienced nature when dealing with adults or evil minded people.

In this book on how to avoid ritual kidnappers, I kick off with ritual kidnapping traps applied on children and how guardians can foil such tricks, protect their children from evil men and women who seeks to abduct them for rituals.
So lets go!
 
[center][/center]CHAPTER TWO
[center][/center]Bacground informstion & Safety tips for parents with Kids

Kids in Nigeria, need all the available protection they can get in a society like ours where predators are constantly on the lookout to harm them. Parents, relatives, friends, neighbors or teachers need to be alert to the treats of ritual kidnappers. Children have become fodder for desperate men and women, willing to spill their blood on the alter of materialism!

So the very first security tip, parents need to adhere firmly to, is this: Avoid sending little kids errands at night. This piece of information is very important. If you need to buy someting, once the day is dark, please do it yourself!

By means of touch from evil strangers, little ones are regularly kidnapped at night from their communities just as they are also very easy to bundle into a waiting vehicle and stolen for good. Night errands are particularly dangerous, because nobody has any idea of 'who' or 'what' is lurking somewhere in the darkness, in the street or neighborhood, waiting to snatch a vulnerable kid!

Now, before I go on to deliberate on ritual kidnapping tactics used for abduction of children, I think a little background information about the Nigerian terrain is in order. Statistically, I have analyzed missing persons’ figures in Nigeria from 2001 to 2015, using data obtained from the National Bureau of Statistics Abstracts and Social Statistics. I took over 6 months to do so because of another book on missing persons, that I am writing on. From my analysis of NBS missing persons figures, western Nigeria, followed by the east, north and southern Nigeria have the highest rate of missing persons in Nigeria. Even media evidence corroborate this observation.

Therefore, I can categorically state that kidnapping rates are not the same in all neighborhoods, cities, states and regions in Nigeria. The top ritual kidnapping zones in the country are: Yoruba land (Western Nigeria), Igbo land (Eastern Nigeria), Hausa land (Northern Nigeria) and Southern Nigeria. Lagos, Ogun, Ondo, Osun, Oyo and Ekiti are the top western states with the highest missing persons’ rate in that region (NBS Annual Abstract of 2011, 2012 & Social Statistics, 2009).

Anambra, Abia, Enugu, Imo and Ebonyi are the top Eastern states with the highest missing persons’ incidence in that region. (NBS Annual Abstract of 2011, 2012 & Social Statistics, 2009).

Niger, FCT, Benue, Adamawa, Kwara, Plateau, Gombe, Borno, Bauchi, Kaduna etc are the top northern states in Nigeria with the highest cases of missing persons in the north. States surrounding Abuja have high missing persons rate. (NBS Annual Abstract of 2011, 2002 & Social Statistics, 2009).

Finally in Southern Nigeria, Edo, Delta, Rivers, Akwa Ibom, Cross River and Bayelsa states in that order are states in southern Nigeria with highest cases of missing persons(NBS Annual Abstract of 2011, 2012 & Social Statistics, 2009).

Media wise, more stories of ritual kidnapping and killings emanate from western Nigeria daily or weekly than from any other parts of the country. And in terms of eye witness accounts and personal stories of ritual kidnappings, more of such evils are heard in western, eastern, southern and northern Nigeria. Of course, the rate of ritual kidnapping in each region of Nigeria are not the same, just as the rate of kidnapping within each state are not the same.

For example, in Lagos state, there is a high level of ritual kidnapping activity around Oshodi /Toyota/ Mushin/Apapa axis than say Ketu or Maryland. The infamous Ikorodu town, also in Lagos state, is a haven for ritual kidnappers and also has higher ritual kidnapping rates than say Ikeja. In fact Ikorodu, just like Shagamu axis of the state host the highest number of ritual killeing dens and human abattoirs in Lagos state. The point is this, there are areas in each state in Nigeria where the activities of ritual killers and kidnappers are particular intense, and the Nigerian Police have in the past released Public Alert of such ritual kidnapping/killing hotspots for the benefit of the public. You need to know the areas and places in your city or state where ritual kidnapping is rampant. This is one way of beating down the risk of becoming a missing person in Nigeria!

Since 2007, when I relocated to Edo state, I have been subconsciously studying ritual kidnapping trends in Edo state in comparison to Lagos state, where I resided prior to my move. Honestly, my fear of ritual kidnappers vanished when I relocated to Edo state and even my fellow Benin residents do not entertain that subconscious dread of ritual kidnappers that pervades the heart of Lagos residents. Even while here in Edo State, we are buffeted with sadistic stories of ritual kidnappings, killings and discoveries of dismembered corpses from Lagos and other western states than locally. This is not to say that these crimes do not take place in Edo State, no! They occur, but not at the brazen pace it ravages western Nigeria.

Public transportation systems in Edo State are 1000% safer than Lagos, Ogun, Ondo or any other parts of Yoruba or Igbo land. My point is this, your chances of being kidnapped or declared missing permanently is 1000% lesser in Edo state than say a place like Lagos, where a simple decision to commute with a commercial transporter can be a journey of no return!

So when you are in Yoruba land, understand that ritual kidnapping is a daily aspect of life in that region. You have to be on guard constantly, because all manner of individuals in the region are actively engaged in ritual kidnapping, killings, scull mining and human parts harvesting for profit. On the Nigerian online forum, called Nairaland, numerous commentators regularly use the term ‘Afonja Skullminers’ to describe ritual killers/kidnappers whenever news of ritual killings breaks in Nigeria. At a stage I was curious about the ‘Afonja Skullminers’ characterization but later realized that, Afonja Skull miners, simply meant ritual killers of a particular ethinicity!

Of course, the expression ‘Afonja Skullminers’ may smack off bias or tribalism but in truth, it only goes to show the perception Nigerians from other regions have about Yoruba land as a whole, (as ritual killing zone) to the point where they could coin a name to describe perceived perpetrators behind incessant daily reports, stories or news of ritual killings, missing persons or kidnappings in Yoruba land as Afonja Skullminers!

Cannibalism of ritual killers and ritualists
Lately, the criminals perpetrating these atrocities, seems to have added the disgusting practice of cannibalism to their death dealing, human parts trade. It is no longer news that ritual killers, juju priests, Islamic religious leaders and fake prophets or men of God in western Nigeria actively practice cannibalism just as many of their fetish clients desperate for quick wealth also eat human flesh. All the human parts sold in Jankara market in Lagos state, are certainly not used for sacrifices alone. In a country, where cannibalism has been recorded in some cultures in the past, it would certainly be misleading to assume that some indigenes of such cultures, who still secretly practice cannibalism in their place or are in Lagos state, would refrain from the practice. In the 1990s, Calabar cannibals where caught in a village of Edo state! So long human meat can be readily bought in Jankara or Onitsha market, cannibals in Nigeria at large are certainly in the tens of thousands. Available information in the media suggests that Jankara market, where human parts are sold like other wares, has been in existence since the 1970s.

Those professional lunatics roaming only on highways, smoking marijuana, making calls on phones or seating on sidewalks staring at pedestrains or moving vehicles, are mostly ritual killers and kidnapper who eat the left over flesh of their victims. If you doubt me, then remember Clifford Orji, an Igbo man, who confessed to being a cannibal. Recently too, numerous ritual killers arrested by vigilantes and police, confess to being cannibals who grossly feed on their victims flesh! Others arrested for participating in money rituals have equally confessed to preparing meals with human flesh, with the goal of becoming rich overnight!

Shallow overnight Millionairs Everywhere

Housing estates in most of the beautiful and expensive new estates popping up all over the nation are bought with sudden ill gotten wealth by individuals who do blood money of all types, whether Yahoo Yahoo, Money Rituals, Ghana Burgers whatever. As the numbers of these human parts users rise, Nigerians everywhere continue to disappear in higher numbers or die mysteriously. Nationwide, it is now a norm for people to disappear just like that in commercial transport vehicles, streets, churches, markets and even public places.

Money Rituals has been the most popular business in Nigeria since 1970s but more especially since the year 1999-2018 and the only way to sudden wealth, Nigerians are trooping into. To provide the human parts both old and new users employ for money making rituals, power seeking sacrifices and cannibalistic habits, people need to be kidnapped in their thousands daily and stripped of their body parts, which are sold to desperate clients. By employing human parts in Satanic worship, in some secret rituals, these demonic humans transforms or sustain their economic fortunes overnight from wretched individuals to millionaires cruising the best cars Europe and America has to offer!

Then, they come on social media and internet sites, brandishing their shallow, ill-gotten wealth to the world, for cheap popularity and fame. They are all over Lagos state, jobless society people, who are very popular and rich, but have no visible source of income or history of being in a successful business. Those exclusive neighborhoods, estates or areas with foreign sounding names in Lagos, where only the rich resides are goddamned ritualists areas. One wonder how come a country racked by poverty, continues to produce millionaires who spend millions of dollars and Naira acquiring latest cars and apartments in exclusive neighborhoods. Our high ways are filled with latest cars, driven by phoney rich people. Not even teenagers are left out in the craze for quick wealth, luxury cars and mansions!

There are expensive parties taking place everywhere, with food and drinks being supplied in abundance. But the motives behind some of these social events can be very sinister! Rumours making the rounds suggest that some parties are organized by ritual killers or ritualists to catch the next victims for their money making and sustaining rituals. Of those who partake in the festivities, and eat of the food or drinks provided by the celebrant, one must die mysteriously within days or weeks, to renew the wealth of the celebrant. On the other hand, it is also rumoured that if the victims don’t die, they become poor or ill as a result of the celebrant using diabolic means to negatively affect those who partake of his party meal.

Ironically, young and old alike, as well dress, as they appear in public with their latest cars or toys, that is how filthy and repulsive their blood sucking secret rooms, with demonic shrines filled with all manner of disgusting idols, decayed human skeletons, tissues and organs expended on the alter of Satanic worship are! Since our girls and women can be so short sighted to fail to understand that the rich men and boys they chase from one end of town to another, are actually followers of Satan who worship Satan in their Secret rooms with human blood and flesh for quick material rewards, they too become prey in the hands of ritualists partners. Hence the high number of females practically used for money rituals daily and stories that touch that accompany such killings!

As a result of the increasing number of men, women and youths who want to become rich at all cost, Nigerians everywhere have to keep on disappearing. For these desperate sets of individuals to ‘blow’ or ‘hammer’, somebody, somewhere got to die! In Lagos State for example, almost everyone knows a neighbor, brother, sister or friend that has gone missing in the last 30 years via public transport or from the road or streets. I know more than two persons who went missing within a space of 4 years, then when I resided in Lagos state. Also in Lagos, almost everyone knows someone who escaped from ritual kidnappers after a failed attempt to kidnap them in broad day light whether via public transport, on the street etc. In fact, every day, Lagosians just disappear without trace.

If you wonder why I keep pointing to Lagos state, in my examples, it is because, from 2001 to 2015 and to date, all available statistics of missing persons in Nigeria shows that Lagos had, has and will continue to have the highest number of missing Nigerians who disappear daily, weekly, monthly, yearly or even every decade!

Eastern Nigeria and blood money
The same story of public transport kidnapping is what is told in Ogun, Ondo, Oyo, Osun and others. The other region with a similar widespread system of trapping humans for their body parts is eastern Nigeria. Every kidnapping tactic found in western Nigeria are all actively perpetuated in Igbo land. Unlike western Nigeria, where the media actively exposes the activities of ritual kidnappers, perpetrators of ritual kidnappings and killings in Igbo land are not given the same level of exposure by the media the way the media in the west does. The East is filled with ritual killing dens, but they are never generally exposed. Hence, you can’t get a true picture of this crime in the region from media reports.

Occasional media reports of ritual killings, kidnappings and discoveries etc. points to a more organized ritual kidnapping systems in Igbo land, that is widespread, clandestine and shielded from the media by the sponsors. Okija Shrine is an example of how barbaric, evil individuals in Igbo land can be. In the name of community shrine, all manner of ritual kidnapping and killing atrocities went on there and possibly still continues till this day but in more secret ways.

In the name of evil forests, ritual killers and kidnappers are given a wide latitude to operate in such dreaded forests, where kidnapped persons are ripped up for their body parts. The only reason why their so called evil forests are evil, is because the forests are human abattoir factories where human body parts are produced for sale to clients in the east. The forests are evil, because innocent passengers and other kidnapped persons are slaughtered inside those devilish places for sale to customers.

And the residents carry on with the knowledge of the existence of human killing shrines in their communities as if it is okay, although harboring the dread of ritual kidnappers in evil forests in their hearts. The fact that more stories of ritual killing dens emanates from Yoruba land does make eastern Nigeria a more safer place to reside. Personally, from my observation, most Igbos view ritual killing and blood money like a normal thing. You might not agree, but it is true. Many of their traders in many parts of the country engage in blood money. I have witnessed first hand the way a group of Igbo traders reacted to the issue of blood money from human sacrifice, they were so cold, indifferent and were like, what so special about that? I got the impression from them, that many Igbos viewed blood money as normal!

The expression “Money na money, e nor matter how you get am. Spend am” succinctly captures how the Igbo man views blood money! Igbo land, since history can relate, has been a deadly zone like western Nigeria. During the European Slave Trade, Yorubas and Igbos kidnapped themselves and sold their brethren massively into slavery for quick material wealth, much like today were they kidnap for money rituals! There are plenty places, even residential areas in eastern Nigeria where an ordinary man does not dare venture into. Any attempt to do, can lead to the person becoming a missing person! Statistically, Igbo land, comes behind Yoruba land as the second most deadly region where anyone can reside and face the great risk of being kidnapped for rituals in his or her time!

Chapter Three
To be continued

If nor be achievement, why are there as many unmarried ready people on earth?

Even Government gives you a certificate for getting married!

So....irrespective of what some morally bankrupt people say....it does not change a single thing about the truth:
that

Marriage is an achievement!

I bow for you o..

if you dey fall for that crap....
that marriage nor be achievement!

E easy to marry?

Adebayo4christ:
But if I may ask,

what are 5 things she complains about you often?

What does she nag about you?
You can't tell me you are free of fault in all these. If we say make we ask your wife wetin dey Shelley, wetin she go yan?







bro, God sees my heart and God will judge me if everything u listed here , I have mot done them. I will leave my office during break just to come to her mum's school to ch3ck on her. buy food, drinks, I prefer not to have than for her to be in wants. do u know d reason I was asking for car then on uber thread, it was all to please her so we won't have to be jumping from one bus to f other all the time. what again does she wants. since we got married ,I have been the one washing my clothes by myself, or I take them to dry cleaners, I wash plates, cooks, sweeps, what again does she wants. someone adviced me on this thread that I should take it as if am staying at home alone, won't I do all this things myself.
she has taking me to be a weakling and I agreed I am. all because I never saw my dad matters my mum, I grew up learning from my dad who cooks for us alot of times bfr my mum was transferred back to lag. I am a weakling. she has taking advantage of that.

The five things she complain about me are:

my parents
2, my parents
3, my parents
4, my parents calling us to check on us.
5, that am not too spiritual like I was bfr we married and I explained to her, that with all get attiude, it's difficult for me to pray with me

If you have been doing all these things and she nor dey appreciate you, my brother it shows that she is blind

You are a good guy
continue to do your job as husband
If she like make she appreciate
if she like make she nor appreciate
na her problem be dat

it is unfortunate
you have such a bitch for wife

Keep praying for her to change
it won't happen overnight

make sure you don't change to a bad person
that is my wishes

and please stop giving urself headache about her bad character
na her character
no be your own

if she nor value you as a great guy

that does not diminish your huge value
na because she blind

so stop worrying about what she does, says or don't say

keep the focus on you and your mom
care for yourself
care for your mom

it is your job to make yourself happy
it is your job to take good care of your self

it is not your job to make her happy
but it is your job to care for her as her husband
happiness is a choice
you can't choose it for her
don't let her infect you with her unhappiness and madness.

Live like a normal person

If caring for your mom makes her mad, then make she dey mad by caring more for your mom

If she make life too uncomfortable for you...well....separate from her for one month
and go live your life happily as a temporary bachelor.

during that period, send her money and other things you know she needs through someone

Don't get Hi bp because of her matter

instead of developing mental problem because of her, separate from her

Just walk out of her life if she is giving you stress and go put up with your mom for that one month....since she dey hug her mom

make you too dey hug your mom

na only she get mama?

Go and stay with your mom for one month...to calm your mind down. Go to work from there

Adebayo4christ:
But if I may ask,

what are 5 things she complains about you often?

What does she nag about you?
You can't tell me you are free of fault in all these. If we say make we ask your wife wetin dey Shelley, wetin she go yan?







bro, God sees my heart and God will judge me if everything u listed here , I have mot done them. I will leave my office during break just to come to her mum's school to ch3ck on her. buy food, drinks, I prefer not to have than for her to be in wants. do u know d reason I was asking for car then on uber thread, it was all to please her so we won't have to be jumping from one bus to f other all the time. what again does she wants. since we got married ,I have been the one washing my clothes by myself, or I take them to dry cleaners, I wash plates, cooks, sweeps, what again does she wants. someone adviced me on this thread that I should take it as if am staying at home alone, won't I do all this things myself.
she has taking me to be a weakling and I agreed I am. all because I never saw my dad matters my mum, I grew up learning from my dad who cooks for us alot of times bfr my mum was transferred back to lag. I am a weakling. she has taking advantage of that.

The five things she complain about me are:

my parents
2, my parents
3, my parents
4, my parents calling us to check on us.
5, that am not too spiritual like I was bfr we married and I explained to her, that with all get attiude, it's difficult for me to pray with me

If you have been doing all these things and she nor dey appreciate you, my brother it shows that she is blind

You are a good guy
continue to do your job as husband
If she like make she appreciate
if she like make she nor appreciate
na her problem be dat

it is unfortunate
you have such a bitch for wife

Keep praying for her to change
it won't happen overnight

make sure you don't change to a bad person
that is my wishes

and please stop giving urself headache about her bad character
na her character
no be your own

if she nor value as a great guy

that does not diminish your huge value
na because she blind

so stop worrying about what she does, says or don't say

keep the focus on you and your mom
care for yourself
care for your mom

it is your job to make yourself happy
it is your job to take good care of your self

it is not your job to make her happy
but it is your job to care for her as her husband
happiness is choice

don't let her infect you with her unhappiness and madness.

Live like a normal person

If caring for your mom makes her mad, then make she dey mad by caring more for her

If she make life too uncomfortable for you...well....is separate from her for one year
and go live your life happily as a temporary bachelor.
Don't get Hi bp because of her matter

instead of developing mental problem because of her, separate from her

Adebayo4christ:
I am ready to pay her back in her own coins now. have told her she has brought out the devil In me and she will see it. I have never raised my voice on her. even when she shouts , I plead with her to reduce her voice. I hate it when people or neighbour hears husband and wife shouting on each other. secondly, she is not bringing money for support. I give her 1k everyday despite the fact she is with her mum. bfr going to d office, I go there and see her, after closing, same thing. what else will I do. as per her parent, that's a no go area. she don warned me never to involve them or else na wahala I dey look for. and me don't like wahala. also, my mum is So one who notices if things r not going on well, my mum will always call me aside to talk to me. even despite my dad's sickness , he is always telling me never to hurt her but they don't know what I am going thru deep down . I am beginning to think the reason her dad go stay for abuja may be also her mum is not giving the husband peace of mind. the dad comes home two times in a year. the mum dare not talk to her, she will shun her mum not to interfere btw us. same thing she wants from my mum. you don't know my wife, she can't be intimidated. she is prepared for anything. I guess she has found what she wants and need ( the pregnancy).

I am also tired of praying or committing anything to God's hands again. it's a pity I don't know how to drink, or have friends. I am a lone ranger.
I would have indulge in something that will make me forget my sorrow.

My advice is this, remain calm....

You don't ve to repay her in her own coins

Don't change to become a bad person, because of a bad wife

Live up to your responsibility as a husband
and father

The attitude you need to put up is the:

I don't give a damn attitude or

I nor see you attitude

You want to make her happy?

No

You cannot make a bad woman happy

If she fit get mind, then you must get mind too

Pray
Maintain your cool
Develop a thick skin to her behavior and her speech
Provide her needs, and give the money you can everyday

Keep yourself busy
keep yourself happy

take care of yourself, don't waste your time thinking about her bad actions

You will only die young of High BP if you do....

Learn to bear her bad character
Na her character
no be your own

so it is important you don't let her bad character turn you into a bad person....o

when I ask you to pray
he get why

if your wife dey mad
does that mean you need to become made
to prove to her say you too sabi mad

two mad people for house, no be wahala be DAT?

Bro, pray continually for her
Do you know if her mom done dey remote control your wife?

Always pray for your wife

Bible encourages us to pray for our enemies
and to keep doing good for her

One day, your good will touch her conscience and she will start to change

Treat her well
show her love
show her mom love
care for her
when you dey come from work, buy her good things you know she will like

let your actions speak to her

the more she dey misbehave
the more you need to do good to her

she is a woman

Only your good actions will make her change for good

The Bible says we must not take vengeance into our hands
It also says a man must love his wife dearly
Learn to make her laugh....
do some crazy funny stuff when is complaining

take her out....
bring back boyfriend
buy her ice cream
buy her chicken
play with her.....

Good conquers evil

If you ultimately want to conquer the evil gripping your wife.....

Continue to do good

please God

But if I may ask,

what are 5 things she complains about you often?

What does she nag about you?
You can't tell me you are free of fault in all these. If we say make we ask your wife wetin dey Shelley, wetin she go yan?

Besides your wife is definately accepting plenty of bad advice from her friends and various source...

Put all of them in prayer

If her prayer is for your mom to kick bucket pray against it

In situations like this

Prayer is the key
Ask God for wisdom everyday in prayer

Adebayo4christ:
Truth be told, your wife is your own family. Balance it. Don't let your relatives and siblings divide you against your wife
and don't let your wife cut you off from your mom.




thank you very much bro. u have said it all. I perceived she is trying to separate me from my parents which I am guilty of. I allowed her to rule me. even sometimes when she offends me, and she doesn't apologise, I still find myself going back to her to beg all because I want peace In my home. but I think I have had enough of this now. God will help me and give me d boldness to be able to face her. meanwhile, she had said the day I raise my hands on her. na that day ,I go die or make I no just come house for seven months. I dey fear for my life.

secondly, I am the first son and second child. my elder sis is married and based on d mainland.my other younger sis too is married and stays with her husband in ilesha. our last born is in school. right now, there is nobody with my mum.
more reason am trying to be close to her now than bfr . j can't afford to lose her again too . NEVER

No need to beat her
The Bible nor support wife beating

Relax

There are some women that behave like eve
Others behave like normal people

What does the Bible say in this matter?

First
Know the kind of wife you have, some are satanic and can literally put a spell on you because of your family

If your wife is that type that can do evil against you, you have to use your God given senses Broda

First things...
Put your wife in prayer, ask God to soften her attitude towards your mom

Follow your prayer by been nice to your wife

Show her more love and pet her....tell her you love her....that she is your number one

Assure her that you are only doing your job to care for your mom as first child,

Don't fight or argue anymore over your mother with her

If telling her about your mom go dey cause friction...then stop telling anything about your mom

Tell her she should not make your mom her enemy...that if she does, that means, you too are also are her enemy

Truth is this

If she hates your mom
She also hates you

So in the interest of peace in the house, don't tell her what you want to do...
the new rule should be

Action without words.

If you can encourage your married sisters to allow mama come visit them for a short time....if possible, do so

Your mama should also visit you on short visits

You on your own
if you want to give mama money, visit her or anything

Don't tell your wife.
..if you know she will try to stop you.

If she question you about it, ignore her

Now as for her threat, about you dying if you beat her, I think, you should be careful

Tell her gently and point blank that if you die, she will be held responsible....if she has already made that statement, then take it serious.

Report that statement to her family members, your pastor and your family members.

It is advance threat......

Now...tell her if she had the mind to kill you because you beat her.....that instead of you to beat her and die, you would rather separate and go and stay with your mom and care for your mom.

Don't take that threat likely.....pray against it.
She can as well kill you because of your mom.
It all starts as a joke.

Tell her you love her but you are now afraid of her for saying she will kill you for beating her.

In all,stop shouting or arguing with her.

If she is aggressive, don't be aggressive

Tell her parents
and if you feel she is a threat to your safety

separate from her bro.

Bible makes it clear in marriage , that when a partner is under serious threat, he or she should separate from the marriage.

Be careful.
Be prayerful.
Love your wife
Love your mom
Stand your ground

If her father, mother or brother are alive

Report her to her family

Remain the good guy you are.
Balance it.
If she is the one bringing out money for support, go out there ad hussle and stop depending on her.

Read your bible too.
Do the right thing always.

Are you the only child of your parents?
Are you the first child?
Anyway:

Head of the family

That is your job bro

Number two, which Nigerian woman would be happy to be stay in a family house of her husband?

Our women are like that

they don't want to see their husband people, whether father, mother or siblings

Well, you like am or not

your mom na your mom
your wife na your wife

If you know how to do good but you fail to do it, na big sin for you

God, not your wife , expect you to care for your mom

Your wife on the other hands wants you to neglect your parent

So who you go please?
God

or

Crazy wife?

Let me guess,
Your crazy insecure wife


But God also expect you to love and care for your wife

So they go paripasu

As in together

Tell your wife in a calm manner....that God commandment says you must care for your mom as long as she is alive

If your wife ask you were it is in the Bible, tell her to do her research

Number 2
Don't hide your feelings from her

Gently tell her that you feel very bad that your father died and you couldn't help him because you listened to her and avoided visiting him when he was alive.

That you are not about to repeat the mistake with your mom.

Period.

Adam listened to eve and

today we are all in trouble....all over the earth

You dey look your wife face dey act abi?


As long as you are doing what God expects, don't give a damn about her feelings, because she does not give a damn about yours.

You think a woman who restricts you or wishes to control how you deal with your parents loves you?

Na big lie

she is selfish and does not care about you



Please God

Not your wife suffering from some weird African complex

A Woman can actually make you look like a sinner for doing the right thing.

Make sure you are not Adam in the Bible, you hear me

Or in the next six months, you will come on NL with another pathetic story of self guilt inflicted on yourself because you don't know what it means to be the Head of your family.

I pray make my wife even try to restrict me from my parents or tell me trash about them.

She can't and she won't, because she knows they are my parents. Besides she is gentle.

If you need courage to be the boss, pray to God for strength.

Even if na my wife dey feed me, guy.....I am still the boss. I am the man of the house. She answers my name.

Your wife answers your name, not the other way round.

God commands you to care for your mom and siblings. Sink that into your wife's head gently but firmly.

I am not telling to hate your wife or anything stupid.....

Just reason with her and stand your grand on wetin you wan do...

But take note too, if there are other siblings that can fill in for you, try to ask them for help.

Truth be told, your wife is your own family. Balance it. Don't let your relatives and siblings divide you against your wife
and don't let your wife cut you off from your mom.

meobizy:
You are 22, a plumber and yet want to kill yourself because you haven't made it in life yet? You are a very big fool! Na die sure pass for your case. Leave the land of the living so we will have more food to ourselves.

I know a plumber who started working less than 6 months ago. He is 19. He started with only capital to buy tools and nothing else but skills. One client turned to two, two turned to five and so on. Today he works almost around the clock but can materialize 200 - 300,000 NGN if there's need.

Another I know started about eight months ago out of desperation. He spent his last 50,000 NGN to start a supply business where he sells plumbing items. He got married a few months ago in a small but self funded wedding. He spent over 3,000,000 NGN in total and paid for almost everything.

Like I said, die if you want. The less we have of people like you the more resources can go round for the living.

Stop comparing people.....

You said he should die if he wants...

Your comment is purely satanic and devilish.....

If na your Broda....na the advice wey you go give am be that?

what works for A, may not work for B

What if the people you cite as examples are using jazz to progress?

What if they are in Lagos and this fella is in Ibadan?

The point is,,,, don't kill someone who is about to die with your mouth ....

You sound so much like those angry Lagos residents who regularly participate in jungle justice or will have no problem lynching a criminal to death

yet on Sunday they will go to church and be deceiving themselves that they worship God

Love your neighbor as yourself

It is the second greatest commandment.

Not:
Kill yourself if you like

A satanic comment ....if you like come on NL and attack me...I don't care.People like you make the world a cold and heartless planet filled with evils.

In 2Timothy 3: 1, the Bible says that in the last days critical times hard to deal with will be here.

So, since 2000 years ago, Jehovah by means of his word, the Bible foretold that life in our time will be characterized by hardship and many sad events.

My Broda, since Jah out of his great love, forewarn us about our time, it is now for us to realize that what he prophesied 2 millenniums ago are being fulfilled today.

Thoughts of suicide are fairly common today....

But it should not be

As long as God Jehovah exists and lives in heaven above.....there hope

When there is hope
There is life

Get your Bible and read what our lord Jesus Christ, the son of God said in Matthew 6:25-34.
I will encourage you to read this Bible verses

Who feeds the Birds of the heavens?

If God can take care of all of them from day to day, is it humans he cannot care for?

Jesus Christ says: Stop being anxious about your lives as to what you will eat or what you will drink, or what you will wear.Does not the life mean more than food or the body clothing?

Suicide is Satan way out or option for people who forget that God is ROCK and LIVING waters. People who give up on life.

So, you must not go down that road my dear.
Do what God wants you to do, to overcome the wrong thought s of suicide.

Suffering does not kill, it only makes you stronger

When the going gets rough, the tough gets going

As tough young man, forge ahead even though things look rough

Your plumbing business has great potentials both in Nigeria and overseas

If you commit suicide, how will enjoy the fruit of your talent?

If as you said, you are good at it, then, don't rush life......don't rush things....you will reap the rewards of your plumbing business for life

Just don't cheat people
Don't scam clients
be honest and rely on God to make you succeed.

Pray to JEHOVAH Psalm 62:5

He will give you peace of mind Phil 4:8

Read your Bible to give you strength to endure and adjust your thinking 2Tim 3:16, 17

Look ahead to brighter days......because there will definitely be better days ahead as promised in the Bible. Rev 21:3,4

Be careful too....not to become too desperate to make it
or look for work with anybody for any amount of money....so you don't fall into the hands of ritualists.

ILuvBreasts:
Can I have your contact, I need to talk with you

I just emailed u with this email: curtisej2@gmail.com

09079496934

ILuvBreasts:
Can I have your contact, I need to talk with you

I just emailed you now.....curtisej2@gmail.com or 09079496934

You have a dick now,,,, and you dey complain.....all the exercises you have done on the dick, never reach you...abi?

Just be careful....you don't mistakenly damage junior

If you do....o boy....your life is finished.

Just be careful.....

if not one day, your story will become:

'If only i had known, I for nor try am'

This is what I can tell you, no amount of exercise will make your dick girth as wide as you want and better stick, thick.

Your dick will only be flax and during erection, won't be as solid as a natural one.

So be careful....

By means of your exercises, you set your sick up to be more flax when it is not erect.

Ishilove:
You spat some home truths. All I see is a whiny, insecure kid with some serious daddy issues. He is even complaining that his parents didn't teach him his native language. Seriously?? I didn't start learning my language until I was 12, and that was because I took it upon myself to learn it. If I didn't my parents wouldn't have been bothered. It's the way of the 21st century, even though it's not right.

He whined about not having a girlfriend since SS2. SS2! This world haf spoil finish. And now he is 21 years old and one of his major issue is woman. Hian. It is well.

He has a lot of growing up to do and hopefully he will outgrow this offputting habit of blaming everyone around him for his life's woes.

.I feel you bro...
I just hope he will grow up to accept responsibility for what he becomes in life.

If not....he won't find it easy living with other people.

He needs to keep improving himself to become a desirable young man.

As per language.... he can learn it anytime in life....he wants.

Ishilove:
You spat some home truths. All I see is a whiny, insecure kid with some serious daddy issues. He is even complaining that his parents didn't teach him his native language. Seriously?? I didn't start learning my language until I was 12, and that was because I took it upon myself to learn it. If I didn't my parents wouldn't have been bothered. It's the way of the 21st century, even though it's not right.

He whined about not having a girlfriend since SS2. SS2! This world haf spoil finish. And now he is 21 years old and one of his major issue is woman. Hian. It is well.

He has a lot of growing up to do and hopefully he will outgrow this offputting habit of blaming everyone around him for his life's woes.

.I feel you bro...
I just hope he will grow up to accept responsibility for what he becomes in life.

If not....he won't find it easy living with other people.

He needs to keep improving himself to become a desirable young man.

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Thanks.

A real man does not beat a woman or physically abuse her, no matter what.

This pattern and behavior between the two of you will continue after marriage....sadly enough, after marriage it will get worse..

Your relationship right now is an abusive relationship.Face it.

If you go ahead and marry her with your eyes wide open

Your children will be born into a dysfunctional family, an abusive family where the parents take it out on each other.

Then, the eldest child will start abusing his siblings, copying the abusive pattern of their parents.

How can you say you love her and occasionally, you hit her?

The Bible says, husband should love their wives as their own bodies. So have you beaten yourself before ?

If you love your wife or girl, no matter how bad she offends you, you can't beat her. If you cant beat yourself, don't raise your hand on your wife or girlfriend.

She has to change now....if she does not improve her personality b4 marriage, don't expect her to change after marriage.

If she fights back now, after marriage, she will fight you constantly because that is who she is.

Marriage and relationship are two different things......my Broda.

You never see anything....

I can't tell you not to go ahead.....but mark my words....

Your foundation for a happy married life with this girl is already faulty

You have anger issues

she is rude or unapologetic

Add the two together .....and you see war ahead...

That is a girl that can kill you in retaliation if you attack her out if anger

This is the formulae for a happy home:

Hot + cool
Cool+ Hot

Not
Hot + hot
Hot + stubborn

The fact that you have anger issues is enough to think twice about your happiness with a senseless girl that does not know how to
apologize,
say I am sorry
or even calm you
or pet you.

O boy.....you are not in love...you are in a dream......just make sure you don't wake up in marriage.

If you believe you really love her, here is my advice :

take her out and show her this post made on nairaland

let her read it

and ask her how she feels about it

then ask her this question:

na so we go dey dey?
is she happy with the relationship?
If we get married is this how things will be?
Ask her...if the method of settling querels and dispute, currently practiced is the best!

If she says no, ask her what is the best method?

Let her recommend.....
After that ask her...why she does practice it
two of you should grow up and practice what you want to happen in your married life tomorrow, today.

But if she is not willing to discuss your happiness with her, then, I think, you have a big problem.She should be willing to change for the better, just as you should be ready to stop beating her. If she is not ready to work on herself now, to improve herself to bring happiness to your relationship now, she won't do it in the future after marriage.

If she values you, and truelly loves you, well she got to make sacrifices for you bro. If she does not and will not, then she nor love you men.

If her mother is still alive, go meet her and confide in her .

Tell her mom to help you work on her, because you want to marry her

If her mom talks to her, she go calm down bro

Read the Bible together especially the book of Ephesians chapter 6.

Jackossky:
I feel your pains bro, but wait, were you jealous because you have a younger sister?
He never showered you with love, why did you feel threatened by the little girl's presence.
Some things do not add up but since you are already admitted, make your dad to serve as a motivation to you instead of a hindrance/ source of pain.

Truth be told, we all need some sort of support, especially from parent but hey, i know of many who had no parent, catered for their schooling by themselves and are something in life now.

Dad still pays your dues right? Sometimes, you have to grow up and stop leaning or waiting for people' s approval even if they are your parent .
Start making bold choices and don't behave irrational.

After he pays your tuition fee, make no call to him, start behaving independent and when he sees you are no more perturbed about his wealth, he might notice his wrongs.


Nevertheless, pray to God about it but you have to take some proactive steps on your own.
Don't lean on dad's care.

All you have is YOU and you are what you need to make it in life.
Stop seeking for his love, if it comes, fine and if it doesn't, fine also.
See you on the beaches of life.


Sola.

Your lamentations are normal bro....

Allow me to lay into you abit....

From your comment, it appears that:

you are someone who likes to compare himself with others.

You are not spiritually inclined

You want to show your parents that you are a man, whereas you are just a boy of 21

You want to be spoilt, corrupt or immoral but your parents won't allow it

You want to behave the way you like, forgetting that your parents call the shots.

You watch too much foreign movies and expected to be treated the way white people treat their only children

You think your parents are obstacles somehow in your life

You feel your parents and the world owes you something

Because you are the only child, you feel the world owes you something....

It is YOU versus them.....

You are not happy

You have low self esteem...

I can call you a rich spoilt kid....and I won't be far from the truth.

See, most only children, are always spoilt especially when their parents are rich...

Your parents probably think you are lazy you know ....they may have studied you closely and realized, that, you are too carried away by your parents' wealth

You are probably very selfish in nature.....you think too much of yourself, you think about the things you miss or the things you don't have.

Instead of you to be grateful for what you have.

You want to have girl friends abi at 21?

You want to be able to bleep girls just because other guys your age are doing so?

You want to pose with your parents cars, by cruising with them in town yet you have not shown enough maturity to convince them to allow you to drive or even teach you how to drive ?

You think you can tell your pops the importance of driving, shout or complain or better still , bully your way to the car key? Do you own the cars?

You are thinking about youthful desires and these clearly shows thar, you are still a mere boy...

Your pops want to set you up well in life by allowing you to study pharmacy in university....but you think pursuing a business is better...

Which business can you do from now, that will earn you the kind of money, a pharmacy license can bring you at your age?

What experience in running a business do you have?

An intern pharmacist earns about 80k-120k, working as an intern with government while a pharmacist earns above 150k as monthly salary working for government.And the pay goes up, as the years go by.

In terms of your future, don't worry about it.You will buy cars, build houses and even travel abroad, if you can discipline yourself to just graduate from school as a happy normal young man. As a future pharmacist, you can set up your own pharmacy and a pharmaceutical company that makes drugs and sell nationwide. Drug companies are some of the richest companies on earth.Right now, one of sharpest business you can do to make cool money and even become a billionaire, is drug business.

If you don't finish your school, can you get there?

As per your parents, I have not seen any sin they commited against you.Their parenting method is okay by me Broda, because, they want to the best for you. We are Africans.If that is they grew up, don't blame them for dishing it out on you. Your job is not to repeat it in your own family.

Learn to make the best of your situations.

Many of the things people think are important.....are not important.

What you see on TV and dstv and what happens in real life are not the same things.

Learn to appreciate what you have....and not what you don't have.

I was beaten real bad by my pops when coming up...many times for things I didnt do.I can still remember them. But I don't hold it against him. I was restricted from playing with other children as well, but it was for my good. I wanted to ride the car by force, ended up bashing it into another car. I was a little bit withdrawn, but in time, I realize that, such is life and made the best of me situation. I am married today...

When children misbehave where I am, I play them, especially when they fail to hear my warnings.If your parents beat you in the paste, it is because you did something wrong in their eyes. Anyway....that is past now.

The only advice I have for you bro is this: become a spiritually minded young man. That is an area, that can change you completely and make you a more secure person.

Read 1 cor 15: 33.

Please God.....not your parents.
Honour your father and your mother
Love your neighbor as yourself, including your parents and sister
Do good for others, don't wait for others to do good for you

You appear to be an introvert....well....slowly break down the walls you have built around yourself,using the Bible and learn to show concern in others.

Don't always think about yourself......slowly make yourself a better person

you can change tomorrow
you cannot change yesterday

read your bible every day....

in time, it will help you think and act like a man.

Get the Book,'

Questions Young People Ask' vol 1, 2

it is publish by Jehovah's witnesses

The book will help you a lot....

You will need to do a lot of reading and application, to improve your self esteem and image.

Jackossky:
I feel your pains bro, but wait, were you jealous because you have a younger sister?
He never showered you with love, why did you feel threatened by the little girl's presence.
Some things do not add up but since you are already admitted, make your dad to serve as a motivation to you instead of a hindrance/ source of pain.

Truth be told, we all need some sort of support, especially from parent but hey, i know of many who had no parent, catered for their schooling by themselves and are something in life now.

Dad still pays your dues right? Sometimes, you have to grow up and stop leaning or waiting for people' s approval even if they are your parent .
Start making bold choices and don't behave irrational.

After he pays your tuition fee, make no call to him, start behaving independent and when he sees you are no more perturbed about his wealth, he might notice his wrongs.


Nevertheless, pray to God about it but you have to take some proactive steps on your own.
Don't lean on dad's care.

All you have is YOU and you are what you need to make it in life.
Stop seeking for his love, if it comes, fine and if it doesn't, fine also.
See you on the beaches of life.


Sola.

Your lamentations are normal bro....

Allow me to lay into you abit....

From your comment, it appears that:

you are someone who likes to compare himself with others.

You are not spiritually inclined

You want to show your parents that you are a man, whereas you are just a boy of 21

You want to be spoilt, corrupt or immoral but your parents won't allow it

You want to behave the way you like, forgetting that your parents call the shots.

You watch too much foreign movies and expected to be treated the way white people treat their only children

You think your parents are obstacles somehow in your life

You feel your parents and the world owes you something

Because you are the only child, you feel the world owes you something....

It is YOU versus them.....

You are not happy

You have low self esteem...

I can call you a rich spoilt kid....and I won't be far from the truth.

See, most only children, are always spoilt especially when their parents are rich...

Your parents probably think you are lazy you know ....they may have studied you closely and realized, that, you are too carried away by your parents' wealth

You are probably very selfish in nature.....you think too much of yourself, you think about the things you miss or the things you don't have.

Instead of you to be grateful for what you have.

You want to have girl friends abi at 21?

You want to be able to bleep girls just because other guys your age are doing so?

You want to pose with your parents cars, by cruising with them in town yet you have not shown enough maturity to convince them to allow you to drive or even teach you how to drive ?

You think you can tell your pops the importance of driving, shout or complain or better still , bully your way to the car key? Do you own the cars?

You are thinking about youthful desires and these clearly shows thar, you are still a mere boy...

Your pops want to set you up well in life by allowing you to study pharmacy in university....but you think pursuing a business is better...

Which business can you do from now, that will earn you the kind of money, a pharmacy license can bring you at your age?

What experience in running a business do you have?

An intern pharmacist earns about 80k-120k, working as an intern with government while a pharmacist earns above 150k as monthly salary working for government.And the pay goes up, as the years go by.

In terms of your future, don't worry about it.You will buy cars, build houses and even travel abroad, if you can discipline yourself to just graduate from school as a happy normal young man. As a future pharmacist, you can set up your own pharmacy and a pharmaceutical company that makes drugs and sell nationwide. Drug companies are some of the richest companies on earth.Right now, one of sharpest business you can do to make cool money and even become a billionaire, is drug business.

If you don't finish your school, can you get there?

As per your parents, I have not seen any sin they commited against you.Their parenting method is okay by me Broda, because, they want to the best for you. We are Africans.If that is they grew up, don't blame them for dishing it out on you. Your job is not to repeat it in your own family.

Learn to make the best of your situations.

Many of the things people think are important.....are not important.

What you see on TV and dstv and what happens in real life are not the same things.

Learn to appreciate what you have....and not what you don't have.

I was beaten real bad by my pops when coming up...many times for things I didnt do.I can still remember them. But I don't hold it against him. I was restricted from playing with other children as well, but it was for my good. I wanted to ride the car by force, ended up bashing it into another car. I was a little bit withdrawn, but in time, I realize that, such is life and made the best of me situation. I am married today...

When children misbehave where I am, I play them, especially when they fail to hear my warnings.If your parents beat you in the paste, it is because you did something wrong in their eyes. Anyway....that is past now.

The only advice I have for you bro is this: become a spiritually minded young man. That is an area, that can change you completely and make you a more secure person.

Read 1 cor 15: 33.

Please God.....not your parents.
Honour your father and your mother
Love your neighbor as yourself, including your parents and sister
Do good for others, don't wait for others to do good for you

You appear to be an introvert....well....slowly break down the walls you have built around yourself,using the Bible and learn to show concern in others.

Don't always think about yourself......slowly make yourself a better person

you can change tomorrow
you cannot change yesterday

read your bible every day....

in time, it will help you think and act like a man.

Get the Book,'

Questions Young People Ask' vol 1, 2

it is publish by Jehovah's witnesses

The book will help you a lot....

You will need to do a lot of reading and application, to improve your self esteem and image.