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Tell ur friend it is time to start "Away Match" in SECRECY cuz that is very important.
She should find 1 young hot boy, seduce him & start they should start shaggin steadily.
The husband is not doin his duty & not willing to change. She needs to be oiling her machine well. She will find alot of young, smart & hot men who are willin to help her out.
Sexual fustration can make a human go crazy. Its a sad suitation she is in.
Tell her to be as discrete as possible & she should be careful who she choose to have the affair with. Men are very territorial, d alphaMale ego will make him mad if he finds out.
Social media has made things easy.
I can hook her up if she is game.

Guy u have made a very horrible mistake but ur suitation is stil redeemable.
u knew she was cheating on u.. Why did u keep fuc:king her with a condom.
Why didnt u just leave and find another person that would fit what u want?
She was fuc:king the both of u (Ex) & u are the one that she brought the baby to.... Pls allow me to laff in Swahilli (buhahahhamuchehehe)
On a serious note, the child could be urs: u neva know which sperm fertalized the baby.
Maybe she compels her Ex to use condom & u get to do it Raw.
Dont say the baby is not urs if u havent been usin contraceptive.
Dude be a man cuz obviously if u allow this girl have that child ur life will be miserable.
i would neva want a girl i dont like have my child. U shouldnt even fuc:k a girl u cant marry (witout a condom)
That been said: He don happen now, think up solutions.
If i were in ur shoes.. I will call her and have a heart to heart talk.
I will let her know that i know she has been fuc:king her Ex.
Let her know i dont want the baby.
Go for an Abortion Asap. (or if u get mind & u can allow her Ex raise what might be ur child.. Let her go and hook the baby on her Ex neck)
I will let her know we dont have a future together and i wont be contributin a dime if she decides to have the child, neither wil i accept it as mine (empty threat but please be convincin).
Go down the cunny man lane.. Tell her u dont have money to start a family 4 now. U can barely afford to pay rent, eat or takecare of a child.
Use any trick in d devil's playbook to get her to remove that foetus.
Then dump the Bit:ch like a bad habit.
Remember: All is fair in Love & War.

PS: how do Guys Fuc:k a girl that u are not married to (that u know is cheatin) without a Condom.
I dont understand. STD's & she could get preggy 4 u.
Its so sad.. I hope some other people are learning from this story.
Keep ur dick in ur pants if she doesnt want to get laid without a CD. Konji no day kill person.

@ireneony
U are such a waste.. Your mother should have swallowed you as a S-perm to save the world from the embarassment you have become.
U lack commonsense & intellectual prowess. Using the internet doesnt make u smart so shut the f-uck up!
Take your lame bigotted talk away from this thread.

@OP
We dont need Durex research to tell us what we already suspected. Just look around this country & you will know the survey is not far from the truth.
For those screaming it is a western conspiracy. Check the list western countries are on the same list..
The truth is the moral of most Nigerians has a massive taken a dive.
If you have been opportuned to stay in many part of Nigeria. You will know that infidelity is very prevalent in this country. It is not peculiar to any tribe. Why else do u think our count of STD is on the increase? We have the highest prevalent rate of HIV in d world.
Nigeria really need helps & a boost in family values.

James Bond will remain rubbish as long as it is still Daniel Craig acting it... can they please beg Brosnan to come back.. i don tire for craig. i like him in other flick not just as James bond.

Nigerians love Lesbianism but Hate Gay men.

Hypocritical society

All the people she insulted deserved it jare.. Someone is asking for Advice, if u have nothin to say, move on to other thread. Why insult her?

Op Tell ur husband what is goin on before he finds out himself. Trust is a fragile tin, once brroken it could affect the way he sees u foreva.

Block the guy. Any time he calls u wit a different No, once u hear his voice just drop the call. Soon he will find his square root.

You see getting married is like having a new family. Now your in-laws are your family.
I don't see any problem in them visiting you except of-course if their visit is inconvenient for you then you can have a discussion with your wife and find a middle ground. she can go visiting them if you don't want them in your home.

Question for u; Do u tell ur wife when your family members are visiting? Does she complain when ur family members visit?

Why do people bother gettin married? i dont understand.


so with all the sob stories we hear on Chaz B show & the things we read hear in the family section. some people go still open their eyes and put themselves in bondage..

Goodluck to you people

Common sense... Show a Single shred of evidence for a God and Nobody will argue again.

Its simple.. God remains a delusion in the head of Brainwashed loonies.

If your Parent can still tell you who or when to Marry.. It means you are Not Fit to Marry in the first place.

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I wont Forgive that lai lai.. If the role were reversed, i dont expect her to Forgive me too.
It is the only thing i know i can neva eva forgive.

why do people even bother getting married sef?
Y is it so Hard for some men to kip their d-ick in their pants? All these Family section sob stories are so sad.. Na wa oh.
When @KillJoy said piple shouldnt get married some piple were spewing sentimental nonsense.

@HappyWife
You are already on the right track. Like the average Niaja Women u have accepted that all Men Cheat and u are willin to live wit it for the sake of ur children.
U have found the perfect solution to ur own problems.
Just know one thing for sure... Life can neva be d same. Nobody ever forget betrayal and to live wit it is even worse.. Welcome to Misery.

For how long will u have him taking STD test? How will u know if another mistress wit HIV is now in d picture?

Let me kuku help u in ur line of thinkin. Keep tabs on him so that u can know who and how many of them he is screwin. That way u will be more informed on what to do always.

U will be sad, unhappy, miserable and would snap @ anything. Please no matter what u do, dont take out ur anger on the kids. Dont let whateva s-hitstorm happening in ur marriage affect them.

I wish u great strenght in this endavour, u are the kind of Woman every Nigerian Man pray for.

in Asa's Voice

"So little Lucy turns sixteen And like the movie she's been seeing She has a lover in her daddy She can't tell nobody 'Til she makes the evening news"

Just dont force the single mum choice on your friend... my opinion on single mum is; If you will not take care of the child like it is yours. Don't bother. we all know the kind of thing we can cope with.

Kimoni:
@bolded: Not cool, this is quite derogatory.
Besides, what is "clean" in marrying a woman who has aborted 1 million times? You think she will stop because she got married to you? . Your choice though

I am pro choice so i have no problem with anybody who has done abortion. Like u said, its a matter of Choice.

THE IMPOSSIBLE: 1st movie that will make tears com out of this heart of Stone.

KUCH KUCH HOTAI: My fav love story ever. I want to tank all the actors (Sharukh Khan, Kajol, Salmon Khan, Ranni Murkheji) and d script writer (Karen Johar). For making such an amazin movie i can watch over and over again.
MY NAME IS KHAN: Badass movie.

SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE: *Clappin*

GHIAJINI: God punish d script writer for killing Asin before Aamir Khan revealed himself to her. God punish d guy that made Jia Khan commit suicide in real life. 1 of d most painful movies i av eva seen in my life.

KAL HO NA HO: nice flick.

WE ARE FAMILY:

Walai it seems all the Indian films are the most touchin. American movies no even cross my mind.

I will choose the 1 who doesnt have a child & has done abortion 1 million times.
I'd rather start wit someone on a clean slate than carry the baggage of a child.
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If i were your friend though, i will give the single mum a chance.
I knew she was a single mum and i still went ahead to woo her.
We have been doin so well so i dont see what d problem is. Every1 is got a past & Love is the most important thing.
If he can cope let him take the leap.

i disagree with the law that says they are Criminal because it absolutely make no sense.
Formulatin laws on the basis that a mans choice of sexual partner disgust some set of people is totally Re-tarded.
I will never discriminate against anybody on the basis of colour, Gender, sexuality & other prejudicial BS.

what makes Polygamy Evil and a Bad Idea?
some people will not just stop takin panadol for another person's headache.

As long as the people involved are comfortable living with each other and they have found true Happiness nothin else matters.

Big ups to this family.. They bring hope to Humanity again.

It wont bother me, Homosexuals are humans.. The only thing i will bother about is a pae.dophile (hetro or Homo) teaching my child.

Much Respect to U KillJoy. This ur article totally nailed it.
Forget all the crap dillusional people are spewing @ u. Thats life for u, once u dare to be different or choose not to conform to the status quo, u will see clowns cursin and talkin all form of Nonsense.
What i was expectin is a good rebuttal from people who believe in the institution of marriage. Somethin coherent like the article u wrote, all i am seeing is insult and lame sentiment. It's pathethic!
My favourite section on Nairaland is the Family & Romance section.
If u read the kinda stories i read or thing i see in around in marriage now adays. Every1 here wil know the article u wrote is topnotch and on point.
Dont let any1 make it seem like ur writeup has anything to do with ur parent's seperation or ur heart break.
My parents have been married for ova 40 years and are stil together. I have neva being heart broken in any relationship.
I am still pretty certain i do not want to get married in my life cuz i have never understood the point.
Why trade my freedom for bondage and heartache like these sob stories i see around and read here on Nairaland.
Pick up the newspaper, its 1 marriage wahala or the other. Spend 2 hours in the family section & u have to ask: why d Bleep did people do these to themself when they can be perfectly happy being single?
D society has found a way to brainwash people, making them feel marriage is the ultimate achievement in life. That is why u will hear r.etards sayin if a man is not married it means he is not "Responsible" he has not "settled down" very dumb.
They will tell u a woman is not complete no matter what she achieves in life till she finds a man.
That is why most of them jump into the arms of monsters pretendin to be man. They take all form of assualt & live miserable lives. When they finally procreate they concentrate on their children as consolation. Its fu.ckin mental!
I dont see the point.
This not to say i begrudge those who choose to marry. Do whateva makes u happy in Life.
For those saying good things about marriage, lucky u! Please visit the family section of Nairaland and spend 2 hours there then com back here after that enlightenment class.
Wat is d point of an institution where over %90 of people are unhappy?

Long distance is never a problem when the 2 people involved are true to each other.

My advice for u is if u decide u want to date the cute Nigerian guy. Please tell the guy in UK before u start a relationship so that he doesn't think he has someone here wating on him. he will kuku focus on his MS.C & PH.D.

U cant eat ur cake and have it by keeping the both of em. you will lose @ both ends.

From the way u sound, u really like the Niaja dude & u are not ready for long distance commitment. u already have ur answer.


Will u regret it? I Promise u from the d bottom of my heart U will

I wish them all the best.. just because things didn't work between us doesn't mean they are bad people or i will wish them any ill. May we all meet at the Top

I think you should give me this your friends No.

Usually i read sob story in the romance section and pass by but due to the nature of this case i had to stop by & throw in my own advice.

I am starting off with the fact that u want to ruin the pastor by bringing his congregation into his private matter. i will not advice u to do that.
You already made ur point when u sent the message to his wife, anything after that is an overkill. Caution urself, when u are angry don’t take actions you will regret later.

as far as i am concerned u have no business with the pastor. all you should have focused on is ur cheating girlfriend.
She knew he was married and was fooling around with him. it annoys me when a guy decides to attack the person ur babe is cheating on u with. What if the man didn’t even know you were dating? What if ur babe had told him the relationship with u wasn’t serious as such?

Dude u totally goofed by bringing her friends and family members into this. It is rash and misguided but then i understand cuz it was an emotional moment. i have been in this kind of situation before. i am forever proud of how i handled the whole thing even though i wanted to go all batshit mental like u did. Just don’t aggravate things more than you already have.
Should u take her back? Man that is a story for the Gods oh!! lolz

If i were in your shoes (being there, done that), i wouldn’t even if she cried the river Thames. Why?
1. For starter's you deserved better.

2. She swore she would never cheat on you. She is cheating with a MARRIED man. That shows what level of a scum she is, this girl will mess ur neighbours, best friend or brother when you get married. (Examine Exhibit C below)
My Girl-10/23, 12:14pm
"I dunt knw, I wanna stay wif u, I want us to continue but so scare"
Married Pastor-10/23, 12:39pm
"I hope we won't eat each oda raw wen next we see" In MI's voice "Married Men chopping them (ur Babe) like biscuit"

3. She only sorry she got caught. This would have continued till after you have married her. it disgust me to think about it that the man's wife introduced her to her husband and she has been fuccking him eva since. she even wanted to move to the company house.
Dude i didn’t catch my Ex @ her game. Guilty conscience made her fess up to me & i still booted her out.

4. Lets say you are Jesus, u forgive her & take her back. How do u handle all the people you sent the message to? Friends, family, her people. U will be the worst wimp & pucci in the world. A man without balls, controlled by emotions. You would lose face & respect; you will become an object of pity.

5. Cheats rarely change; they just get better at the game. The story of my cheating ex is a point of reference. I am still fucckin her even though she is now in a serious relationship with the guy she cheated on me with. (That was my own game plan after breaking up). Yes i am vindictive! There is retribution in my dictionary.
You would think she would have learned a lesson from what happened between me and her. i always feel sorry for the new guy when i am cummin but then karma is a bitch. i am just glad i didn’t take her back cuz she would have continued (based on future actions) & know how to hide it better like she has been doing with the new guy.

Man all i can tell u is you are scared for life. i feel ur pain cuz u love her but please take time off to heal. Don’t even consider goin back to that kinda relationship. Forgive her and move on! Dont get into issues with the married pastor, he didn’t destroy ur relationship. ur babe did, it could have been the mallam selling sweet on ur street fucckin her or anybody else for that matter. Don’t make the man ur scape goat, let his wife deal with him.

That being said, there are more than 3 billion other girls on the planet, why waste ur time with a cheat?

It's fascinatin d way some adult reason in Nigeria. Parent control grown up like kids.
If your parent can tell u who or who you shouldnt marry then you shouldnt be walkin down d aisle @ all cuz you are a baby with no mind of ur own.
If my parent were to object to my spousal choice, i would wanna know why? If it has anything to do wit Tribal, Religion, Colour or anytin remotely stupid and retarded. I wil be marryin my spouse with or without their conscent.
I love my parent so much but its my life, my choice. Na me go live wit the person for the rest of my life and that is who i have choosen to be with.

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Dont Let anybody tell you that you are a child. Most people still get feed & sleep on their parent's chair @ age 30 in Naija. They term themselves "YOUNG boy/girl"
Let the hypocrites keep ranting about sex, most of them are not virgin either. They wil mouth off all form of crap online to look holy. Pay them no mind.
@ 22 most of d losers are probably still writting jamb. They cant wrap their brains around it that a man can be emotionally, physically and financially matured @ that age. Its the bane of a retrogressive society.
To the main issue @ hand:
Gettin engaged @ 19 is no big deal. It simply means ur Boyfriend knows wat he wants in life. Its a step in the right direction. U guys are both adults.
Are u certain he is the 1 u want to spend the rest of ur life with?
Is he the man you want to be the father of ur children?
Are u willin to walk the mile with him com rain, com sunshine or wateva life throws @ u? If all ur answer to the above question is YES! Then give it ur best shot.
An official engagement involving family members might be out of the question for now cuz of the kind of country (Nigeria) u live in.
Ur parents will probably not recieve the news too kindly. So u guys av to take things slow.
For now, a promise ring will do.
When u are on holiday, try inviting him over for family function or visit.
Drop subtle hint that he is the guy u are seeing, let him get familiar wit ur family. Get familiar wit his too. The more they see him around the better.
After a while u guys can take d bold step of a real engagement involving family members.
That being said dont lose sight of other priorities in ur life.
Education: Make sure u get good grades & chase ur dreams.
As for ur BF, let him take the time to build his career, Be supportive.
For d sex, u guys should keep usin protection and dont take things for granted.
When that time comes after ur family must have been aware of ur relationship. U guys can get engaged officially.
Age doesnt determine whether a Marriage will be successful or not. i know a lot of people who got married early and have a wonderful married life. Same as a lot of people who married late & their marriage hit the rock. There is no blueprint, every1 should get married when they deem it right as long as they have attained adult age of consent.
I wish you guys goodluck & all the joy and blessings that coms wit love.
Most people can only dream of the kind of love you have for Each other.

victorD3:
If you want to see a good and burning confidence during interviews then get a job first. If you have a reliable job to fall back to you will be super confident during interviews.

I was ask by an interview panel in internationsl coy based in Lagos.

Panel:where are you from ?
Me: I'm a nigerian

Panel: what state are you from?
Me: for personal reasons let's stop at my country since that alone qualifies me for the position as advertised (procurement and logistic lead, south west)

Penel: This time the procurement manager - It is important you tell us so we can continue the interview. Then the supply chain coordinator jumped in and ask if I have any particular reasons I'm not mentioning my state.
Me: I believe this is an international firm and asking where am from which should stop at me being a Nigerian which qualifies me for the job.

Panel : Please look at the category of people in this panel and don't waste my time ( all managers and top officers including Nigerians and foreigners)
Me : I took days off from me work which I enjoy so much and flew down to Lagos so I wouldn't say I'm wasting time, even jolome (the HR secretary) knoews how difficult it was for me to accept a working day for my interview.

Panel: I British man amongst them picked up my CV and said " oh! Strathclyde University now I see where that's its coming from". One of the panelist angrily said that I should leave the British mentality and face what's done in Nigeria.And if you have a job as you said why not stay in your office and do your work?
Me : At this point I was puting all my credentials together inside my file in preparation to leave . I told the man that I have been to an interview that all the interviewers left the coy within 5 weeks of my working there because life is dynamic and nobody hires who is static. We spent over 50 minutes arguing this but the smart guys where actually learning and finding it interesting while the Tribalists (not mentioning the tribe) amongst them wanted me to mention my state so I will maybe be marked down because they have a particular tribe they wanted at heart.

Panel: Time is up for our break and we will continue in 15 minutes:
Me : Thank you for listening I will be heading to my hotel to get myself ready for my travel tomorrow .

Panel: No its important we finish with you because you have gone through all our 3 staging of recruitment and all these you paid your way to Lagos
Me: well I'm not sure this one will favor me

Panel: They insisted
Me: Sorry Sir this day have made me appreciate my current job me because nobody has ever bothered to know where am from for 3yrs of working there, but over here which I percieved would have been a wonderful place to share my vast experiences and know how I was been asked where am from at the door step. Perhaps next will be is I support APC or not. I left Lagos the next day

2 Months later

Me : I'm in Ghana for a training my department organised for there senior engineers. Life looking wonderful in a 4 star hotel chating on fb after the second day training. Received an email because they have been trying mg number with no success .

Letter: That the penel has realized that they werent professional towards me and that they are considering me for the position of a procurement/ logistic assistant.This position was without interview and more or less that was my appointment letter.
Me: well this position came with a salary of over 380k with so much other benefits and I was earning 210k then in my current organisation. Well I turned down the job because there was bad blood already and I would be working under the same guys that treated me so unfairly . well my special adviser( my late mother) told me to shun them and move on which I'm happy I did. Now I have worked myself to a comfortable position in the same organisation that I have time to do all my personal projects and travel anywhere I want without someone threatening me.


Please there is no time to read all me sentences do pardon my typo

U have my respect for ever... round of applause.



Mistakes i have made...
was fresh out of service.. went for Michael Stevens consulting interview and the HR asked "Can u tell me anything about yourself that you dont have on your CV'' Na so i day stare like Mumu.. was so mad @ myself after i left cuz right there on my way home.. all the things i should have said stated crossing my mind.

Where were his Sister & Mum when he left?
The girl he left u for has broken his heart.
U will be the worst loser in this world if u take him back cuz no matter what a guy will neva let go of a girl he values.
If it didnt work then what makes u think it will work now?
What was his reason for leaving in d 1st place?
A 2nd chance does not mean he has realized his mistake.. Sumtyms it is just to test how Mumu a girl is.
Even if u give him a 2nd chance, i imagine u stil carry alot of resentment about him leavin, u will always rememba that u were not good enuff, u are the plan B to fall back on.
Anyways sha d decision is all urs, if u feel he has truely changed & he sincerely loves u & wont pull that kinda S:hit again. Give it a shot.

Michael Buble - Havent Met U Yet.
I'm not surprised, not everything lasts
I've broken my heart so many times, I stopped
keeping track Talk myself in, I talk myself out
I get all worked up, then I let myself down I tried so very hard not to lose it
I came up with a million excuses
I thought, I thought of every possibility And I know someday that it'll all turn out
You'll make me work, so we can work to work it
out
And I promise you, kid, that I give so much more
than I get
I just haven't met you yet I might have to wait, I'll never give up
I guess it's half timing, and the other half's luck
Wherever you are, whenever it's right
You'll come out of nowhere and into my life And I know that we can be so amazing
And, baby, your love is gonna change me
And now I can see every possibility And somehow I know that it'll all turn out
You'll make me work, so we can work to work it
out
And I promise you, kid, I give so much more than I
get
I just haven't met you yet They say all's fair
In love and war
But I won't need to fight it
We'll get it right and we'll be united And I know that we can be so amazing
And being in your life is gonna change me
And now I can see every single possibility And someday I know it'll all turn out
And I'll work to work it out
Promise you, kid, I'll give more than I get
Than I get, than I get, than I get Oh, you know it'll all turn out
And you'll make me work so we can work to work
it out
And I promise you kid to give so much more than I
get
Yeah, I just haven't met you yet I just haven't met you yet
Oh, promise you, kid
To give so much more than I get I said love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
(I just haven't met you yet)
Love, love, love, love
Love, love
I just haven't met you yet

Joshau Radin with Schuyler Fisk - Paperweight
Been up all night Staring at you
Wondering what's on your mind
I've been this way With so many before But this feels like the first time
You want the sunrise To go back to bed
I want to make you laugh
Mess up my bed with me Kick off the covers I'm waiting
Every word you say I think I should write down I don't want to forget Come daylight
Happy to lay here Just happy to be here I'm happy to know you
Play me a song Your newest one Please leave your taste on my tongue
Paperweight on my back Cover me like a blanket
Mess up my bed with me
Kick off the covers I'm waiting
Every word you say I think I should write down I don't to forget Come daylight And no need to worry That's wastin time And no need to wonder What's been on my mind
It's you It's you
Every word you say I think I should write down Don't want to forget Come daylight And
I give up I let you win You win 'cause I'm not counting
You made it back To sleep again Wonder what you're dreaming