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A friend of mine came home recently to meet pandemonium in the house. Apparently his wife had caught his two daughters lying on top of each other and kissing. Neither of them is older than five years. The wife had given both of them a good flogging and asked them where they had learnt that play from and the eldest said it was from the neighbours kids next door both of whom are boys, the eldest being 6yrs old. The parents have forbidden the kids from returning to that house for playtime and the man is wondering if he should tell the neighbors about their kids because he is suspecting that it is the househelp (a young girl of 15yrs) that is teaching them. The question now is, should he bother letting his neighbors know or should he leave it alone? Is there any harm in kids doing this mommy-daddy okay since they are still just kids?

Incidentally, the neighbour happens to be his boss at work and they are beginning to why his kids don't come over to play anymore.

Mindfulness:
You can answer the question yourself. It's not a tough one.

It's alright . I've read further into the thread and seen more logical comments. Sorry for the bother.

Dyt:
Sex
Tell him you are worn our doing chores
If he wants all round
Tell him he should come have it in the kitchen
Play with his thing while he's doing the dishes
Walk around in your thong and bra while he's moping and do him pole dance while laundry

Someone said seduction
I have given the best way out
And you said punishment

Infact both works in line

Another good advice.
Marriage isn't war. People were raised different. Some guys help out physically with chores, others would rather you hire a maid and they pay, etc etc. Seriously I don't get some of the comments here, or are they being sarcastic?

Mindfulness:
Where in my post did you read that she should divorce her husband?

Mindfulness:


Know what you want and marry the right person.
The problem is that women believe that they can actually tolerate this behavior that makes them look all worn out by the age of 40 because they feel a need to rush into marriage and then they suffer. Or they believe that they can change a man with such an attitude and then they suffer.

If you got married to a man who is not interested in a fair division of labor that will serve not only him but also you, well, you have a choice to stay or to leave.

If you stay:

- ask him nicely for help
- get a help
- put up with a less well-organized and clean home

What did you mean that she had a choice to stay or to LEAVE

you said if she stays.... And you itemised points. So if she reads your post and decides NOT to stay what are you implying she should do?

oloriooko:
In these days of scarce househelps, a man that truly loves the wife and is responsible needs not to be told to help the wife with chores, on the other hand, the wife must be wise in managing this scenario.
No woman is a slave to any man so in the absense of househelp, the man must help and the kids must be trained to help too

The woman should never think of punishing the man if he does not help rather talk things out with your spouse. If a man loves a woman, he can do anything for her. Wish you the best

Best post here!
The fact that it doesn't have the most likes just goes to show that the majority is not always correct.

Mindfulness:
Know what you want and marry the right person.
The problem is that women believe that they can actually tolerate this behavior that makes them look all worn out by the age of 40 because they feel a need to rush into marriage and then they suffer. Or they believe that they can change a man with such an attitude and then they suffer.

If you got married to a man who is not interested in a fair division of labor that will serve not only him but also you, well, you have a choice to stay or to [size=14pt]leave[/size].

If you stay:

- ask him nicely for help
- get a help
- put up with a less well-organized and clean home

She should divorce the man because he doesn't do house chores??
Are you married?

Ibelong2God:
Seduction is the most potent force at a woman's disposal, especially when dealing with her husband

You couldn't have said it better.

ilawanson44:
I will like to fault you on that one!

Let me tell you something that happened while i was staying with a distant cousin in his matrimonial home some years back.

This guy was happily married and him and his wife were always inseparable, cuddled and played with each other whenever they had the chance to. Their marriage was pretty good during the first year and with the way they behaved, i was usually green with envy and wondering how lucky my cousin was and prayed for me to have a marriage like theirs which was supposedly "Made In Heaven" (Or so i thought) until his wife had their first baby. After having that child, (my cousin confided in me) her sex drive tanked seriously! She no longer craved for intimacy as before and then trouble started! Arguments over trivial things and sulking became the order of the day between the both of them. My cousin started wearing a frown on his face and seemed to be in deep thought most of the time like something was eating him up. The wife channeled more of her attention to raising the son she had for him, taking him off to a nursery and becoming more devoted to her job! But when i dropped by last year to visit them, my cousin's regained his youthful glow and the smiles returned. He became his jovial self but to the chagrin of his wife (which she complained later to me), he always kept late nights and hardly even ate at home. I later got to know that he was having an affair with an undergraduate of UNIABUJA in the same town where they lived.

So you see, most times, the women are the architect of their own marital misfortunes and when it explodes, they blame the man for not sticking his stuff into his trousers forgetting that when the man really want to, and you as his wife decides not to play with the thing out of the trouser once in a while, he will go outside to look for solace!

You can imagine a sexually active man not being able to make love to his wife for months and the woman expects him to be playing Pope Benedictus in the house? RUBBISH!!

Very good point you raised bro. This is the plain truth.

5minsmadness:
As in, I had to chec the title of the topic again
How does the op's post and question translate to the husband cheating? Someone even called the husband 'the real demon' A soon to be father o! See insults over simple question!

I daresay the insults were highly unnessecary and grossly unacceptable. She deserves an apology. Not all women coming to seek opinion here are being opressed or have monsters for husbands. If you read between the lines you would even see that she herself was interested in the outcome of childbirth on her vagina.

Well, those are the speedbumps on posting on an open forum.



Your moniker though

Sistem007:
The disadvantage of bringing ur family issues online. Now they have insulted ur husband and called him all sort of names and may have also instilled some degrading thoughts into ur head concerning ur husband and soon u guys will start having issues that may end up leading to divorce just co zoo this singular act of bringing this issue here. Why not just settle this with him personally.

Best advice ever!

rolled:
Lowest level of self esteem
Because of a man you go under a knife?
Someone that will still cheat on you
Don't you love yourself?na wa oh

Not all men cheat.

Easier to tighten the vagina than enlarge the pen.is.

This is an old story. I'm surprised so many people have not read it before.

You should ask what each category seek to fulfil in each other. A married man leaves the confines of his matrimonial home because he wants to satisfy his sexual urge. If that is taken care of by his wife most times he will not seek to look outside.

I don't know why single ladies go after married men, but mostly has to do with maturity and money and the need to feel taken care of by someone (even if it's someone else's someone) which is the primal need of any woman.

What men really have issues with is the drop in libido for the woman after the first child. Most women seem to lose interest in sex after childbirth and despite getting help from nannies or even the man himself they simply aren't as interested in sex as they once were. I'm not quite sure the reason for this but I do know it affects a lot of women. That could be the reason the husband went philandering outside @goldenruby.

As per the topic, yes, most men's experience(including mine) is that the vagina loses its grip even if slightly but enough for us to feel the difference. However in the case of my madam kegel exercises helped a lot.
Thanks.

None of you are answering the Op's question.

And a lot of the insults here are highly unnessecary.


@stylesco, yes the vagina changes after a normal delivery, but not so much. It depends on how the delivery went. If you have no tears it will slacken but just a little bit, nothing to be worried about. If you have a large tear during delivery and it isn't sutured back it will be slack as well. But you are giving birth in the U.S. I don't think they'll ignore a torn vagina over there.

Also note the kegel exercises that have been mentioned here more than once. It really works.

flinton:
I stumbled upon this wedding pix on Facebook, I'm still finding it difficult differentiating the groom from the best man, plz help...

The original idea of having a groomsman was to get an identical person that resembled the groom so that if demons came to take him away they would be confused on whom to carry.



These guys did a good job.

yetseyi:
2,500 EKEDC.

For the whole compound, 3 flats.

This isn't possible Na, haba!

enieme:
the figures u both are giving- Is it for a flat or block of flats?

Flat o!

O boy! I just received a NEPA (PHCN/BEDC) bill of N15,557! For half current o! They said its the new tariff. Where are we headed to in this country?

Funny thread
Those were d days...

Very thin girls

theimmortals:
How old where you when you had your first kiss


Which year was that?

What's the name of the girl or the guy you had it with?

Are you still in contact with him or her?


Let's see I you can remember



Happy sunday

2003

Anna

Yes still in contact although now she's married with a kid

KingCheezyPuff:
Some cook for their men or buy them things.
To each her own way of exspressing/showing her love.

No,I've not given a man a recharge card but neither have I asked for one or been given one either.
But idk, I'm American.We use monthly phone plans.

And how many 21st century females COOK talk less of cooking for their men? They even justify themselves on cooking threads that they don't have to cook for their husbands, their maids can do it.

As for buying guys things, all I can say is hahahahaha
Your from Texas yeah? What part? I have a li'l crib in Austin Ever been to Toucan's palace?

KingCheezyPuff:
Go ask er

i. e you don't know
A girl wants a guy to shower her with all the love in the world. When it comes to showering back they hardly have anything to offer. Ordinary gift they can't buy and even those that show the initiative to do so are usually coerced first.

Have u ever given a guy, one guy, N100 recharge card? How many guys have given u N200, N750 and above? Talk true oh

KingCheezyPuff:
...He does all these things because he loves her an wants to give/do nice things fer her outta that love.

Lol


And what does she do for him out of that love?

Nigerians.
Copy copy people.
Soon they will start holding scat parties in the name of oyibonization.
Mtcheeew.

Awwwwww,
So romantic

Even mad couples know they should settle their problems and not divorce over any small thing

One mumu Nigerian will soon go and copy this. Copy copy people.

Hello all, newbie here.
Been going through some pages on this thread and I must say one man's meat is definitely another man's poison. I think Batman vs Superman was stellar, I give it an 8. Then again I watched it on Genesis and the experience was awesome.