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MRBrownJ:
IMHO, any open/honest and comfortable husband or partner should have no problem in revealing such hidden feeling to their spouse. it is all about letting your spouse partner fully know about your desires, fantasies and/or what goes through your partner's mind. wifey should be surprised but not against such honest revelation, as it shows the amount of trust such person has for you, and how they are not afraid to open up and let you in their "secret world".

wifey's reaction to such info was wrong as it is not like anything has/will ever happen between them, and it must just be an ego issue from her part, knowing that he liked someone so closed to her etc. such crush cannot be dictated, and it can be towards just about anyone (yes, even your own family). the important point is how this man dealt with it, and NEVER crossed the lines. thinking that you can control who you find attractive/appealing is a joke.

hubby's reply that it was a joke is "normal" since his honesty brought an argument/negativity to the union... he now understands that, next time, he will keep such info to himself, and wifey can happily pretend that he doesnt have such feelings.

Phedam:
Can a man settle down with peanut salary

No insult pls.. Can a man settle down with 50k Monthly salary. ?

Masterclass32:
Discipline your child? . . . Cool.
Share it on facebook? . . . Not too sure about that.

diva90:
Thank you! It's so sad to see people referring to a known medical condition as "pregnancy". The woman has a big cyst in her stomach that needs to be taken out with the aid of surgery. This is absolutely nothing new

cococandy:
What powers please. I need to be enlightened on this issue.

Onegai:
Dude, you act like you are part of a clique. Which is why I mentioned you should try and listen to the person I assume isn't playing any sides here. Because all of them here in this section, I'm convinced they are all sending nudes to each other on pm

There is no such thing as a sane person. Your definition of sane and mine won't match the guy's defintion down the street. Stvpidity/Frustration however, is letting someone push you to the point where you throw your life away. If the husband had kept quiet for so long, nothing stopped him from handling this is a manner not calculated to get an Assault and Domestic Violence charge slapped on his forehead. There is no plea bargain like "she pushed me to it, your honour".

And I'm going to leave things there.

Onegai:
One does not shoot his foot trying to cure a nail infection. This guy did. If his wife documents her bruises, goes to the U.S. embassy, files a police report and gets a restraining order and makes it public, he can kiss a lot of his life in the U.S. goodbye. Unless he's a blue collar worker. Even multinationals in Nigeria are beginning to act once a domestic charge has been filed (at the next evaluations, someone will be found "wanting" ). And have you ever gone to another country or lived there? It takes 2 to survive so what it this "after all he has done for her", did she get there, hit the couch, Amazon, the mall and the remote control whilst he slaved away? Do you realise a lot of Nigerian women become nurses just to support their husnands as he tries to establish himself? And Nursing is a strenuous career anywhere in the world. Relocation is a two-man job. Marriage and building a successful life is a two-man job. No party should get more applause than the other because they need each other. She was not right, but he humiliated himself: if I were there and i saw him elsewhere, I'd nudge everyone and tell them "that's that aggressive man we saw beating his wife at the airport". And everyone will call him a bush animal and village monkey and say this is why we can't have nice things. it's only people from poor backgrounds that accept such behaviour as normal. Like my dad would say: "you fight the danfo driver, fight at a wedding for souvenirs, fight the next person for your share when a politician throws change in the air, fight your wife because dinner isn't ready, fight the landlord. No-one can blame you, you are merely living out what your social status demands of you".

Try not to join the crowd here and follow sensible adults like Thorpido. There was a line you wrote I was going to address, but the answer would upset a lot of people.

Stegomiah:
I think it's more of a publicity stunt

The mother uploaded this video, consciously and fully aware of her outfit

She's no better than the daughter
And beating is not the most effective way to correct a child, it sows stubbornness, hatred, anger in the mind of the child
The best way to correct a child is show love and have a open heart talk

If she likes make she continue beating her
DOG WEY GO LOST NO DEY HEAR THE HUNTERS WHISTLE

Timbuktou:
She sounds mentally unstable. I feel pity for her more than anything. She wan come dey use young boys dey rejuvenate abi na regenerate. Person wey her clit go done luté. Eww.


Yes. Nothing

Onegai:
Yes, I believe so. One has no idea how lawless Nigeria is. Case in point: I boarded a plane at Heathrow and everyone queued up in an orderly manner to pass Immigration and final boarding. 6 hours later, those same people landed at Muritala Mohammed Airport and started jostling and fighting each other for space on the Immigration queue, to the point that one man loudly declared "I will slap you this woman! You don't have husband to give you training!" And the woman replied others "don't mind him!" And people had to step in and defuse the situation. Same people, different countries.

What stopped this man from tabling his grievance in the privacy of his house, with his family and her family there? Let the issue be sorted out properly. Instead he beat her in public. If that wife has a U.S. passport, she can still mess him up o. He won't be the first that had a wife who nursed a grudge and went back home to finish what he started. Violence has never solved anything in the long run.

crackhaus:
The man surely has a few loose screws if he couldn't wait till they got into the privacy of their home before descending on her...which is exactly what makes the story feel like a movie scene.


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Did anyone else notice how most of the females commenting readily jumped on this story believing it to be true?
I remember a topic sometime last week where a woman was writing about how her ego and listening to the advise of her friends resulted in the failure of her marriage - notice how the majority of females there dismissed the story and called it fake?

https://www.nairaland.com/3231993/woman-lost-husband-due-ego

Pay notice to the females on that thread in the link above lambasting the OP... some of them are here right now swallowing and salivating on this story..

For some reason (which I am completely aware of), these women will readily believe that someone will just disembark from a plane and without warning go on to beat his wife thoroughly RIGHT THERE IN THE AIRPORT WHERE THERE IS SECURITY... but they do not believe a topic about a repentant woman's pride/ego and how a women shouldn't always listen to advise given by their friends regarding marriage.


I'm not even going to call this story fake, but I'm just wondering which of the two stories seem more like something that would happen on a normal day.

tayo60:
She may be a lesbian in disguise. Watch her closely!

HemmanuelRichy:
Nawa o. This matter don pass me.

19naia:
I know the man may have abused them in the past, but the issue is that they still hold to punishing him and relish in it to an extent that has become them with a likely sense of power and conquering over all men of the world.
This means that they are so accustomed to and embellished in treating men like that and believeing that men are abusers who must be pusnished.
They will pathologically take this approach now to all men that come to be a close part of their home and way of being. As soon as there is conflict of any small measure between you and fiancee, she will fall back on her training and experience with how to handle men at home and of what merit to give men. Her mom has exposed her to that as her primary way.

They will have the same in store for you at any sign of the smallest friction. They will never change until they can change with the man they have now at home and change to make deep ammends all around. Its not just deep wounds they have festering in their home, but the proverbial knife is still in the wound and they are digging it in deeper rather than pulling it out for healing. Why would you join such a circus of madness?

Run now before they use you like a donkey and mentally restrain you to resignation into whatever fate they determine over you.

Run now before they drive you mad to the point of waking to slaughter them in the night, like the goats they are.

Leave and don't look back because those are women who have learned to hate men yet never learned to overcome their desire for men.
They want to be kings without the independence and strength to be such, so they look for a man to walk all over for the image of strength and power.
A man cannot prosper in life beside a woman who does not have the substance to encourage and support prosperity in her man partner.

Be wise and don't cost yourself a browsing of hell in life before you die. No amount of prayer or hope will help you if you deliver yourself to them . Its them who need prayer and hope, so let them be and pray for them in hope -at a safe distance. Spawn of Medusa who will turn any man to stone. Spawn of Medusa, cursed by God himself and not a favor he would solve just for you just because of a little prayer. You will suffer and risk to life and limb with them... And risk to sanity with them.

Run. Its better to be alone, free and safer than to be locked down to Spawn of Medusa.

They crucified Jesus and Jesus came back not to punish, but to forgive and save souls. That woman is the opposite. She was never killed but she has a home-made hell she is enjoying being the master of, in her house as if she is the devil himself. They will only be happy to add you to the flames. They could just forgive and forget the man and let him go, but they have learned to enjoy making hell for him. It has entered their blood now and will be their personality until they can forgive, forget and let him go with no interest in making anybody suffer.

shaybebaby:
No one chooses to be induced out of fun. That labour is a whole lot more painful than natural labour because during the latter, nature had designed it that you get breaks between the contractions. Of course the closer you are to birthing the child, the longer the contractions, the shorter the breaks.
You don't have such an option with being induced. The pain is back to back.

I got induced because my baby was comfy and in no hurry to come out at 42 weeks. The longer the baby remains, the riskier the labour is after 40 weeks so he had to be given his eviction notice.

Was induced(had the drug inserted down below) at 10 am, had my son at 3:40 the following morning.

cococandy:
yes

cococandy:
You're right.
I guess they are able do that here because they were monitoring us very closely. They'd advice us to come in and get checked for dilation as early as one week to the due date and every other day subsequently . Plus mine was scheduled anyway so I had control over that.

I think the no food rule is mostly for the vomitting part. Because Labor takes a while. If you ate like during early labor, the food would no longer be in your stomach during active labor so you can't throw it up. But you can poop

Does your hospitals still give enemas?

Onegai:
Ashuuaaallyyyyy... That rape part was not that much of an exaggeration. because it feels like you're being forced against your will (and yes, some women do shed tears in hiding). Not like screaming out in anger but more like a mental chanting of "i don't want to be here, I don't want to be here, please stop, I don't want to be here" or sometimes an awkward feeling after (like wanting to bathe him off your body). Everybody is different.

But let's not scare you. it's gonna be great! And things will improve so much more. But it depends on how you handle that trying time.

donbenedict:
Urm I think the man who has the daughters should just tell his neighbour abt his daughters kissing.. and he feels worried. Dats why he stopped allowing his (the neighbor's) kids to come play with his own kid.

Onegai:
Stylesco, even if you did CS, you realise most women lose their libidos immediately after birth right? As in, it's a hormonal thing. You will feel raped everytime you have sex for 2 or 3 months until you mentally begin to accept your body back (it will feel like he's invading you and your child). And then sex will be at a minimum because after your child wakes up 4 times a night (which will happen till the age of 1 or more years old), you and your hubby will be too exhausted to be going at it like Spring Chickens.

You knew all this, right...

TI1919:
Ajebo trade